Gratitude is the best, right? It fills us with all the good feelings and has great mental health benefits, but sometimes we can use it to avoid the hard things we feel, the suffering we may be walking through. And that can be very unhealthy. Listen in. 

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Liturgy of Thanksgiving at the Return of Joy, from Every Moment Holy, Volume 2 

As wonderful as it is to be a part of the body of Christ, the church has not done something well. They often directly or indirectly tell people who are struggling with the tough emotions to stop feeling those things and especially stop expressing them. When angry, they're told to forgive. When afraid, they're told to trust God. The church hasn't done a great job of listening with grace and letting people experience the more difficult emotions and thoughts. And that's caused so much hurt to those who are suffering. So let's talk about it. Getting super honest with this one. Buckle up. 

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Collection of Advent Readings

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Not me, silly. This is the podcast's 50th episode, woot woot! :) And I guess we aren't technically 50, more like, 1 1/2, but geez, it's hard to come up with catchy titles! :) Today, we celebrate 50 episodes in true Kerrah form: reflecting on what this podcast journey has taught me so far. Listen in. 

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Today's episode is more mediative and reflective. Instead of me trying to help you know what love is and how to do it best, I wanted you to hear from the One who is love. Listen in. 

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1 John 3:11-24; 4:7-21

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As humans, we need touch. Maybe more than we know. And when we don't have a healthy amount of touch, we will struggle. A lot. So let's talk about touch deprivation and why we need it and how to get it when we may have a bad relationship with it due to past trauma, neglect, culture, or unhealthy relationships. Trigger warning: if you've experienced any past touch trauma. Listen in. 

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Conversation with Mary B. Safrit on Touch Deprivation 

Mary B.'s Instagram 

The Body Keeps the Score, by Bessel van der Kolk 

For the Senses, a Blessing by John O Donahue found in To Bless the Space Between Us

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Though we must be wise with who is close up and personal in our lives and have some expectations of how our people will treat us, we need to remember that they can't love us well if they aren't well. We can't expect them to be super attentive to us and our needs if they are going through some hard stuff. Let's understand some possible signs that may show us they aren't doing well, and be willing to adjust our behaviors to show more grace to them in that season. Being more gracious and kind is never the wrong decision. Listen in. 

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Most of us aren't leaving enough margin in our lives for the life-giving things. Instead, our time is filled with life-draining things, and we can only go so long on E. This is an indicator of poor boundaries with our time. This episode is to help us develop a healthier rhythm of life that honors our time and allows more space for the things that fill us. Listen in for some practical exercises, questions, and statements to consider when creating a rhythm that allows for more whole living. 

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Author of The Next Right Thing and host of The Next Right Thing Podcast: @emilypfreeman

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In the age of social media and the cultural value of vulnerability and authenticity, people tend to struggle with discernment on how much is too much to share with someone else. On social media, we see this done a lot, but it's also hard in more interpersonal interactions. Let's talk about why oversharing isn't safe or wise and some things to consider before sharing to avoid being too extreme with your vulnerability. Listen in. 

Resources and links mentioned in this episode: 

Episode 6: Be the House with the Picket Fence 

Episode 43: Safe People 

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Past hurt is so hard to forgive, and often we think forgiveness is forgetting. But what if it isn't? What if there is another way? This episode is for those who've struggled with forgiveness and the desire for revenge because they can't forget (nor should they). Listen now. 

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How do we know who is unsafe and who is safe? How can we even begin to define safety? What can it look like to love the unsafe people? Listen in.