In this fourth installment of Anger From a Man’s Perspective, Brian Bercht addresses a powerful and common question from a wife navigating betrayal recovery: “If he’s trying to clean up his act, why does he still walk around with an angry, sour attitude, and why does it make me feel unsafe?”

This episode unpacks what’s really happening beneath a man’s anger after an affair, especially when he appears to be doing many of the “right” things on the surface but still shows up with frustration, defensiveness, or a persistent edge.

Brian explains why a man’s anger is often not about his wife, but about perceived injustice, fear, loss of control, and unresolved internal struggles. He outlines how anger can mask deeper emotions like fear, shame, insecurity, and feelings of being overlooked, misunderstood, or insignificant; many of which predate the marriage itself.

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
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Do men truly realize the impact their anger has on their wives? And if they don’t, what do they actually believe about their anger and its effects?

In this episode, Brian dives straight into a listener question that explores the often-misunderstood dynamics of male anger in marriage. He breaks down why compound questions can create confusion in communication, especially between husbands and wives, and how that confusion can unintentionally lead to hurt, frustration, and conflict.

If you’ve ever felt misunderstood, or wondered why your spouse “doesn’t get it," this episode will shed light on what’s really happening beneath the surface.

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In this second installment on anger from a man’s perspective, Brian continues the conversation by discussing the beliefs, behaviors, and biological differences that often shape how men experience and express anger.

This episode dives into the visceral differences between men and women, exploring why women are often more sensitive to signs of anger or danger, and how this sensitivity is not a flaw, but a God-designed, instinctive response rooted in protection and survival. 

If you’re navigating conflict, emotional disconnect, or healing after betrayal, this episode offers clarity, wisdom, and a healthier framework for understanding anger...without shame or blame.

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Brian gets real, raw, and honest about anger and how it can show up in a man's life.  

"My anger was responsible for some horrible actions resulting in damage to either individuals or property. The impact of these behaviors often but not always, remained longer with me than it did with any of the ones I may have hurt."

Listen in as we start this mini series Anger - From a Man's Perspective. 

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Discouragement is an inevitable part of healing, especially after betrayal. In this episode, Brian sits down with Anne to talk openly about discouragements during their affair recovery.

Sharing from their own painful journey, and over 20 years of helping thousands of couples heal, Anne shares insights about why recovery is not a straight line, how setbacks are part of the process, and what discouragement can look like at different levels. Brian and Anne discuss how misunderstanding the healing process can lead couples to give up too soon.

If you’re feeling worn down, tired of the emotional rollercoaster, or questioning whether healing is even possible, this conversation will help you feel less alone and more grounded in truth.

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
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What are the keys to success? 

In today's episode Anne and Tiffanie walk through 8 Keys to having success in life...especially after your life has been turned upside down by an affair. They revisit their own stories of devastation as they entered another 'New Year'. What roadblocks, realizations, and fears did they face? How did they overcome them? Listen in to hear what helped and gain tools to start your 2026 on track. 

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Jordan, a Pastor’s wife, is going through her first Christmas now as a single mom, post-affair. She honestly shares the struggles, what her church did right to support her, and the many strategies that have helped her to heal. She tells us she is actually happy, joy-filled, feels freedom, and no regrets. Learn from all the things she did right, as she navigated both devastation and a reality that was never God's plan, nor what she could’ve imagined. But God takes the broken pieces of our lives, and from the ashes builds something new and beautiful.

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
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Encouragement for the holidays when infidelity has rocked your reality - Part 1

A couple, Greg & Daphne, share their story of reconciliation & redemption, how they made it through that first Christmas. What were the struggles? What things helped them? What could their family do to help? Learn to not just get not just through it, but how to go on to many years of happy and healed beyond.

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In today’s episode, we answer questions from our listeners about healing after infidelity, and navigating the painful realities of betrayal trauma in marriage.

Join Anne and Brian as they share expert guidance on some common and difficult challenges couples face during  affair recovery, including:

• What to do when the affair partner is a close friend
• How to respond when your spouse won’t commit to healing after an affair
• Why a spouse may shut down and refuse to talk after betrayal
• Whether to keep infidelity private or share your story with others

This episode offers clarity, validation, and practical insight for anyone trying to rebuild trust and move forward after an affair.

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
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What can the person who acted unfaithfully do to help their spouse feel? Where do they start? What's a betrayed spouse looking for in healing? In today's episode we dive into what the unfaithful spouse can do to help the brokenhearted spouse heal, and how you can move your marriage forward after an affair. 

Yes, you can move beyond the pain and get the life you want.
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