Psalm 31:4 NLT
Pull me from the trap my enemies set for me, for I find protection in you alone.
I am by nature a confident person; confident in my self-assurance. However, since I am wired more as an introvert than an extrovert, I am not a fan of social gatherings, especially with people I don’t know. The problem with my self-confident, introvert self, is that I find it easy to take decisions, but these can be in a vacuum occupied solely by myself. Having made the decision, although clear on the basis on which I made it, having taken it in my vacuum, I fail to disclose the basis of that decision to others and then am surprised when they struggle to agree with my decision.
My Achilles’ heel is obvious. Failure to communicate effectively with others means that I can advance with only my own narrow understanding of the dangers that lie along my chosen path. These dangers may be sufficient to bring me down, drain my enthusiasm, or provoke me to withdraw. Of these, the latter is my preferred option. While I can persevere in faith, holding fast to the promise of God, when things appear to deteriorate relationally, I have few apparent skills to work that out, and prefer to walk away and put distance between myself and others.
So it is to God I look for guidance, and part of that is entering into conversation with his servants. I need to be located in a small group that is not simply a social club like so many have become, but where like-minded friends of God are together to talk honestly, listen attentively, support practically and progress simply. This is not a friendship circle, although friendships form, it is rather a lifeboat to navigate life’s storms in honesty and together.
Such groups are never church, although they include scripture, prayer and even a meal. Individuals always retain their relationship with their preferred church tradition, but find an honest space to steer a course through life, offering support to those who join them in the lifeboat.
QUESTION: Do you have a group in which you can confide your struggles and battles?
PRAYER: Lord, thank you for the gift of friendship; may the fellowship we share lead to growth in love and grace.