� Vol 64 | The More You Force It, the More You Lose | What you think is effort is actually fear

� Core idea of this episode

You think you’re working hard — but in reality, you’re operating from fear.

Forcing things is emotional. Letting go is a skill.

Those who cannot see the bigger picture will desperately cling to fragments.

Relationships are not “managed” — they flow naturally.

Truly long-lasting connections are never maintained through force.

The tighter you hold on, the faster it slips away.

Relaxation is not giving up — it is a higher level of control.

A stable inner core is your greatest competitive advantage.

⏱️ Structure / Flow

Opening

A real-life moment from a busy routine becomes the starting point of today’s episode.

Core question:

Why is it that in many situations — the harder you try, the faster you lose it?

Classic metaphor:

“Sand in your hand — the tighter you squeeze, the faster it falls away.”

� First Insight Layer

� Forcing things is rooted in fear

Life analogy:

Learning to ride a bike, driving, sports —

when you are tense → you over-control → you lose control.

Key coaching insight:

“You need to relax in order to see further.”

Deeper logic:

Forcing ≠ effort.

Forcing is emotionally driven, not rationally chosen.

Key realization:

Fear narrows your vision — you can only see fragments, not the whole system.

� Business Perspective

Typical case:

Client / order competition

Because of fear of losing → you immediately lower prices

→ while ignoring real demand and your own value.

Key question:

Do clients really want cheaper prices, or are you acting from fear?

Human amplification effect:

Once competition appears, perceived client value becomes exaggerated.

At its core: fear + ego + attachment to gain/loss.

Return to rational decision-making:

Is this a high-quality client?

Does it have long-term value?

What is the core competitive advantage?

� Shift from “grabbing opportunities” → “choosing opportunities”

Business truth:

Relationships built through force rarely last.

� Decision-making layer (CEO mindset)

All decisions must return to one point:

� What is the real need?

Core principle (inspired by Munger-style thinking):

Do not fall into a victim mindset.

Key reminder:

Fear distorts decisions

Emotion distorts behavior

️ Relationship logic

Fundamental rule:

People value what is hard to get, and overlook what is easily available.

Hidden code of relationships:

� Boundaries = foundation of long-term connection

Upgraded belief:

Relationships are not “managed”

Relationships are “energy in natural flow”

Metaphor:

Life is like a train —

people only ride with you for part of the journey.

Getting off at their stop is natural.

Cost of forcing:

Forcing retention = emotional drain + entanglement

Reality:

Relationships not built on genuine attraction rarely remain stable.

� Core Methodology

What “relaxation” really means:

� Relaxation ≠ giving up

� Relaxation = seeing the full picture + making rational choices

True source of strength:

� Inner stability, not external control

Modern interpretation of attraction:

Stable individuals naturally attract aligned people

Misaligned connections naturally leave

� Closing

Back to the original question:

Why do some people achieve better results when they use less force?

� Because they understand a fundamental rule:

Only when you are relaxed can you see clearly and make correct decisions.

Final conclusion:

Decisions are not cold — they are responsibility toward your own life.

Ultimate answer:

Every problem ultimately resolves through building a stable inner core.

� See you next episode.

� Vol 63 | From Fear to Action: The Energy Transformation Code I Discovered

️ Engagement

Have you ever thought about this—how much of your day is actually spent living in “fear”?

Not real danger, but worries about the future, uncertainty about the unknown, and imagined failure.

None of it has happened, yet it constantly drains your energy.

⏱ Structure

Opening: How fear takes over our lives

A question: How much of your life is spent in fear?

The two biggest energy black holes: regret of the past vs. fear of the future

Micro-fears in daily life: anxiety, worry, loss of control

Turning point: Fear cannot be avoided, only faced

Two dimensions: business & life

� Business / Career Perspective

Why even capable people miss opportunities

Case: A high-potential marketing colleague

“The wall of fear”: the real barrier to growth

The biggest regret: never even trying

Why you can’t “help someone overcome fear”

The roots of fear: family background / past experiences / trauma

Fear as a cage that limits the width of your life

In career growth, the real obstacle isn’t ability—it’s fear

� Personal Story

My story: going to the U.S. alone 11 years ago

Why “curiosity > fear”

Key realization: fear itself is an illusion

Each time you move through fear, you create a positive cycle

Fear can be trained

�‍️ Life / Inner Perspective

5 years of meditation: truly beginning to see fear

From avoidance → resistance → acceptance

Stages of dialoguing with fear

Allowing yourself to “be in fear”

The nature of emotions: like water—they come and go

� Core Method (Most Important)

The “code” to transform fear

� Ask yourself one question:

“What can I do right now?”

The moment action begins, fear loses its space

� Final Insight

Anxiety and action cannot coexist

Fear = energy that has not yet been processed through action

Wishing you clarity and courage. See you next time.

� Vol 62 | Love is the true source of all discipline and energy

️ Q&A

In this episode, I want to take you one layer deeper —

At the core behind discipline, success, choices, and anxiety, the real driving force is “love.”

Once you see this, you begin to understand differently:

Why you feel anxious

Why you feel exhausted

Why some people seem to have endless energy

Because everything ultimately returns to one source:

Whether you truly love yourself, and whether you are allowing love to flow.

� Beyond self-discipline, what is the deeper driver?

A overlooked truth:

What we pursue throughout life is, at its core, “love.”

The three layers of love:

Love for yourself → love for others / your work → love for the world

Why many people feel anxious or empty:

They seek love externally, but cannot find a sustainable path to it.

️ Misalignment in business & life decisions

When choices are made for external expectations, meaning disappears after reaching a certain point.

The “empty phase” after success:

Many people restart a journey of rediscovering themselves.

A key question:

Are you willing to give love first?

Core idea:

Love yourself first → then you can give love → then you can truly receive love.

� Business perspective: where does energy come from?

Why many people cannot sustain energy?

Because they rely on suppression, pressure, and self-criticism → which creates a draining system.

My turning point (2017–2018):

From “forced discipline” → to “natural discipline”

First stage:

Discipline = suppression + fear of mistakes + fear of disappointment

On the surface it looked the same (e.g., waking up early), but the internal energy was completely different.

Second stage (now):

Discipline = calmness + enjoyment + natural flow

Key difference between the two:

Suppression → has a ceiling

Love → allows infinite growth

� The truth of discipline

Discipline is not forcing yourself —

It is the natural overflow of internal energy.

Why most people cannot persist?

Because there is no love — only willpower.

In long-term business creation:

The real source is not ability — it is love.

� The power of love

Why can someone still see light in difficulty? Because of love.

My real feeling:

Business is not just a tool for making money —

It is a way to understand the world, human nature, and connection.

️ The flow of love

Everyone needs love.

But if everyone is waiting, love becomes a stagnant pool.

� The lowest-cost way to receive love is: give love first.

�‍�‍� Family case: the real power of love

Changes in parents:

Because of love, they continued to grow even after turning 60.

Father’s change:

From not understanding the industry → to deeply understanding business logic.

Mother’s change:

Upgraded understanding of life, relationships, and health.

Core reason:

Love creates participation and growth motivation.

� The mutual nourishment of love

When you give even a little more love, you are also being nourished.

A detail from interviews:

What others feel is not your ability — but your energy.

� Invitation

If you also have real experiences about “love, energy, or passion” in your business or life,

feel free to share them in the comments.

Let’s make love flow again.

️ Closing

May you have love, feel love, and become love itself.

See you next episode.

� Vol 61｜Self-discipline is freedom — but freedom doesn’t happen overnight

｜What you think is “luck” is actually long-term compounding

� (Interactive) If you are currently in a situation where:

You have goals but keep postponing starting…

You feel stuck in repetitive cycles…

Or you feel anxious about the future…

� Leave a comment and tell me:

What is the one thing you most want to start, but haven’t yet?

You’re also welcome to share your own “long-term persistence story.”

Let’s turn these real paths into strength for each other.

� Core idea of this episode

Self-discipline is not restriction — it is the path to freedom.

Everything that looks like “luck” is actually the result of long-term compounding.

If you can’t do it, it’s not because it’s too hard — it’s because you’re thinking too big and doing too little.

What truly creates distance between people is never a single day, but time.

Don’t envy outcomes — you are not seeing the years of consistency behind them.

Starting doesn’t need to be perfect, but it must begin.

What’s holding your life back is not ability — it’s lack of continuity.

� Core theme｜Reunderstanding “self-discipline = freedom”

Freedom is not a result — it is something built through long-term accumulation.

� Common struggle｜Why do you keep looping in place?

Set goals → fail → give up → repeat again

� Human mechanism｜Comparison & survivorship bias

What you see as “success” is only the polished outcome

Key question｜Does “wish fulfillment” really exist?

Not mysticism — but a path that can be broken down

� Business case｜11-year entrepreneurial journey

Manufacturing → cross-border trade → distribution → local retail

Each step was small — but together they created a huge transformation

� Key insight｜Growth is not linear

Day-to-day changes are invisible

But over 10 years, the gap becomes massive

� Core insight｜Experience is the most important asset

Differences in influence come from real lived experience

� Long-term value｜Why some skills are non-replicable

Localization, trust, networks, and cultural understanding all require time to accumulate

� Reality check｜No pride, only continuous correction

Staying alive = constantly fixing mistakes

Life metaphor｜Climbing vs destination

Happiness is not at the peak — but in the process itself

� Action advice｜Why you can’t do it: thinking too big, doing too little

� Method｜How to build consistency

Start with 10 minutes

Give yourself positive feedback

Progress within a tolerable range

� Case｜Compound effect of learning Dutch

30 minutes per day × 150 days → breakthrough point

Core method｜The only way out of the loop

Start right now + keep going

� Cognitive upgrade

What you admire in others is built on what they don’t show

⏳ Time dimension

Real gaps come from cycles

1 day shows nothing — 5 years changes everything

� Summary｜The fundamental rule of business & life

No result happens overnight

� Closing

Return to the present moment — and put your energy into action, right here, right now.

Vol 60｜What truly influences others is not methods or techniques, but your authenticity, your experiences, and your story

Core idea: Real influence does not come from skills or tactics

It comes from: authenticity, lived experience, and personal stories

Self-reflection: In the early days of entrepreneurship, I relied heavily on methods and deliberately managed relationships

Looking back now, it felt like a form of “forced effort”

The underlying logic of business and life: everything is built on human trust

The dual nature of relationships: relationships can nourish you, but they can also drain you

Key question: How do we build healthy relationships?

→ Fundamentally: how do we influence others

Real-world context (Recruitment):

During hiring in the Netherlands, I conducted over 20 intensive interviews with candidates

Key insight begins to emerge: influence comes from authenticity, not presentation

A critical situation: The company faced a safety inspection, leading to a temporary halt in sales and product recall (publicly known situation)

A turning point appeared in candidates’ reactions:

Some focused on stability, while others focused on decision-making and thinking patterns

Strong candidates asked:

“Why did you make this decision? What will you do next?”

The essence of influence: it is not only language, but also your state, energy, and presence

Authentic expression: admitting mistakes, explaining decisions clearly, sharing how we respond—without hiding or polishing

Result reversal: what seemed like a “negative event” actually became a moment of trust-building

Key feedback: every company makes mistakes

But what matters is how you face them

If you use tactics to cover up reality, you may actually lose the people who matter most

Two-way validation: authenticity allows both sides to see each other’s true values

Recruitment insight: candidates are not attracted by “company scale,” but by “growth trajectory”

Counterintuitive discovery: being honest about imperfections makes you more attractive

Core transformation: authenticity turns disadvantages into advantages

Pattern summary: authenticity is the fastest path to building trust

Perspective shift: we ourselves are also more willing to trust real people

Deeper layer: authenticity makes people feel relaxed, and relationships unfold naturally

Action suggestion: start with one safe relationship and practice more honest expression

Closing summary: authenticity is a foundational capability of influence

� Vol 59｜If You Want Something, First Become It

� Interaction

In this episode, I want to give you a “key I’ve personally tested many times.”

It’s not a methodology, and it’s not mysticism—it’s a principle that works in both business and life:

� If you want to have something, first become the kind of person who has it.

We all have desires—

to be recognized, to become more successful, to be healthier, to have better relationships and more opportunities.

But why is it that so often, we “ask but don’t receive”?

Why does it sometimes feel like the world is unfair?

In this episode, I’ll start from a real business case that just happened recently, and break down the “hidden code” behind how desires actually materialize.

� Action & Method

Principle: No one will fulfill your desire for you

Logic: You become it first, then results follow

Method: Start with one small action

Example: Want health → start by running

Validation: You will see changes within one week

Essence: Use action to test the rules of life

� Ending

Summary: Life is a process of designing, testing, and optimizing yourself

Call to action: Share your own “tests” and results in the comments

Blessing: May your wishes come true

Vol 58 | Leave Space for Inspiration: When Was the Last Time You Let Your Mind Be Still?

� Key Theme

When your mind is filled with emotions, pressure, and problems—

inspiration has no room to enter.

In this episode, we go deeper into “acceptance and appreciation”:

� Not just accepting what’s lost and valuing what you have

� But more importantly: creating space in your mind and your life

Because—

inspiration and creativity only grow where there is space

� Are You Stuck in an “Energy Drain Loop”?

A small trigger → emotional drain → chain reaction → long-term low state

A key question: Where does your energy go every day?

Are you focused on what you’ve lost—or what you have?

The power of awareness:

Seeing it is the beginning of change

� Real Business Case: Netherlands Safety Department

In high-pressure situations, choosing not to focus energy on the negative

Why are lawyers willing to join my network?

Because how you handle problems = your energy state

A counterintuitive truth:

Great partnerships are not built on money

But on alignment in values, energy, and ways of working

The role of a CEO:

Not to solve every problem, but to stabilize the energy field

You Are the Captain

Your state determines the direction of the entire ship

The “energy code” I discovered:

Once you enter a state of depletion, it amplifies in a chain reaction

The fundamental logic:

Your brain has limited capacity

When it’s filled with negativity = no space for inspiration

Why does meditation make me more stable?

Because you begin to observe your thoughts instead of being carried away by them

� What You Can Control

The only thing you can truly control

is how you respond to problems

Reverse feedback in interviews:

Challenges can actually increase your attractiveness

What young people care about more:

How you face problems

Your ability to handle problems

is your opportunity to build trust

Two Simple Actions You Can Apply Immediately

Shift your perspective on the most draining situation right now—adjust your energy frequency

Review your daily “energy list” and invest your focus in actions

� Interactive Questions

� Have you noticed any “automatic reaction patterns” recently?

� Have you tried stepping back and becoming the observer?

� What is one small change that shifted your energy?

Feel free to share your story in the comments. See you next time!

� Vol 57 | Stop Spinning in a Sense of Lack — That’s When Life and Business Become Lighter

� Key Insights

• The biggest drain on your energy isn’t effort — it’s constantly focusing on what you don’t have

• You don’t lack more — you just haven’t seen what you already have

• True freedom is choosing where to invest your energy

• Awareness isn’t about forcing change — it’s about seeing clearly and allowing natural transformation

• Fear isn’t the problem — being trapped by fear is

• Everyone is living a different “exam paper” in life

� Core Message

Everyone’s life is a different “test”

The common ground between business and life: storms are inevitable

The wisdom to face them: not resistance, but acceptance

� Back to Life

You already have more than you think

� Action Invitation

Reallocate your attention

An “Energy Law”

The more grateful you are, the more things begin to flow

� Summary

Accept what you don’t have, and be grateful for what you do

� Q&A

If this resonates with you even a little, feel free to share in the comments �

• What is one thing you’ve been stuck in a “lack mindset” about recently?

• What is one thing you feel most grateful for right now?

Your feedback will directly shape what I share next ️

The truth about building connections:
It’s not about finding people — it’s about becoming someone who is needed.

Have you ever noticed—
the harder you try to “manage” your network, the more anxious you feel?
You attend countless dinners, gatherings, and social events,
yet very few people truly support you or stay for the long run.

So here’s the question:
Are connections built through “effort,” or through “attraction”?

️ Key Takeaways
The essence of connections:
It’s not about how many people you know, but about value exchange.

Real connections ≠ superficial acquaintances
They are relationships that can sustain long-term value exchange.

And value isn’t just money or resources — it also includes:
information value, cognitive value, emotional value, and aligned communication.

The ability to have deep conversations, co-create, and truly understand each other —
that’s what defines high-quality relationships.

Core capability:
A clear mind + stable emotions = strong decision-making

Observation:
Truly capable people all do one thing well � they protect their energy

Ultimate formula:
Connections = value exchange + self-worth

Action advice:
Start by reducing ineffective socializing

Closing:
Become someone who shines, and everything you need will be drawn to you.
See you in the next episode!

� Business is a skillset. Life is a spiritual practice.
Be rigorous in your abilities, but gentle in your mindset.

� The essence of business is a system — something you can learn, train, and continuously optimize.
� The essence of life is awareness, acceptance, and returning to your true self.
️ Real balance comes from the ability to switch roles.

� Q&A

Why do many entrepreneurs feel more anxious after achieving success?

Why does “true self-awareness” often begin after financial freedom?

Why can we be CEOs at work, yet struggle to let go of that identity at home?

Opening & Theme

Continuing the 2026 theme of “energy protection,”
here’s a paradox worth thinking about:

Business requires rationality.
Life requires inner cultivation.

Why does success often lead to more anxiety?

After achieving external success, many people enter a new phase:
shifting from chasing external achievements → to exploring their inner world.

A psychologist friend once told me:
very few people truly “see themselves.”

The cost of self-discovery

What happens when you realize
what you’ve been chasing isn’t what you truly wanted?

Your sense of security collapses.
And transformation often comes with pain.

The “overweight role” of a CEO

Many people carry their business identity back home.
This is deeply rooted in cultural and cognitive habits.

And that’s why it’s so hard to become an observer of your own life.

My turning point

The end of an intimate relationship.
Three years living alone overseas.
One hour of daily meditation.

That’s when I learned how to become an observer of myself.

My contrast: business vs life

In business: structured, data-driven, highly rational.
In life: simple, light, and present.

Because a role is not the self.

Business skills can be learned

Finance, law, management — all follow patterns.
In the AI era, learning costs are lower than ever.
But information overload becomes the new challenge.

Business requires extreme rationality

Go-to-market needs logic.
Major decisions must be emotion-free.
In business, emotions can become risks.

But life cannot be purely rational

Relationships require sensitivity.
Over-analysis makes life rigid.
Emotions are the softness of being alive.

My first principle

Inner stability is the foundation.
Your life state determines your business state.

Fix yourself first, then do business.

Frameworks are tools, not constraints

Skills should be something you can pick up — and put down.
Business is a framework.
But how you live your life is always a choice.

The freedom of role-switching

“CEO” is just a role.
Outside of that, I’m simply Becky.

Not carrying your role —
that is true freedom.

Effort and surrender

In business: be responsible for the process.
In life: accept uncertainty and impermanence.

Do your best — and let go of the outcome.

Final thoughts

Be scientific and rational in business.
Be simple and natural in life.

Sharp abilities. Soft mindset.

Thanks for listening — see you next time.