Beyond the Borderline

A look, a tone, a side eye... those of us with BPD (EUPD), who identify as emotionally sensitive and/or have been affected by trauma can be affected by other peoples’ non verbal communication in ways that may seem extreme and confusing to others, and sometimes to ourselves. In this minisode I explore why we sometimes experience such emotionally explosive reactions and a few ways we can manage distressing interpersonal communications. Please note: if you are in a significant relationship of any kind with someone who uses non verbal communication to shame, bully or demean you, please seek professional help. For more information on Radical Acceptance, as discussed in this episode: https://psychcentral.com/blog/what-it-really-means-to-practice-radical-acceptance/

How to survive a crisis: Crisis survival skills for when you are emotionally overwhelmed. For more information on the workbook mentioned in this episode: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Skills-Training-Handouts-Worksheets-Second/dp/1572307811/ref=mp_s_a_1_2?keywords=marsha+linehan+dbt+book&qid=1558358604&s=gateway&sprefix=marsha+lune&sr=8-2

I explore why we are often drawn to NPD folks, as well as a coping tip you can use when you find yourself irresistibly drawn to someone who may not be a healthy choice for you. Links: https://www.google.co.uk/amp/s/www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/understanding-narcissism/201711/why-do-narcissists-and-borderlines-fall-in-love%3famp. Narcissistic abuse information: https://narcissisticbehavior.net. Domestic violence (UK): www.womensaid.org.uk. www.refuge.org.uk. Domestic violence (US): Domestic Violence Hotline: 1-800-799-7233. Crisis Line (UK): The Samaritans 116 123 (free number). Crisis Line (US): National Suicide Prevention Helpline - 1-800-273-8255

In this episode I share some of my own experiences in an effort to deconstruct some of the derogatory terms often used to describe people with BPD.

Splitting is the subject of this episode of Beyond the Borderline. I define what splitting is according to my understanding and share some DBT and other tips that have helped me reduce my own splitting episodes. Remember, I am a peer with lived experience of BPD and other mental health issues, NOT a mental health professional. Opinions expressed are my own.

Minisode - I share about a triggering encounter and the role of creativity in my life. I ask you, listeners, to share your experiences of creativity as a healing tool. Tweet me @beyondtheborde3 to voice your opinion.

In this episode I walk you through how to use a Dialectical Behaviour Therapy technique called ABC PLEASE, which can help you regulate your emotions in the short and long term. I share from a peer (not professional) perspective!

Welcome to Episode One of Beyond The Borderline! In this episode I introduce myself and give a brief description of my experience of mental health problems including BPD and how things have changed since I was first diagnosed. I also share one of my favourite tools for when I am struggling with overwhelm, or to self care.