In this episode of Beyond the Norm, I delve into the principles of systemic coaching, focusing on the importance of maintaining a healthy balance in life.

I discuss the concept of balance of exchange, the dangers of overgiving, and the signs of burnout.

I share the 5 secrets to achieving a healthy balance,

1. Emphasising the need for resourcing

2. Right Sizing oneself

3. Honouring past contributions & attending at Endings

4. Setting boundaries

5. Give and Take without any obligation or sense of duty

I share the importance of reflection and acknowledgment.

The episode concludes with a heartfelt gratitude to listeners

Key points:

Chapters

00:00 Introduction to Systemic Coaching and Balance

03:14 Understanding Balance of Exchange

06:00The Impact of Over-giving

08:50 Recognising Signs of Imbalance

12:03 The Importance of Resourcing

14:53 Right Sizing Yourself

17:40 Honouring Hierarchy in Relationships

20:32 Acknowledging Past Contributors

23:00 Setting Boundaries and Saying No

26:09 Creating Closure and Ending Well

28:49 Giving and Taking Without Obligation

31:55 Reflection and Action Steps

34:36 Conclusion and Gratitude

In this episode, I explore the concepts of belonging and authenticity. I talk about how both are intangible yet essential parts of our lives.

Drawing from my own experiences, I reflect on how belonging has shaped my sense of self and the impact it has on my identity. I also dive into the importance of bridging the gap between belonging and authenticity, and how vital it is to find tribes or communities where we can truly be ourselves.

I highlight why prioritising authenticity is so important, and offer support for those of us on this journey towards self-discovery and belonging.

Keywords: belonging, authenticity, sense of self, tribes, communities, bridging, support

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I am so grateful for your listens, kindly can you please rate, review and share this episode with someone who may need some support on their belonging and authenticity right now!

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In this episode, I discuss the misconception that bravery alone drives creative change.

I emphasise that discomfort, not bravery, is actually the primary trigger for these shifts.

I delve into how fear can push us forward and stress the importance of rewriting our own rules and embracing networking.

Additionally, I highlight the role of coaching, the significance of attending to our endings, and the power of resourcing and manifesting our desires.

Throughout this podcast, I stress the importance of embracing vulnerability and not feeling pressured to meet all coaching expectations.

I share insights into the ups and downs of transitions and the necessity of self-compassion.

My personal experiences with attending to endings underscore how crucial this process is for progress. Finally, I discuss the empowering act of manifesting and creating the life we envision.

Keywords: bravery, creative change, discomfort, fear, rewriting rules, networking, coach, endings, resourcing, manifesting, vulnerability, transitions, self-compassion

Takeaways:

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and the Misconception of Bravery

03:23 Embracing Discomfort as the Trigger for Creative Changes

08:35 Harnessing the Power of Fear in Making a Creative Change

11:28 Rewriting the Rules and Defining What is Important

16:42 The Power of Networking and Building a Supportive Community

18:48 The Role of a Coach in Guiding and Supporting the Transition

20:42 Attending to Endings and Finding Closure

23:10 Resourcing Ourselves and Nurturing Our Journey

25:59 Embracing Vulnerability and Imperfection

29:54 Navigating Transitions with Self-Compassion

31:45 The Importance of Attending to Endings

46:08 Manifesting and Creating the Life You Want

Summary

In this episode of the Beyond the Norm podcast, host Norma O'Kelly reflects on her journey of being self-employed for the past 12 months.

She discusses the blocks she encountered and the lessons she learned along the way.

Norma explores the idea of life beyond the corporate bubble and the rules of belonging that keep us in certain systems.

She emphasises the importance of finding one's true purpose and being aligned with it.

Norma also highlights the significance of minding one's energy and being open to new possibilities.

Keywords:

self-employment, corporate life, blocks, purpose, rules of belonging, energy.

Key takeaways

Life beyond the corporate bubble is about exploring what exists outside of the systems we are in.

Belonging and authenticity can sometimes be in conflict, but it is important to honor both.

Leaving the corporate world can bring a new pace of life and a need for rest and self-care.

Finding a supportive community and a coach can be invaluable in navigating the challenges of self-employment.

Minding one's energy and being open to new possibilities are key to success in entrepreneurship.

Belonging vs. Authenticity: Navigating the Conflict

Finding Support and Guidance in a Community and a Coach

Top quotes:

​"There's no growth without guilt."

​"The sea and laughter are a tonic for the soul."

​"Being useful to others is more powerful than just helping them."


Chapters:

00:00 Introduction: Reflecting on the First Year of Self-Employment

03:52 Life Beyond the Corporate Bubble: Questioning the Rules of Belonging

08:57 Finding Belonging and Support in the Journey of Self-Employment

14:12 Uncovering and Overcoming Blocks: Redefining Your Identity

• 27:42 The Power of Energy: Minding Your Frequency
• 37:16 Feedback and Reflection: Essential for Growth and Learning
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Find Norma on:

Her New website; ⁠normaokelly.com⁠

Instagram: ⁠https://www.instagram.com/normaokellysystemiccoach⁠

LinkedIN: ⁠https://www.linkedin.com/in/normaokelly/⁠

Please, review, like and share and thank you so much for your loyalty and listen! Always love to hear from you and what you thought of the episode!

In this chat Norma speaks with Fearghal Curtis (Fearg) is an opera singer, podcast producer and celebrant from Dublin. He is a graduate of DIT Conservatory of Music and Drama, and the Royal Academy of Music, London.

This is a wholesome and heart warming chat between Norma and Feargh and one you will throughly enjoy listening to to kick off 2024.

His instagram handles for follows are:

@fearghc, @celebratewithfeargh and @letstalkaboutthearts

Worth checking out is the Entheos podcast I spoke about is here:

https://open.spotify.com/show/1AOOQBEvxxwHxNYoyge3MS?si=7543abc71a544d2a

Keep an eye on @fearghc on instagram for announcements of his next Curtis Cabaret show.

Nobody escapes it and it comes through so many ways from the loss of a loved one, to grieving a diagnosis of you or a loved one, to hoping and wishing for something like having a child and that dream not being realised. You maybe at home caring for a loved one and feeling anticipatory grief or struggling watching the horrors of war on media.

For all the feelings of grief the intention of this podcast is to remember you are not alone. Although you feel grief uniquely as you there so many that are in parallel feeling their own grief journey.