Mental Health & The Lifestyle: Depression, Anxiety, Jealousy & the Parts Nobody Talks About

In this week's Beyond Monogamy Wednesday QUICKIE, Adam & Pris crack open a conversation most lifestyle folks avoid: mental health. From depression that hides behind humor, to feeling unwanted in LS spaces, to the pressure of always "being on" because of content creation, this episode gets raw, honest, and deeply needed.

Adam opens up about a form of depression that doesn't look like the stereotypical "can't get out of bed" kind — it looks more like working nonstop, smiling through the storm, and masking with jokes. Pris shares the emotional weight of their poly years, what she kept inside, how depression silently grew, and how finally being honest helped her breathe again.

Together, they break down the emotional side of non-monogamy that impacts self-worth, jealousy, compersion, body image, performance anxiety, rejection, and confidence in the lifestyle. If you've ever felt overwhelmed in the lifestyle… if you've ever questioned your worth… if you've ever smiled on the outside while drowning inside… this one's for you.

💬 Episode Focus: Mental Health & The Lifestyle

In this candid, heartfelt QUICKIE, Adam & Pris dive into the mental and emotional side of ethical non-monogamy and swinging:

• Why mental health struggles are common but rarely talked about in the lifestyle
• What happens when one partner is "more into it" than the other, and depression quietly builds under the surface
• The emotional weight of their poly years and what hiding feelings did to Pris's mental health
• The heavy feeling of not feeling wanted or noticed at lifestyle events and clubs
• How the lifestyle can sometimes feel like high school all over again — cliques, comparison, and insecurity
• How rejection and "you're not my type" moments hit self-esteem and confidence
• The pressure of being "on" all the time when you're known for your podcast and content
• Adam's personal experience with depression that hides behind humor, productivity, and obsession with work
• Why communication is absolutely crucial when jealousy, compersion, and insecurity show up
• How mental health and sexual health are deeply connected — and why it's hard to perform when your brain is overloaded
• Why it's okay (and healthy) to pause, reset, or step back from the lifestyle when life starts "lifing"

The main takeaway? Protect your peace as much as you protect your parts. The lifestyle can be fun as hell, but only if your mind is in a good place while you're living it.

🌐 Start Here: Our Website

👉 https://www.beyond-monogamy.com

• Events Page: https://www.beyond-monogamy.com/p/beyond-monogamy-events/
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Remember: You don't have to be non-monogamous to enjoy a show about non-monogamy.

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• 2:00 PM Central
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• Reddit: r/beyond_monogamy
• Discord: Join our community for lifestyle chat, episode discussions, and event info.

💌 Need Support or Someone to Talk To?

If this episode hit close to home and you're struggling with depression, anxiety, jealousy, or feeling unwanted in the lifestyle, please know:

• You're not weird. You're not broken. You're human.
• Your mental health matters just as much as your sexual exploration.
• It's okay to step back, slow down, or hit pause when life gets heavy.

You can:

• Submit an anonymous story or question through our Confessional on the website.
• Reach out privately through our contact form or DMs on social media.
• Share this episode with a partner or friend if you don't know how to start the conversation.

We can't be your therapists, but we can be your people — a couple who gets it, who's been through it, and who is willing to talk about the stuff most lifestyle conversations skip.

✅ Before You Go

• Like, subscribe, and follow on your favorite podcast platform.
• Leave a rating and review — it helps more people in (and out of) the lifestyle find the show.
• Share this episode with someone who might be struggling silently.
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The Lifestyle Is for Everyone: Inclusivity & Texas Desires Hotel Takeover Episode Summary

This episode opens with a listener voicemail from a lesbian couple asking how they fit into the lifestyle—so we break down inclusive, real-world guidance for same-sex couples navigating LS spaces, boundaries, and community. Then we sit down with Texas Desires to preview their Naughty & Nice Hotel Takeover in San Antonio, Dec 5–6, where we'll be recording a live Beyond Monogamy podcast.

Expect a true full-property buyout (not just a "top-floor party"), flat $500 room rate (king for 2 or double-queen for up to 4), BYOB, and upgraded breakfast included—no hidden fees. To reserve, email [email protected] (one "L").

Listener Voicemail: "How do lesbian couples fit into the lifestyle?"

• We discuss why many events historically skew toward the straight-male / bi-female dynamic and how to navigate that as a same-sex couple—focusing on mentorship, clear boundaries, and finding welcoming communities.
• Practical tips: look for friendly faces, build your table if no one pulls out a chair, and use lighthearted icebreakers to meet people.

Texas Desires: Naughty & Nice Hotel Takeover (San Antonio • Dec 5–6)

• Dates/Location: Dec 5–6 in San Antonio (exact hotel released the week of for attendee safety).
• True hotel buyout: Texas Desires rents the entire hotel for the weekend, creating a cohesive, clothing-optional vibe within legal rules.
• Pricing (flat, no add-ons): $500 per room; up to 4 people in a double-queen, 2 people in a king. Organizer covers credit card fees, hotel taxes, security, and DJ.
• Food & Drinks: BYOB; breakfast included and upgraded; food trucks on site (purchase your own food).
• Rules & Comfort: Clothing required in food-service areas; full itinerary coming soon. Ladies—bring comfy shoes!
• How to Reserve: Email [email protected] (one "L"). Rooms still available—don't lose your spot!

Why This Takeover's Different

Texas Desires designs a true weekend escape—an all-inclusive, full-property experience for the lifestyle community, not a scattered, mixed-public hotel setup. It's an event where connection, comfort, and freedom meet.

Beyond Monogamy Events

Keep an eye on our Events Page for updates on this takeover and other upcoming meetups. We'll sync our calendar as Texas Desires releases their full itinerary.

Links & How to Support

• Website & Events: www.beyond-monogamy.com • Events
• Confessional (anonymous stories): Available on our website under "Confessional."
• Patreon (bonus content & behind-the-scenes): Join on Patreon
• FullSwapRadio: Catch Beyond Monogamy every Thursday at 2 PM & 7 PM CST.

Socials

• Facebook: facebook.com/beyondmonogamy4u
• Instagram: @beyond_monogamy_4u
• X (Twitter): @beyomono
• TikTok: @beyond.monogamy (Pris) • @adam&beyond (Adam)
• Reddit: r/beyond_monogamy
• YouTube: @BeyondMonogamywithAdamPris

Calls to Action

• Reserve your room: Email [email protected] (one "L").
• Subscribe on YouTube, follow on socials, join Patreon, and drop an anonymous Confession on our site.
• Share & Review the show—help us grow the lifestyle community!

Inside the Mind of Adam: Love, Chaos & Building a Beyond-Monogamy Marriage

Episode Type: QUICKIE Show: Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris

What keeps a man grounded when life, love, and the lifestyle all collide? In this fun, raw, and real QUICKIE, Pris flips the mic on her husband and co-host, Adam, to dig deep into how he balances it all: a fiery wife, a busy podcast, family life, and the ups and downs of non-monogamy.

From jealousy and communication struggles to menopause, ADHD, finances, and the messy moments in marriage, Adam gets vulnerable about what it really takes to stay connected, keep the peace, and grow stronger together. If you've ever wondered what makes a relationship survive the chaos of real life and the lifestyle, this one's for you.

They talk teamwork, love languages, reconnection rituals, emotional self-awareness, and why "meet in the middle" might be the ultimate relationship cheat code. You'll laugh, relate, and maybe even tear up as Adam shares the heart behind the brand — and why this podcast is so much more than stories and sex talk.

☕ Grab your coffee, your partner, or your favorite toy — this episode is real-life love in the raw.

In This Episode

• How Adam stays balanced through love, chaos, and menopause
• The truth about communication and emotional reconnection in long-term relationships
• Jealousy vs. security in non-monogamy and the lifestyle
• How teamwork and "meeting in the middle" matter more than chemistry alone
• Reconnecting after lifestyle events: coffee, food, and real conversations
• Real talk about finances, stress, and why relationships matter more than money
• How Beyond Monogamy became a growing community for couples and the curious
• Adam's passion for turning this podcast into a lifelong mission for both of them

Top Takeaways

• Communication beats competition. If you're trying to "win" an argument, you both lose.
• Meet in the middle. Love isn't always 50/50 — it's about showing up as a team.
• Hormones are real. Menopause, cycles, mental health and hormones affect communication and reactions for both partners.
• Appreciation matters. Small acts of service, physical affection, and words of gratitude stack up over time.
• Reconnection is a ritual. Post-event coffee dates, debriefs, and honest talks keep you grounded and close.
• Remember your priorities. Money, jobs, and outside stress come and go — your partner, kids, and core relationships are the real foundation.
• Honesty over perfection. It's okay to admit when you're struggling, shutting down, or needing space — as long as you communicate it.

Links & Resources

• Main Website: www.beyond-monogamy.com
• Beyond Monogamy Confessional: Share your anonymous stories at the Confessional
• Events & Live Shows: Check out our upcoming events, live podcasts, and meet & greets at the Events Page

Listen to Us Around the Web

• Full Swap Radio: Streaming every Thursday at 2 PM & 7 PM Central at FullSwapRadio.com
• YouTube: @BeyondMonogamywithAdamPris

Support & Extras

• Patreon: Early access, behind-the-scenes, and extra content at patreon.com/BeyondMonogamywithAdamPris
• Merch: Shirts, mugs, and more via our website's merch section.

Affiliates & Partners

• 3Fun: Explore the lifestyle-friendly dating app at our 3Fun link
• SDC: Join the lifestyle community using our referral at SDC.com/?ref=38236
• Forbidden Fruit: Your local & online adult boutique at ForbiddenFruit.com

Upcoming Events

• Texas Legends Hotel Takeover – San Antonio December 5–7 — Live Beyond Monogamy show & Q&A on-site. Details on our Events Page.
• Beyond Monogamy Meet & Greet – Club Eden San Antonio December 13 — Hang out with us, ask questions, and connect with community. Info also on our Events Page.

Follow Beyond Monogamy

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• Instagram: @beyond_monogamy_4u
• X (Twitter): @beyomono
• TikTok: @beyond.monogamy & @adam&beyond
• Reddit: r/beyond_monogamy

Help Us Grow

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🎧 Inside Austin's Oldest Adult Store: Exploring Sex Toys, Local Pleasure Brands & Flirting in the Lifestyle

Step inside Austin's legendary adult boutique, Forbidden Fruit, with Adam & Pris for a wild and hilarious live recording of Beyond Monogamy.

In this special episode, the duo explores the shelves of Texas' oldest adult store — surrounded by locally made toys, leather gear, art, and laughter — while diving into the unspoken rules of flirting in the lifestyle.

From favorite toy confessions and lube mishaps to open talk about pleasure, body confidence, and communication, this episode blends real education with the humor and honesty Beyond Monogamy is known for.

Whether you're a curious newcomer or a longtime swinger, this one's packed with relatable insights, Austin flavor, and a reminder that pleasure is personal — and better when shared.

🔥 Highlights

• Live at ForbiddenFruit.com — Austin's oldest adult store
• Local toy makers, workshops, and sex-positive education
• Adam's first guy toy experience (and how it changed his mind)
• Pris on female pleasure, confidence, and toys in the bedroom
• How to introduce toys and talk about pleasure with new partners
• Upcoming events: Beyond Monogamy Meet & Greet, Naughty & Nice Hotel Takeover (Dec 5–7 in San Antonio)

🎙️ Episode Details

Hosts: Adam & Pris Podcast: Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris

💬 What We Talk About

• Behind the scenes of Forbidden Fruit, Austin's oldest adult store
• Supporting local Texas toy makers and artists
• Exploring toys, kink gear, and sexual wellness in a welcoming environment
• The difference between flirting and hitting on people in the lifestyle
• Why using toys doesn't replace your partner — it enhances connection
• Flirting Etiquette 101: how to read energy, respect consent, and avoid awkwardness
• Real talk about size, pleasure, and confidence between couples
• Adam & Pris's personal stories (and hilarious moments caught on mic)

🗓️ Upcoming Events

• 💥 Beyond Monogamy Meet & Greet + Live Show 📍 Forbidden Fruit Austin 🗓️ Saturday • 12 PM – 4 PM
• 🎅 Naughty & Nice Hotel Takeover 📍 San Antonio, TX • Dec 5–7 🎤 Live Podcast & Q&A with Adam & Pris 👉 Event Details & Tickets

🌐 Connect with Beyond Monogamy

• Website → www.beyond-monogamy.com
• Patreon → Exclusive After Hours, bloopers & behind-the-scenes
• Full Swap Radio → Thursdays @ 2 PM & 7 PM CST
• 3Fun App → https://www.go3fun.co/ad/TK11932
• SDC → https://www.sdc.com/?ref=38236

📱 Follow Us

• Instagram: @beyond_monogamy_4u
• Facebook: beyondmonogamy4u
• TikTok: @beyond.monogamy (Pris) | @adam&beyond (Adam)
• X (Twitter): @beyomono
• YouTube: @BeyondMonogamywithAdamPris
• Reddit: r/beyond_monogamy

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Quickie Episode • Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris

Lifecycle Events 101: How to Survive (and Thrive) at Your First Swinger Party

First link (all details & tickets): See Our Events Calendar

Episode Summary

Nervous about your first lifestyle event? We've got you. In this Quickie, Adam & Pris get real about first-timer anxiety, how to find the right events, what to expect once you're there, and simple ways to meet people without feeling overwhelmed. We also share details for two big meetups: our November 8th Meet & Greet at Forbidden Fruit (Austin) and the December 5–7 Naughty & Nice Hotel Takeover in San Antonio, where we'll host a live Beyond Monogamy show with audience Q&A.

Come Hang With Us — Upcoming Events

➡️ Full Events Page (dates, times, maps, updates)

📍 Saturday, November 8 — Meet & Greet @ Forbidden Fruit (Austin, TX)

• Time: 12:00 PM – 4:00 PM (we may stay later if it's poppin')
• Where: Inside Forbidden Fruit (Austin's oldest locally owned adult boutique; block-party vibes with neighboring local shops)
• What's happening: Photos, lives, light Q&A, merch, and meet-the-hosts energy
• Parking tip: It's tight—street or neighborhood parking recommended. Worth the walk!

Full address, updates, and reminders are on our Events Page.

🎄 December 5–7 — Naughty & Nice Hotel Takeover (San Antonio, TX)

• Weekend takeover: Lifestyle community, day events, and night parties
• We're performing: A live Beyond Monogamy podcast + audience Q&A (seating + mic setup on site)
• Heads-up: Rooms are moving fast—see the Events Page for info & booking details

Traveling in to see us? Tell us you're coming—we love meeting out-of-towners.

How to Find Lifestyle Events

• Check vetted platforms like SDC and Kasidie for party & meet-and-greet listings.
• Local Facebook communities (often invite-only)—meet people at clubs and ask for a group invite.
• At meet-and-greets, introduce yourself to the host or a connector; start with one person, let them introduce you onward.

First-Timer Tips (Real Talk)

• It's normal to be nervous—your first event is the hardest; it gets easier fast.
• Have a drink if you want, but avoid overdoing it—staying aware keeps you safe and confident.
• Safety first: watch your surroundings, stick together, and honor consent like it's sacred.

Links & Resources Mentioned

• 🗓️ All Events (first stop): https://www.beyond-monogamy.com/p/beyond-monogamy-events/
• 🌐 Main Site: https://www.beyond-monogamy.com
• 📬 Beyond Monogamy Confessional (anonymous): https://www.beyond-monogamy.com/p/confess/
• 📻 Full Swap Radio: https://fullswapradio.com — catch us Thursdays at 2 PM & 7 PM Central
• ❤️ Patreon:https://www.patreon.com/c/BeyondMonogamywithAdamPris
• 📱 SDC (events/platform): https://www.sdc.com
• 📱 Kasidie (events/platform): https://www.kasidie.com

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Enjoyed the episode? Please like, subscribe, share, and leave a review—this helps the community find us and keeps the conversations.

In this powerful and refreshingly funny conversation, Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris sits down with psychologist, Gestalt therapist, creator of Gotitas de Poliamor, and author Jaime Gama to unpack what it really takes to thrive in ethical non-monogamy. We dive into jealousy vs. compersion, swinging vs. polyamory, boundaries, Latin culture, and unlearning shame—mixing research-backed wisdom with real-life stories.

• 💧 Jaime's work: www.gotitasdepoliamor.com
• 🌐 Our site: www.beyond-monogamy.com
• 📻 Listen on FullSwapRadio (Thursdays 1 PM & 6 PM CST): FullSwapRadio.com
• ❤️ Support us on Patreon: @beyondmonogamywithadampris

CTA: If you enjoyed this episode, please like, subscribe, share, and leave a review on whatever platform you listen on—it seriously helps the community grow!

Meet Us IRL: We'll be at Forbidden Fruit (Austin) on November 8—come say hi and join our live Q&A session!

Show Notes Key Topics

• How labels help—when they're guides, not molds
• Swinging vs. Polyamory: sex-forward vs. romance-forward dynamics
• Jealousy isn't the villain: safety, communication, and growth
• Latin culture, masculinity, shame, and sexual autonomy
• Consent, agency, honesty & compassion as relationship pillars
• Why community is the #1 unlock for sustainable ENM

About Our Guest

Jaime Gama is a psychologist and Gestalt therapist, international educator on ethical non-monogamy, and author of Si te duele, ahí no es. He leads workshops, writes, and creates hugely popular content that makes complex relationship ideas practical and accessible. Website: www.gotitasdepoliamor.com

Links & Resources

• Beyond Monogamy: www.beyond-monogamy.com
• FullSwapRadio (Thursdays 1 PM & 6 PM CST): FullSwapRadio.com
• Patreon: @beyondmonogamywithadampris
• Guest site: www.gotitasdepoliamor.com

How You Can Help

Tap those buttons—like, subscribe, share, and review—so more curious, open-minded folks can find the show. Thank you for supporting independent creators!

Come Hang With Us

Forbidden Fruit (Austin) — November 8 Meet-and-greet + listener Q&A. Can't wait to see you there!

Spotted! When Your Vanilla Life Crashes the Lifestyle

Podcast: Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris

Sometimes you're vibing at a lifestyle club—lights low, bodies moving, drinks flowing—and boom… someone from your vanilla life walks in. Your coworker. A family friend. Someone from the PTA. 😳 Now what?

In today's Wednesday QUICKIE, Adam & Pris break down exactly what happens when you get SPOTTED in the wild… and how to turn that panic moment into a confident lifestyle win. From awkward introductions to "keep your eyes up" territory, this episode shares a real-life run-in that ended up being surprisingly great.

What You'll Learn

• The #1 newbie fear: "What if I run into someone I know?!"—and how to handle it
• Consent, discretion, and reading the room when worlds collide
• When not to approach someone—and why
• Why being open can feel freeing (and build real community)
• Turning "oh no" into "we're good" without the drama

Listen & Support

Subscribe on your favorite platform, tap LIKE, SHARE with a friend, and please leave a REVIEW. It takes seconds and massively boosts the show in search and recommendations.

Community Links Join Our Patreon

Get bonus episodes, Couch Confessionals, After Hours, behind-the-scenes & more. Your support keeps the mics hot. ❤️

Become a Patron

Anonymous Beyond Monogamy Confessional

Drop your wild stories, burning questions, or true confessions—100% anonymous. We may feature yours in a future episode.

Submit to the Confessional

Catch Us on FullSwapRadio

Listen every Thursday at 2:00 PM & 7:00 PM Central alongside a curated lineup of adult talk shows.

fullswapradio.com

Everything in One Place

Episodes • Events • Confessional • Merch • Socials:

www.beyond-monogamy.com

Episode Keywords

ethical non-monogamy, ENM, swinging, lifestyle clubs, getting spotted in the lifestyle, discretion and consent, open relationships, Beyond Monogamy podcast

Thanks for listening! If this helped you breathe easier about "getting spotted," share it with a friend who needs it.

Jessica Fern & David Cooley on Attachment, Resentment & Rewriting the Rules of Non-Monogamy

Guests: Jessica Fern (author of Polysecure, Polywise, and Transforming the Shame Triangle) and David Cooley (restorative-justice facilitator, creator of Restorative Relationship Conversations).

Episode Summary

In this heart-to-heart, Adam & Pris sit down with Jessica Fern and David Cooley to go deeper than "What is polyamory?" They unpack attachment styles, why resentment is jealousy's sneaky cousin, and how the Shame Triangle (inner persecutor, inner victim, inner rescuer) quietly shapes conflict—and how to transform it with practical tools rooted in IFS and restorative practices.

The convo hits real-life dynamics: ditching the "50/50" myth, navigating capacity and time (especially with kids), and why relationships thrive when both partners bring 100%—just not in the same way every day. Adam & Pris get candid about their own poly chapter, burnout, and finding balance, while Jessica & David share how their post-divorce collaboration became one of their healthiest partnerships.

Keywords: Jessica Fern, David Cooley, Polysecure, Polywise, Transforming the Shame Triangle, attachment theory, IFS therapy, ethical non-monogamy, open relationships, jealousy vs resentment, relationship repair, capacity, family dynamics, Beyond Monogamy podcast, Full Swap Radio.

Listen & Subscribe

• Website: beyond-monogamy.com
• Full Swap Radio: Thursdays at 1 PM & 6 PM CST
• Patreon (early access, After Hours clips, bonus minis, Discord): Patreon.com/BeyondMonogamywith

Show Notes

• Attachment & IFS: How to spot when a part (not your core self) is driving reactivity—and how to respond with needs-based clarity.
• Jealousy vs. Resentment: Resentment is the "check-engine light" for unmet needs or long-standing imbalances—don't villainize it, learn from it.
• The 50/50 Myth: Healthy partnerships aren't perfectly split; they're capacity-aware and transparent about changing needs over time.
• Polyamory + Parenting: Why time/energy constraints shift when kids are young—and how integrating partners into the family system can help.
• The Shame Triangle: Inner persecutor ➝ inner victim (shame) ➝ inner rescuer/escapers (over/under-functioning, numbing, projection) and how to break the cycle.
• Collaboration After Divorce: Jessica & David describe dissolving romance, rebuilding trust, and co-creating work that actually deepens harmony.

Guest Links & Resources

• JessicaFern.com — book info, events, workshops (New book Transforming the Shame Triangle releases on October 31; pre-release discount via site).
• Polysecure, The Polysecure Workbook, Polywise — widely available wherever books are sold.
• Upcoming signings mentioned: Asheville (Malaprops, Oct 28), Atlanta (Cherish Books, Nov 4), Bay Area events week of Dec 17 with a day-long workshop on Dec 22.

Favorite Moments "Resentment is a really important signal—like a dashboard light. There's a need underneath it asking to be seen." "Stop chasing 50/50. Bring your 100%—and expect your partner to bring theirs—in ways that ebb and flow with real capacity." "The Shame Triangle links that inner critic, the shame it creates, and the 'escapes' we use to avoid feeling it. Naming it is the first step to changing it."Timestamps

• 00:01 — Meet Jessica & David; books, backgrounds, collaboration
• 16:00 — Sacredness, conditioning & rethinking mononormative scripts
• 18:00 — Jealousy vs. resentment; needs, signals & repair
• 22:00 — Ditching 50/50; capacity, boundaries, expectations
• 29:00 — Poly + parenting; integrating partners into family systems
• 44:00 — The Shame Triangle explained (persecutor, victim, rescuer/escapers)
• 54:00 — Why feedback can trigger shame—and how to receive it better
• 55:00 — Book release timing & event tour details

Support the Show

Love the conversation? Join our Patreon for early access, After Hours clips, bonus minis, Discord hangs, and more. Catch us on Full Swap Radio every Thursday at 1 PM & 6 PM CST.

Follow us: Facebook @BeyondMonogamy4U • Instagram @beyond_monogamy_4u • TikTok @beyond.monogamy & @adam&beyond • YouTube @BeyondMonogamywithAdamPris

The Great Expectations

Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris

Episode Summary

In The Great Expectations, Adam & Pris get real about one of the trickiest parts of ethical non-monogamy: managing what you think is going to happen versus what actually happens. From club nights that don't go as planned to the pressure of "performing" in lifestyle settings, they unpack how expectations—ours, our partners', and everyone else's—shape attraction, confidence, and connection. This candid, funny, and raw conversation explores emotional intelligence, insecurity, chemistry, and the myth of having "no expectations." Spoiler: everyone has them, and that's human.

Whether you're new to swinging or deep into open relationship life, you'll leave with practical perspective: the fewer expectations you cling to, the more freedom (and fun) you'll find.

Show Notes Topics Covered

• The illusion of "no expectations" in the lifestyle
• Why we still walk into clubs hoping for magic (and why it rarely plays out like a fantasy)
• How unrealistic expectations can kill the vibe before the night even starts
• Attraction vs. organic connection: letting chemistry lead
• Emotional intelligence as a lifestyle superpower
• Releasing insecurities and learning to care less (with age and experience)
• "Podcaster expectations" vs. real-life anxiety and social energy
• Expectations and performance pressure—why honest communication matters
• Respect, boundaries, and the expectations partners set for each other

Featured Moments

• Pris opens up about letting go and growing emotional maturity.
• Adam talks about mental pressure, male performance, and speaking up instead of spiraling.
• A funny play-by-play of how fantasy scripts fall apart in real life—and why that's okay.
• A shared takeaway: try not to have expectations, but admit you always will—then choose flexibility over frustration.

Listen & Connect

Stream this episode on all major podcast platforms and catch us on FullSwapRadio.com every Thursday at 2 PM & 7 PM CST.

Explore everything—blogs, videos, events, and our anonymous Beyond Monogamy Confessional—at www.beyond-monogamy.com.

Support the Show & Explore the Lifestyle Join Our Patreon

Love the raw conversations and want more? Get early access, behind-the-mic clips, uncut moments, and member-only perks by joining our Patreon. Your support keeps the mics on and the real talk flowing. 👉 Become a Patron

Find Your People

Ready to connect with like-minded folks? Use our links—your sign-ups directly support the podcast:

• SDC (events, parties, community): https://www.sdc.com/?ref=38236
• 3Fun (meet, match, explore): https://www.go3fun.co/ad/TK11932

Click, explore, and say hi—we appreciate you using our links!

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This Kind of Girl: UK Writer Rosie Kay on Non-Monogamy, Bisexuality & Breaking Lifestyle Stereotypes Ethical Non-Monogamy Bisexuality Confidence & Consent Lifestyle Culture Episode Summary

In this bold and beautifully honest episode of Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris, we head across the pond to chat with UK writer, educator, and ethical non-monogamy coach Rosie Kay, the voice behind thiskindagirl.co.uk.

Rosie pulls back the curtain on what it really means to live ethically non-monogamous in today's world—far beyond the clichés of "swingers in suburbia." From discovering her bisexuality in her teens to finding freedom (and a few fears) in London's clubs, Rosie shares how she turned curiosity, courage, and COVID downtime into one of the UK's most refreshingly honest lifestyle blogs.

Together, we dive into bisexuality without shame, breaking stereotypes, emotional honesty and the art of giving consent even when you're not directly involved, plus the cultural contrasts between the UK and US lifestyle scenes. This one's for anyone navigating open relationships or the messy-beautiful reality of non-monogamy in 2025 and beyond.

Show Notes

Guest: Rosie Kay — thiskindagirl.co.uk

Key Topics Covered

• Rosie's personal journey into non-monogamy & bisexuality
• How This Kind of Girl started during COVID lockdown
• UK vs. US lifestyle culture—what's changing and what's the same
• The emotional side: jealousy, consent, self-awareness, and confidence
• Breaking stereotypes: who actually participates in the lifestyle
• Inclusivity, women's empowerment, and moving beyond shame

Best Quote "Once you realize that other women aren't your competition, you'll have a much better life—not just a better sex life." — Rosie Kay Follow Rosie

• Website: thiskindagirl.co.uk

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