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 During this heartfelt solo episode, I explore the tender and universal experience of supporting others through life’s hardest seasons – be it illness, grief, heartbreak, or big life transitions. I open up about my own journey walking beside loved ones, from witnessing my mum care for my dad, to the ripple effects it’s had on me, my friendships, and my own sense of how to “show up” for the people I care about.

I reflect on those moments when we feel lost in knowing how to help, wondering if what we’re doing is enough, and navigating the truth that, while we can’t take away someone’s pain, we can help them hold it. I share stories of grief, the complexity of being both a supporter and needing support ourselves, and some of the difficult conversations that come with walking this path—whether it’s giving space, checking in gently, or speaking truth where responsibility is needed.

We also talk about the importance of not trying to do this perfectly, of letting go of the idea that we need to be the strong one, the wise oracle, or the “perfect” friend/daughter/partner. I extend an invitation to acknowledge the deep unconditional love that leads us to care, and the vital need to turn that compassion inward as well.

There’s room here for messiness—for presence over perfection, for asking those you’re supporting what they actually need (and letting them guide that day by day), and for validating your own emotions as you walk alongside. I share how the smallest gestures can matter most—like a text just to say you’re there—and that your presence, even in quiet ways, is enough.

If you’re someone holding space for a loved one through a difficult season, or if you’re feeling the aftershocks of having done so, this conversation is an invitation to exhale, to feel less alone, and to allow a little gentleness and lightness in, even in the hardest of times. Remember: there’s no rulebook for this, but we don’t have to do it alone.

If this episode spoke to you, please share it with someone who might need to hear these words. And if you need a community that gets it, you’re always welcome to join us in the Seeking Simplicity community—where we’re all just walking each other home. With love, Louise.

Ever wondered why real change feels so hard—despite all the plans, programs, and step-by-step blueprints you’ve tried?

Listen, we've all been taught that all we need to do is find a strategy and execute et voila - goal achieved!. 

BUT - if that were true, they'd be millions of more happy, healthy and wealthy people out there, right. 

So today, in honour or Seeking Simplicity, I want to offer you a different perspective. One that opens up the space for change but change that lasts and happens one, personal, small step at a time. 

On this week’s episode of the Seeking Simplicity podcast, I'm diving deep into the hidden, unconscious patterns that quietly shape our lives. From how you show up in relationships to your business, health, or daily habits, your strategies and routines often run on autopilot—sometimes keeping you stuck right where you are.

But what if creating change could be… simpler?

✨ I'm sharing with you one of my own, destructive strategies and how I'm creating a breakthrough around that and there's an invitation to take this simple, loving approach to rewiring the patterns that shape your daily choices. This episode is all about practical steps to identify, accept, and gently interrupt old scripts—so you can create lasting transformation from the inside out.

Ready to break free from default patterns and step into empowered change? 🍃Let's do this girls... 

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And remember, will you spare me 60 seconds to write me a review on Apple? Thank you, it really helps 

🎧 Listen now and step into a new season of simplicity, presence, and possibility.

Poor communication can destroy relationships and when those relationships are in your home, it can feel like you're trapped. 

I'm sharing this episode with you today because the relationship with my eldest daughter completely broke in 2021. 

She was also a highly sensitive child but as she got older, her temper became volatile and my husband and I found it harder and harder to communicate with her. Suspected ADHD and smoking weed exacerbated the situation and we were at our wits end. 

In this episode today, I share in full transparency what happened and how I totally didn't handle it well at all. But we do the best we can with what we have, right? 

And then I share the exact framework I used to rebuild our relationship and, I hope, help my daughter see that there is a different way of experiencing life. 

I would be so appreciative if you could pop to Apple and leave me for a review and if you'd like to join my community, you can join Seeking Simplicity Here.

I loved recording this episode, because it was such an important reminder to myself that there is so much strength in softening.

The quote that inspired this conversation: “Remember, you are creator of your life, not a manager of your circumstance. Prime yourself. Decide what to focus on.”

This message landed so profoundly for me, but I reflect on how, just eighteen months ago, it would have felt impossible to embrace. I walk you through the tender journey from managing my circumstances amidst grief, dysregulation, PTSD, and perimenopause, to discovering the incredible strength that comes from softening.

I explore the transformative power of surrender and the seven ways we can intentionally soften in order to become stronger in all areas of our lives. Together, we look at how softening self-judgment can strengthen self-belief, and why letting go of rigid definitions opens up new possibilities. I invite you to notice the stories you carry about yourself, consider the regrets that might be weighing you down, and challenge the ways you approach change—because softening these patterns strengthens your creativity, wisdom, and consistency.

I share deeply personal moments of regret, self-judgment, and the somatic release that changed everything for me. We talk about what it means to soften your past to empower your present and future, and the incredible shifts that come when we reconnect gently with our bodies. Throughout the episode, I encourage you to make this inquiry your own: what would it look like to soften, just a little, in each of these areas of life?

This conversation is an invitation to create space for self-love, surrender, and true transformation as you navigate whatever season you’re in. Brew your favorite cup and join me in seeking simplicity, softness, and soulful strength.

As always, I invite you to join the free Facebook community and personal development book club and if you would kindly leave the podcast a review I would be SO grateful. Thank you 

This really is a truly enchanting conversation with Ayla, who joins us all the way from her real-life French chateau to share what happens when you dare to dream big and live simply (and sometimes that means living in a literal castle!). Together, we explore the heart of seeking simplicity—doing what you love, letting go of societal expectations, and courageously following your own unique path.

We talk about the journey that took Ayla from her native Holland to a castle overlooking a breathtaking French valley, the pivotal moments that sparked this bold move, and the importance of curiosity and intention when it comes to creating a life on your terms. Ayla opens up about her experience with burnout, transitioning from corporate life to entrepreneurship, and the shifts she made to prioritize happiness and meaning for herself and her family.

We dive into the ripple effect that following your joy has—not only in your own health and relationships, but on your children and everyone around you. Ayla shares how she’s built her business to help other women reclaim their time and design lives and businesses that truly light them up, whether that means more time with family or scaling their passion.

There’s so much inspiration here: from letting go of Holland’s “just act normal” expectations, to teaching your kids that anything is possible (including wearing a princess dress to school), to taking the practical steps to streamline your own business and find more spaciousness for what matters most. We also unpack how to turn inward, trust yourself, and bravely choose joy—even when it feels a little daring.

Pour yourself a cozy cup and join us for laughter, permission slips, castle tales, and real-life magic. This conversation is for everyone ready to step outside of the box, make their own rules, and create ripples of happiness in the world—one simple, joyful step at a time.

Find details of Ayla's new programme here.

Follow Ayla on insta here. 

Be sure to come join me inside me free Facebook Community, Seeking Simplicity, for more conversations just like this ❤️

In this honest and reflective solo episode, I invite you into my personal process of simplifying transformation. This conversation is a little self-indulgent—it’s me sharing the thoughts that have been circulating in my mind about why change, transformation, and goal setting so often feel so complicated. I get real about years spent beating myself up for not being “enough” or not achieving enough, and the stories we all tell ourselves about where we “should” be by now.

I walk you through some of the pivotal, heartbeat moments in my life—the ones where I knew, on a deep level, that things had to change. From hopping on my first-ever plane to Australia at 19, to leaving my marriage and becoming a single parent, to quitting jobs and closing businesses, I unpack the catalysts behind those big choices. You’ll hear about how curiosity, pain, and sometimes a drive to prove myself spurred me into action, but how, underneath it all, there was always this belief that something else is possible, even if I couldn’t yet see what that was.

We dig into what keeps us stuck in patterns: the mental loops of telling ourselves we’re not good enough, searching for the “one right way” that doesn’t exist, and falling into overwhelm or burnout. I share a simple three-step framework that shifted everything for me, moving the focus from what to do, to who we are being:

From mental noise to embodied clarity—how to switch off the relentless inner chatter and land in your own power and clarity.

From self-doubt to self-trust—why transformation isn’t about the latest strategy, but building strong self-trust and emotional resilience.

From overwhelm to ownership—learning to pause, take a breath, and own your next step, your boundaries, and your state, rather than spiraling into overwhelm.

We also talk about the tricky idea of “alignment”—how sometimes what’s comfortable isn’t truly aligned, and how the right choices are sometimes the hardest in the moment.

If you’re in a place of transition, growth, or just feeling a little bit stuck, this episode invites you to rethink what simplicity in transformation can look like. Let’s celebrate the possibility that exists in choosing yourself and trusting those heartbeat moments! I’d love to hear which shift resonated with you most—come join the conversation in our Seeking Simplicity Facebook group, DM me, or share your own reflections on social.

Thank you for being here, and until next time, keep seeking simplicity.

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In this soulful solo episode, I dive deep into the nature of decision-making and the ways in which our choices can keep us feeling stuck, unsatisfied, or—quite literally—hungry for more. Inspired by a new deck of oracle cards (here's the Amazon link for them - please note this is my affiliate link), I reflect on the emotional roots of change: how so often, it’s uncomfortable emotions—feeling disconnected, afraid, or trapped—that motivate us to desire transformation in our lives.

Sharing my own personal experience, I explore why it can be so hard to make lasting change, even when we’re desperate for it. I attempt to unravel the dance between emotion and thought: how our emotions trigger the desire for change, but it’s our thoughts—those old stories, fears, and beliefs—that hold us back from acting. I share my own vulnerable moments, from leaving my marriage to healing a painful relationship with my body, and what it really takes to move forward when we don’t know how.

You’ll hear the beautiful message from “The Feast of Plenty” oracle card, which reminds us that sometimes, we need to simply choose—and to avoid repeating decisions that never satisfy us. We get into the real reasons it’s so hard to choose: fear of discomfort, our craving for certainty, those deep-seated patterns and limiting beliefs about who we are and what’s possible.

I talk through practical, compassionate ways to start small and shift your experience: giving yourself permission to be exactly where you are; leaning more on curiosity than certainty; celebrating who you’re becoming through the process, not just the outcome; and embracing the power of making better choices more often—even if they’re simple and small at first.

If you’re in a season of transition, longing for change, or feeling the weight of indecision, my hope is that this conversation gives you the permission, compassion, and gentle nudge you need to make the one next right choice for you. As always, the doors to the Seeking Simplicity Facebook community are open if you want to continue the conversation, find support, or simply be in circle with other wise and wild women walking this path of transformation.

And remember, if you're enjoying this podcast, PLEASE take 1 minute to write me a review - it means the world to me. Thank you 

With love and gratitude for where you are and where you’re going.

Today I am so excited to share a framework with you that I created for my ladies inside The Personal Transformation Programme. 

After over a decade of working with women to create change, achieve their goals and live the life they want - one thing I know is that they think it's way more complicated than it really is. 

The truth is - the strategy is simple. But the execution is HARD.

And it's not because you're not enough or you can't manage it - it's because no-one has ever taught you how to manage your brain and your emotions when you want to do new, difficult and life changing things. 

Hence the creation of this Framework to give you somewhere to start. 

I would love for you to come join more conversations like this inside my free facebook group Seeking Simplicity - and hopefully you'll come join the free book club calls on a Wednesday at 7pm UK time. 

And PLEASE will you give me 1 minute of your time to give me a review on Apple? I'd be SO grateful. Thank you 

Most advice on personal growth tells us to focus on changing bad habits. But have you ever felt like no matter how hard you try, those old patterns just keep popping up? This week, I'm sharing my perspective - why it's not your habits that keep you stuck—it's your deep-rooted identity.

And I hope, that I can encourage you to  gently shift that identity (with lots of self-compassion!) to create real, lasting change.

✨ 5 Keys You’ll Learn in This Episode:

Why relying on willpower alone is exhausting—and why it often doesn’t work in the long run.

How identities are formed early in life and why they get reinforced without us even noticing.

The hidden comfort in your current identity (even when it leads to results you don’t want).

A simple exercise to experience a different version of yourself—right now!

The importance of self-compassion and starting small when shifting your identity and creating new results.

I'm going to show you how you can “try on” a new identity like an outfit—just close your eyes, speak a new belief to yourself, and notice how even your posture starts to shift. Did you know that just imagining a new, more empowered version of yourself can actually change how you feel in the moment? Give it a try after you listen!

This episode is full of gentle reminders to be kind to yourself, give yourself grace, and trust the process—no matter where you are on your own transformation journey. Remember, it’s about starting small and growing consistency, not going hard or going home.

🌼 I'd love for you to join us inside the Seeking Simplicity Book Club

We’re starting You Are a Badass by Jen Sincero next week. Let’s support each other as we shed old identities and step into our wild, wise selves.

Sending you so much love and simplicity, Louise

Welcome to another episode of the Seeking Simplicity podcast.

Today, I'm opening up a conversation around the 3 Things I Wish I'd Learned Before I Hit 50.

I dive deep into the power of embracing the present, learning in layers, and tapping into the wisdom of our bodies.

It's so easier to hanker after different outcomes, think we should be somewhere other than where we are, but isn't there more benefit to explore how staying present can be transformational.

I discuss how our brains often create a vision of what could have been, without acknowledging the complexities and external factors influencing our lives. Our lives are a complex series of  sliding door moments, reminding us that our power lies in the present.

I offer my belief thatchange doesn't happen in isolation. It’s not a single strategy or person that brings transformation, but rather the layers of learning that unfold over time and that by allowing ourselves to have different experiences and tapping into our body's wisdom, change can truly resonate and transform us on a deeper level.

Finally I  highlight the importance of moving beyond relying solely on our brains. Embracing our body's innate knowledge can prevent us from getting trapped in fear and outdated conditioning. By acknowledging and addressing the ways our brains sabotage us, we can open ourselves to a richer, more holistic experience of life.

Come and access conversations like this inside my community in the free Facebook group and book club, Seeking Simplicity.

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