Becoming: HER with Nikki Spoelstra

In this episode of Becoming Her, host Nikki sits down with Vanessa Molina, a licensed Marriage & Family Therapist, for one of the most honest, practical conversations we've had on this show.

They go deep — on faith in relationships, the communication mistakes couples keep making without realizing it, what EMDR therapy actually is (and why it hits different than talk therapy), and why some of the most well-intentioned moms might be accidentally working against their kids' growth.

Vanessa shares real tools she uses in session: soft start-ups for healthier conflict, a counterintuitive homework assignment she gives couples that actually builds connection, and the hard truth about setting boundaries — even when the people around you push back.

If you've ever felt like you're on survival mode in your relationships — this episode gives you the language and the tools to start doing it differently.

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Welcome BACK to Becoming: HER. This week’s episode feels especially full circle, because I’m sitting down with someone who has not only been on the podcast before, but who has also been a meaningful part of my personal journey, Nikki Novo.

Nikki and I have known each other for a few years now, and what makes this conversation so special is the shared community we’ve built along the way. It’s one of those rare, deeply connected circles of women that feels both grounding and expansive at the same time, where growth, intuition, and honest conversations are always at the center. Tune in to find out more!

In this episode…

Quotes

“My work is helping people and making spaces for people to hear themselves and hear the truth.” - Nikki Novo

“Be the change you're WILLING and WANT to see.” - Nikki Novo

“We need friction. Our lives require friction because that's where you grow.” - Nikki Spo

“Your intuition, the voice of your soul, is not going to scream over your busy calendar.” - Nikki Novo

Timestamps:

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Welcome BACK to Becoming: HER. This week, I’m so excited to be joined by Lacey Newman. Lacey is currently navigating a powerful transition from the real estate industry to coaching female entrepreneurs on a much broader scale, while also stepping into the world of content creation.

Tune in as we talk about what it really looks like to pivot, build something new, and balance it all along the way.

In this episode…

Quotes

“You have to understand that overfunctioning and being the most capable person in the room is an addiction and a dopamine hit. A lot of us are addicted to being needed.” - Lacey Newman

“Other people see our strengths with a lot more clarity than we do sometimes because we are just too close to it.” - Lacey Newman

“I always say I reserve the right to change my mind.” - Nikki Spo

Timestamps:

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www.nikkispo.com

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Welcome BACK my friends! This week's guest is Diana Marti, a Miami based media executive and founder of Pink Grove Agency Pink Grove Agency, a boutique PR firm marketing in talent management based in Coconut Grove. With over a decade in media and brand strategy, Diana helps creators, executives, and cultural leaders build visibility that lasts. At her core, Diana is a storyteller. Building platforms, elevating Latino voices, and creating a legacy rooted in resilience and intention. Tune in to find out more!

In this episode…

Quotes

“With every dream, I saw my parents believe in me more and more, but I think it wasn’t just them believing in me, it was them believing that these things were in the realm of possibility.” - Diana Marti

“Sometimes the biggest ‘I’m sorry’ is for yourself.” - Diana Marti

“The shortcut is going through the muck.” - Nikki Spo

Timestamps:

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www.nikkispo.com

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Jamie’s back for soul talk! Join us as we catch up on what’s going on in our worlds.

To our listeners: if you’re in a rut, a transition, or just a moment of uncertainty, I hope Jamie’s words give you permission to slow down, shift your perspective, and trust the process. Share this episode with a friend who’s navigating change and could use some encouragement, because we all need reminders that we’re not walking through these seasons alone.

In this episode…
In a RUT
Identify shifts
Authentic alignment
Plot twists
Pouring into people
Leveling up
Marrying the magic
It's not too late
Goal friend

Quotes

“Can you receive for the sake of receiving just because someone wants to pour into you, not because you’re doing anything for them?” - Jamie Ruiz

“I want a teacher who is still a student.” - Nikki Spo

“I wholeheartedly believe that the answer to suffering is service.” - Nikki Spo

Timestamps:
0:00 - 2:35 | Intro
2:35 - 9:50 | Food poisoning
9:50 - 18:10 | Receiving
18:10 - 21:05 | The lessons keep coming
21:05 - 28:15 | Upwards spiral
28:15 - 33:30 | It's not too late
33:30 - 36:45 | Individual words
36:45 - 43:10 | Manifesting
43:10 - 47:10 | Being of service
47:10 - 50:39 | Outro

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If you loved today’s episode, don’t forget to subscribe, leave a review, and join us next time for more honest, heartfelt conversations. And as you move through your own transitions, remember—you can hold both the depth and the lightness, both the challenge and the joy. That’s where growth lives.

Connect with Jamie Ruiz
@jameslee4
jamieleeruiz.com

Connect with Nikki
www.nikkispo.com
@nikkisappspo / @wearebecoming_her

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In this episode of Becoming: HER, Nikki sits down with Katie Austin as she steps into a powerful new era of her brand and business. They talk about the real story behind Katie’s success — the consistency, the community, the comparison, and the confidence it took to build a fitness empire in today’s digital world. This is an inspiring, honest, and energizing conversation for any woman ready to step into her own season of growth, tune in to find out more!

In this episode…
How Katie rebuilt her top-rated app into KA Daily
The inspiration behind Katie’s first-ever subscriber retreat
Why Katie’s Midwest Move Tour is bringing her community closer than ever
The lessons Katie learned growing up in the fitness world with her mom, Denise Austin
How Katie bridges wellness for women in every generation
Why confidence comes from movement — not perfection

Quotes

“I love being in control and I love for my brand to come across in a specific way because my product is me.” - Katie Austin

“It is SO important to be passionate about your business because that will shine through.” - Katie Austin

“A lot of people think that becoming HER is the destination, but the becoming is in the now.” - Nikki Spo

Timestamps:
0:00 - 2:35 | Intro
2:35 - 4:40 | The heart of a new era
4:40 - 8:30 | Expanding & rebranding
8:30 - 13:10 | Putting a team together
13:10 - 18:25 | Core values to bridge generations
18:25 - 22:35 | Wellness
22:35 - 23:45 | Doom scrolling
23:45 - 27:45 | Falling victim to the comparison game
27:45 - 31:30 | Katie’s app & in person events
31:30 - 33:40 | Where to connect with Katie
33:40 - 35:54 | What it means to Katie to become HER

Connect with Katie Austin
kadaily.app
@katieaustin

Connect with Nikki
www.nikkispo.com
@nikkisappspo / @wearebecoming_her

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Jennifer Powell—CEO of JP Inc. and the “influencer’s influencer”—joins Nikki to break down how creators can shift from brand deals to real ownership.

She shares the truth about licensing, how to read your data, and what it actually takes to turn influence into a lasting business. If you’re a creator or entrepreneur looking for more stability, more scalability, and more you in your business, this episode is full of clarity and next steps.

Whether you’re a creator, entrepreneur, or someone with a vision for something bigger, this episode will change the way you think about your potential.

In this episode…
How Jennifer spotted the creator economy before it existed
Why licensing is the next frontier for creators
Turning audience trust into long-term wealth
How to read your analytics and choose the right product
The trap of relying only on brand deals — and how to break out of it
What creators need to know to scale into sustainable, real businesses
The mindset shift required to go from influencer to CEO

Quotes:

“As corny as it sounds, the authentic way you show up is what your brand is.” - Jennifer Powell

“Life is all about trying things and not getting attached to the outcome.” - Jennifer Powell

“I see a lot of people sticking around doing something they don’t like because they think others want them to be doing it.” - Nikki Spo

“People aren’t just investing in the concept, they’re investing in who you are.” - Nikki Spo

Timestamps:
0:00 - 2:50 | Intro
2:50 - 5:25 | The future of content creating
5:25 - 9:15 | Sincerely Jules
9:15 - 12:20 | Licensing
12:20 - 16:40 | Creator comparison
16:40 - 22:15 | Consistency
22:15 - 25:40 | Pivoting
25:40 - 29:50 | Giving guidance
29:50 - 31:45 | Spotting talent
31:45 - 34:00 | Younger generations trying to cut corners
34:00 - 39:30 | Fundamental tips to get the ball rolling
39:30 - 43:50 | Getting your feet wet
43:50 - 49:40 | Misconceptions
49:40 - 54:10 | Going beyond the algorithm
54:10 - 56:08 | Outro

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SANA SKIN STUDIO is my #1 go-to spot for self-care. My favorite facial is the Super Glow, and you can get $25 off of your first facial when you book at www.sanaskinstudio.com with my code NIKKISPOGLOW.

Connect with Jennifer Powell
@jennpowell14
woowooworkingwomen.com

Connect with Nikki
www.nikkispo.com
@nikkisappspo / @wearebecoming_her

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The Friendship Recession and Its Solution with Jourdann Lubliner. Ep. 214

Welcome back to Becoming: HER - this week’s guest is Jourdann Lubliner — founder & CEO of the newly-launched app and community for couples: Doubles Social. Jourdann has built a platform aimed at intentional connection between couples, helping them build friendships and explore their cities together.

But while her app is a fascinating vehicle, today’s episode is about a deeper cultural shift: the changing nature of friendship, connection, and community.

According to recent research, the percentage of U.S. adults who report having 10 or more close friends has dropped from about 33 % in 1990 to just 13 % today which a recent piece from Harvard’s Leadership & Happiness Laboratory has called a “Friendship Recession,” meaning not just less time with friends, but a fundamental erosion of the ability to form, maintain, and prioritise friendships. Friendships have been paramount in my life so this is a topic I’m really interested in. Tune in to find out more!

In this episode…
Effort
Two-way street
Doom scrolling
Doubles social
Making friends vs. making friends as couples
Maintaining sense of individuality
New friends
Loneliness
Networking

Quotes

“Building intimacy and vulnerability within your couple is crucial.” - Nikki Spo

“Little movements to stay connected with friends will help you feel less lonely like enhancing existing modes of communication.” - Jourdann Lubliner

Timestamps:
0:00 - 3:50 | Intro
3:50 -7:15 | The app
8:10 - 11:35 | The friendship recession
11:35 - 13:40 | Our own fault
13:40 - 15:40 | Maintaining sense of individuality vs. making friends as couples
15:40 - 18:35 | New friends
18:35 - 19:25 | Double dates
19:25 - 25:30 | Loneliness
25:30 - 29:50 | Addressing loneliness to an introvert
29:50 - 32:10 | Helping people get active
32:10 - 35:50 | Couple friendships
35:50 - 38:45 | Digital friendships
38:45 - 45:10 | Real vs. online connections
45:10 - | What is next for Doubles Social

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Connect with Doubles Social
doubles.social
@doubles.social

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www.nikkispo.com
@nikkisappspo / @wearebecoming_her

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In this powerful and practical episode, I am joined with fitness expert and Menopause Coach Unni Greene Feder, a former competitive figure skater, author, and mother of four who has helped thousands transform their relationship with fitness and their bodies.

Unni shares her journey of reinvention after major life changes and breaks down how strength training, nutrition, and mindset can support you through aging, menopause, divorce, overwhelm, and identity shifts.

Let’s get started!

In this episode…
Why strength training is essential during life transitions
How lifting weights impacts hormones, inflammation, metabolism, and confidence
The truth about eating “more” to lose fat and build lean mass
How to approach menopause and midlife shifts with clarity instead of fear
Daily rituals to help you feel strong, radiant, and calm
How fitness helps you regain control and redefine your identity

Quotes

“I always sought to surround myself with women who were older than me because I wanted their wisdom.” - Nikki Spo

“It shouldn’t be more stressful to handle stress.” - Unni Greene Feder

If you’re not important to yourself and you don’t hold yourself in high esteem, why do you expect others to respect you and hold you in high esteem.” - Unni Greene Feder

Timestamps:
0:00 - 3:35 | Intro
3:35 - 8:15 | Unni’s background
8:15 - 11:00 | Transitions
11:00 - 13:35 | Male vs. female trainers
13:35 - 14:50 | Women wisdom
14:40 - 19:00 | Coaching women in different phases
19:00 - 28:55 | Women having the permission to evolve over time
28:55 - 35:15 | Self-pity
35:35 - 38:55 | Feeling emotions rather than feeling nothing
38:55 - 51:45 | Body mechanics & body awareness
51:45 - 57:45 | Brain health
57:45 - 1:01:10 | Tangible everyday steps to get to the space of strong, calm, & radiant
1:01:10 - 1:04:40 | Self-care
1:04:40 - 1:07:20 | Admirable women
1:07:20 - 1:07:50 | What it means to Unni to become her
1:07:50 - 1:10:35 | Outro

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SANA SKIN STUDIO is my #1 go-to spot for self-care. My favorite facial is the Super Glow, and you can get $25 off of your first facial when you book at www.sanaskinstudio.com with my code NIKKISPOGLOW.

Connect with Unni Greene Feder
https://unnifit.com/ / Eat More to Lose More
@unnigreene

Connect with Nikki
www.nikkispo.com
@nikkisappspo / @wearebecoming_her

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Welcome back to Becoming HER, the space where we celebrate women who rise, rebuild, and keep dreaming no matter the odds.
Today’s guest, Dr. Jenisbel Acevedo, is a doctor, philanthropist, content creator, and mother of two whose story is rooted in courage and hope.

At just nine years old, Jenisbel left Cuba on a handmade raft built by her father — a journey that taught her to face change with faith and to hold onto her dreams through uncertainty. Her new book, Un Barco de Sueños — A Raft of Dreams — captures that same spirit of resilience and reminds us that it’s never too late to chase what calls your heart.

Jenisbel, welcome to Becoming HER.

In this episode…
The power of courage and faith in the face of adversity
How to hold onto your dreams even when the odds feel impossible
What it means to start again — and chase purpose later in life
The story behind Un Barco de Sueños and its message of hope
How the Acevedo Foundation is creating impact and changing lives

Quotes

“The antidote to suffering is service.” - Nikki Spo

“Life is about taking chances because if you don’t you will never realize what's on the other side.” - Jensibel Acevedo

“It’s okay to make mistakes, it's okay to be afraid. Just don’t allow anyone to tell you who you have to be. No one can tell you, only you know.” - Jensibel Acevedo

Connect with Jensibel Acevedo
Un Barco de Sueños (A Raft of Dreams)
@jenisbelacevedo | @acevedofoundation

Connect with Nikki
www.nikkispo.com
@nikkisappspo / @wearebecoming_her

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