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Healing from a Narcissistic Mother While Raising Your Own Children

What does it really look like to break generational trauma while raising children of your own?

In this episode of Beyond Mommy Dearest, I sit down with Isabel Lopez, host of Parenting Without Permission, to talk about healing from a narcissistic mother while actively parenting in real time.

We explore what happens when you grow up in survival mode, become the “invisible child,” and then have to figure out motherhood without a blueprint.

From immigrant family dynamics to being put in anger management instead of being heard, to consciously raising empathetic sons in a culture shaped by machismo, this conversation is raw, honest, and deeply validating.

Breaking the cycle is not easy.
It is intentional.
It is exhausting.
It is brave.

If you are parenting while healing childhood trauma, this episode is for you.

In this episode, we discuss:

• Growing up as the invisible child in emotionally unsafe homes
• Moving from Colombia to the U.S. and navigating immigrant family trauma
• Emotional neglect vs. physical survival
• Being put in anger management instead of being listened to
• Why many survivors of narcissistic parenting don’t remember large parts of childhood
• How trauma affects the nervous system and conflict responses
• Shutting down, freezing, or exploding after being pushed too far
• Breaking machismo and raising emotionally aware sons
• Letting your children fully express themselves
• Reparenting yourself while raising your kids
• Why “breaking the cycle” is much harder than people think
• Finding joy while still healing

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In this episode of Beyond Mommy Dearest, Noelani Pearl Hernandez sits down with trauma-informed therapist and neuropsychology specialist Dr. Victoria Liu-Johnson to explore the deep attachment wounds created by narcissistic mothers.

Using the famous Harlow monkey experiments, real-world examples like Punch the baby monkey, and decades of trauma research, this conversation unpacks:

• Why daughters of narcissistic mothers still long for their mothers
• How attachment trauma rewires the brain and nervous system
• The difference between having a parent who provides and a parent who feels safe
• How culture, colonization, and family hierarchy complicate narcissistic abuse
• Why self-blame is a trauma response, not a truth
• What healing looks like through a biopsychosocial and liberation-oriented lens

This episode is for anyone navigating the mother wound, complex trauma, emotional neglect, and the lifelong impact of growing up with a narcissistic or emotionally unsafe parent.

You are not broken.
You were wired for connection.
And healing is possible.

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Breaking Free: Healing Narcissistic Wounds and Rebuilding Self-Trust

🎙️ Episode Show Notes

Guest: Andressa S. Lopes

In this episode of Beyond Mommy Dearest, Noelani Pearl Hernandez sits down with author and healing guide Andressa S. Lopes to explore what it truly means to recover from a narcissistic mother. Together, they talk about naming abuse, releasing lifelong guilt, and learning how to choose yourself without shame.

Andressa shares her personal journey of growing up with conditional love, emotional neglect, and chronic self-doubt, and how therapy became a turning point in recognizing the pattern. Noelani and Andressa also discuss how cultural expectations, family pressure, and generational trauma can make distance or no contact feel impossible, and why chosen family and community are often essential to healing.

This conversation centers survivors and reminds listeners that they are not broken. They adapted to survive, and healing is possible.

✨ What You’ll Hear in This Episode

• Why acknowledging pain is the first step toward healing
• How conditional love shapes people pleasing, guilt, and low self-worth
• The role of therapy in waking up to narcissistic abuse
• Why many narcissistic parents do not seek real accountability
• Guilt, grief, and fear around low contact and no contact
• How narcissistic parents use power, money, and third parties to control
• Cultural and immigrant family dynamics that intensify silence
• How abuse impacts adult relationships and boundaries
• Breaking generational cycles and protecting future children
• The power of chosen family and supportive community
• Why healing is nonlinear and happens one step at a time

🔥 Key Themes

• Acknowledging pain without minimizing
• Reclaiming identity and self-trust
• Breaking emotional dependence
• Cultivating self-worth
• Choosing peace and freedom

📚 Resources Mentioned

• Rising from the Ashes: From Pain to Empowerment: Overcoming Your Narcissistic Mother – Andressa S. Lopes
• Six Ways to Live a Better Life Without a Narcissistic Mother (free guide) – Andressa S. Lopes

👤 About the Guest

Andressa S. Lopes is the author of Rising from the Ashes and creator of a healing guide for daughters of narcissistic mothers. Her work helps survivors move from confusion and emotional dependence into self-trust, self-worth, and freedom. She creates educational content across social platforms to raise awareness about narcissistic abuse and recovery.

🔗 Connect with Andressa

Find Andressa on Instagram, TikTok, and access her books and resources through the link in her bio.

💛 Connecting with Beyond Mommy Dearest

Guided support spaces and facilitated discussions focused on boundaries, guilt, grief, self-worth, and nervous system healing. 

Low-cost support options outside the group through Zoom or WhatsApp.

A paid ongoing support group for deeper healing and consistent community.

• You do not have to do this alone.
• You deserve support.
• You deserve clarity.
• You deserve a life that feels like yours.

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🎙 Episode Notes

In this episode of Beyond Mommy Dearest, host Noelani Pearl Hernandez, trauma-informed executive coach, sits down with Brittanni Hendricks, MBA, ACC (ICF Associate Certified Coach), ICF-certified Leadership Alignment Coach, speaker, author, and creator of the Playful Power Method.

Together, Noelani and Brittanni unpack why workplace dynamics can feel eerily familiar for adult daughters of narcissistic, emotionally immature, or unsafe mothers. They name how survival mode follows us into leadership, why gaslighting at work is so destabilizing, and how high performers often confuse self-abandonment with resilience.

This conversation is for the overachievers, the emotional regulators, and the leaders who carry the invisible load. 

🧠 Topics We Cover in this Episode

• Why narcissistic family dynamics show up so clearly in workplaces and leadership environments
• What workplace gaslighting sounds like and why it destabilizes survivors
• Overfunctioning, people pleasing, and “masking” as professional survival strategies
• Why high performers burn out from responsibility without alignment
• Emotional load: what it is, how it builds, and why it compounds over time
• Conflict cycles at work: overexplaining, self-editing, avoiding hard conversations
• The hidden cost of silence: the price of not having the conversation
• Body signals of misalignment (brain fog, sleep disruption, tension, numbness, stomach aches)
• Why peace can feel unfamiliar after chronic chaos
• Recalibration vs pushing through: how to rebuild self-trust
• The Playful Power Method: reclaiming joy, playfulness, and agency without force

You are not broken.
You adapted.
Alignment is available.

💛 Work With Noelani / Beyond Mommy Dearest

Monthly Support and Trauma-Informed Small Support Groups
Support that is steady, not overwhelming. Community without chaos. Structure without judgment.

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⭐ Guest Bio: Brittanni Hendricks

Brittanni Hendricks, MBA, ACC (ICF Associate Certified Coach), ICF-certified Leadership Alignment Coach, is a speaker, author, and creator of the Playful Power Method. With more than 15 years of leadership experience in talent development and organizational effectiveness, Brittany supports leaders and working parents carrying a high emotional load. Her work centers high performing humans who are not lazy, broken, or unmotivated. They are often misaligned, and ready to stop compensating and start leading from clarity, peace, and power.

Brittanni is the author of It’s My Turn, a part memoir, part manifesto for people who have performed perfection long enough and are choosing alignment over approval.

🔗 Connect with Brittanni Hendricks

Website
https://www.brittannihendricks.com

Instagram
@playfulprofessional

Book a Free Alignment Audit to identify emotional load, body signals, and next steps toward alignme

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🎙 Episode Notes

Healing After Narcissistic Abuse: Trauma Bonds, Gaslighting, and Rebuilding Self Trust

In this episode of Beyond Mommy Dearest, host Noelani Pearl Hernandez sits down with Laura Richards, international podcaster, speaker, and #1 bestselling author of Married To A “Nice” Guy: Getting Over Narcissistic Abuse.

Laura Richards shares her personal recovery journey after a 32-year marriage to a narcissistic partner and names the patterns many survivors live inside for years without having language for. Together, Noelani and Laura explore how narcissistic relationships form, how they escalate, why they are so difficult to leave, and what healing actually requires on a nervous system level.

This conversation addresses love bombing, future faking, mirroring, boundary violations, intermittent reinforcement, trauma bonding, and the long-term effects of gaslighting. They also talk about shame, grief, rebuilding self-trust, setting boundaries, and how survivors can begin creating a life that feels safe, steady, and their own.'

🧠 Topics We Cover in this episode

• Early signs of narcissistic relationships
• Trauma bonding and intermittent reinforcement
• Why survivors struggle with decision-making after abuse
• Nervous system dysregulation and hypervigilance
• Boundaries and self-love as protection
• Grieving the life you thought you would have
• Breaking generational cycles

This episode is for anyone who has questioned their reality, blamed themselves for staying, or wondered if it was “really that bad.”

You do not need permission to leave.
 Your body’s no is enough.
 Healing is possible.

💛 Work With Noelani / Beyond Mommy Dearest

• Coming Home to Yourself Guided Support Program
   https://www.beyondmommydearest.org/supportgroup
• Instagram
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• Podcast Page
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⭐ Guest Bio: Laura Richards

Laura Richards is an international podcaster, #1 bestselling author, and speaker dedicated to empowering women. Through her global podcast, That’s Where I’m At, and her bestselling book Married To A “Nice” Guy: Getting Over Narcissistic Abuse, Laura shares her personal journey of recovery from a 32-year marriage to a narcissist.

Laura’s mission is to shine a light on narcissistic abuse and remind women they are never alone and healing is always possible.

🔗 Connect with Laura Richards

Instagram
 https://www.instagram.com/thatswhereimatpodcast/

YouTube
 https://www.youtube.com/@thatswhereimatpodcast

Facebook
 https://www.facebook.com/thatswhereimatpod/

Website
 https://www.thatswhereimatpodcast.com/

Podcast

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/thats-where-im-at/id1704083491

📚 Laura Richards’ Book

Married To A “Nice” Guy: Getting Over Narcissistic Abuse
Available on Amazon

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🎙️ Beyond Mommy Dearest

Episode One: Breaking Free: Healing Narcissistic Wounds and Rebuilding Self-Trust

In the first episode of Beyond Mommy Dearest, host Noelani Pearl Hernandez, trauma-informed coach, mother, and wife, explores the lasting impact of narcissistic, emotionally immature, and abusive mother-child relationships and  Kimberly Weeks, Trauma recovery coach and Founder of Global Trauma Institute discuss their Jounery to Healing.

This conversation is for adult daughters who grew up in families that looked functional but felt unsafe, confusing, or emotionally heavy. Those praised for being strong or mature, yet never emotionally protected or believed.

Joined by guest Kimberly, a survivor of generational trauma, the episode examines how early survival patterns follow us into adulthood, shaping relationships, self-worth, and the nervous system.

Noelani challenges the “just grow up” narrative often used to shame survivors who create distance or boundaries, reframing those choices as conscious, adult, and often necessary for healing and generational change.

This podcast is not about blame or revenge. It’s about understanding impact, trusting yourself, and choosing clarity without shame.