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If you have ever experienced rage, or significant anger & frustration - your fight response may have been activated. But hear this - being in fight mode is okay! This week, Dr. Lee is diving into the first of a trauma response series: fight response. She discusses how you can identify when you are in a fight response, understanding the “why” behind it, and why participating in radical self-acceptance around this is key! 

She’s exploring:

• What the fight response is and how it can manifest in your behaviors, relationships & life
• Adrenaline addiction - this one is so interesting ya’ll!
• The activation of the sympathetic nervous system
• Actual threats vs. perceived threats - and how to distinguish between them
• How trauma responses and patterns can repeat themselves (and how this can apply to parenting)
• Passive-aggressive behaviors as a form of the fight response
• And more! 

Disclaimer: Dr. Lee is expressing her own views and is not offering professional or medical advice.

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I should be able to do this! 

I just have to keep going. 

If I just worked harder…

If you find yourself having similar thoughts - you are NOT alone. But you do not need to be carrying ANY of that shame. This week Dr. Lee is joined by business coach Lara Wellman to discuss what it can look like to live by your own standards (instead of societal “shoulds”), healing from shame around an ADHD diagnosis, and why being “lazy” doesn’t have to be a bad thing. Ready to get rid of the damn boxes they put you in and start defining your own worth? Let’s go to the show! 

They’re exploring:

• Lara’s ADHD journey - her perception of herself before diagnosis, and the healing that came afterward
• Why conforming children to societal norms can be harmful (and some advice to help them live more shame free)
• Toxic productivity syndrome - what Dr. Lee means by this and how to ditch it!
• One of the BIGGEST effects of the communal family breakdown
• How to STOP doing the things you don’t want to do in your life and business
• The current school system and if it is serving the ADHD brain
• And more!

Connect with Lara:

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/thebizstudio 

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/thebizstudio 

Website: https://www.thebiz.studio 

Disclaimer: Dr. Lee is expressing her own views and is not offering professional or medical advice.

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What if we stopped trying to treat everybody the same and started treating everyone as they are? In today’s episode, Dr. Lee dives into intersectionality, marginalized identities, and trauma. She defines the terms and discusses the goal of a truly trauma-informed business and the perspective we can take to create a society that is more just, trauma-informed, and psychologically safe for people who hold all identities.

She’s exploring:

• The definitions of intersectionality and marginalized identity
• How fundamental distrust can manifest in the nervous system
• The difference between individual identity and group identity
• How collective, ancestral, and personal trauma can interact with each other
• Why equity doesn’t always create safety
• How fear and shame play a role in the conversation around intersectionality and marginalized identities
• A break down of safety and the nervous system - and how society plays a role
• Cultural competence vs. cultural humility (and what we should be striving for!)
• And more! 

Disclaimer: Dr. Lee is expressing her own views and is not offering professional or medical advice.

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There are so many harmful narratives and stories around love, romance & sex. What it “should” be and what it “should” look like and feel like. Dr. Lee’s guest today, Kari Lu Cowell - kinky, ethical love coach - joins us as she shares her shame story and discusses ethical non-monogamy, kink, and how to get free from the harmful narratives around love - and explore your sexuality and love life, without the shame!

They’re exploring:

• Kari’s shame story and her experience with a toxic mother
• Her insight on the relationship between adoption & trauma
• “Loving yourself before you can be loved” - why Kari doesn’t subscribe to this idea!
• Ethical non-monogamy & kink, and what led her to this work
• The power exchange in relationships (and the freedom that can be found in BDSM!)
• Kari’s advice for moving forward from shame
• And more!

Connect with Kari:

www.instagram.com/karilucoaching

www.facebook.com/groups/datingfordorks

https://bookme.name/DatingforDorks/domme-ebook

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Dr. Lee is talking about one of her very favorite topics today - trauma responses and trauma expressions! She is diving into the differences between the two, how these might be showing up in your life, and learning to retrain your nervous system so you can stop responding in hurtful or harmful ways - or clean it up when you do (because we are all human)! Ready to gain some tools to deal with some of the trauma in your body? Let’s go to the show! 

She’s exploring:

• Trauma responses & expressions - the difference between the two and understanding their role in your life 
• The 3 parts of the brain that come into play when we undergo something traumatic
• Why a deregulated nervous system seeks relief - and how that can show up in your life
• Understanding the 5 F’s process when we encounter a perceived threat
• The 2 IMPORTANT things that can happen when we get triggered
• One of my favorite techniques to use when I notice tension in my body - and how it can help you!
• And more!

Disclaimer: Dr. Lee is expressing her own views and is not offering professional or medical advice.

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On today’s show, Dr. Lee shares space with the amazing Isha Vela, sovereignty specialist and intimacy alchemist - and you don’t want to miss it! They discuss Isha’s journey to healing her sexual shame, dismantling and delving into personal trauma so they can help others heal, and accessing your own desire and pleasure to experience more depth in your life! Join them as they dive into Isha’s powerful work of harnessing life force energy and connecting heart to sex in the service of personal and collective evolution. 

They’re exploring:

• Isha’s work as a sovereignty specialist & intimacy alchemist (this is powerful stuff, ya’ll!)
• Dismantling her own trauma and recognizing the shame she held around where she came from
• A story of shame release in a room full of people (and how Isha was held safely in that moment)
• The 3 core wounds that women identifying humans commonly experience
• How societal conditioning shapes how we view our own shame
• Some powerful advice from Isha if you’ve had experiences of sexual shame or shame of higher self
• And more!

Connect with Isha:

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/revolutionary.rompereglas/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/revolutionary.rompereglas

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/isha-vela-454a58217/

Disclaimer: Dr. Lee is expressing her own views and is not offering professional or medical advice.

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Psychological safety, abundance & pleasure, trauma-informed - you might be hearing these terms a bit more frequently these days. But what does it really mean to create psychological safety and to be truly trauma-informed? In today’s episode, Dr. Lee is defining the terms and diving deep into what trauma, safety & abundance really means so you are able to make these IMPORTANT distinctions for yourself. Let’s dive in with her as we start to become really aware of how these concepts are showing up in our daily lives. 

She’s exploring:

• The definitions of trauma, safety & pleasure - and how to recognize and distinguish them in your daily life!
• Distinguishing between the 2 T’s of trauma
• The common conditioning we have around processing trauma - and what our bodies want to do instead
• Why trauma & safety are not on opposite ends of the spectrum
• How our pleasure activities could be a symptom of past traumas or habits (and how to redefine pleasure so we can feel the enjoyment & satisfaction we are searching for)
• And so much more!

Disclaimer: Dr. Lee is expressing her own views and is not offering professional or medical advice.

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When we heal our trauma, we can come back to the truth that WE ARE GOOD, no matter what. And when we have that deep safety and trust built into our body through this work - we are unstoppable. Dr. Lee is joined this week by trauma-informed empowerment & sexuality coach, Kim Coffin, to talk about her work teaching women to reconnect to their bodies and heal heartbreak and shame so they can reclaim their life and step back into their power. They discuss Kim’s sexual assault story, the ways trauma can manifest in your life, and how to heal, release, and reclaim your sacred sexuality after trauma. 

They’re exploring:

• Kim’s experience with sexual assault and her journey to healing
• How trauma could be manifesting physically in your body - and some ways to move toward healing
• Why Kim felt such fear around confronting her mother about the abuse she suffered (and what she did about it)
• How disconnecting from our body after trauma can show up in our sex & relationships
• Why you need support when healing from relational trauma - and how to get it
• Some advice from Kim if you have experienced sexual assault and are ready (or want to be!) for some first steps toward healing
• And more!

Connect with Kim:

Website: https://getyoursexyback.ca/

Register for her FREE Sexy-Back Salon Series, a monthly workshop to reconnect you to your body, your sensuality, your pleasure, and your aliveness! Next workshop: October 13th @ 4pm PDT · 7pm EDT

https://view.flodesk.com/pages/6004cc6c593be03d5d69cde5

Sign up for her Tantric Sex Weekend Retreat: This is for couples and singles who want to dive deeper into their holistic sexuality journey and experience potent energetic sensual practices that allow them to step into their full power…on their own and in their relationships. https://getyoursexyback.ca/tantric-sex-weekend-retreat/

2 weekends to choose from…

NOV 6th & 7th Retreat ~ for Couples

NOV 13th & 14 Retreat ~ for Singles {women only}

 

Disclaimer: Dr. Lee is expressing her own views and is not offering professional or medical advice.

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It’s time for season 2, ya’ll! Dr. Lee is so excited to be back! This season is going to be packed with amazing interviews, tools, and a whole lot of insight on how to create safer, healthier, and more mutually beneficial relationships both personally and professionally. So buckle up, we’re gonna have a really great time!

In today’s episode, Dr. Lee explores reframes & pivots. What would happen if you removed the shame from a situation - what would the reframe be? She dives into a powerful desire that is unfolding (and how you can get involved!), how to deal with the resistance that can come up around your desires, and what can happen when you actually commit to doing this powerful anti-shame work. 

She’s exploring:

• A look back at season 1 of the podcast and the vision for season 2!
• Why Dr. Lee’s intuition told her to slow down on her path to a desire - and what came from this patience
• The resistance that can come up around claiming a desire and a powerful reframe to help you get unstuck
• An exciting project Dr. Lee is launching in November around creating safer, more shame-free spaces! 
• And so much more!

Disclaimer: Dr. Lee is expressing her own views and is not offering professional or medical advice.

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We made it to episode 26! The WHOLE alphabet!

While this isn’t the end of the podcast, it is the end of Season 1, a major milestone.

So today Lee wants to talk about endings.

When you’ve set a goal or made a plan, what do you do when you get to a milestone or mile marker? Do you keep going or do you call it to an end?

Lee’s advice? Ask yourself: do you want to continue as is, pivot (do it differently in order for it to feel good), or peace out (release the activity so that new opportunities can come in its place)?

It all requires trust -- trusting yourself enough to be able to make this decision. And you don’t have to make these decisions alone. Make them with friends, family, mastermind peers, whoever your support system is that you trust and who allow you to gain an external perspective, but who also understand your business and have your best interests at heart.

More importantly it comes down to you tapping back into your intuition and what you truly want. Do you want to keep going? Is it working?

And when it doesn’t feel good or isn’t working when we reach a mile marker, first it’s important to ask “Did I play full out?” Have I actually given this enough time to work? Have I tried everything that would feel good to have this work? Have I been patient? Am I willing to ask myself if there’s anything I’m missing around this?

Or is it just that it’s taking longer than I thought it would?

If you’ve given it long enough and you still want to do it, but it isn’t feeling good anymore, how can you do it differently? Have any new resources, new opportunities, or anything else come up to make it feel better if you continue because of the work you’ve done to this point?

Or is it truly time to “peace out”? 

Most of us quit way too quickly in business. This goes back to persistence...have you given it enough time to work? Or are you expecting your overnight success to ACTUALLY happen overnight?

This is a great episode if you’re feeling the stress of the last half of 2021. There’s still tons of time to make it work...so long as it still feels good.

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Dr Lee is celebrating not only her consistency in recording a podcast for 26 weeks, she’s also celebrating YOU for joining her on this journey and sending her messages every week, telling her how much the episodes mean to you.

So send her a message via email or Instagram, because she’d like to send you a gift to say thank you!

And if you want to join her next season as a guest, drop us a line, and we’ll get in touch.

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Disclaimer: Dr Lee is expressing her own views and is not offering professional or medical advice.

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