Become More Compelling

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Any time you're learning a new skill, it can be tempting to dive in head first and consume ALL the information. Often this leads to analysis paralysis. This is the opposite of action.

Lately, I've been thinking about the concept of taking action without overthinking. (Something I struggled with for years)

In this (solo) episode of BMC Radio I'll give you frameworks for:

• How do you get just ENOUGH information to act without hoarding information and overthinking?
• How can you quickly act on the information you consume?
• How does Amazon CEO Jeff Bezos view the push/pull of information vs. action?
• And more...

If you're an ambitious overthinker, you'll hate this episode at first. But give it a few minutes, it will change the way you view taking action forever. ---

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--------- On this episode of Become More Compelling Radio, I'd like to introduce you to my friend Dave Bowden (@IrreverentGent) founder of Irreverent Gent.

In this episode, we tackle a crucial topic:

Confidence.

What is it?

How do you get it?

How does it impact different areas of your life?

Confidence is important because it's one of those skills that isn't taught in school. Confidence is learned on the STREET.

(Or maybe just by consistently pushing past your comfort zone.)

This episode is geared towards the fellas. (Although I believe there are valuable insights for everyone) Dave has spent the last decade improving himself in the areas of people skills, fitness, and style.

He's gone from shy and reserved to authentically confident and now he helps men in their 20s and 30s do the same.

Highlights:

04:00 - One quick tactic Dave used to stop overthinking and win over a new friend at a dinner party.

12:40 - How to avoid information overload and take action on improving your people skills.

37:00 - The mindset Dave uses to overcome the hesitation of starting conversations.

47:45 - How to think about your style and avoiding the imposter syndrome that can come from changing what you wear.

Dave is the Amazon #1 best-selling author of Ready to Roar: How Shy, Quiet, Self-Doubting Guys Become Strong, Charming, Self-Confident Men and the founder of IrreverentGent.com, a blog dedicated to helping guys build confidence.

His work has been featured in The Good Men Project, Well Built Style and Active Man magazine, among others.

Show notes are available here.

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Between the hours of 8-5, are you typically sitting?

If you are, then you need to (stand up) and listen to this episode of Become More Compelling Radio.

Most of us intuitively know sitting is bad for us. But just how bad it really is may shock you.

My guest is Zack Arnold (@EmpireEditor) he's the founder of Optimize Yourself and this is a podcast episode that could literally add years to your life.

You're probably familiar with Zack's work if you've ever watched shows like Burn Notice, Glee, and Empire. He's an editor by trade, so he knows all about grueling 12+ hour days sitting in front of a computer.

About 10 years ago, Zack decided that he would stop treating his body like a Ford Pinto, and start treating it like a Ferrari. This journey led him to spend over $75,000 and a decade optimizing his health so that he can constantly perform at a high level in his career and produce amazing work on demand.ack

Most of our jobs require us to be creative problem solvers. Zack will teach us how to protect our creativity like it's our number one asset.

03:45: Zack's preferred coffee: Bulletproof coffee 06:45: Zack's journey: Learn, Experiment, Share 11:55: The slow death of being sedentary 16:55: Systems over goals 22:47: Why Zack always takes stairs (GO FAR: The Christopher Rush Story) 25:00: Think of your body like a swamp 30:00: Find your "deeper why" to trigger intrinsic motivation 32:20: Meditation 34:26: Being radically present with people 42:00: Zack's counterintuitive approach to smartphones 44:02: Eat to feed your brain 53:00: Zack's global text message: "You are so much closer to achieving your goals than you think you are." 1:01:22: Learn more about Zack at Optimize Yourself

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Let's face it.

We've ALL sent a 16 paragraph email and that moment after we've hit the send button on this potentially life-changing email, we've wondered silently to ourselves:

"Should I have sent that? Was that a little too much?" (Spoiler: YES, IT WAS TOO MUCH, NOW I WANT TO THROW MY LAPTOP LIKE A DISCUS INTO A LAKE)

I'm so selfishly excited about this episode of Become More Compelling Radio that I can barely contain myself. ​ My guest Talia Koren (@thetalillama) and I talk about how to reach out to influencers in a way that respects their time and makes it 10x more likely that you'll receive a response. This is especially helpful if you want to:

• Pitch media to get your side business off the ground.
• Get a new job in a new field.
• Reach out to an expert and ask for advice.

The skill set of being able to reach out to people in an effective way is a force multiplier for your life. Learn it and use it. In this episode you'll learn: 12:26 - How most people approach media outreach and what you can do instead. 24:10 - How to reach out to individual influencers. 41:22 - The structure of a good outreach email. (Subject line, body, PS) Talia also has a free resource for BMC listeners: 3 Teardowns of standard media pitches.

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Show notes available at www.becomemorecompelling.com/podcast

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--------- On this episode of Become More Compelling Radio I'd like to introduce you to my friend Dan Chang (@friendformula) founder of The Friend Formula. A former self-descibed shy guy, nine years ago Dan decided to start learning about social skills so that he could perform at a high level in his career. He's gone from someone who was too shy to speak up in meetings, to giving presentations to executives.

Dan has been featured on INC, Business Insider, The Huffington Post, Lifehacker, Introvert Spring, and many others. In this conversation, we discuss how to become better at small talk than 99% of people. I love Dan's advice because it's so easy to implement. If you've ever fiddled with your phone instead of striking up a conversation with someone you've wanted to meet, this podcast is for you. In this episode you'll learn:

• 13:55 How to make yourself comfortable before you even open your mouth.
• 15:50 A simple tip that Dan's boss gave him: You don't have to have a great idea to say something.
• 30:50 Dan's 3 step framework for mastering small talk

You'll definitely want to grab Dan's free three video mini course on small talk (Including strategies on reducing nervousness) here.

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As always, show notes and links are available at Become More Compelling

NEXT STEP:

QUIZ - Do you know what your communication style is? Take this quiz and get a custom report based on your results.

AUDIO GUIDE - Grab my free audio guide on group conversations here (Includes word-for-word scripts)

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On this episode of Become More Compelling Radio, I am super excited to have the delightful Marsha Shandur (@YesYesMarsha) founder of yesyesmarsha.com.

Marsha is a phenomenal storytelling and networking coach, and the official storytelling coach at Portland's World Domination Summit. She has been featured on the BBC, Forbes, The Art of Charm and The Muse. She also has a book out: Off The Mic: The World's Best Stand-Up Comedians Get Serious About Comedy

In this conversation we talk about how to craft compelling stories, as well as how to avoid common storytelling mistakes.

If you've ever felt like you can't tell a good story, or people's eye glaze over while you're talking, in this podcast you'll learn:

• The #1 thing to focus on while telling stories. Hint: Tom Cruise (11:20)

• How to edit your stories down, but still keep the essence alive (17:30)

• How to deal with the "spotlight" of storytelling (42:15)

Marsha's free resource: Remember ANYONE'S name. (Even if you're normally terrible at it)

Jeff's free resource: Fantastic First Impresstions: The Four Steps To Stand Out, Be Memorable, And Create Fantastic First Impressions

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As always show notes and links are avalible over at the blog.

NEXT STEP:

QUIZ - Do you know what your communication style is? Take this quiz and get a custom report based on your results.

AUDIO GUIDE - Grab my free audio guide on group conversations here (Includes word-for-word scripts)

PRIVATE COACHING

Become more socially confident in 12 weeks with private coaching.

MY ONLINE VIDEO COURSE:

Breakthrough Charisma - Become more charismatic in everyday situations.

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--------- On this episode of Become More Compelling Radio, I am joined by my friend Felicia Spahr of Instantly Irresistible.

Felicia has been featured in:

INC, Business Insider, The Huffington Post, I Will Teach You To Be Rich, Entrepreneur on Fire, Mind, Body, Green, Under 30 CEO

(and many others)

I love this conversation for so many reasons. After listening to this episode you will be able to:

• Craft an amazing introduction

• Focus on the right things during group conversations

• Create rapport during one-on-one conversations

• Know how and when to exchange contact information

Felicia is also hooking Become More Compelling Radio listeners up with a free audio program: 3 Magic Hooks to Create Instant Rapport With Anyone You Meet.

As always, show notes and links are over at the blog.

Enjoy!

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--------- On this episode of Become More Compelling Radio I have my friend Shawn McKibben, the founder of Simple Fellow where he helps ambitious introverts communicate (and kick ass) in an extroverted world.

Shawn has been featured in Mind, Body, Green, LifeHack, and Dumb Little Man. He has over 10 years experience teaching personal and career development.

In this conversation we talk about the power of revealing your authentic self, how superhero costumes at Comic Con can improve your confidence, and we play a really awesome improv game that you can start using today to have better conversations.

Shawn also has a free gift for Become More Compelling readers: An Introvert's Guide to Engaging Conversation.

Show notes and links are avalible here.

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--------- Michaela Chung is the founder of Introvert Spring where she helps introverts thrive, and basically be more awesome.

Three years ago, she quit her job, sold everything that wouldn't fit in a suitcase, and set out on a hero's journey toward a life of greater meaning and purpose.

Since then, she's visited 12 countries on 5 continents. She's lived in Mexico, Australia, and Canada, and spent a good chunk of time in the U.S.A, Thailand and Colombia.

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In this interview we discuss preparing for the zombie apocolypse, the danger of using the word "should", traveling solo, meditation, forgivness, and finding balance while running a business.

NEXT STEP:

QUIZ - Do you know what your communication style is? Take this quiz and get a custom report based on your results.

AUDIO GUIDE - Grab my free audio guide on group conversations here (Includes word-for-word scripts)

PRIVATE COACHING

Become more socially confident in 12 weeks with private coaching.

MY ONLINE VIDEO COURSE:

Breakthrough Charisma - Become more charismatic in everyday situations.