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Jealousy and envy… are bad emotions, right? Truth is - like any other emotion, jealousy and envy can be an important guide to finding out more about your desires, patterns, and past painful learning. In today’s episode, Dr. Lee dives into a discussion of jealousy and envy - how they relate & the differences between them, the various ways they can show up (and how our past trauma & experiences inform this), and some ways you can navigate these feelings in your life in a more regulated and informed way.

She’s exploring:

• Jealousy & envy - the similarities, differences & ways they could be showing up for you
• How scarcity plays a role in the emotions of both jealousy and envy
• Some examples of jealousy scenarios vs. envy scenarios (recognizing the difference and why it matters)
• Jealousy in friendships - and why self-trust is key here!
• And more! 

Disclaimer: Dr. Lee is expressing her own views and is not offering professional or medical advice.

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Want to learn more about what Dr. Lee does, and get access to free weekly training, resources, community support and more so you, too, can become trauma-informed? Join her free Facebook Group, Becoming Trauma Informed: Creating Safe(r), Shame-Free Spaces: https://www.facebook.com/groups/becometraumainformed

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Honoring the truth of your identity - the path to get here can be a long one, right? In today’s episode, Dr. Lee invites Somatic Leadership Coach & Business Growth Strategist, Donnie Hill, to talk about his experiences with shame and his journey to healing, restoration, and the honoring of his true identity. Join them as they discuss the topics of shame around sexuality in the black community, intersectionality and finding safety, and taking a somatic approach to healing. 

They’re exploring:

• Donnie’s experience with growing up black & queer - his shame story and what the healing journey can look like
• Why he checked himself into a psych ward (and why he considers this the beginning of his restoration)
• The importance of emotionally connected and available men
• Donnie’s KEY advice for you if healing seems out of reach
• And more! 

Connect with Donnie:

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/thelifemaximizer/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thelifemaximizer/

Disclaimer: Dr. Lee is expressing her own views and is not offering professional or medical advice.

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Want to learn more about what Dr. Lee does, and get access to free weekly training, resources, community support and more so you, too, can become trauma-informed? Join her free Facebook Group, Becoming Trauma Informed: Creating Safe(r), Shame-Free Spaces: https://www.facebook.com/groups/becometraumainformed

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Do you find yourself repeating old, harmful patterns (or maybe you have a loved one that does)? It’s not always easy to acknowledge the truth behind why we do these things, but if you’re curious to learn more about past trauma and healing some of these patterns - this one’s for you! In today’s episode, Dr. Lee dives into trauma re-enactment - what it is & why it happens, how it could be showing up in your life, and some ways to move out of the space where you reenact traumatic experiences and instead find some post-traumatic growth. 

She’s exploring:

• What trauma re-enactment is and why it might be happening with you or your loved one
• Some common things that produce a lot of endorphins (and what this has to do with trauma re-enactment!)
• One of the significant reasons why some people just can’t “get it together”
• Acceptance vs. approval - and why understanding the difference is important
• The 3 things we need from caregivers in these 5 areas
• How to notice if you are in a trauma re-enactment 
• And more!

Disclaimer: Dr. Lee is expressing her own views and is not offering professional or medical advice.

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Want to learn more about what Dr. Lee does, and get access to free weekly training, resources, community support and more so you, too, can become trauma-informed? Join her free Facebook Group, Becoming Trauma Informed: Creating Safe(r), Shame-Free Spaces: https://www.facebook.com/groups/becometraumainformed

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At six years old, Jennifer was told - we’re selling everything, we’re moving, and we’re joining a religious sect. And today, Dr. Lee is joined by Jennifer Semsch, joy promoter & recovering cult member, to talk about those 12+ years she spent in a cult, the shame & trauma she experienced, and the road to healing since. Join them for a powerful conversation around moving beyond shame and living a fulfilling life, because we are never broken - we might have just forgotten that we are whole. 

They’re exploring:

• Jennifer’s story of experiencing a cult from ages six to eighteen
• Experiencing a massive identity crisis -  and the first time she remembered feeling shame 
• The 3 separate responses within fawn - and the one Dr. Lee talks about in response to Jennifer’s trauma story
• Social exclusion & the discipline in school
• Why the weaponization of shame is so effective (in cults & beyond)
• The difficult early days in her relationship with her now husband & a discussion around trauma-bonding
• And more

Connect with Jennifer: 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/jrsemsch

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jennifersemsch/

TikTok: @jennifersemsch

Disclaimer: Dr. Lee is expressing her own views and is not offering professional or medical advice.

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Want to learn more about what Dr. Lee does, and get access to free weekly training, resources, community support and more so you, too, can become trauma-informed? Join her free Facebook Group, Becoming Trauma Informed: Creating Safe(r), Shame-Free Spaces: https://www.facebook.com/groups/becometraumainformed

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This week, Dr. Lee is diving deep into the fourth of the trauma response series: freeze response. This one is super important, ya’ll because this is where trauma gets stored in the body. Whether you have felt stuck in inaction in your business or you have felt a helpless in your life - you’ve most likely experienced the freeze response. So today, Dr. Lee is going over how freeze could be showing up for you, why this response actually starts to feel good (and how to feel even better by moving it through the body!), and ways to repattern the brain & body so it starts to feel safe releasing some of that stored up trauma. 

She’s exploring:

• A recap of the fight, flight & fawn responses (and how freeze is different from the fight, escape, or manipulate responses)
• How trauma gets stored in the body as a results of the freeze response (and ways to move it through the body)
• Tonic immobility vs. intentional immobility during this response
• Why it can sometimes feel hard to get out of these freeze states
• How the freeze response is tied to depression and anxiety
• Learning how to gently get yourself out of this response
• Why I use the 5-minute rule a lot around the freeze response
• And more!

Disclaimer: Dr. Lee is expressing her own views and is not offering professional or medical advice.

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Want to learn more about what Dr. Lee does, and get access to free weekly training, resources, community support and more so you, too, can become trauma-informed? Join her free Facebook Group, Becoming Trauma Informed: Creating Safe(r), Shame-Free Spaces: https://www.facebook.com/groups/becometraumainformed

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Moving beyond the shame of our scars (physical or not!) can be a lifelong journey - and the resiliency & grit it takes to get there is no joke! In today’s episode, Dr. Lee invites Kayleigh Hanlin - personal development junkie, CHD thriver, and author - to discuss her journey with congenital heart disease, the amazing work she’s doing in the world for young women, and learning to live out loud and love yourself - scars and all!

They’re exploring:

• Thriving with CHD & the amazing work she is doing in the world!
• Kayleigh’s scars & body stigma - the effects on her youth, dating in college & more
• How she learned to speak up for herself and her body (and how to do this for yourself or your child)
• Some anti-shame advice when you (or your child) is curious about someone who is differently-abled 
• How Kayleigh brings her past experiences into her work with young women
• Some practical advice if you or your child is going through a similar medical struggle
• And more!

Connect with Kayleigh:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/knhanlin/

Empowered Minds 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/justownyou/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/justownyou

Get your J.O.Y. Journal! https://www.mindsempowered.com/store/BA7UmW8F

Disclaimer: Dr. Lee is expressing her own views and is not offering professional or medical advice.

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Want to learn more about what Dr. Lee does, and get access to free weekly training, resources, community support and more so you, too, can become trauma-informed? Join her free Facebook Group, Becoming Trauma Informed: Creating Safe(r), Shame-Free Spaces: https://www.facebook.com/groups/becometraumainformed

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This week, Dr. Lee is diving deep into the third of the trauma response series: flight response. If you are somebody who makes to-do lists and then avoids them, or knows an important conversation needs to be had, but ghosts instead - then this one might be for you (and don’t worry, you are not alone in these responses)! In today’s episode, Dr. Lee dives into the major ways you might be participating in flight response, the mindset shifts that can help you get into action instead, and why self-regulation is the game-changer!

She’s exploring:

• The 3 BIGGEST ways we participate in a flight response
• Some of the ways social media can send us into flight (and how to become more aware of your patterns here!)
• Barriers vs. boundaries - and how to self-regulate to make sure you are using them responsibly
• The GAME-CHANGER that allowed me to retain clients & have deeper conversations around hard topics
• Why it is so important to use the body in the clearing of trauma
• THREE different ways you can respond to big feelings to avoid causing harm
• And more!

Disclaimer: Dr. Lee is expressing her own views and is not offering professional or medical advice.

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Want to learn more about what Dr. Lee does, and get access to free weekly training, resources, community support and more so you, too, can become trauma-informed? Join her free Facebook Group, Becoming Trauma Informed: Creating Safe(r), Shame-Free Spaces: https://www.facebook.com/groups/becometraumainformed

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It’s common to try and outrun our shame, but this can be very harmful to us - and impossible! When we process our shame, that is when we can heal and release it. In today’s episode, Dr. Lee invites professor & coach, Keri Bodensteiner, to discuss her shame story and journey to healing. They dive into spiritual healing, the role of shame in shaping who we become, and how to truly process past painful learning to experience balance and peace in our lives. 

They’re exploring:

• Keri’s journey - her shame story and her (ongoing) healing
• Big T & Little T traumas and how they relate to each other
• The long-lasting effects trauma can have on your life - and some of the ways you can process and release it
• Keri’s practices for coping and processing her trauma
• And more!

Connect with Keri:

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/magicmorpho

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/magicmorpho/

Website: https://magicmorpho.com/

Check out the book Dr. Lee talked about in the episode! https://www.amazon.com/Body-Keeps-Score-Healing-Trauma/dp/0143127748/ref=asc_df_0143127748/?tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=312049124368&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=13818104567965493106&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9030754&hvtargid=pla-434690707169&psc=1&tag=&ref=&adgrpid=61851652213&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvadid=312049124368&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=13818104567965493106&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9030754&hvtargid=pla-434690707169

Disclaimer: Dr. Lee is expressing her own views and is not offering professional or medical advice.

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This week, Dr. Lee is diving deep into the second of the trauma response series: fawn response. She discusses how the response works in the body, the 2 distinct behaviors that we see in the fawn response (and one that is mistakenly viewed as fawn!), and the ways you can identify, respond, and assist with this trauma response. Ready to learn more about what happens when we fawn? Let’s dive in!

She’s exploring:

• Fawn response and the recent research that has changed how we look at it
• The 2 IMPORTANT behaviors that we see in the fawn response
• What looks like a fawn response, but ISN’T!
• Polyvagal Theory and the nervous system
• How we fawn - and why it depends on these TWO things
• Primary attachment to a caregiver and the 3 things that need to be met - and the 5 different categories they need to be met in!
• A version of people-pleasing that isn’t talked about as often (and why you need to know this)
• Emotionally regulating yourself when coaching a client that is in fawn response
• And so much more! 

Disclaimer: Dr. Lee is expressing her own views and is not offering professional or medical advice.

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Want to learn more about what Dr. Lee does, and get access to free weekly training, resources, community support and more so you, too, can become trauma-informed? Join her free Facebook Group, Becoming Trauma Informed: Creating Safe(r), Shame-Free Spaces: https://www.facebook.com/groups/becometraumainformed

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It is undeniable - trauma is a painful thing. But you don’t have to process it alone. And sometimes, wisdom & meaning can be found in the wake. In today’s episode, Dr. Lee invites the lovely Sheila Ramsay, women’s empowerment and sexuality coach, to share her trauma & healing journey. They discuss PTSD, having wealth, power & agency over your own sexuality, and how to reclaim and remember the pieces of yourself that may feel lost. 

They’re exploring:

• Sheila’s trauma story and the ways she tried to avoid her feelings
• Her PTSD diagnosis and healing journey
• Some of the most common ways we can numb and dissociate after a traumatic event
• The patterns of shame that can come up in relationships & sexuality after trauma
• Some advice if it feels difficult to ask for what you need in your family or relationships
• And more! 

Connect with Sheila: 

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/sheila.ramsay.9/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/luxuriousfemininepower/

Disclaimer: Dr. Lee is expressing her own views and is not offering professional or medical advice.

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Want to learn more about what Dr. Lee does, and get access to free weekly training, resources, community support and more so you, too, can become trauma-informed? Join her free Facebook Group, Becoming Trauma Informed: Creating Safe(r), Shame-Free Spaces: https://www.facebook.com/groups/becometraumainformed

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