Beautiful Second Act

From a one room school house in Nebraska, to becoming a trauma nurse, a hospital administrator, and then retiring to start a winery. Kendall Fults has lived a very full life and he's not about to slow down anytime soon.

Just because we spend a lifetime in a specific field doesn't mean we cannot start something new in an entirely different area. Life is about variety, and with Kendall, there is always one thing that ties it all together. The people.

Family, and community are the things that have always been Kendall's passion. He loves to support and help build a better place wherever he is. From farming in Nebraska, to building better medical facilities in Hanford, California, he was always looking to improve life for everyone.

When Kendall was asked to move to Lake County, California, to work in administration at the local hospital, he thought it would be just for awhile. Falling in love with Lake County, he decided to stay, and not only was able to retire from an impressive career in the medical field, but he decided to go back to his roots of farming and built a vineyard.

Now Fults Family Vineyards, is a winery and tasting room that has become a local favorite place to gather.  Kendall and his family have created something special with their passion for entertaining, and their love of  people, and their thirst for great wines.

Find out more about the winery at FFVWines.com and if you are in the area, join them on one of their Thirsty Thursdays, where they host a causal evening with food, friends, and occasionally live music.

Join the conversation over at our Facebook Group, Beautiful Second Act. We share and support each other in living our best life in the second half of living.

For more about me, go to pattidienerwrites.com and you can read all about my writing process for the book AFTER THE FIRE, based on the true events of the 2015 Valley Fire. You can also grab a copy of the book by clicking here.

Also you can go to romancetravelandfood.com for fun recommendations to travel, things to do with your loved one, great restaurants, reviews, and recipes. 

Thanks for tuning in and share the show if you think someone you know would like it. Please join us every Tuesday and Thursday for more episodes. 

Wishing you all the best!
Patti 

When I heard a friend tell me that it was not my husband's job to make me happy, I didn't quite know how to take that. After all, weren't we required to make each other happy for the rest of our lives? Actually... no. That was not the assignment. In fact your happiness isn't the job of ANYONE but you.

It is not for your children, your job, your friends, and yes,  not even your spouse, to make you happy. It's not their responsibility. And when you look deep within yourself and start asking the tough questions, you will see that only you can fill that void that is deep within yourself.  For in that void is the ache you have to connect with your truth.

Only you have the key to what it is that fills you up inside. In this episode, I tell the stories of my being stuck and feeling shame, and tremedous guilt for wanting more out of life. How self love, truth telling, and closing the door to trying to be the perfect wife and mother, helped and healed me.

You can follow me on Instagram at Beautiful_Second_Act. You can also join our Facebook Group called, Beautiful Second Act. There, we have a community of people living in midlife or beyond, that embrace joy, gratitude, and strive to live their highest truth unapologetically.

Also, follow me at pattidienerwrites.com for information on my book, AFTER THE FIRE. I share my writing process and all that went into writing it.  There is a link to buy the book there, but also you may go to Amazon for the eBook, or paperback by clicking here.

If you are interested in my lifestyle blog, go to romancetravelandfood.com. It's full of fun travel locations, ideas of things to do with loved ones, restaurant recommendations and reviews, as well as recipes. Check it out.

Thanks for tuning in and I appreciate feedback. You can comment, rate, or review the podcast. It helps others to find me easier.

Have a fantastic day!
Patti 

At the age of 40, Jennifer Lynn Alvarez, made a decision to become a published author and write every single day no matter what, for a year. That decision would earn her a book deal and since that day she's written and published several books, all because of determination.

Even if you aren't a fully empty nester yet, you can still etch out time for yourself that is non-negotiable.  Because Jennifer created, "office hours," from her home office, she was able to treat her time writing as a business and became a successful author.

In this interview, we talk about perfecting your craft and working at whatever it is that you want to do so you will improve. Jennifer got a book deal because she was immersed in the writing world by choice. She honed her skills from practicing each day without fail, and continues to expand her writing.

It is never too late to start to live the life of your dreams. If you weren't able to begin your life's dream in your twenties or thirties, it doesn't mean you should give up on it ever happening. Learn as much as you can and just DO THE THING!

You can find out more about Jennifer Lynn Alvarez, by going to her website; jenniferlynnalvarez.com and all her books are listed there as well.

For how you can find my book, AFTER THE FIRE, click this link.

To read my writing process and all that was happening during my writing the book, go to pattidienerwrites.com and you can also read the first chapter of my new book there.

And go to my website, romancetravelandfood.com for great ideas on where to travel, places to eat, things to do with your loved one, and great recipes. 

Thank you for listening and don't forget to SUBSCRIBE, RATE, and REVIEW the podcast.

Much love,
Patti 

Life is hard out there. If a person is to be their best, feel their best, and live their best life, they need to have some non-negotiables. That is to say, they need to have boundries and stick to certain things in life they count on, no matter what.

I wonder what you rely upon to be your best self? For some people it's setting a wake and sleep schedule. Some other people set a work out routine, or end their work day at a certain time whether the job is done or not. For me, I need to start my day off right to set a tone for the rest of my day.

Listen to this episode for some of my tricks for setting non-negotiables. Boundries and routines you can count on can really help your mindset for a positive lifestyle.

A book I read from in this show is called, TIME ALONE; The Gift Of Being With Yourself, by Susan Squellati Florence.

You can get a copy of my book, AFTER THE FIRE, by clicking this link or by going to my website pattidienerwrites.com and you can get it there too.

My blog romancetravelandfood.com is fun with reviews on lodging, travel, restaurants, and recipes. 

Thanks for tuning in and if you like the content I'm putting out, please don't forget to share with your friends! Also SUBSCRIBE, RATE, and REVIEW the podcast so others can find it easier.

I hope you have a great week.
Patti

The saying, "If you are trying to be all things to all people, you are lying to someone," is so true. It is an impossible feat, not to mention exhausting.

Living your best life starts by being your authentic self. You are never going to be everyone's favorite flavor so give yourself a break and don't try that. Instead, learn to accept all the parts of yourself. Love who you are at your core, and the people meant to find you and love you, will too.

There is no place at the table for shame if you are truly embracing your most authentic self. All of us have made mistakes and are trying to find out who we really are. When we tap into our truest form, it's our job to protect who we are from others that will try to bring us back down to who they think we are supposed to be.  

The song by Billy Joel, called The Stranger, was mentioned in this podcast as a reference to how we all try on different personas in the hopes of being what we believe others want us to be.

Thank you for listening to this podcast. Please take a minute to SUBSCRIBE, RATE, and REVIEW this podcast so others can find it easier.

My book I spoke about, AFTER THE FIRE, can be found by clicking the link.

I also blogged all my interviews and my writing process at pattidienerwrites.com. You can also read the first chapter of my new novel there as well.

And my website, romancetravelandfood.com is full of fun reviews on places I've traveled, great restaurants, things to do with your loved one, as well as recipes. 

Wishing you all a wonderful day.
Patti 

LIfe is full of challenges. Sometimes it's hard to not be reactive when stressors weigh us down. Raising your vibration can help. 

Listen to today's episode, and I will explain about what I mean by, raising your vibration. I will also share with you some of my teachers, and how they have helped me to change my way of thinking by simply reading their books.

It's easy to be in a high vibration when things are going smoothly, and life is easy. But the trick is to re-set back to your higher vibration quickly, even when unpleasant things occur.

Two of the people I refer to in this episode are, Eckhart Tolle who is a spiritual writer and speaker, and wrote A NEW EARTH. Also there was Tony Robbins, who is a phenomenal public speaker and motivator.  These two are very uplifting and encouraging for raising your vibration.

It is my intention to bring you inspiring content, and I hope you are enjoying these solo episodes. There is more of this kind of fun happening over on our Facebook group, also called Beautiful Second Act, so pop on over and join.

As promised, here's some information about my book.  AFTER THE FIRE was written about the 2015 Valley Fire, that burned more than 1,000 homes. It's a romance novel about a contractor who comes to town for the clean up effort, falls in love with the community, and a local girl as well.

For all my interviews with real people who were affected by this tragedy, please go to my website, pattidienerwrites.com  and you can hear all about my writing process too.

And lastly, for my lifestyle blog go to romancetravelandfood.com for some fun places to travel to, cool things to do with your loved one, great restaurants, and recipes too. 

Thank you for following along, and please SUBSCRIBE, RATE, and REVIEW the podcast so more folks can find us easier.

Wishing you all the best,
Patti 

From drinking and smoking pot by age thirteen, and doing meth by fifteen, it's amazing anyone could live a normal life and function.  But that's exactly what Marco Langis, did. He was a functional addict for a great amount of his life. Working, and parenting was all part of his daily existence, but because he was still using meth, he admits he was never on top of his game, not matter how well he thought he hid it.

The love of a woman, whom he had loved since his early twenties, finally pulled him out of the spiralling, and hiding that was Marco's norm , with a last chance ulitmatum. But it was also her autistic son, who showed Marco new possibilities.

Now in his mid fifties, Marco hasn't used meth or even had one set back in over a decade. His work with Autism Spectrum Athletics, in the Los Angeles area, has changed his life. Working with the children and being on the Board of Directors for this non-profit, has brought new purpose to his life, and given him numerous opportunities to give back.

I loved this interview because of the honesty, growth, and promise it showed to all that life is truly WHAT YOU MAKE OF IT. It's about choices. And no matter what you have done in the past, you can choose to turn it around. Getting help and getting involved is what worked for this man.

You can message Marco questions about help with enrolling your child in the program, or how you can volunteer by emailing: [email protected] or go to the website autismspectrumathletics.org

Thank you for tuning in. The ways you can get my book are by clicking this link and if you are interested in how I wrote AFTER THE FIRE, and why, go to my blog at pattidienerwrites.com
and you can also read the first chapter of my new book that's coming out.

I have a website called romancetravelandfood.com that you might like also, so check that out.
 If you have an inspiring story to share or a recommendation for the podcast, please email me at:  [email protected].

Have a lovely day.
Patti 

Lately I have found myself falling back into old habits that never really served me. My fear based thinking has crept up on me during this fire season and I realized it was limiting my experiences.

In this episode, I talk about how living in the present moment can bring us back to a more positive way of thinking. Being present releases us from all our evaluations, our anticipations, and our fears of what was, or what we fear of the future. 

It's only human to fall back into old habits. The good news is we can create new habits. The more we use the muscles of our brain to rewire our thoughts, the closer we are to having a new normal, new default, and new reality. 

Thank you for listening to Beautiful Second Act. I promised in the show notes to give you all the goodies on how to find me. So here we go...

My book, AFTER THE FIRE, is here in this link.  Also you can go to my website, pattidienerwrites.com for into on my writing process for this book, as well as find all my interviews for the novel since it was based on the 2015 Valley Fire, in Lake County, California.

My blog, romancetravelandfood.com has some fun posts about places to stay, wonderful restaurants, recipes, and things to do with your loved one. Check it out.

If you know of anyone you think would be a good candidate to interview here on Beautiful Second Act, please email me at: [email protected] and I am happy to look into it. I'm also open to suggestions on topics related to living our best life for folks 45+ who aspire to live fully in this, our second half of life. 

Have a blessed day,
Patti

I sat in the kitchen of Mike Holland, a small town man with an adventurous spirit, and a heart as big as the whole world. His love of his family, his pride in his heritage, and the legacy he keeps alive of his beautiful grandmother, are all things that make Mike, a loving human being.

Having worked with AT&T for 21 years now, Mike spent many of those years also volunteering with a group associated with his job called Pioneers Volunteer. His volunteerism has taken him all over and brought him such joy, just to help another fellow human in the midst of crisis.

He has also helped with the Ronald MacDonald House Charities.

The fun part of working with AT&T has been all the great people Mike has met. He joined a dragon boat team for both a domestic team, as well as an international team. You can check them out on Facebook or the website by clicking here .

This interview was so wonderful, and I had such a great time chatting with him. If you like the content I'm putting out, please SUBSRIBE, RATE, and REVIEW the podcast so it will be easier for others to find it.

Also, I wrote a book called, AFTER THE FIRE, about the 2015 Valley Fire that burned more than 1,000 homes in Lake County, California. It's a romance novel about a contractor that comes to aid in the clean up efforts, falls in love with the community and it's people, as well as a local girl. You can get a copy here .

And if you would like to read more of my process in self publishing that novel, please go to my website: pattidienerwrites.com  and you can see all my interviews I did for the book, as well as learn all about what was happening in Lake County then. There is a page to buy my book from there as well.

Lastly, if you like romance, travel, and food... then check out my blog called: romancetravelandfood.com. I have lots of places I recommend to travel to, things to do with your loved one, and restaurants, as well as recipes. I think you will enjoy it.

Thank you so much for spending time with me and listening to the podcast. It is my intention to bring you great content on how we can continue to live our best life in midlife, and beyond.

Have the most wonderful day!
Patti 

Marriage is full of peaks and valleys. If you want a satisfying, loving, and long marriage, you need to understand how to be a partner that is not only supportive, but you have to allow each other the space to grow.

In this episode, I talk about the 35 years together, and 30 years married to my husband, and love of my life, Charlie. How it wasn't always a picnic, but how we learned over time to cheer each other on, enjoy what we have in common, and support each other's dreams. Standing strong near each other, but giving one another room to grow was, and is the key.

If you like this content I provide, hop on over to our Facebook Group, Beautiful Second Act, and join. If you are in midlife, or beyond and want inspiration, motivation, and dare to dream big, then you will love the community we've built.

Also, if you love romance, travel, and food, then you will like my blog called: romancetravelandfood.com where I share lots of places I've been, things to do with your loved one, and restaurants, local farmers markets, as well as recipes.

I wrote a book about the 2015 Valley Fire, that happened in Lake County, California. It's called, AFTER THE FIRE, and is a romance novel. You can get your copy here .

You can also read more about my process of writing that self published book here at my website: pattidienerwrites.com where I share my interviews for the book, as well as tell all about what was going on in the community during that time. I give lots of information on writing, querying agents, and how I came to decide to self publish.

I hope you like all the content I've been sharing. If you do, please SUBSCRIBE, RATE, and REVIEW the podcast so more people can find it easier.

I wish you all a fantastic day!
Patti