Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris

He does whatever he wants, and she stays loyal. That's "one-way monogamy," the setup some manosphere influencers are bragging about, and this Halloween episode of Beyond Monogamy, the swinger podcast for ethical non-monogamy, rips the mask off it. Adam and Pris dig into Louis Theroux's Netflix documentary Inside the Manosphere, the Ohio pastor who introduced a "second wife" from the pulpit, and why none of it is ENM.

In this episode:

• One-way monogamy in the manosphere, and the women's faces that said everything
• Trad wives, religion, and how "obedience" gets passed down
• The viral co-pastor announcement, "if they want another husband, they don't want me," and the serious allegations that followed (denied by the couple)
• Polygamy vs. polyamory: not the same thing, not even the same realm
• Power, age gaps, and consent when your pastor calls himself a prophet, from a former seminarian
• The "one penis policy" and the insecurity behind it
• Double standards: why people assume the woman got talked into the swinger lifestyle
• Do women really run the lifestyle? Unicorns, single men, and bulls
• Pris's message to women: your partner is not your owner. Use your voice.

Bottom line: whether it comes from a podcast mic or a pulpit, if the freedom only runs one way, it isn't non-monogamy. It's control with a new label.

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CONNECT WITH US

• Website: beyond-monogamy.com for episodes, blogs, merch, and our FREE livestream every Thursday at 7PM Central
• Anonymous Confessional: Judged for wanting it, or pushed into something that didn't feel mutual? Tell us, 100% anonymously, at beyond-monogamy.com
• FullSwapRadio: Catch us every Thursday at 2PM and 7PM Central at fullswapradio.com

COME SEE US

• Swinger 101 Workshop at Forbidden Fruit, November 15: Real talk on communication, saying no, and doing the lifestyle the ethical way. Come hang with us!
• Krazy Winter Nights, Kansas City, February 19-21: Come play with us! Use code BEYOMONO at KrazyKasbah.com

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Is there such a thing as a "normal" sex drive? Nope. On this Beyond Monogamy QUICKIE, Adam and Pris get real about mismatched sex drives: the high, the low, and everything in between. Adam, the self-proclaimed every-single-day guy, opens up about a recent slowdown in his libido, while Pris, a lifelong take-it-or-leave-it, explains why talking about sex doesn't flip her switch and why cuddles sometimes beat the main event.

Whether you're in the swinger lifestyle, practicing ethical non-monogamy (ENM), or totally monogamous, libido mismatch isn't a lifestyle problem. It's a human one. And this swinger podcast proves the fix starts with one honest conversation.

In this episode:

• Why there's no "normal" number when it comes to sex drive
• How new medications, menopause, and hormones can shift desire
• Stress, sleep, weight, and body image as libido killers
• Why cuddling can feel safer than sex when life gets heavy
• Masturbation for dopamine vs. sex with a partner: the "whole dance"
• The fear of a low-libido season becoming the new normal
• "If one is down, pick up the other": who initiates when desire dips
• Adam's on-air accountability pledge (comment and ask if he got up and walked!)
• When to talk to your partner, your doctor, or a therapist

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Come hang out with us:

Swinger 101 Workshop — Austin, TX — Sunday, November 15, 2026, 6–8 PM at Forbidden Fruit Austin. Light refreshments, a small fee, and two hours to ask us anything. Details on the Sponsors tab at beyond-monogamy.com.

Krazy Winter Nights — Kansas City — February 19–21, 2027. Use code BEYOMONO for a discount at krazykasbh.com.

Full Swap Radio — Catch us every Thursday at 2 PM and 7 PM Central on fullswapradio.com.

Beyond-Monogamy.com — Merch, every episode, our blog, sponsor discounts, and our 100% anonymous confessional. Tell us where your drive lands! beyond-monogamy.com

What would your life look like if non-monogamy had always been normal? A listener voicemail stopped us in our tracks with that question, so Adam & Pris imagine the versions of themselves that never got the chance to exist. We both grew up Catholic in Mexican-American households with a strict script for what a good man and a good woman were supposed to be. This is one of our most personal episodes yet about ethical non-monogamy, the swinger lifestyle, and how culture and religion shape who we love.

In this episode:

• A listener voicemail asks: who would we be if non-monogamy were normal?
• Pris's childhood crushes, growing up bi in a "don't date outside your race or gender" household
• Adam's "girl-crazy" shame and why he thought something was wrong with him
• Would there be less cheating if monogamy and non-monogamy were treated equally?
• Wanting "the one," having a primary, and why poly didn't work for us
• Could either of us ever go back to monogamy?
• Catholic guilt, Adam's time in the seminary, and why he walked away
• Machismo, toxic masculinity, and finding Latinx couples in the lifestyle
• Our alternate-timeline lightning round: who are we dating at 18, and do we still find each other?

Thanks to our sponsor:

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Come hang out with us IRL:

Krazy Winter Nights, Kansas City: February 19–21, 2027. Use code BEYOMONO for a discount at krazykasbh.com

Full Swap Radio: Catch us streaming every Thursday at 2:00 PM and 7:00 PM Central at fullswapradio.com

Tell us your other timeline: Grew up with rules that didn't fit? Share your story in our 100% anonymous confessional at beyond-monogamy.com. While you're there, check out the merch, past episodes, and our blog.

Where do you actually find other swingers? It's the number one question in our inbox, our DMs, and our confessional, so on this QUICKIE, Adam & Pris break down where the swinger lifestyle really lives: online, in person, and in places you might not expect. We draw on 15 years of ethical non-monogamy experience, wins and misfires included.

In this episode:

• How we got started: Adult FriendFinder, Swing Lifestyle, Kik chats, and the pre-app days
• Free vs. paid accounts on SDC, 3Fun, and FetLife, and which ones fit what you want
• Community vs. casual: why chasing friendships beat chasing sex for us
• The Facebook group method: going from public state groups to private local ones
• AI photos, catfishing, fake profiles, and why Pris verifies everybody
• Red flags: pushiness, one-word openers, and couples' profiles that only show one partner
• Swinger clubs, host couples, newbie nights, and low-pressure vanilla meet-and-greets
• Takeovers, lifestyle travel, cruises, workshops, Reddit, and Discord

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Come hang out with us IRL:

Swinger 101 Workshop: November 15 at Forbidden Fruit in Austin, TX. $20 per person, with light refreshments.

Krazy Winter Nights, Kansas City: February 19–21, 2027. Use code BEYOMONO for a discount at krazykasbh.com

Full Swap Radio: Catch us streaming every Thursday at 2:00 PM and 7:00 PM Central.

Join our community: Visit beyond-monogamy.com for merch, every episode, our blog, our 100% anonymous confessional, and the "Join Our Community" link to our Facebook group.

New here? Start with this Quickie Mashup! We took two of our favorite past QUICKIE episodes and put them back to back, so new listeners can catch up on the swinger lifestyle and ethical non-monogamy (ENM) talk you might have missed.

Quickie #1: The P-Spot Confessional. A listener writes in about prostate play and what it does for him, and it starts a very real conversation. Adam gets candid about an early experience that happened without consent, why toxic masculinity keeps men from talking about male pleasure, and whether he's ready to explore it with Pris. Then we share a practical starter guide: talk first, start slow, and use plenty of lube.

Quickie #2: Sluttiness. What actually makes someone a "slut"? We dig into where the word came from in the 1400s, the double standard between men and women, slut-shaming inside and outside the lifestyle, Adam's hotwife kink, Pris learning to date solo, and why sexual freedom is such a turn-on in an open relationship.

• Prostate play, the P-spot and male pleasure
• Consent, vulnerability and "finding your no"
• Toxic masculinity and the "I ain't gay" myth
• The history of the word slut and the double standard
• Alcohol, THC and lowered inhibitions
• Hotwife fantasies, solo dates and insecurity after 15 years in the lifestyle
• Slut-shaming in the swinger community

CONNECT WITH US

🌐 Website: beyond-monogamy.com. Full episodes, quickies, blog, merch and our guest lineup.

🤫 Anonymous Confessional: Got something on your mind about the lifestyle, ENM, kink or the show? Drop it 100% anonymously at beyond-monogamy.com. It might end up on a quickie!

📻 FullSwapRadio: Catch us on fullswapradio.com Thursdays at 2 PM and 7 PM Central.

UPCOMING EVENT

❄️ Krazy Winter Nights, Kansas City, Feb 19–21, 2027. Use code BEYOMONO for your discount at krazykasbh.com.

OUR SPONSORS (use our links, they support the show!)

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The swinger lifestyle sells candlelight, lingerie, and flawless bodies. Then somebody's calf locks up mid-threesome. On this Quickie episode of Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris, the swinger podcast for ethical non-monogamy and open relationships, we tell on ourselves about the part of sex nobody puts in the highlight reel: the noises, the sweat, the cramps, and every moment your body decides to do its own thing in a room full of people.

Bodies are gross, add more bodies and you get more gross, and laughing it off might be the sexiest skill in the lifestyle.

In this episode:

• Why real full swaps and threesomes aren't Cinemax (sadly, no saxophone guy)
• Sweating in hot hotel rooms, and why towels and mini fans are lifestyle essentials
• Queefing: why it happens, the core and Kegel trick, and how a wedge pillow helps
• Guy stuff: gas anxiety, needing to pee mid-swap, and protecting the gems
• Growling stomachs, squeaky beds, slurping vs. gagging, and other sounds
• Bad breath, heavy breathing, squirting, and getting over the "ick"
• Leg cramps mid-play: hydrate, stretch, and work through it
• When it stops being funny: dizziness, chest pain, and knowing when to stop

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📅 Swinger 101 Workshop: Sunday, Nov 15, Forbidden Fruit, Austin, TX. $20/person, light refreshments, real talk, and full access to us for all the questions you've been too nervous to ask.

📅 Krazy Winter Nights: Feb 19–21, 2027, Kansas City. Use code BEYOMONO at krazykasbh.com

📻 FullSwapRadio: catch us every Thursday at 2 PM and 7 PM Central at fullswapradio.com

📺 Beyond Monogamy LIVE: our FREE livestream, every Thursday at 7 PM Central at beyond-monogamy.com

🤫 Got a mortifying story? Drop your messiest bodily-embarrassment moments in our 100% anonymous confessional at beyond-monogamy.com. We read every single one, and yours might end up on a future show. Full episodes, quickies, blogs, and merch live there too.

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Ever wondered what makes Shibari different from tying your partner to the bedpost? This week on Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris, the swinger podcast for the ethically non-monogamous and kink-curious, we get happily tangled up with Travis of Shibari Sessions, a Houston rigger, teacher, and community builder who ties more than 100 people a year.

Travis walks us through the 500-year history of Japanese rope bondage (Shibari vs. kinbaku), why rope can be "pretty or sexy but not both," and how consent and safety actually work when someone is suspended off the ground. Whether you're an experienced swinger or new to ENM and kink, this is your friendly rope 101.

In this episode:

• How Travis found rope, and why a 101 class alone won't make you fall in love with it
• Shibari vs. kinbaku vs. Western rope bondage
• Rope safety: circulation, numbness vs. tingling, and the finger-squeeze test
• First suspensions, rated up lines, and why safety shears are non-negotiable
• Bringing rope into the bedroom (or dungeon) for couples and swingers
• Rope etiquette at swing clubs and kink events
• ShibARTi, Houston's Shibari art exhibition

Find Travis: shibarisessions.com, with private lessons, the Rope Library, and the free Tied Together directory of 857+ Shibari groups, classes, and shops worldwide.

Learn rope in Houston: Bound HTX runs affordable 101 and themed classes every month.

📅 ShibARTi: Saturday, Nov 14, Montrose Center, Houston. 40 rope artists, gallery style. Sessions 4–6 PM and 7–9 PM (separately ticketed; judging and awards in the evening session). Beginner-friendly, and we'll be there! Tickets: shibarisessions.com (click ShibARTi)

📅 Swinger 101 Workshop: Sunday, Nov 15, Forbidden Fruit, Austin. $20/person, light refreshments, and a judgment-free space to ask us anything. Rope Saturday, swinging Sunday!

📅 Krazy Winter Nights: Feb 19–21, 2027, Kansas City. We're doing a LIVE show! Use code BEYOMONO at krazykasbah.com

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📻 FullSwapRadio: catch us every Thursday at 2 PM and 7 PM Central at fullswapradio.com

📺 Beyond Monogamy LIVE: our FREE livestream is every Thursday at 7 PM Central at beyond-monogamy.com. You'll also find every episode, our blog, merch, and our 100% anonymous confessional.

Love the show? Follow, subscribe, and leave us a five-star rating wherever you listen. It's how curious couples find us!

What happens if? It's the question nobody in the ENM lifestyle wants to sit with—but Adam & Pris say it's one of the most important conversations you can have. This week's quickie digs into the paperwork, vetting, and emergency plans that swingers, poly folks, and kitchen-table throuples all need but rarely discuss.

In this episode:

• The "what if" scenarios that keep Adam up at night when Pris plays solo
• Why the early Craigslist days of swinging were scarier than they look back now
• Vetting a new play partner: video verification, verified profiles on 3Fun and SDC, and why a driver's license request might be a red flag
• Real talk on medical emergencies during play, and what happened the one time a partner had to be rushed to the hospital
• Emergency contacts and medical decision-making for poly & kitchen-table relationships (HIPAA workarounds included)
• Why disclosing ailments, allergies, and meds like Viagra before you play isn't a vibe-killer—it's a life-saver

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Catch us live: Join Adam & Pris for our FREE livestream every Thursday at 7PM Central at beyond-monogamy.com, where you'll also find every episode, our blog, merch, and our 100% anonymous confessional.

Also on FullSwapRadio: Catch us on FullSwapRadio every Thursday at 2:00 and 7:00 PM Central.

Upcoming events:

• Austin, TX — November 15th at Forbidden Fruit for our Swinger 101 workshop
• Kansas City, MO — Krazy Winter Nights, February 19–21, 2027. Visit krazykasbh.com and use discount code BEYOMONO for a nice little discount

Whether you're deep in the swinger lifestyle, exploring ethical non-monogamy, or building a poly family, this one's your reminder: communication isn't optional—it's the whole game.

Ever catch your swinger brain flirting at the grocery store? Adam and Pris dig into "lifestyle brain" — what happens when your ethical non-monogamy instincts sneak into regular vanilla life, and why it's so easy to misread the signals.

This episode covers:

• "Code switching" between swinger mode and vanilla mode
• Why Adam freezes up flirting with vanilla women but not lifestyle women
• How to flirt without being creepy (and the compliments that actually land)
• The hot wife dynamic: fantasy vs. being a real partner
• Is masturbating to someone else cheating? Adam & Pris do NOT agree
• Reading the room when a vanilla person gets curious about ENM

Catch us live: Free livestream every Thursday at 7PM Central at beyond-monogamy.com — episodes, blog, merch, and our 100% anonymous confessional are all there too.

FullSwapRadio: Catch us every Thursday at 2:00 PM and 7:00 PM Central on fullswapradio.com.

Event — Swinger 101 Workshop: November 15th at Forbidden Fruit in Austin. $20/person, light refreshments included. Perfect if you're curious or just getting started.

Event — Krazy Winter Nights: February 19–21, 2027 in Kansas City, Missouri. Adam & Pris will be doing a live show! Grab tickets at krazykasbh.com and use discount code BEYOMONO for a discount.

Sponsor — SwingTap: Build a lifestyle profile once, get a custom link + QR code, and share it instantly via wearables (rings, bracelets, NFC cards) — no more spelling out your SDC username across a loud bar. One-time fee, no subscription. Check it out at swingtap.fun or use our link swingtap.fun/share/beyomono to support the show.

Sponsor — SDC: If your lifestyle brain needs somewhere to go, SDC is where we tell everyone to start. Use code 38236 when you sign up.

All sponsor links and codes are always in the show notes — show them some love, it keeps the show going!

Adam finally gets put in the hot seat. On this quickie episode of Beyond Monogamy, Pris flips the script and grills Adam with rapid-fire, no-dodging questions about dating app reviews, his least sexy skill, jealousy, insecurity, and what really happened when they tried polyamory. It's raw, funny, and surprisingly honest ENM talk.

What's in this episode:

• Adam's brutally honest "dating app review" of himself
• His most useful (and least sexy) skill as a lifestyle husband
• The insecurities every guy feels early in the swinger lifestyle
• Why they tried poly, what they learned, and why they stopped
• How running The Bald Truth content keeps Adam "on the straight and narrow"
• Boundaries, jealousy, and how they navigate different connections in an open relationship

Join us live: Catch the FREE Beyond Monogamy livestream every Thursday at 7PM Central at beyond-monogamy.com — episodes, blog, merch, and our 100% anonymous confessional.

FullSwapRadio: You can also catch us on Full Swap Radio every Thursday at 2:00 PM and 7:00 PM Central.

Upcoming event — Austin, TX: Swinger 101 Workshop at Forbidden Fruit on November 15th.

Upcoming event — Kansas City, MO: Krazy Winter Nights, February 19–21, 2027. Get tickets at krazykasbh.com and use discount code BEYOMONO for a nice little discount.

Sponsor: This episode is brought to you by Spunk Lube — smooth, long-lasting, toy-safe, body-safe lube with no sticky residue. Get 10% off using the link in our show notes.

Swinger lifestyle, ethical non-monogamy, and open relationship talk — this is Beyond Monogamy with Adam & Pris.