Beyond Divorce: Embracing Change

We’re bringing back your #1 favorite episode of all time—and for good reason. This one is packed with practical tools and a step-by-step process to help you have more productive, collaborative conversations with your co-parent—even when things feel tense or communication feels impossible.

In this episode, Michael Flores, LPC-S and Dr. Jacobie Robinson, Ph.D., LPC-S break down how to approach tough conversations with clarity and intention. You’ll learn:

✅ How to manage your emotions so you can respond—not react

✅ The power of “Yes, if…” and how it can shift a stuck dynamic

✅ A simple but effective 4-step conversation starter that works, even in high-conflict situations

Michael’s method includes:

Expressing gratitude

Stating a shared value

Naming where you agree

Asking a “no”-oriented question

Whether it’s your first time hearing this or your fifth, this one is worth every minute.

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What do you do when co-parenting requires trust—but you don’t have it? In this episode, we unpack one of the hardest truths of divorce and shared parenting: trust isn’t always present, but collaboration still needs to happen.

We explore the Trust Formula—Consistency + Predictability, Over Time = Trust—and what it means when you're the one who needs to give trust… or the one trying to earn it back. Whether you're feeling hesitant or working to repair the relationship, this conversation gives you tools, language, and clarity for moving forward.

We’ll walk you through:

-The difference between not trusting and being afraid to trust

-Why letting your co-parent solve problems (instead of doing it all yourself) builds trust—and how to say that out loud

-A 3-step process with key questions to help you decide if you’re ready to take a step toward trust

-How to show up consistently if you're working to rebuild the trust you’ve lost

-The role of vulnerability in earning and extending trust

This episode is full of real talk, practical tools, and compassionate guidance to help you rebuild what’s been broken—for the good of your kids and your peace of mind.

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We're continuing our Most Loved Episode Summer Series, and coming in at number two is a listener favorite that continues to resonate with so many families: True Lies: When Kids Get Conflicting Messages from Their Divorced Parents.

In this powerful episode, Michael Flores, LPC-S, and Jinohn Marr, LMFT, unpack one of the most common—and emotionally charged—issues divorced parents face: what to do when a child hears different versions of the truth from each parent.

Michael and Jinohn share real-world examples of “true lies,” including misconceptions around child support, court involvement, and custody arrangements. They explore how these conflicting messages affect children, why some parents may share information that confuses or distorts the truth, and what therapists can do to support kids in making sense of it all.

You’ll also hear how your own beliefs shape your version of “truth” and why self-awareness is essential for navigating high-conflict parenting dynamics. This episode offers clear guidance for how to respond when your child comes to you with a statement that feels untrue or unfair—and how to protect their emotional well-being in the process.

A must-listen for anyone raising kids through or after divorce. Stay with us until the end—it’s packed with insight, validation, and tools you can use right away.

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In this episode, we dive into the concept of near enemies and far enemies—a psychological and emotional framework originally from Buddhist teachings and explored further through the research of Brené Brown. We break down what this means in the context of divorce, co-parenting, and emotional triggers.

You’ll hear us explore:

Why hate isn't the opposite of love—it’s often born from it.

The difference between love and attachment, especially in parent-child relationships after divorce.

Why being “triggered” often says more about your internal landscape than the actions of others.

How parents sometimes confuse loving their children with controlling them.

Why recognizing near enemies can be the first step toward healing, clarity, and healthier post-divorce relationships.

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This episode continues to be one of the most referenced conversations we’ve had — and for good reason. When children are navigating divorce, they often adopt certain roles in the family to cope with the emotional shifts happening around them.

We reference these roles in other episodes as these roles show up throughout so many situations and dynamics of divorce -- so take a listen or re-listen... the roles children play can be fluid. Depending on the dynamic, your child may take on a new role from when you first listened!

In this episode, Michael Flores, LPC-S, and Armando Martinez, LPC, break down the three most common roles children take on:

The Gatekeeper

The Distractor

The Avoider

You’ll learn how these roles show up in your child’s behavior and, more importantly, what unmet needs or unspoken fears may be driving them. We talk about the underlying desires behind each role — and how understanding them can help you respond with more clarity, empathy, and connection.

We also share why something as simple as mandatory fun with your children can create powerful moments of repair and reconnection in the midst of family stress.

At the heart of this episode is a message we hope stays with you: when you understand the why behind your child’s behavior, you’re better equipped to meet them with grace and support.

In this episode, Michael Flores sits down with Karen McNenny, The Good Divorce Coach and host of The Good Divorce podcast, to unpack what it really means to have a “good divorce.”

Karen shares how the way you start your divorce often sets the tone for how it ends—and why being intentional from the beginning matters. They explore the idea of an “elegant exit,” how and when to talk to your children about divorce, and the critical importance of finding the right kind of support to guide you through the process.

Whether you're in the early stages of separation or deep in the work of rebuilding post-divorce, this episode offers practical insight and hope for those who want to protect their children, their integrity, and their future relationships.

You can connect with Karen at https://www.karenmcnenny.com/

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Summer Replay Series — #4 Most Played Episode: Am I the Problem? How to Monitor Yourself

This episode was one of the most impactful conversations we’ve had — and we’re bringing it back as part of our Summer Replay Series. Whether you're hearing it for the first time or revisiting it with fresh ears, this one is worth your time.

In this episode, Michael Flores, LPC-S, and Armando Martinez, LPC, explore the hard but essential work of self-awareness and emotional monitoring during and after divorce.

They discuss:

The power of acknowledging your hurt and stress

Why vulnerability is key to healing

How to pause and really listen to what your emotions are trying to tell you

The role of triggers and how they can actually point toward your values

The importance of forgiveness — both for others and for yourself

This episode is all about the courage to look inward, take ownership, and do the hard work that leads to real growth and healing. It’s not easy — but it’s worth it. And you’re not alone. We’re rooting for you.

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Summer break can bring major shifts in schedules, especially for families navigating co-parenting. In this episode, we explore how parents can support their children through summer transitions—whether that means extended time with the other parent, travel, or changes to daily routines.

We talk about the importance of clear communication between co-parents, the need for flexibility, and how to prioritize your child's emotional well-being during this season. You'll also hear practical tips on how to stay connected with your kids, engage in meaningful activities, and show genuine interest in the hobbies and interests that matter to them.

Whether you're preparing for your child to be away for a few weeks or just trying to create a summer that feels stable and enriching, this episode offers helpful insights and encouragement.

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Content Warning: This episode discusses suicide and may be distressing for some listeners.

If you or someone you love is struggling with suicidal thoughts, please reach out. Call or text 988 to connect with the Suicide & Crisis Lifeline—available 24/7, free and confidential.

Divorce is hard on families—but for some children, the emotional weight of divorce can go deeper, especially when mental health vulnerabilities are already present.

In this important and tender episode, we talk about what happens when suicide and divorce collide—and how parents can recognize the signs, start supportive conversations, and create a safer emotional environment for their children.

We explore:

How divorce can amplify anxiety, depression, and suicidal ideation

The roles kids take on in divorce (gatekeeper, distractor, avoider)

The emotional toll on children caught in the middle

Warning signs that may indicate your child is struggling

How to talk to your child if you're worried about suicidal thoughts

Why healthy co-parenting isn’t just ideal—it’s protective

The protective factors that truly make a difference in your child's mental health

This episode is for any parent navigating a difficult separation who wants to support their children through emotional darkness with presence, clarity, and compassion.

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This episode is a fun and different one—we're doing a live reaction and deep dive into a powerful Instagram reel by @coachkasabo titled “Adults are accelerating the anxiety crisis at an alarming rate.”

You can watch the reel here: https://www.instagram.com/p/DJK3bZgtxLg/

In the reel, Coach Kasabo explores how adults unintentionally **enable anxiety** in children and teens by:

- Labeling

- Over-processing

- Over-validating

We break down each of these points, offering our perspective as family therapists and giving practical strategies parents can use to support their children without feeding into their anxiety.

We also explore:

- What this dynamic looks like in divorced or divorcing families

- How well-meaning parenting can sometimes backfire

- What to do **instead** of labeling, over-processing, or over-validating

Free Resource: Toxic Family Dynamics Unpacked

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