Be the Scandal

"It's ok to not be okay."

This phrase easily gets thrown around—but what does it mean to embody the energy of, it's okay to not be ok?

Learning how to truly be present with yourself—in all moments—is a skill necessary to cultivate deep, self-love. When you're trying to move as quickly as you can out of your present moment, you're missing an opportunity to process your emotions in a way that is conducive for growth AND an opportunity to extract the wisdom from your lived experience. 

Although it might not always be what you want to do, learning to meet yourself where you are might be the exact medicine you need to move forward. 

Listen to this episode to hear more about how to meet yourself where you are and nourishing yourself when life gets hard. 

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We spend a lot of time and energy in efforts to be liked—changing who we are and abandoning our authenticity to be accepted by those around us. 

Although small moments of self-abandonment may not feel like a high price to pay for the feeling of belonging, these moments can add up to you living a life that's not entirely your own. 

When you don't know how to cope with being disliked, you find yourself stuck in a pattern of self-abandonment influenced by those around you. Learning how to cope with being disliked is essential to liberating your authentic self and giving yourself permission to be who you truly are. 

Listen to this episode for more insights into why you're self-abandoning in the first place and how to support yourself in accessing the courage to be disliked. 

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You can do hard things.

Although you might disconnect from this knowing in moments that feel hard, use this episode as a reminder.

When moments feel difficult—maybe you’re experiencing something unfamiliar, or the moment is bringing a lot of emotional pain or you simply don’t want to do the thing—it’s important to learn how to support yourself in moving forward despite the obstacles.

Sometimes your biggest obstacle in moving forward through difficult moments is yourself and how you meet the present moment.

Tune into this episode to learn a few ways to support yourself in challenging your thinking, shifting your perspective and anchoring in your self-discipline to propel yourself forward.

And remember: you can do hard things.

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We all have parts of ourselves that we don’t like. Parts of us that we would like to get rid of and simply avoid the truth that they exist all together.

Out of sight, out of mind, right?

Well, not quite.

Although you might not be acknowledging the existence of these parts of you—they do still exist and are most likely impacting you on a daily basis.

When parts of you are left alone in the shadow, they’re like monsters that grow in the darkness—creating dysfunction for you personally and within your relationships.

Learning how to identify your shadows and meeting yourself—all parts of you—in an energy of unconditional love is a monumental step in moving through the world as a more integrated version of yourself.

Shadow work creates the foundation for a deep, radical self-love.

Listen to this episode to learn more about what shadows are and how to start identifying them within you.

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*This episode's audio has a few glitches in it, but the content was too good not to share! Thank you for your grace and understanding! 

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Are you dating in the energy of trying to be chosen OR dating in the energy of being the chooser?

If your answer is the former, this episode is for you!

Dating from a place of trying to be “chosen” means you’re doing what you can to be picked by a potential partner—all in efforts to attain a sense of worthiness.

When you’re outsourcing your worth to another person, this only creates the illusion of self-worth and, sometimes, the illusion of love.

Unfortunately, this isn’t sustainable for your self-worth because it’s dependent on another person and, if the relationship ends, so does your sense of self-worth.

It’s time to start shifting your pattern of dating and reclaim the power of dating from a place of worthiness. Check out this episode of Be the Scandal for more!

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You know it’s time to walk away from the relationship.

But, for some reason, you aren’t rushing to end it—you’re actually finding yourself ignoring your intuition maintaining it.

Even when you know what you need to do, sometimes you still find yourself dragging your feet and avoiding the inevitable ending.

But why?

Whether it’s clinging to an unhealthy romantic relationship, friendship or work environment, there are countless reasons why we stay in relationships that aren’t expansive for us.

In this episode of Be the Scandal, I walk you through a few truths that might be standing between you and finally moving forward with ending the unhealthy relationship.

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We spend a lot of time in the energy of indecision by putting effort into our narratives about our decisions—saying things like:

“I don’t know what to do…” or “I’m confused…”

Or any kind of avoidance-driven narrative in the energy of, “What problem?”

When we’re unable to see what is underneath our narratives and be present in the truth of the moment—we keep ourselves stuck in restrictive relationships, environments and emotional suffering.

Sometimes it can feel “safer” to stay stuck in your indecision instead of being present in the truth of what is and moving forward toward a decision that may bring with it emotional pain—but also expansion on the other side of the pain.

Tune into this episode to identify two blockages keeping you in the energy of indecision and a tool to help you find clarity and move forward in your decision making.

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We’ve been conditioned to look outside of ourselves for our sense of self and self-worth. We look to others to tell us who we are, who we should be and if who we are is pleasing and “good enough.”

At a young age, this served a purpose to keep up safe and connected to those around us.

However, sometimes not everyone who is reflecting to us “who we are” are accurate mirrors—their reflections of us can be rooted in codependency and through the lens of their individual traumas and what we are triggering inside of them.

There are moments when we take someone else’s perception of us and wear it as our truth—the good, bad and ugly. The unfortunate part is as adults, we aren’t always curious into whether WE agree with someone else’s truth about us.

Listen to this episode of Be the Scandal for an invitation to begin using discernment when receiving (and before internalizing) someone else’s reflection of who you are. 

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Boundaries.

What we all need, yet, many of us shy away from. 

We all have our own, individualized narratives about boundaries—what they are and what they “say” about us.

Tune into this episode for a short introduction into the conversation of boundaries. Listen to learn my take on what boundaries are, why we’re not setting them and a quick embodiment exercise to explore how boundaries (and a lack of) feels like in your body.

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The past few years have been marked with loss—no person has been left untouched by grief. 

Whether you’ve experienced a loved one or friend dying, the death of a pet, the loss of a relationship, loss of a job, the loss of the life you used to know—the person you used to be—we’ve all experienced significant loss these last few years.  

But how do we support ourselves and those people we love when they’re grieving?

 Tune into this episode to learn how you can begin holding safe, intentional space for yourself and your own grief. And, when needed, feel better equipped to be present with your loved ones when they need emotional support. 

If you're wanting more grief support during this season, check out my new book, Grief Notes. You can learn more about this book here.

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