Beyond the Statistics

Kids don't have to be physically abused to be deeply affected by domestic violence. When children grow up surrounded by fear, conflict, manipulation, or emotional instability, the trauma often follows them long into adulthood.

In this episode of the 1 in 3 Podcast, Ingrid sits down with executive leader, advocate, and author Tricia Gray to explore the lasting impact domestic violence has on children. Drawing from both professional insight and personal experience, Tricia explains how childhood trauma can shape identity, relationships, emotional regulation, and self-worth for years to come.

Together, they discuss:

✔️ How children experience domestic violence even when they aren't the direct target
 ✔️ Signs of childhood trauma, including hypervigilance, perfectionism, people-pleasing, and emotional shutdown
 ✔️ Why "staying for the kids" can create confusion, resentment, and long-term emotional wounds
 ✔️ The survival roles children adopt in abusive homes and how those roles follow them into adulthood
 ✔️ What healing looks like for children exposed to domestic violence
 ✔️ The conversations parents should have after leaving an abusive relationship
 ✔️ How accountability, validation, and honest communication help break generational cycles of abuse

Tricia also shares the inspiration behind her memoir, A Lotus Legacy, which tells the story of domestic violence through the eyes of a child and offers readers a deeper understanding of the lifelong effects of childhood trauma.

If you're interested in trauma-informed parenting, childhood trauma recovery, child advocacy, domestic violence awareness, or breaking the cycle of abuse, this episode offers valuable insight and hope.

🎙 Subscribe to the 1 in 3 Podcast, leave a review, and share this episode to help raise awareness about the often-overlooked impact domestic violence has on children.

This podcast is intended for mature audiences. Some listeners may find the content distressing as episodes may include discussions of violence, human trafficking, and other forms of abuse, including emotional, psychological, sexual, financial, and physical. In many cases, names have been changed to protect those involved. Please note that the statements and opinions expressed by guests do not necessarily reflect my own.

Support the show

If you are in the United States and need immediate support, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline by calling 800-799-SAFE (7233) or texting START to 88788. If you're outside the United States, crisis resources are available at BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast.com/GetHelp.

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Every story shared helps another survivor know they are not alone.

Music: Tim Crowe

Some stories don't just break your heart—they remind you that healing is possible.

In this powerful episode of the 1 in 3 Podcast, Ingrid sits down with survivor, entrepreneur, author, and advocate Rita Cartwright to discuss how faith helped her navigate domestic abuse, infidelity, profound grief, and unimaginable loss.

Rita shares her personal journey of rebuilding her life, the inspiration behind her book How To Heal Your Broken Heart, and why healing isn't a destination—it's a daily practice.

Together, they explore:

✔ Healing from domestic violence and emotional trauma
✔ Faith-based recovery after abuse
✔ Rebuilding trust after betrayal and infidelity
✔ The role of prayer during life's darkest moments
✔ Forgiveness, boundaries, and personal safety
✔ Spiritual abuse and harmful messages survivors may encounter in faith communities
✔ Finding peace after loss and heartbreak
✔ Financial independence for survivors through entrepreneurship

Rita also discusses her nonprofit, Go Beyond The Limit, which empowers women survivors of domestic violence through online entrepreneurship training, helping them create financial freedom and a fresh start.

The conversation tackles difficult but important questions:

•  Why doesn't God stop abuse? 
•  How do you pray when you're angry, exhausted, or struggling with doubt? 
•  What does forgiveness really look like after trauma? 
•  Can faith and boundaries coexist? 

Rita closes with a heartfelt prayer for anyone walking through pain, grief, or recovery.

If you or someone you love is healing from domestic abuse, emotional abuse, trauma, betrayal, or loss, this episode offers hope, practical wisdom, and encouragement for the journey ahead.

🎙 Subscribe to the 1 in 3 Podcast for more survivor-centered conversations about domestic violence awareness, trauma recovery, coercive control, emotional abuse, and healing.

Rita’s Links:

https://www.1in3podcast.com/guests/rita-cartwright/

https://kp-pub.com/books/how-to-heal-your-broken-heart/

https://gobeyondthelimit.org/

https://rjsdigitalsolutions.com/

https://a.co/d/0gS69gNA

https://www.facebook.com/rita.cartwright

This podcast is intended for mature audiences. Some listeners may find the content distressing as episodes may include discussions of violence, human trafficking, and other forms of abuse, including emotional, psychological, sexual, financial, and physical. In many cases, names have been changed to protect those involved. Please note that the statements and opinions expressed by guests do not necessarily reflect my own.

Support the show

If you are in the United States and need immediate support, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline by calling 800-799-SAFE (7233) or texting START to 88788. If you're outside the United States, crisis resources are available at BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast.com/GetHelp.

Connect with Beyond the Statistics:

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📧 Email: [email protected]
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If today’s conversation meant something to you, subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode. And if you’d like to continue the conversation beyond the episode, I’d love to have you join us in the Beyond the Statistics Community.

Every story shared helps another survivor know they are not alone.

Music: Tim Crowe

When parents age, society often assumes adult children should automatically step in and provide care. But what happens when the parent needing help is also the person who caused years of emotional harm, manipulation, or trauma?

In this episode of the 1 in 3 Podcast, Ingrid sits down with elder care educator and advocate Amy Friesen to unpack the complicated reality of parental estrangement, caregiving boundaries, and healing from toxic family dynamics.

Amy shares both professional insight and lived experience as the conversation explores:

•  Estrangement and aging parents 
•  Caregiving boundaries in toxic families 
•  Complex PTSD and chronic stress 
•  The emotional weight adult daughters and sons carry 
•  “Revoked role grief” and mourning the parent-child relationship you deserved 
•  Why family pressure can feel overwhelming 
•  How millennials are changing conversations around family trauma 
•  Healing through journaling, boundaries, and support systems 
•  Planning responsibly while protecting your peace 

Amy also introduces a practical caregiving framework built around three options: full access, limited access, and no access — helping listeners understand that caregiving decisions are not one-size-fits-all.

If you’ve ever wrestled with questions like:
 “What do I owe my parents?”
 “Can I care about someone and still need distance?”
 “How do I protect my mental health while planning for aging parents?”

…this episode is for you.

Subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode with someone navigating complicated family relationships or elder care decisions.

Amy’s Links: 

https://www.beyondthestatisticspodcast.com/guests/amy-friesen/

 https://www.amyfriesen.com/

https://www.instagram.com/lifeinthesandwich/

https://www.youtube.com/@amy.friesen

https://www.linkedin.com/in/meetamyfriesen/

https://www.amazon.com/Breadcrumbs-Familys-through-Eldercare-Journey/dp/1777235111/ref=sr_1_1?crid=26UZY9UVV87TY&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.0dPuC_OWFThSDl1gGPvCvA.klLw10FtYN8I75P_urXs3vrxuaWAeRRBGL6hI-UViC0&dib_tag=se&keywords=breadcrumbs+from+homecare+to+care+homes&qid=1776088683&sprefix=breadcrumbs+from+homecare+to+care+homes%2Caps%2C135&sr=8-1

This podcast is intended for mature audiences. Some listeners may find the content distressing as episodes may include discussions of violence, human trafficking, and other forms of abuse, including emotional, psychological, sexual, financial, and physical. In many cases, names have been changed to protect those involved. Please note that the statements and opinions expressed by guests do not necessarily reflect my own.

Support the show

If you are in the United States and need immediate support, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline by calling 800-799-SAFE (7233) or texting START to 88788. If you're outside the United States, crisis resources are available at BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast.com/GetHelp.

Connect with Beyond the Statistics:

🌐 Website: https://www.BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast.com
💜 Join the Beyond the Statistics Community: https://www.patreon.com/BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast
📧 Email: [email protected]
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If today’s conversation meant something to you, subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode. And if you’d like to continue the conversation beyond the episode, I’d love to have you join us in the Beyond the Statistics Community.

Every story shared helps another survivor know they are not alone.

Music: Tim Crowe

Trafficking is not always a stranger in a parking lot or a dramatic abduction story. Sometimes it looks like coercive control inside a relationship, grooming by an older partner, or manipulation powered by fear, shame, and trauma bonds.

In this episode of 1 in 3, Ingrid sits down with former FBI agent and retired SWAT operator Eric Robinson to unpack what sex trafficking actually looks like under federal law—and why so many victims remain hidden in plain sight.

Eric shares insights from years investigating human trafficking, exploitation, and abuse cases, including:

•  The real meaning of force, fraud, and coercion 
•  How traffickers use grooming, isolation, gaslighting, and DARVO 
•  Why trafficking and domestic violence often overlap 
•  Common warning signs investigators notice first 
•  Online exploitation, risky apps, and digital safety for teens 
•  How networks like 764 target vulnerable youth through loneliness and self-harm 
•  Trauma bonds, runaway youth, and why victims often don’t leave 
•  Practical ways communities can support survivors 

This conversation challenges common myths about trafficking while providing practical education for parents, advocates, educators, and anyone wanting to better recognize exploitation and coercive control.

If this episode resonates with you, subscribe to 1 in 3, leave a review, and share this conversation to help raise awareness around human trafficking prevention and survivor advocacy.

Eric’s Links: 

https://www.beyondthestatisticspodcast.com/guests/eric-robinson/

https://www.instagram.com/_eric_robinson/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/eric-robinson-9220053a4/

This podcast is intended for mature audiences. Some listeners may find the content distressing as episodes may include discussions of violence, human trafficking, and other forms of abuse, including emotional, psychological, sexual, financial, and physical. In many cases, names have been changed to protect those involved. Please note that the statements and opinions expressed by guests do not necessarily reflect my own.

Support the show

If you are in the United States and need immediate support, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline by calling 800-799-SAFE (7233) or texting START to 88788. If you're outside the United States, crisis resources are available at BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast.com/GetHelp.

Connect with Beyond the Statistics:

🌐 Website: https://www.BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast.com
💜 Join the Beyond the Statistics Community: https://www.patreon.com/BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast
📧 Email: [email protected]
📱 Follow on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn, TikTok, YouTube, and X: @BeyondStatsPod

If today’s conversation meant something to you, subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode. And if you’d like to continue the conversation beyond the episode, I’d love to have you join us in the Beyond the Statistics Community.

Every story shared helps another survivor know they are not alone.

Music: Tim Crowe

Love shouldn’t feel like a test you keep failing — but coercive control often starts quietly, gradually, and disguised as romance.

In this episode of the 1 in 3 Podcast, Ingrid is joined by Jas Rawlinson, coercive control educator, domestic violence awareness advocate, and creator of Red Flags 101, for a practical and eye-opening conversation about the relationship warning signs people are taught to ignore.

Together, they unpack:
• coercive control and emotional abuse
• love bombing and gaslighting
• isolation, manipulation, and guilt tactics
• sexual coercion and financial abuse
• toxic dating behaviors normalized by culture
• people-pleasing and boundary setting
• warning signs parents should watch for in teens

Jas explains how coercive control works as a gradual pattern of boundary violations that can reshape a person’s confidence, independence, and sense of reality long before physical violence occurs.

This conversation is especially important for teens, young adults, parents, survivors, and anyone learning what healthy relationships should actually feel like.

If this episode resonates with you, subscribe to the 1 in 3 Podcast, share it with someone who may need support, and leave a rating and review to help more survivors and families find these conversations.

Here are some resources from Jas!

14 Red Flags You Should Never Ignore - Jas Rawlinson (FREE resource) 

Jas Rawlinson's books www.jasrawlinson.com/books

Red Flags 101 program www.jasrawlinson.com/redflags 

Jas’ Links: 

https://www.beyondthestatisticspodcast.com/guests/jas-rawlinson/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/jas-rawlinson/

https://www.instagram.com/jas_rawlinson/

https://www.facebook.com/jasrawlinsonauthor

https://www.tiktok.com/@jasrawlinson_advocate

This podcast is intended for mature audiences. Some listeners may find the content distressing as episodes may include discussions of violence, human trafficking, and other forms of abuse, including emotional, psychological, sexual, financial, and physical. In many cases, names have been changed to protect those involved. Please note that the statements and opinions expressed by guests do not necessarily reflect my own.

Support the show

If you are in the United States and need immediate support, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline by calling 800-799-SAFE (7233) or texting START to 88788. If you're outside the United States, crisis resources are available at BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast.com/GetHelp.

Connect with Beyond the Statistics:

🌐 Website: https://www.BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast.com
💜 Join the Beyond the Statistics Community: https://www.patreon.com/BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast
📧 Email: [email protected]
📱 Follow on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn, TikTok, YouTube, and X: @BeyondStatsPod

If today’s conversation meant something to you, subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode. And if you’d like to continue the conversation beyond the episode, I’d love to have you join us in the Beyond the Statistics Community.

Every story shared helps another survivor know they are not alone.

Music: Tim Crowe

A breakup should be an ending—not a new battlefield.

In this episode of 1 in 3, Ingrid sits down with Jane, an ER nurse who shares her experience with coercive control, narcissistic abuse, and the devastating reality of legal abuse after separation.

What started as charm, fast attachment, and love bombing quickly turned into gaslighting, isolation, and fear. When Jane finally said “no,” her ex escalated—not just emotionally, but legally. Through restraining order manipulation, altered documents, and relentless court filings, he used the legal system as a tool of control.

Jane shares:

•  How coercive control often begins subtly through online dating and love bombing 
•  The hidden dangers of post-separation abuse and litigation abuse 
•  How abusers misuse restraining orders and legal processes 
•  The psychological impact of emotional abuse and invisible trauma 

If you’re trying to understand abuse tactics, gaslighting, stalking, or legal system abuse, this conversation gives language to what so many survivors experience but struggle to explain.

🎧 Subscribe, share, and leave a review to help more survivors find these stories.

This podcast is intended for mature audiences. Some listeners may find the content distressing as episodes may include discussions of violence, human trafficking, and other forms of abuse, including emotional, psychological, sexual, financial, and physical. In many cases, names have been changed to protect those involved. Please note that the statements and opinions expressed by guests do not necessarily reflect my own.

Support the show

If you are in the United States and need immediate support, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline by calling 800-799-SAFE (7233) or texting START to 88788. If you're outside the United States, crisis resources are available at BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast.com/GetHelp.

Connect with Beyond the Statistics:

🌐 Website: https://www.BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast.com
💜 Join the Beyond the Statistics Community: https://www.patreon.com/BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast
📧 Email: [email protected]
📱 Follow on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn, TikTok, YouTube, and X: @BeyondStatsPod

If today’s conversation meant something to you, subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode. And if you’d like to continue the conversation beyond the episode, I’d love to have you join us in the Beyond the Statistics Community.

Every story shared helps another survivor know they are not alone.

Music: Tim Crowe

1 in 3 is intended for mature audiences. Episodes contain explicit content and may be triggering to some.

Support the show

If you are in the United States and need help right now, call the national domestic violence hotline at 800-799-7233 or text the word “start” to 88788.
 
 Contact 1 in 3:

• Send your emails to [email protected]
• Follow on Facebook, Instagram, and TikTok @1in3podcast
• Check out the website  https://www.1in3podcast.com/

Thank you for listening!

Cover art by Laura Swift Dahlke
Music by Tim Crowe

Family court is often where survivors turn for protection—but it can also be where abuse continues in new ways.

In this episode of 1 in 3, Ingrid sits down with Attorney Meg Groff to break down what survivors are really up against when navigating the legal system. From filing a protection from abuse order to facing high-stakes custody decisions, Meg shares how the system can both protect—and fail—those most at risk.

We cover:

•  What happens when you file a protective order and why temporary orders are critical 
•  The high-risk separation period and how abusers use the court system 
•  How state laws define abuse differently (and why it matters) 
•  The role of financial control in keeping survivors trapped 
•  Why free legal aid and court advocacy can change outcomes 
•  The reality of custody battles, including parental alienation claims 
•  How courts misinterpret coercive control and survivor behavior 
•  The impact of Kayden’s Law and why child safety must come first 

Meg also shares insights from her book Not If I Can Help It, offering practical language and strategies to help survivors better prepare for court.

If you or someone you love is navigating domestic violence and family court, this conversation is essential.

👉 Subscribe, share, and leave a review to help more survivors and advocates find this information.

Meg’s Links:

https://www.meggroff.com/

https://x.com/MegGroffAuthor

https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61571087065596

https://www.linkedin.com/in/meg-groff-b4295891/

This podcast is intended for mature audiences. Some listeners may find the content distressing as episodes may include discussions of violence, human trafficking, and other forms of abuse, including emotional, psychological, sexual, financial, and physical. In many cases, names have been changed to protect those involved. Please note that the statements and opinions expressed by guests do not necessarily reflect my own.

Support the show

If you are in the United States and need immediate support, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline by calling 800-799-SAFE (7233) or texting START to 88788. If you're outside the United States, crisis resources are available at BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast.com/GetHelp.

Connect with Beyond the Statistics:

🌐 Website: https://www.BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast.com
💜 Join the Beyond the Statistics Community: https://www.patreon.com/BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast
📧 Email: [email protected]
📱 Follow on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn, TikTok, YouTube, and X: @BeyondStatsPod

If today’s conversation meant something to you, subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode. And if you’d like to continue the conversation beyond the episode, I’d love to have you join us in the Beyond the Statistics Community.

Every story shared helps another survivor know they are not alone.

Music: Tim Crowe

When someone leaves an abusive relationship, many believe the danger is over — but for countless survivors, the fight simply moves into family court.

In Episode 114 of the 1 in 3 Podcast, Ingrid sits down with survivor and health practitioner Dr. Danielle Duperret to explore legal abuse, coercive control, and post-separation abuse inside custody litigation.

Together, they unpack how abuse can continue through the legal system, including:

•  Custody battles shaped by false narratives 
•  Protective parents labeled unstable 
•  CPS records overlooked or minimized 
•  Supervised visitation that never materializes 
•  Why “just co-parent” advice fails in abusive dynamics 

Dr. Danielle shares her lived experience navigating family court while protecting her children and explains what Legal Abuse Syndrome looks like when chronic litigation stress impacts mental health, identity, and physical wellbeing.

The conversation then turns toward recovery and regulation. Learn practical tools for managing court-triggered PTSD, including:

•  Separating facts from emotional activation 
•  EFT tapping techniques 
•  Guided imagery and grounding exercises 
•  Staying present during high-stress hearings 

If you are a survivor, protective parent, advocate, or professional working in domestic violence or family court systems, this episode offers validation, language, and actionable strategies.

Subscribe to the 1 in 3 Podcast for conversations on:
domestic violence awareness, coercive control, family court reform, trauma recovery, and survivor healing.

⭐ If this episode helped you, share it and leave a review so more survivors can find support.

Dr. Danielle’s Links: 

https://www.beyondthestatisticspodcast.com/guests/danielle-j-duperret/

https://healthwisdomacademy.com/

https://x.com/thrivewithdrd

https://www.instagram.com/holisticdrdanielle

https://www.youtube.com/@thrivewithdrd

https://www.linkedin.com/in/daniellejduperret/

https://www.facebook.com/danielle.duperret/

This podcast is intended for mature audiences. Some listeners may find the content distressing as episodes may include discussions of violence, human trafficking, and other forms of abuse, including emotional, psychological, sexual, financial, and physical. In many cases, names have been changed to protect those involved. Please note that the statements and opinions expressed by guests do not necessarily reflect my own.

Support the show

If you are in the United States and need immediate support, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline by calling 800-799-SAFE (7233) or texting START to 88788. If you're outside the United States, crisis resources are available at BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast.com/GetHelp.

Connect with Beyond the Statistics:

🌐 Website: https://www.BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast.com
💜 Join the Beyond the Statistics Community: https://www.patreon.com/BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast
📧 Email: [email protected]
📱 Follow on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn, TikTok, YouTube, and X: @BeyondStatsPod

If today’s conversation meant something to you, subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode. And if you’d like to continue the conversation beyond the episode, I’d love to have you join us in the Beyond the Statistics Community.

Every story shared helps another survivor know they are not alone.

Music: Tim Crowe

Many domestic violence stories end with escape and a clean “happily ever after.” Real survivor experiences are often far more complex.

In this episode of 1 in 3, Ingrid speaks with author Deanna Kay about her debut novel The Measure of Enough and the real-world survivor experiences that shaped its story. The conversation explores why emotional scars can remain long after safety is rebuilt — and why honest representation of abuse in fiction matters for awareness, education, and empathy.

Discussion includes:

•  Hidden forms of domestic violence and coercive control 
•  Emotional, verbal, physical, and sexual abuse beyond common stereotypes 
•  Early warning signs like isolation, manipulation, and control 
•  How abuse can remain invisible inside “perfect” families 
•  Supporting someone experiencing abuse without accusation 
•  Body image, eating disorders, and vulnerability in controlling relationships 
•  Writing, publishing, rejection, and telling survivor-centered stories responsibly 

Set against a Texas backdrop, The Measure of Enough follows Casey, a young social worker confronting family secrets and misinformation — opening a broader conversation about perception, trauma, and healing.

Subscribe, share, and leave a rating to help more listeners find conversations that expand domestic violence awareness and survivor education.

Deonna’s Links:

https://www.beyondthestatisticspodcast.com/guests/deonna-kay/

https://deonnakay.com/

https://www.instagram.com/deonnakaybooks

https://www.facebook.com/deonnakayauthor

https://www.amazon.com/Measure-Enough-Deonna-Kay/dp/B0F4S887TC

This podcast is intended for mature audiences. Some listeners may find the content distressing as episodes may include discussions of violence, human trafficking, and other forms of abuse, including emotional, psychological, sexual, financial, and physical. In many cases, names have been changed to protect those involved. Please note that the statements and opinions expressed by guests do not necessarily reflect my own.

Support the show

If you are in the United States and need immediate support, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline by calling 800-799-SAFE (7233) or texting START to 88788. If you're outside the United States, crisis resources are available at BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast.com/GetHelp.

Connect with Beyond the Statistics:

🌐 Website: https://www.BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast.com
💜 Join the Beyond the Statistics Community: https://www.patreon.com/BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast
📧 Email: [email protected]
📱 Follow on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn, TikTok, YouTube, and X: @BeyondStatsPod

If today’s conversation meant something to you, subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode. And if you’d like to continue the conversation beyond the episode, I’d love to have you join us in the Beyond the Statistics Community.

Every story shared helps another survivor know they are not alone.

Music: Tim Crowe