Be The Torch

Welcome to the Be The Torch podcast with your host, Cletus Coffey. In this episode, we dive deep into the journey of self-mastery for men, focusing on the power, purpose, passion, and play that lead to true freedom and fulfillment.

If you're a single father and an entrepreneur, seeking growth in all areas of life, this episode is for you.

We'll explore the importance of healing, building meaningful relationships, and taking ownership of your life to attract and maintain a healthy, fulfilling partnership.

Cletus shares his personal story of transformation, offering insights and steps to help you navigate your own journey.

📍 Episode Highlights:

• 00:00 - Introduction: Why Self-Mastery is Essential for Men
• 04:15 - Building a Lifestyle First: Prioritizing What Matters
• 08:45 - The Impact of Unhealed Trauma on Relationships
• 13:20 - The Truth About Yourself: How to Face and Own It
• 20:10 - Importance of Vulnerability: A Game-Changer for Men
• 25:30 - Steps to Attract a Healed Partner into Your Life
• 33:45 - The Power of Healing Together in a Relationship
• 38:00 - Final Thoughts: Creating a Thriving Relationship
• 41:30 - Join Be The Torch Academy: Unlock Your Full Potential

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Discover what one single dad, who owns a successful business, did to dedicate 2 hours each day to improve his mind, body and relationship with his kids, without missing one second of work.

Before you can master you life, you have to begin by learning how to master your morning.
 
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In this episode of the Be The Torch podcast, we dive deep into the art of communication—an essential skill for any entrepreneur, father, or leader. Join us as we explore the three core steps that can transform your business, relationships, and personal life. Learn how to communicate authentically, correct effectively, and shift behavior for better outcomes in every area of your life.

Episode Highlights:

• [00:00] Introduction: Why communication is vital for entrepreneurs and fathers.
• [02:15] The overlooked importance of investing in communication skills.
• [04:50] Personal story: How poor communication impacted my business and relationships.
• [07:30] The three core steps to mastering communication.
• [08:10] Step 1: Communicating authentically and vulnerably.
• [12:45] The impact of ego on authentic communication.
• [15:00] How authenticity invites openness in others.
• [18:20] Step 2: Being specific in communication and correction.
• [20:30] The dangers of vague praise like "good job."
• [22:50] How specific feedback improves behavior and results.
• [26:15] The impact of specific correction on leadership and parenting.
• [30:40] Step 3: The 5-to-1 ratio for improving behavior and performance.
• [34:10] Why saying "I'm proud of you" can be problematic.
• [37:00] How to praise without making it conditional.
• [40:20] Conclusion: Recap of the three steps and final thoughts.

Don't forget to like, subscribe, and share this episode with someone who needs to hear it! Let's grow together and become better communicators in every aspect of our lives.

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If you are looking for more tips and support to have success in all areas of life, these resources are for you:

Discover what one single dad, who owns a successful business, did to dedicate 2 hours each day to improve his mind, body and relationship with his kids, without missing one second of work.

Before you can master you life, you have to begin by learning how to master your morning.
 
Download the Master Your Morning Cheat Sheet Now!

1. The registration for the next Be The Torch Academy opens soon...so jump on the priority list to be the first notified when the doors open. JOIN NOW!  https://www.bethetorch.com/academywaitlist

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3. Follow Cletus on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cletuscoffey

In this important episode, we address a segment of men who do not have much support, resources or community to help them grow and evolve. Single Fathers who own and run businesses.

We explore the unique challenges single fathers face and outline a roadmap to transform their lives.

This episode serves as a bridge, connecting practical strategies with the ultimate goal of achieving a fulfilling life. Join us as we dive deep into why single fathers need specialized support and how they can ignite their inner fire to become the torch in their own lives.

What are your biggest takeaways from this week’s episode? We want to hear from you! Take a screenshot of you listening on your device, post it to your Instagram Stories and tag @cletuscoffey

In this episode you'll gain clarity on:

• The Struggles of Single Fathers: Identifying the Gap
• Why Focus on Single Fathers?
• The Importance of a Playbook and Community
• Core Elements for Personal Growth
• Statistics on Mental Health and Stress in Single Fathers
• Three Core Strategies for Immediate Impact
• The Power of Self-Mastery
• Being a Torch: Attracting Like-Minded Individuals
• Revolutionizing Fatherhood and Business
• Aligning Life and Business
• Creating a Lifestyle First, then a business that fits in it. 
• Building a Community and Accountability for men like you. 

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If you are looking for more tips and support to have success in all areas of life, these resources are for you:

Discover what one single dad, who owns a successful business, did to dedicate 2 hours each day to improve his mind, body and relationship with his kids, without missing one second of work.

Before you can master you life, you have to begin by learning how to master your morning.
 
Download the Master Your Morning Cheat Sheet Now!

1. The registration for the next Be The Torch Academy opens soon...so jump on the priority list to be the first notified when the doors open. JOIN NOW!  https://www.bethetorch.com/academywaitlist

2. For more tips and training, subscribe to our YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@thecletuscoffey

3. Follow Cletus on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cletuscoffey

Struggling to balance entrepreneurship, fatherhood, and personal fulfillment? 
This episode is your game-changer.

Episode Highlights:

• Episode 5 of the "Power of Personal Culture" series, emphasizing the importance of presence in achieving life’s true fulfillment.
• Insight into Cletus’s personal struggles and how his experiences as a former professional athlete informed his approach to personal culture and presence.
• The critical shift from focusing on outcomes and achievements to being present and enjoying the process.
•  How the relentless pursuit of success and perfection, inherited from an athlete’s mindset, can lead to isolation and stress in personal and professional life.
• Scoreboard Addiction: Exploration of the concept where men tie their self-worth to external measures like money, success, and relationships, leading to constant anxiety.
• The Human and Being Dichotomy: The distinction between doing (human actions) and being (inner presence), and how prioritizing being can lead to true fulfillment.
• Resourcefulness and Source: Connecting with a higher source or inner resourcefulness to navigate life’s challenges and find support.
• Daily Practices: Cletus shares his routine of connecting with the present moment and a higher source to maintain balance and reduce stress.
• Future Feelings: The practice of envisioning future emotions and bringing them into the present to create a fulfilling and joyful life.
• Listening to Source: Emphasis on listening to inner guidance and future self to make aligned decisions and overcome past pains.

Looking for more training to unlock greater purpose, passion, profits and play in your life?

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If you are looking for more tips and support to have success in all areas of life, these resources are for you:

Discover what one single dad, who owns a successful business, did to dedicate 2 hours each day to improve his mind, body and relationship with his kids, without missing one second of work.

Before you can master you life, you have to begin by learning how to master your morning.
 
Download the Master Your Morning Cheat Sheet Now!

1. The registration for the next Be The Torch Academy opens soon...so jump on the priority list to be the first notified when the doors open. JOIN NOW!  https://www.bethetorch.com/academywaitlist

2. For more tips and training, subscribe to our YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@thecletuscoffey

3. Follow Cletus on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cletuscoffey

Transform your business and life by learning the power of profits. It's time to value your worth!

Episode Highlights:

• Introduction to the fourth element of personal culture: Profits.
• Common pitfalls business owners face: not paying themselves and undervaluing their worth.
• Personal insights from Cletus Coffey on transitioning from professional athletics to business.
• The importance of shifting from a hustle mindset to a profit-focused strategy.
• Steps to understand your financial truth: assessing income, debts, and spending.
• Taking ownership and responsibility for your financial situation.
• Overcoming the challenges of operating from a place of desperation.
• Attracting the right partners and customers by elevating your frequency and mindset.
• Actionable steps to start paying yourself first and achieving financial freedom.

Actionable Takeaways:

1. Assess Your Financial Truth: Evaluate your income, debts, and expenses honestly.
2. Take Ownership: Accept responsibility for your financial situation without placing blame elsewhere.
3. Become the Person Capable of Financial Success: Shift your mindset and elevate your frequency to attract the right opportunities.

Call to Action:

• Visit BeTheTorch.com for more insights and to join our movement.

Looking for more training to unlock greater purpose, passion, profits and play in your life?

START HERE:

Book a Call with Cletus

If you are looking for more tips and support to have success in all areas of life, these resources are for you:

Discover what one single dad, who owns a successful business, did to dedicate 2 hours each day to improve his mind, body and relationship with his kids, without missing one second of work.

Before you can master you life, you have to begin by learning how to master your morning.
 
Download the Master Your Morning Cheat Sheet Now!

1. The registration for the next Be The Torch Academy opens soon...so jump on the priority list to be the first notified when the doors open. JOIN NOW!  https://www.bethetorch.com/academywaitlist

2. For more tips and training, subscribe to our YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@thecletuscoffey

3. Follow Cletus on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cletuscoffey

Hey it's Cletus Coffey, bringing you the another episode on Personal Culture. In this episode, we're tackling #3 of the Power 5 of Personal Culture and its a crucial aspect: people. Here are the highlights:

• Leading Yourself to Lead Others: As high achievers and entrepreneurs, we often have a lot of people counting on us – whether it's in business, at home, or in our communities. But here's the kicker: if we're not leading ourselves effectively, we're failing those who rely on us.
• Authenticity is Key: Being a great boss, partner, or friend isn't just about ticking off boxes; it's about leading authentically. If we're not being true to ourselves, how can we expect others to support us authentically?
• Expand in All Areas: Focusing solely on business and money can leave other areas of our lives neglected, becoming an anchor rather than a source of growth. We need to expand in all areas simultaneously to truly thrive.
• Building Trust in Relationships: Authenticity and vulnerability aren't just workplace buzzwords – they're essential for building trust and fostering genuine connections with our teams and loved ones. When we show up authentically, we invite others to do the same.
• Take the Lead in Your Life: It all boils down to leadership – starting with ourselves. By leading ourselves effectively, we set the example for those around us and create a ripple effect of growth and fulfillment in all areas of life.

Ready to take your personal culture to the next level? Reach out to us at bethetorch.com to join our programs and be part of this transformative movement. Remember, life is about more than just achieving goals – it's about cultivating meaningful connections and thriving in all aspects of our lives. Let's light up the torch together!

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If you are looking for more tips and support to have success in all areas of life, these resources are for you:

Discover what one single dad, who owns a successful business, did to dedicate 2 hours each day to improve his mind, body and relationship with his kids, without missing one second of work.

Before you can master you life, you have to begin by learning how to master your morning.
 
Download the Master Your Morning Cheat Sheet Now!

1. The registration for the next Be The Torch Academy opens soon...so jump on the priority list to be the first notified when the doors open. JOIN NOW!  https://www.bethetorch.com/academywaitlist

2. For more tips and training, subscribe to our YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@thecletuscoffey

3. Follow Cletus on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cletuscoffey

• Introduction to Physiology: Hey there, it's Cletus Coffey from Be The Torch, back with video number two of our Power Five series on personal culture. Today, we're diving into physiology, which is all about taking care of the powerhouse that is your body.
• Understanding Personal Culture: Quick reminder: personal culture is about honing in on five key areas of your life: psychology, physiology, people, profits, and presence. It's the roadmap to achieving holistic success in a society fixated on traditional markers of achievement.
• The Importance of Body Care: Your body isn't just a vessel; it's your constant companion in every aspect of life. Whether it's sealing deals in the boardroom or cozying up with your loved ones, your body is there. So, taking care of it isn't a luxury – it's a necessity.
• Making Room for Health: As high achievers, it's tempting to prioritize business over bodily well-being. But neglecting your health can lead to a snapback effect, where you're forced to divert resources to repair what's been neglected.
• Accountability and Action: We're all about accountability here at Be The Torch. Don't let another year slip by without prioritizing your health. Join our movement, connect with our community, and let's work together to build a life where your business fits into your well-rounded existence, not the other way around.

Key Points:

1. Personal culture encompasses five key areas, including physiology, vital for holistic success.
2. Your body is your constant companion in every facet of life; caring for it is non-negotiable.
3. Neglecting your health can lead to setbacks that hinder your ability to thrive in other areas.
4. Embrace accountability and take action to prioritize your health today, not tomorrow.
5. Join the Be The Torch community to embark on a journey towards holistic success where every aspect of your life thrives.

Looking for more training to unlock greater purpose, passion, profits and play in your life?

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If you are looking for more tips and support to have success in all areas of life, these resources are for you:

Discover what one single dad, who owns a successful business, did to dedicate 2 hours each day to improve his mind, body and relationship with his kids, without missing one second of work.

Before you can master you life, you have to begin by learning how to master your morning.
 
Download the Master Your Morning Cheat Sheet Now!

1. The registration for the next Be The Torch Academy opens soon...so jump on the priority list to be the first notified when the doors open. JOIN NOW!  https://www.bethetorch.com/academywaitlist

2. For more tips and training, subscribe to our YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@thecletuscoffey

3. Follow Cletus on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cletuscoffey

In your business, in your relationship, in your parenting, and your health, in your money – it's time for a transformation! 

Join us on this podcast episode as we break free from old patterns and embrace a new journey towards success and fulfillment. 

If you're ready to unlock your true potential and elevate every aspect of your life, this is the place to be. Let's shatter limitations, redefine possibilities, and embark on a journey of growth together. Are you ready to step into the best version of yourself?

Hit play and let's make it happen!

Looking for more training to unlock greater purpose, passion, profits and play in your life?

START HERE:

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If you are looking for more tips and support to have success in all areas of life, these resources are for you:

Discover what one single dad, who owns a successful business, did to dedicate 2 hours each day to improve his mind, body and relationship with his kids, without missing one second of work.

Before you can master you life, you have to begin by learning how to master your morning.
 
Download the Master Your Morning Cheat Sheet Now!

1. The registration for the next Be The Torch Academy opens soon...so jump on the priority list to be the first notified when the doors open. JOIN NOW!  https://www.bethetorch.com/academywaitlist

2. For more tips and training, subscribe to our YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@thecletuscoffey

3. Follow Cletus on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cletuscoffey

The power of Personal Culture is something every high performing man should learn how to embrace. It is the KEY to the FREEDOM, the PEACE, the FULFILLMENT and HAPPINESS that already lives inside you. Now is the time to light your torch and bring these feeling to life. 

• Introduction to Personal Culture: Hey there, it's Cletus Coffey, founder of Be The Torch, and I'm thrilled to kick off this five-part series on personal culture. Today, I delve into why understanding personal culture is pivotal, especially if you're like me, a high achiever entrenched in the business world.
• Breaking Free from Traditional Success Metrics: Let's challenge the status quo together. I share my journey from being a world champion athlete to grappling with the transition into life after sports. It's about breaking free from the confines of society's narrow definition of success, focusing beyond just material accomplishments.
• The Torch Philosophy: At Be The Torch, we believe in igniting personal culture before team culture. It's about understanding that individual well-being fuels team and business success. Join me as we explore how personal growth is the cornerstone of holistic achievement.
• The Power Five Elements of Personal Culture: Here's the breakdown: psychology, physiology, people, profits, and presence. Each element is crucial for creating a life of fulfillment and prosperity. Let's dive deep into understanding and nurturing these aspects. We address #1: Psychology in this episode. 
• Taking Action: It's time to roll up our sleeves and get to work. Assess where you stand in each of the Power Five elements, take ownership of your journey, and commit to building habits aligned with your goals. It's about taking tangible steps towards holistic growth. 
• Now its your turn to listed to ALL 5 EPISODE of PERSONAL CULTURE

Key Points:

1. Personal culture is the key to transcending traditional success metrics.
2. Prioritize individual well-being to foster overall success in both business and life.
3. The Power Five elements lay the foundation for personal growth and fulfillment.
4. Action is paramount – assess, own, and build habits aligned with your aspirations.
5. Join the Be The Torch community for support, accountability, and resources on your journey to holistic success.

Looking for more training to unlock greater purpose, passion, profits and play in your life?

START HERE:

Book a Call with Cletus

If you are looking for more tips and support to have success in all areas of life, these resources are for you:

Discover what one single dad, who owns a successful business, did to dedicate 2 hours each day to improve his mind, body and relationship with his kids, without missing one second of work.

Before you can master you life, you have to begin by learning how to master your morning.
 
Download the Master Your Morning Cheat Sheet Now!

1. The registration for the next Be The Torch Academy opens soon...so jump on the priority list to be the first notified when the doors open. JOIN NOW!  https://www.bethetorch.com/academywaitlist

2. For more tips and training, subscribe to our YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@thecletuscoffey

3. Follow Cletus on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cletuscoffey

If you are looking for tips and support to have success in all areas of life, these resources are for you:

1. Join the movement of entrepreneurs who want to experience success in all areas of life: https://www.bethetorch.com/

2. For more tips and training, subscribe to our YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@thecletuscoffey

3. Follow me on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cletuscoffey

4. Learn more about how we can work together: https://www.cletuscoffey.com/

In this podcast I discuss the detrimental impact of harboring acrimonious feelings due to past rejections and how such emotions lead to stagnation and hinder personal growth. Presenting valuable insight into various life scenarios such as professional career rejections, relationship failures, and personal hurdles, I emphasize the significance of a growth mindset in overcoming rejection. The talk encourages its listeners to detach from outcomes they can't control, reflect on their true selves, and authentically express who they are without fear. I stress the importance of standing in one's personal culture, which consists of five key areas: psychology, physiology, people, profits, and presence. I conclude by urging you to 'be a torch', lighting your path, trailing your passion, and leading a fulfilling life.

Chapters: 

00:00 Fear of Rejection
00:12 My Experience w/ Rejection
01:05 Nature of Rejection
01:40 Reality of Rejection
03:11 Overcoming the Fear of Rejection
03:22 Concept of Personal Culture
04:09 Role of Rejection in Personal Growth
04:23 The Scoreboard: Outcome vs Process
05:53 Steps to Overcome Rejection
08:15 Power of Authenticity
10:46 Conclusion: Be the Torch

Looking for more training to unlock greater purpose, passion, profits and play in your life?

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If you are looking for more tips and support to have success in all areas of life, these resources are for you:

Discover what one single dad, who owns a successful business, did to dedicate 2 hours each day to improve his mind, body and relationship with his kids, without missing one second of work.

Before you can master you life, you have to begin by learning how to master your morning.
 
Download the Master Your Morning Cheat Sheet Now!

1. The registration for the next Be The Torch Academy opens soon...so jump on the priority list to be the first notified when the doors open. JOIN NOW!  https://www.bethetorch.com/academywaitlist

2. For more tips and training, subscribe to our YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@thecletuscoffey

3. Follow Cletus on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/cletuscoffey