Better Divorce Podcast

This is the opportunity we have all been needing but avoiding!~ The hard conversations that need to be said.

Life is completely unpredictable! And NOW it's been proven again that we got caught with our pants down. 

We have to plan for the unexpected, the unknown and the unexplainable.

We all like to feel confident in our abilities and save face with out children that we are smart and have it all together. 

Parents don't have all the answers sometimes and we have to be willing to share our vulnerabilities too.

Teach financial literacy.

Use available resources. (Money As You Grow)

Teach your kids to save for today.

We don't want to teach children to associate money with fear!

We want to teach our children how to navigate these rough waters.

"Needs and Wants" colouring sheets

"Bankers and You" bingo

Talk to your kids about money

Instil money values in kids at a young age

We want them to be intrigued and curios 

We want them to grow up being future money managers

Have the last few weeks seemed to go on for eternity? Sonia and Paulette share the pros and cons of our new normal as professionals, wives, mothers and friends. Is our definition of community changing? How do we thrive in the chaos of it all? 

How has co-parenting changed in this age of "social distancing" and "sheltering in place"?

We touch on Flossing, Seatbelts and Improved Communication! 

Can we communicate more effectively instead of rushing to call a lawyer and engaging the courts to try to solve our conflicts? 

Paulette and Sonia explore how Divorce is a study of conflict and conflict resolution. 

Paulette Rigo CDC, CDS

Consultant/Coach

Author

Speaker

Podcast Host

1:1 Retreats

Find out more about Paulette at

www.betterdivorceacademy.com

www.bettercareerproject.com

www.betterdivorceblueprint.com

www.betterdivorcesummit.com

Dana Mantilia, President of Identron, joins Paulette for this important conversation all about how to protect your identity, particularly in these uncertain times.  

Now more than ever women, children and seniors are victims of having their identity stolen leading to legal and financial troubles.   Dana is an identity Theft Expert and you need this information.  We all experience change in our lives and change creates and exposes our personal and financial information and makes it more available to thieves. Any change can make you more vulnerable. Job, relationship, move, divorce, death in family to name a few.  These experiences are traumatic enough without adding to it the devastating effects of identity theft.  Dana is engaging and educating. You will love her funny and insightful LinkedIn Videos!  Dana Mantilia on Linkedin  and www.identron.com  for more information

Paulette Rigo CDC, CDS

Consultant/Coach

Author

Speaker

Podcast Host

1:1 Retreats

Find out more about Paulette at

www.betterdivorceacademy.com

www.bettercareerproject.com

www.betterdivorceblueprint.com

www.betterdivorcesummit.com

Wow! The Great Pause has begun. Candid Conversations are the New Normal. 

The Thriving In Chaos PROJECT is born!!! After a year of flying solo hosting Thriving In Chaos I JOIN forces with Sonia Queralt Esq. of Divorceify!

Join Registered Mediator and Certified Divorce Coach, Paulette Rigo and Attorney At Law, Sonia Queralt every week for candid, honest and inspiring conversation on 9 podcast platforms and The Thriving in Chaos Project Facebook Page.

Paulette Rigo CDC, CDS

Consultant/Coach

Author

Speaker

Podcast Host

1:1 Retreats

Find out more about Paulette at

www.betterdivorceacademy.com

www.bettercareerproject.com

www.betterdivorceblueprint.com

www.betterdivorcesummit.com   

Christian Family, Esq. formerly known as Jamie Campbell (Pickens)(Manning) is a respected attorney with nearly 20 years of experience. 

Christian was an endorsed candidate for Franklin County Domestic Court Judge in 2010 and limits her practice to divorce and family formation.

Paulette Rigo CDC, CDS

Consultant/Coach

Author

Speaker

Podcast Host

1:1 Retreats

Find out more about Paulette at

www.betterdivorceacademy.com

www.bettercareerproject.com

www.betterdivorceblueprint.com

www.betterdivorcesummit.com

Holly and Paulette met on the little island of Ambergris Caye a few years back when life felt a bit simpler. 

Even though life has changed considerably for both of them, they continue to shape, inspire and empower the lives of women all over the world as they share their passion for helping women live their best most authentic lives.

Holly grew up in Tyler, Texas, and now resides in Steamboat Springs, Colorado, with her dad and 2 of your five children. Holly has been a Home Builder and Designer for 30 years in a business she named Shagalicious!! She also opened the Blue Water Collection in Belize and a diner named after her Mom called Kay’s Diner.

But Holly’s passion is now her online e-commerce “Age Me Gracefully” site where she and a bright community of women ages 40-65 can learn and find support in doing just that…age gracefully.

Some notable quotes from our conversation.

Definition of graceful: Learn to let go and let God

Human beings versus human doings

“Girl, you gotta let go of things. Let yourself off the hook” 

As we age, we see things differently. 

I didn't slide into it. I didn’t move into it …it was a hurricane. 

Life does not escape one of us and divorce does not avoid many of us! 

Maybe we should have turned right when we should have turned left. Those turns can not be changed, but our true worth is that love is at our very nature. 

God is not contained in 4 walls. 

Share the struggles that brought you to a place of knowing your desired change in your life. 

I had lost my connection with myself. 

Holly designed and built a 17000 square feet that felt like a burden and a prison. 

There is no home, no car, no money that can take the place of your peace.

I was desperately trying to get that back. 

You think that money can buy that peace …It doesn’t. That comes from you.

You can’t get it from a credit card, spouse, children…none of it.

We are creatures that are made to have peace.

What did that feel like? I lost myself.  Identity was in my husband. I had no identity of my own.

Anytime a family breaks up there are no winners.

Biggest lessons I have learned to forgive myself and to love myself.

I had to learn to finally let go and learn to love myself again. 

My happy was gone.  I have been hurt and I have done the hurting. 

I learned that I am worthy. 

When you lose yourself. When you renew your mind. You have to date yourself. I have been single for 8 years. 

Your mistakes do not define who you are. 

You are going to be ok no matter what happens. If it doesn’t matter in 100 years it doesn't matter. 

Ignore other people's opinions. Forgive yourself quickly. 

To anyone listening who feels stuck, consider what the word stuck really means.

Move on, Get help, Don’t isolate. and Prayer, Believe. 

Life is too short to do something you are not passionate about.

Learn to grow and seek support. 

There is no shame. All that pain is worth it. 

I wanted to heal my heart and I just wanted to help women heal their hearts too.

 Hot flashes I call my own private summer.

I said to myself... “There is no way I can do this aging thing Gracefully” 

Great feeling to work from home and be your own boss.

Share your passion and what is it that makes you get up in the morning and shout YES!

you can find Holly at 

https://agemegracefully.com/

Meet Pam Roy!

Through her writing, speaking and mentorship, Pam advocates for the mental health and wellbeing of children and young adults. She writes a blog for parents about education and preparing students for the future of work. 

Inspired by the meaning-centered philosophy of Viktor Frankl, Pam is involved in film and book projects related to bringing his ideas to a new generation. 

She is the Executive Producer of an upcoming short film series entitled, Meaning in Madness, which shines a light on the systemic issues contributing to the epidemic of mental health disorders in students. 

She volunteers her time with foster youth and has created a community involvement program for International Sanctuary, a social enterprise that empowers girls and women rescued from human trafficking.

Pam is the mother of three daughters ages 19, 20 and 22

https://www.pamroyblog.com

Paulette Rigo CDC, CDS

Consultant/Coach

Author

Speaker

Podcast Host

1:1 Retreats

Find out more about Paulette at

www.betterdivorceacademy.com

www.bettercareerproject.com

www.betterdivorceblueprint.com

www.betterdivorcesummit.com

Barbara Bell is a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst (CDFA) who has built a business around helping individuals and couples navigate the complex financial decisions involved in divorce. 

As a child of divorce, Barbara saw firsthand the impact a lack of knowledge and support can have. You may not know what you have. You may not know what you’re entitled to. You may not know what to ask. You need someone by your side to educate, support and guide you through the process so you can find a brighter new beginning. A graduate of Drexel University, Barbara came to the financial services industry after a career in architecture. She worked in both residential and commercial design, before moving overseas to own and operate an interior design and custom furniture company. 

When Barbara returned to the U.S., she decided to turn the experience running the financial side of her business into an opportunity to help others navigate the complex but vital world of finance. She became a financial advisor, and in addition to her CDFA, she holds an Accredited Investment Fiduciary (AIF) certification at Cannon Advisors, where she specializes in financial planning, wealth management, retirement and cash-flow planning. 

Now, as the founder and CEO of Bell Divorce Advisors, Barbara uses her financial education to empower women and men in the midst of a divorce. She is trained and experienced in analyzing the personal, business and tax issues inherent in the divorce process. And she provides education, support and guidance to help her clients find their way to an equitable settlement and a brighter new beginning. www.belldivorceadvisors.com

Paulette Rigo CDC, CDS

Consultant/Coach

Author

Speaker

Podcast Host

1:1 Retreats

Find out more about Paulette at

www.betterdivorceacademy.com

www.bettercareerproject.com

www.betterdivorceblueprint.com

www.betterdivorcesummit.com

Paulette and Sonia explore a fun, raw and spirited deep conversation!! 

You don't want to miss this one. Sonia is a divorce litigator and a divorce survivor. She now dedicates her career to helping people going through divorce focus on making their happily ever after possible. 

Sonia earned her bachelor’s degree at American University and studied law at Northeastern University School of Law. She lives in New York with her husband, her 9-month-old son and two cats, Bella and Ninja. 

“Divorce is brutal and life-changing, there is just no way around that. To get through a divorce in the healthiest way possible, people need the right type of help that addresses their pain points and personal needs – divorce cannot be a one size fits all approach. Surrounding yourself with a safe space and the right team will make all of the difference. Trust me – I’ve lived it.”

Paulette Rigo CDC, CDS

Consultant/Coach

Author

Speaker

Podcast Host

1:1 Retreats

Find out more about Paulette at

www.betterdivorceacademy.com

www.bettercareerproject.com

www.betterdivorceblueprint.com

www.betterdivorcesummit.com