If you struggle to communicate with your husband or wife, due to one or both of you getting defensive, you are not alone. Today, I chat with a caller live and explore effective strategies to foster open dialogue and reduce defensiveness in relationships. This is a segment pulled from my "Becoming One" weekly group coaching program, where I answer your questions live each Friday. 

If you're facing similar issues and seeking to strengthen your marriage, and want to ask me your questions, consider joining "Becoming One". Enrollment is now open for a limited time. 

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I was fortunate to interview Dr. John Gottman, the world's #1 marriage/relationship expert. John has spent 40+ years studying what makes relationships last—and what causes them to fail, and today, he's sharing the research backed strategies happy couples use to build lasting love.

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I’ve coached 5,000+ struggling couples over the past 25 years, and I’ve found there are 5 habits that separate happy, thriving relationships from those that are falling apart. In my latest video, I’m breaking down the 5 things happy couples do differently—practical, research-backed relationship advice that can help you build a stronger marriage, improve communication with your partner, and stop unnecessary fights before they start.

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Marriage is hard—no one hands you a rulebook when you say 'I do.' But what if you had a guide to avoid common pitfalls and build a thriving relationship? In this episode, Dr. Matt's diving into 4 Game-Changing Marriage Rules You’ll Wish You Knew Sooner—practical, eye-opening principles that can transform how you approach your partnership. Whether you’re newlyweds or decades in, these rules will help you communicate better, fight fair, and reconnect with your partner in ways that last. Tune in and discover the keys to a stronger, more fulfilling marriage!"

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Are you feeling disconnected from your partner? In this episode, we uncover the 5 Keys to Fall Back In Love With Your Partner in 2025. Dr. Matt shares practical tools to help you and your partner rebuild connection and create a relationship that thrives. Whether you’re navigating challenges or just looking to deepen your bond, this episode is your roadmap to falling in love all over again in 2025. 

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Tired of endless arguments in your marriage? In today's episode, I break down 4 common communication mistakes I’ve seen couples make in my 25+ years as a marriage coach—and share real, actionable tips to fix each one. Listen now and start turning conflict into connection!

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For many of us, the holiday season brings a whirlwind of unmet expectations, family drama, financial strain, and burnout. But it doesn’t have to be that way!

In this episode, we’ll explore five practical steps to help you create an enjoyable, stress-free season. You’ll learn how to:

• Set realistic expectations to avoid disappointment and conflict.
• Focus on what truly matters—like love, connection, and joy.
• Reframe past challenges and rewrite your holiday story.
• Handle negativity with grace using simple yet powerful techniques.
• Prioritize your basic needs to stay happy, healthy, and present.

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Are conflicts creating distance in your marriage? In this episode, we dive into 3 Principles to Resolve Marriage Conflict Fast. Whether you're dealing with recurring arguments or an unexpected blow-up, these principles will help you elevate your ability to "dance" with conflict. Learn how to defuse tension, communicate effectively, and rebuild connection—without letting conflict linger or escalate. Tune in for actionable insights that can transform the way you and your partner handle challenges, bringing you one step closer to Becoming One.

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In today's episode, Matt discusses 4 questions we should ask ourselves, to make sure we're bringing our very best self to our most important relationships. 

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In this episode, I share 5 beliefs that are killing your relationship, that I've gathered from 25 years of coaching thousands of couples.

Watch the full episode on YouTube: https://youtu.be/Dh_Jtp1anXQ

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Find my book: STARVED Stuff: Feeding the 7 Basic Needs of Healthy Relationships

https://www.amazon.com/Starved-Stuff-Feeding-Healthy-Relationships/dp/0615351700