Better Divorce Podcast

Hello, My name is Adrianne Bernadette, a Clinical Hypnotherapist with the Hypnotherapist's Union Local 472 and a member of the American Hypnosis Association. I utilize Hypnosis, Prayer, Meditation as well as other Holistic healing modalities to recreate emotional balance for a fulfilled life. I believe the natural healing properties of your mind, body and spirit, create emotional wellness, a form of healing that considers the whole person-body, mind, spirit ,and emotions for optimal health and wellness. Whether it is the achievement of a personal improvement goal or the urgent need to find a healthy more fulfilling life path, the therapeutic use of hypnosis, imagery and mindfulness is the most powerful resource known to comfortably and efficiently assist you in achieving your goals.

In 2017 I received my B.A. in Psychology from the Union University & Institute, at the same time I was studying and training at the Hypnosis Motivation Institute located in Tarzana, California, a Nationally Accredited Hypnosis training College and Clinic for Hypnotherapy. During my clinical hypnotherapy internship, I worked with the Director and key Senior staff members who lead me in combining everything I had learned on my own path in combination with the clinical hypnotherapy skills and certifications I had acquired.

In 2013 MBUSD and Community Matters introduced The Safe School Ambassadors® Program, the nation’s most effective student-led bullying prevention program where I became a trained family facilitator representative for two years. In 2016 I was humbled by the bravery of young children who experienced death, as a volunteer for The Gathering Place, an extension of Little Company Mary Hospital in Torrance,  California. Staffed by licensed professionals, graduate-level mental health interns and trained volunteers, I will never forget the focus support groups that specialized in bereavement services for adults, teens and children. The mission to encourage healing, health, strength and confidence in those who have experienced death.

It was the hypnotherapy that helped me discover and more importantly access the powers of the subconscious mind, One by one, from personal goals and habits to deeper issues of self-love and prosperity vs scarcity beliefs, hypnotherapy delivered what felt to me, an organic, rapid, yet comfortable path to the life goals and purpose I was seeking.

Kim is the founder of Life Full Yoga. Kim is a Yoga and Pilates Instructor as well as a Wellness Coach. 

She works with people who are seeking to transform their lives by feeling more focused and energized, more peaceful and calm, and grounded and strong mentally and well as physically. 

She has Masters of Divinity from Harvard in 1996 and soon after became certified to teach Yoga and Pilates. She combines the elements of the body, mind, and spirit. 

Kim grew up with scoliosis with a back brace and struggled with her body but was also introduced to combining some Yoga with her Physical Therapy. She also struggled with low blood sugar which impacted her in school as well as multiple moves due to her parent's divorces. 

Through changing her diet and believing in herself she was able to finally excel in school and even go on to Harvard. Clients appreciate her down to earth style that incorporates the body, mind, and spirit. 

Kim is inspired by the teachings of the Viniyoga style, and her past teachers who taught Iyengar and Kripalu style yoga. Kim is also inspired by yoga philosophy and the ancient sacred texts of yoga. 

Her ability to adapt and commitment to working with the body, mind, and spirit helped her and her family through their home being destroyed by a fire and the daughter's cancer diagnosis, treatment and survival. 

She is also the co-founder of Childhood Cancer Kids which brings Yoga to children with cancer which has been nationally recognized such as on the Today Show.

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Paulette and Jody join forces in this episode to share their years of experience and wisdom about just how important it is to consider "keeping the house" as 70% of divorces involve selling, refinancing, cash buyouts or purchase of Real Estate. 

A Message from Jody Bruns

"I believe divorcing homeowners deserve to be better served than the status quo. I believe the divorcing borrower is being underserved by the real estate and mortgage industry as a whole.

The intersection between divorce law, tax law, real estate and mortgage financing is real and we can’t ignore it. I challenge every real estate and mortgage professional to become part of the solution and raise their level of service when working with divorcing homeowners because you can’t think traditionally when working with divorce.

The Divorce Lending Association and CDLP Certification offers the required knowledge, training and resources for the mortgage professional who has that higher calling to better serve the divorcing community."

The Divorce Lending Association can save you and your future. 

Founded in 2014, the Divorce Lending Association provides education and training to mortgage professionals working in the divorce market through a very comprehensive certification program, educational webinars, and a business building platform.

Our mission is to ensure that divorcing homeowners are provided with expert advice with their mortgage financing and real estate options in an effort to avoid hurdles or identify opportunities as they relate to family and real estate law, tax rules, mortgage financing and real estate during divorce.

The ultimate goal is to always best meet the needs of the divorcing homeowners. In over 70% of all divorces in the United States, real estate is involved and most often, so is the need for mortgage financing.

The role of the CDLP  is to help not only the divorcing client but the attorney and financial planner understand the opportunities available, as well as the challenges divorce, can bring to mortgage financing during and after the divorce. When the CDLP is involved during the divorce process and not after the fact, many potential financing struggles can be avoided with valuable and educated input from the Certified Divorce Lending Professional.

The CDLP understands their role is not to provide legal or tax advice. Their role on the professional divorce team is to help by providing insight on mortgage financing opportunities and recognize potential legal or tax concerns that may arise in any given circumstance while bringing these concerns or opportunities to the attention of other team members.

Collaborating with industry experts in family and/or real estate law, financial planning and tax law, mortgage financing and real estate, the Divorce Lending Association was formed as it was very apparent there was a disconnect between all parties involved in the divorce process. Creating the Certified Divorce Lending Professional certification program was one huge step in connecting the pieces of the divorce puzzle making sure there is an educational opportunity for the mortgage and real estate professionals with a desire to further their career in the divorce market.

The Divorce Lending Association was founded by professionals who actively practice in the divorce lending and real estate market and who have a strong desire to train and mentor other professionals practicing in the divorce market.

Tracy D. Galloway has been a litigator in child and family law since 1992. She most enjoys consulting with pro se litigants to help them navigate the divorce process without paying huge retainers to attorneys. In addition to running a thriving law practice freeing clients from soured, crippling marriages, she has earned a Master’s Degree in Psychoanalysis, started competitive ballroom dancing, and most recently began training as a Certified Coach in the FASTer Way to Fat Loss.

https://www.linkedin.com/in/tracy-galloway-324aa73b/

Lindsey Ellison is a relationship coach and founder of Start Over Coaching, Inc., a coaching practice dedicated to helping people wake up from their break up. She is also the author of the best selling book, MAGIC Words: How to Get What You Want from a Narcissist. You can find Lindsey on her popular podcast, Unbreakable You: Breakup Without Being Broken, or on her website lindseyellison.com.

Leigh Aslanis is a Money Habits Expert who empowers women to have financial confidence by teaching them healthy money habits. 

A straight talker who gives practical, no fluff advice with easy to implement tools that help women gain control of their money. 

She knows what it’s like to be a divorced, single parent with no idea how to handle money and made tons of financial mistakes, lost thousands of dollars in the process. 

She’s on a mission to make sure no woman is ever left struggling with managing their finances ever again.

www.moneyoutloud.com 

Ilyssa Panitz is an accomplished journalist, editor and field reporter/producer.

Given Ilyssa's love and fascination for people, lead her on this path which, has included stints at CNN, MSNBC, Closer Weekly, Star Magazine, Westwood One Radio, Newsmax Television and in September 2020, Ilyssa created and launched a new daily column called, "5 Things You Need To Know to Survive and Thrive After A Divorce," for Authority Magazine on Medium.

Some of the famous faces Ilyssa has interviewed and produced "At Home" photoshoots for include: Justin Bieber; Justin Timberlake; Amy Robach; Tom Hanks; Oprah Winfrey; Tom Cruise; Jane Fonda; Bradley Cooper; Angelina Jolie; John Travolta; Ryan Seacrest; Barbara Walters; Jennifer Hudson; Clint Eastwood; Alicia Keys; Olivia Newton-John; Eli Manning; Donny & Marie Osmond; Kelly Ripa; Dr. Jennifer Ashton; Emmy Rossum; Al Roker; Boomer Esiason; Lesley Stahl; Kourtney Kardashian; Meryl Steep; Keith Richards; Usher, Kiefer Sutherland; Dolly Parton; Norah O’Donnell; Christian Slater and countless others.

Join Paulette, Sonia and special guest Jenny. 

Jenny, only 2 months out recently divorced single mom shares her story of lessons learned, coping techniques, smart strategies and tips and the importance of having a divorce theme song to get you through it. 

You don't to miss this fun, heartfelt and HONEST conversation. 

Rebecca White is Aja Nepenthe. 

An expert online dating coach and creator of Aja Nepenthe, the cutting edge way to date safely in a modern world. Her commitment to creating an optimal and safe dating experience is her life’s work. It is Rebecca’s personal experience and expertise that makes her strive to ensure each of her clients receives the customized and personal attention they need to be successful and safe in finding the love they deserve and desire. Rebecca is a lover of Asian studies and travel, hosting pool parties for friends and fussing over her gorgeous daughter and Alaskan Malamute. 

From Confusion to Confidence as Rebecca shares her story. 

So there I was, after 18 years of a committed relationship, alone and wondering how to date again. Everything had changed since my 20s. Hell, I don’t think I even had a Facebook account back then. Much less a smartphone with apps. Going out with my girlfriends wasn’t productive at all. Nor, as a single mom, did I have the time. So how DO people meet each other now? At the suggestion of single friends, I tried all the dating apps. The responses I got were overwhelming and some were disturbing. Some turned out to be fakes/scams. 

It was a jungle out there. After MANY mistakes, rejections and just plain creepy interactions, I got frustrated and gave up. I took some time to go over my approach, my mistakes and most importantly applied what I’d learned in my background with cybersecurity and domestic violence advocacy and came up with a better, safer approach. I chose one app that felt right for me, applied my new approach in structuring my profile to attract the right people and help me weed out the wrong ones. 

Most importantly, I applied safety measures to maintain control over my privacy and keep me safe when meeting people for first dates. And it worked. I had control over my inbox, which, while it had fewer messages, they were from people of quality who shared common interests and goals. If they didn’t respect my boundaries, they were out. Instead of feeling overwhelmed, I felt in control and most importantly, that I was keeping myself and my family safe. 

I finally met a man who respected all my boundaries, went at my pace and treated me as I deserved to be treated. I was finally getting my needs fulfilled after decades of feeling neglected. It was a revelation. I decided I needed to share these methods with other women who also were finding themselves thrust into a totally new dating world after years of a committed relationship. I wanted to help them avoid all the mistakes I made. And most of all, I wanted to help keep them and their families safe! 

With the help of some friends and a great mentor, I developed a program to lead women from that first moment of confusion to a place of confidence and control without having to go through what I did. In just a few weeks, we can get there together. Just consider me that sassy friend that tells you “Oh girl, no. Don’t do that. Do this instead”.

 I’ll help you pick the apps that suit you, set up a profile that gets the results you want, learn to navigate chatting online, get to and through that first date safely and confidently. And I am available after the first step for help navigating new relationships to get your needs fulfilled or help you decide if you need to move on. I am here to help you get what you want and need with me to expertly guide you every step of the way. 

You can learn more about Aja and how you can work with her to get on your way to finding the love you deserve, 

www.ajanepenthe.com [email protected]

Jen Lawrence: Certified Divorce Financial Analyst® professional, I partner with my clients to help them navigate a complex and emotional process. 

I help my clients gain the stability to begin to rebuild their lives. Why I became a CDFA On a winter morning, one January, I received the call no wife wants to receive. My husband had been thinking about our relationship while traveling on business and had called me from the airport to say he was not coming home. 

I know the feelings that accompany the end of a marriage: shock, sadness, worry, disbelief. I know how isolating this time can be. I know how terrifying it can be to face the prospect of being on your own after a long-term marriage, particularly if you’ve not worked outside the home in some time. I also know that divorce, while never easy, does not have to be as hard as it often is. 

My first divorce, more than a decade ago when my children were young, was very difficult. While it was relatively amicable, I had no idea what to expect. I had no idea what my options were when it came to the legal system, our kids, and our assets. And I knew nobody who had been through the process. I got through it but it was more expensive and stressful than it needed to be. 

While my second divorce - the divorce involving the airport call - was not easy, it was not nearly as difficult as the first. There were no co-parenting issues, which makes things so much more straightforward. And, I knew exactly what to do. I was able to make decisions about the type of legal team I wanted, knowing all of the options on the table. 

I knew what questions to ask potential mediators and attorneys. I knew the language of divorce. My goals were clear so it was easy to formulate a strategy. Someone pointed out that I had acted as my own Divorce Coach. I

 decided that I wanted to help other women get through the process and let them know they don’t have to go through it alone. I’m a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst® and former banker and not afraid to dive into the numbers with you so you can talk confidently with your attorney and money managers. 

I can also help in cases of financial abuse; if your spouse does not give you access to money. As the co-author of Engage the Fox, I am an expert in critical thinking and can help you make good decisions throughout the divorce process. I’m also certified to administer the Myers-Briggs Type Indicator and other assessment tools that can help you in your journey forward, particularly if you think you might be looking to find a job. 

I’ve written about overcoming money problems, high conflict people, happiness, and mental health. I’ve ben featured in HuffPost, Thrive Global, Authority Magazine, and many other publications. 

I have appeared on The Mom Show, Report on Business TV, See Hear Love, and TVO Parents. Why Designed Divorce? I’ve always loved watching fashion designers work as they create art from raw-edged pieces of fabric. I believe divorce is a similar process, as you stitch together what feels like scraps to create a life of beauty. 

I’ve created Designed Divorce to serve as a divorce atelier, where women can come to design a beautiful new life after divorce. I’d love to work with you. Click the button below to arrange your Free Consultation Call and begin to design your new life.