Becoming Man.

Marshall and Anthony are joined by a clinical psychologist and author Dr. Scott Eilers to discuss his book, "For WHen Everything's Burning."

Anthony and Marshall address a variety of topics related to sex and masculinity including sexual dysfunction, stress and anxiety and its impact on sexual health, pornography, the influence of cultural norms on the sex norms for males throughout development, and communication about struggles regarding sex and relationships.

In this episode, Anthony and Marshall discuss the recent scandal in the NFL involving former Las Vegas Raiders head coach Jon Gruden. Points of discussion include the difficulty of communicating about masculinity across generations, scapegoating of individuals in order to avoid responsibility, and how to have a conversation about controversial topics without polarizing one another.

Anthony and Marshall sidetrack this week to talk about representations of people who are elevated or highlighted by society, particularly those who fall outside the acceptable norms of thoughts, attitudes, and behaviors. Similarities and differences between a "rogue" and a "lunatic", used in the literary sense, are discussed.  The hero's journey is also discussed.

Marshall and Anthony discuss one of the biggest ripple effects of grief and mourning- supporting someone who's grieving. Important topics include long-term caregiving, compassion fatigue, and processing your own struggles with these processes are covered.

Anthony and Marshall are joined by Hannah Bousek, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Certified Grief Specialist for an in-depth conversation on grief and loss. Hannah offers expert insight into the many factors involved in grieving, addresses common myths and misconceptions about grief, and offers practical insight into how to move well through the grieving process. 

Anthony and Marshall introduce the concept of grief in this week's episode.  The concept of ambiguous loss, or a loss without closure, is also defined and strategies for navigating this experience are introduced.

This episode, and our grief series, is dedicated to fallen military service members, especially the members of Extortion 17, who passed away in combat on August 6th, 2011.

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Anthony and Marshall continue discussing change by exploring the challenge of risking instability and loss in the face of change. The conversation examines the power of changing within relationships as well as more strategies for engaging in meaningful change. 

Anthony and Marshall discuss the challenges that arise when you know you need to change but feel like you can't. Anthony's anxiety about sharing personal stories is used as a catalyst to explore the wisdom of reaching out when you're stuck in a rut. The episode finishes with practical steps to identify problems and take back control to initiate change in our lives. 

Description: In this week's episode, Anthony and Marshall discuss the quote: "Shame occurs when you haven't been able to get away with the 'who' you want people to think you are." by Carl Whitaker.  They debate whether the gap between who we are and who we want to be is self-deception or the consequence of circumstance and discuss the factors involved in men's differing responses to experiences of shame by answering the question: Why do some men grow from encounters with shame while others wither from them?