Beyond the Statistics

In this episode of 1 in 3, Ingrid sits down with Becca to unpack how reconnecting with someone from her past quickly escalated into coercive control, domestic violence, and physical abuse—and ultimately led to the devastating discovery of grooming and sexual assault against her child.

Becca walks us through the timeline in clear, unflinching detail: intense love-bombing and a rushed marriage, early red flags during pregnancy, isolation and alcohol-fueled conflict during COVID, and the shift from gaslighting to physical violence. Everything changes when her child discloses the abuse—forcing Becca to make urgent decisions to protect her children and involve law enforcement.

From there, we go inside the criminal justice process, breaking down what survivors rarely hear explained: investigation barriers like hospital privacy laws and unstable housing, how missed leads can stall cases, and how a single Facebook message helped police locate the suspect. Becca explains the long months of court delays, mental health evaluations, a public defender change, and what a tier three sex offender designation and no-contact orders mean for long-term safety.

Beyond the courtroom, this conversation focuses on healing and prevention—how to recognize coercive control early, why abuse often escalates during pregnancy, and what grooming can look like when it hides behind “friendship.” Becca also shares why she’s working to terminate parental rights, how therapy is helping her children regain confidence, and the truth every survivor needs to hear:

It’s not your fault.

If any part of this story mirrors your own, you are not alone.
 Subscribe, share this episode with someone who needs it, and leave a review to help more survivors find the language—and courage—to act.

This podcast is intended for mature audiences. Some listeners may find the content distressing as episodes may include discussions of violence, human trafficking, and other forms of abuse, including emotional, psychological, sexual, financial, and physical. In many cases, names have been changed to protect those involved. Please note that the statements and opinions expressed by guests do not necessarily reflect my own.

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If you are in the United States and need immediate support, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline by calling 800-799-SAFE (7233) or texting START to 88788. If you're outside the United States, crisis resources are available at BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast.com/GetHelp.

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Every story shared helps another survivor know they are not alone.

Music: Tim Crowe

What if the most dangerous abuse leaves no bruises?

In this episode of 1 in 3, Ingrid is joined by Dr. Lisa to unpack coercive control—a form of abuse that often hides behind charm, faith language, and “helpful” or respected personas. We explore how relationships that begin with love bombing, future faking, and devotion slowly shift into gaslighting, DARVO, isolation, and financial dependence, causing even the most capable people to doubt their own reality.

This conversation breaks down why focusing on labels like narcissist or sociopath can distract from what truly matters: patterns of behavior over time. Dr. Lisa explains why couples counseling is often unsafe in abusive relationships, how therapeutic language can be weaponized, and how spiritual gaslighting keeps survivors over-functioning, compliant, and silent.

Grounded in lived experience, we name the tactics of coercive abuse—including isolation disguised as romance, submission framed as faith, and love bombing used as data mining. Most importantly, we map a way forward. You’ll learn how to recognize coercive control, document behavioral patterns, rebuild financial clarity, and measure real change through sustained actions—not apologies.

Whether you’re staying, questioning, or planning an exit, you deserve informed choices, safety, and a life aligned with your values.

If this episode resonates, share it with someone who needs language for what they’re experiencing. Subscribe, leave a review, and help others find these life-saving conversations.

Dr. Lisa’s links:

https://www.beyondthestatisticspodcast.com/guests/dr-lisa-dawn-fox/ 

https://www.shadowandsoul.com/

https://www.instagram.com/shadowandsoul_

https://www.linkedin.com/in/drlisadawnfox/

This podcast is intended for mature audiences. Some listeners may find the content distressing as episodes may include discussions of violence, human trafficking, and other forms of abuse, including emotional, psychological, sexual, financial, and physical. In many cases, names have been changed to protect those involved. Please note that the statements and opinions expressed by guests do not necessarily reflect my own.

Support the show

If you are in the United States and need immediate support, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline by calling 800-799-SAFE (7233) or texting START to 88788. If you're outside the United States, crisis resources are available at BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast.com/GetHelp.

Connect with Beyond the Statistics:

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📧 Email: [email protected]
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Every story shared helps another survivor know they are not alone.

Music: Tim Crowe

The most dangerous abusers aren’t always loud. Sometimes they appear kind, generous, and adored—until the door closes. In this episode, Ingrid sits down with Mia Hanks, author and survivor of covert narcissistic abuse, to unpack life with a narcissist: from the dizzying highs of love bombing to the slow drain of gaslighting, blame-shifting, and identity erasure.

Mia shares practical tools for recognizing abuse, why couples therapy can backfire, and how to safely plan a low-contact exit. She also explores the messy, hopeful work of rebuilding: reclaiming your voice, making independent choices, and finding freedom after abuse.

If you or someone you love is navigating narcissistic abuse, this episode offers validation, guidance, and red flags to watch.

Mia’s links:

https://www.1in3podcast.com/guests/mia-hanks/

https://miajhanks.com/

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hHp52nlNorg

https://www.instagram.com/npd.andme/

https://www.amazon.com/Bride-Made-Memoir-Mia-J-Hanks/dp/B0CVC322MF/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&dib_tag=se&dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.loREoGm50wrUS4v546Y8eKVjM5nQbYpFDitnLmtuIHwXuuS0AATtGKvUqvzg-oalCZuLRigPdqPUkta4OiWzSg.nsfFC9-W7XAl_LEEZgPdfcZMv8SlXPmXvNVFVtshnkc&qid=1752202383&sr=8-1

https://www.tiktok.com/@npdandme

This podcast is intended for mature audiences. Some listeners may find the content distressing as episodes may include discussions of violence, human trafficking, and other forms of abuse, including emotional, psychological, sexual, financial, and physical. In many cases, names have been changed to protect those involved. Please note that the statements and opinions expressed by guests do not necessarily reflect my own.

Support the show

If you are in the United States and need immediate support, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline by calling 800-799-SAFE (7233) or texting START to 88788. If you're outside the United States, crisis resources are available at BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast.com/GetHelp.

Connect with Beyond the Statistics:

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📧 Email: [email protected]
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Every story shared helps another survivor know they are not alone.

Music: Tim Crowe

What if justice isn’t a courtroom verdict, but the peace that comes from telling the truth?

On this episode of the 1 in 3 Podcast, Ingrid sits down with Kath Essing, author of The Courage to Speak Your Truth: Shifting the Narrative on Childhood Sexual Abuse, for a powerful conversation about healing when the legal system cannot deliver a conviction.

Kath shares how suppressed memories of childhood sexual abuse resurfaced in adulthood, why survivors often shift their language from “abuse” to “rape,” and how reclaiming accurate words can be a critical step in trauma recovery. She walks us through an 18-month police investigation, the emotional precision required during a four-hour official statement, and a facilitated call with her abuser—a moment that allowed her to reclaim her voice and return misplaced shame.

Together, Ingrid and Kath unpack the myths that keep survivors silent, including the “stranger danger” narrative, misconceptions about what perpetrators look like, and the unrealistic expectation that survivors must present as a “perfect witness.” Kath also explains how poetry and writing became a lifeline—capturing moments of crisis with clarity and helping loved ones fully understand her experience.

This episode explores the layered path to healing from sexual trauma, including talk therapy, somatic work, meditation, medication when needed, and daily practices that support mind, body, and spirit. Kath shares how she transformed resentment into connection through storytelling—and how naming the truth created space for peace.

As a mother, Kath discusses how to break cycles of abuse without fear-mongering: trusting intuition, maintaining open communication with children, and teaching that speaking up is an act of strength. The conversation also covers historical sexual abuse reporting, emerging technology that links survivor reports, and the importance of setting personal goals for reporting to make the process empowering rather than retraumatizing.

If you or someone you love is navigating childhood sexual abuse, suppressed memory, trauma recovery, or reporting historical abuse, this episode offers practical insight, hard-won wisdom, and a grounded reminder: you deserve peace.

If this episode resonates, subscribe to the 1 in 3 Podcast, share it with someone who needs support, and leave a review to help more survivors find this resource.

Kath’s links:

https://www.bespeak.au/

https://www.linkedin.com/in/kathessing/

https://www.instagram.com/kath_essing

https://www.facebook.com/bespeakconsultancy

https://www.amazon.com.au/Courage-Speak-Your-Truth-Narrative/dp/0648758060

This podcast is intended for mature audiences. Some listeners may find the content distressing as episodes may include discussions of violence, human trafficking, and other forms of abuse, including emotional, psychological, sexual, financial, and physical. In many cases, names have been changed to protect those involved. Please note that the statements and opinions expressed by guests do not necessarily reflect my own.

Support the show

If you are in the United States and need immediate support, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline by calling 800-799-SAFE (7233) or texting START to 88788. If you're outside the United States, crisis resources are available at BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast.com/GetHelp.

Connect with Beyond the Statistics:

🌐 Website: https://www.BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast.com
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📧 Email: [email protected]
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If today’s conversation meant something to you, subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode. And if you’d like to continue the conversation beyond the episode, I’d love to have you join us in the Beyond the Statistics Community.

Every story shared helps another survivor know they are not alone.

Music: Tim Crowe

What if the person most likely to spot early signs of domestic violence isn’t a police officer, clinician, or counselor—but your hairstylist? In this episode of the 1in3 Podcast, Ingrid sits down with salon owner and advocate Susanne Shepherd Post to reveal how Shear Haven is transforming everyday salon appointments into potentially life-saving interactions through a free, 20-minute domestic violence training.

Susanne shares how a short news clip about an Illinois law sparked a statewide movement in Tennessee. Starting with in-person trainings through the YWCA, she discovered a powerful truth: stylists often hear the earliest indicators of abuse—sudden schedule changes, love-bombing, isolation from friends, controlling partners—long before physical signs ever appear.

The Shear Haven training teaches beauty professionals how to listen without judgment, recognize warning signs of domestic violence, and offer safe, appropriate resources. It emphasizes clear boundaries too: stylists are not therapists or mandatory reporters—just trusted, consistent humans who can hold space and guide someone to help.

When the pandemic halted in-person workshops, Shear Haven partnered with Barbicide to launch a short, accessible online course with global hotline resources. The impact was immediate and worldwide: 160,000+ learners across 100+ countries, with training now offered in English, Spanish, and Vietnamese. Susanne also breaks down recent policy wins, including Tennessee’s requirement that keeps the training free, fast, and accessible, plus the bipartisan federal effort helping other states adopt similar laws.

You’ll also hear how teen-led advocacy, including Burd Beauty’s bottles printed with a QR code linking directly to the training, is helping spark conversations about teen dating violence.

If you’ve ever sensed something was “off” but didn’t know how to interpret it, this episode gives you the signs to watch for, the language to use, and the confidence to support someone safely without causing harm.

 If this conversation resonates, subscribe, share the episode, and leave a review—your one conversation might change a life.

Susanne’s Links: 

https://www.1in3podcast.com/guests/susanne-shepherd-pos/

https://shearhaventraining.org/

https://www.instagram.com/shearhavenywca?igsh=NHN6MDR4cTZnY2Zr&utm_source=qr

https://www.facebook.com/ShearHavenYWCA?mibextid=wwXIfr&rdid=7oX76FP034OX9pHF&share_url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.facebook.com%2Fshare%2F17AHEY2Unj%2F%3Fmibextid%3DwwXIfr#

https://www.linkedin.com/in/sushepherd/

Burd Beauty:

https://burdbeauty.com/

This podcast is intended for mature audiences. Some listeners may find the content distressing as episodes may include discussions of violence, human trafficking, and other forms of abuse, including emotional, psychological, sexual, financial, and physical. In many cases, names have been changed to protect those involved. Please note that the statements and opinions expressed by guests do not necessarily reflect my own.

Support the show

If you are in the United States and need immediate support, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline by calling 800-799-SAFE (7233) or texting START to 88788. If you're outside the United States, crisis resources are available at BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast.com/GetHelp.

Connect with Beyond the Statistics:

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📧 Email: [email protected]
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If today’s conversation meant something to you, subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode. And if you’d like to continue the conversation beyond the episode, I’d love to have you join us in the Beyond the Statistics Community.

Every story shared helps another survivor know they are not alone.

Music: Tim Crowe

Shame often masquerades as a moral compass—but for many survivors of narcissistic abuse, it becomes the cage that keeps them stuck. In this 1 in 3 episode, Emma breaks down how shame fuels narcissistic abuse, why it fuses with identity, and how it traps survivors in the same relationship patterns even after they leave. She explains the key difference between guilt (which supports repair and growth) and shame (which corrodes empathy, blocks learning, and freezes change).

Emma walks us through her practical BREAK Framework—Break the trance, Refuse to engage, Expose the lie, Anchor the truth, and Kick it out. These tools help survivors interrupt shame in real time, shift out of old conditioning, and reclaim their sense of power. Expect clear language, body-based grounding strategies, and boundary tools that put control back where it belongs: with you.

We also explore how culture rewards shaming as a form of control, why scapegoating spreads through families and institutions, and what it means to become “unshameable”—where projections slide off instead of sinking in. The goal isn’t perfection; it’s sovereignty and self-leadership: humility without humiliation, accountability without self-erasure.

If you’ve ever wondered why beating yourself up has never led to real healing, this conversation offers a new path. Learn how guilt can guide healthy repair and how shame loses its grip when you stop letting it define you. Listen in, try the tools, and share this episode with someone who’s ready to reclaim their power. Don’t forget to subscribe and leave a review to help more survivors find support.

Emma's Links:

https://www.beyondthestatisticspodcast.com/guests/emma-lyons/

https://www.instagram.com/trauma.matrix

https://www.youtube.com/@trauma.matrix

https://www.facebook.com/trauma.matrix

https://www.linkedin.com/in/emma-lyons-traumamatrix/

https://subscribepage.io/GtaJ5s

This podcast is intended for mature audiences. Some listeners may find the content distressing as episodes may include discussions of violence, human trafficking, and other forms of abuse, including emotional, psychological, sexual, financial, and physical. In many cases, names have been changed to protect those involved. Please note that the statements and opinions expressed by guests do not necessarily reflect my own.

Support the show

If you are in the United States and need immediate support, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline by calling 800-799-SAFE (7233) or texting START to 88788. If you're outside the United States, crisis resources are available at BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast.com/GetHelp.

Connect with Beyond the Statistics:

🌐 Website: https://www.BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast.com
💜 Join the Beyond the Statistics Community: https://www.patreon.com/BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast
📧 Email: [email protected]
📱 Follow on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn, TikTok, YouTube, and X: @BeyondStatsPod

If today’s conversation meant something to you, subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode. And if you’d like to continue the conversation beyond the episode, I’d love to have you join us in the Beyond the Statistics Community.

Every story shared helps another survivor know they are not alone.

Music: Tim Crowe

What if the smartest “person” in the room during your most stressful moments isn’t a person at all—yet it remembers your story, protects your privacy, and helps you plan your next safe move? In this episode of the 1in3 Podcast, Ingrid sits down with Anne, creator of Aimee, a survivor-first A.I. tool designed specifically for domestic abuse and coercive control. Together, they explore how focused technology can turn chaos into clarity without compromising confidentiality or safety.

This raw, practical conversation breaks down why general chatbots aren’t safe or effective for domestic violence situations and how a vertical, survivor-centered A.I. truly helps: anonymous chats that auto-delete, strict no training on user data, and features that convert everyday conversations into organized timelines, documentation, and exportable legal-ready binders. From identifying patterns of manipulation to pulling “receipts” that challenge financial abuse claims, this tool does the paralegal-style heavy lifting survivors are often forced to manage alone.

We walk through real-world use cases—drafting safe messages, role-playing difficult conversations, preparing for court hearings, and organizing evidence—and outline where A.I. provides support and where therapists, attorneys, advocates, and DV professionals remain essential.

We also dig into the psychological traps that keep people stuck, including trauma bonding, distorted nostalgia, and the myths that allow abuse to continue. Plus, we spotlight harmful legal misconceptions, especially around custody. Exposure to domestic violence is an Adverse Childhood Experience (ACE)—not a neutral event—and we challenge the reflexive “equal time” narrative with research-backed nuance.

If you’ve ever been told to “prove it” while juggling fear, deadlines, and endless paperwork, this episode offers a way to regain control: document patterns, plan responses, strengthen your safety strategy, and align your support team—all with safety as the first principle.

If this conversation resonates, subscribe to the 1in3 Podcast, share with someone who needs it, and leave a review so more survivors and allies can find tools that genuinely help.

Anne’s links: 

https://www.beyondthestatisticspodcast.com/guests/anne-wintemute/

https://www.aimeesays.com/en/home

https://www.instagram.com/aimeesaysdv/

https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61552414454913

https://www.linkedin.com/in/anne-wintemute-897077106/

https://www.tiktok.com/@aimeesaysabuse

This podcast is intended for mature audiences. Some listeners may find the content distressing as episodes may include discussions of violence, human trafficking, and other forms of abuse, including emotional, psychological, sexual, financial, and physical. In many cases, names have been changed to protect those involved. Please note that the statements and opinions expressed by guests do not necessarily reflect my own.

Support the show

If you are in the United States and need immediate support, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline by calling 800-799-SAFE (7233) or texting START to 88788. If you're outside the United States, crisis resources are available at BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast.com/GetHelp.

Connect with Beyond the Statistics:

🌐 Website: https://www.BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast.com
💜 Join the Beyond the Statistics Community: https://www.patreon.com/BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast
📧 Email: [email protected]
📱 Follow on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn, TikTok, YouTube, and X: @BeyondStatsPod

If today’s conversation meant something to you, subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode. And if you’d like to continue the conversation beyond the episode, I’d love to have you join us in the Beyond the Statistics Community.

Every story shared helps another survivor know they are not alone.

Music: Tim Crowe

Your brain can remember the past without reliving it—that’s the power of EMDR therapy. In this episode of the 1 in 3 Podcast, Ingrid sits down with licensed therapist Laurel to break down what EMDR is, how it works, and why it’s become one of the most effective trauma therapies for survivors of domestic violence, PTSD, and complex trauma.

We explore how traumatic memories get “red-flagged” in the brain, why hypervigilance sticks around, and how EMDR helps your nervous system finally believe you’re safe. If EMDR has ever sounded confusing, intense, or too simple, this conversation brings together the science, the structure, and real clinical experience to make it clear and accessible.

You’ll learn:

• The eight-phase EMDR model and why preparation and resourcing are essential
• How targeting, bilateral stimulation, eye movements, alternating tones, or butterfly tapping actually reduce distress
• How negative core beliefs, body sensations, and mental imagery anchor traumatic memories
• The truth about common concerns—fatigue, headaches, medication, and myths about EMDR being hypnosis or a “quick fix”

We also dive into complex trauma and C-PTSD, including attachment-informed EMDR, parts work, and the idea of “linchpin memories” that hold entire belief systems like I’m not safe or I’m unlovable. Laurel explains why dissociation may have once protected you, how to build grounding skills that keep you present, and how simple tapping techniques can reinforce positive experiences for long-term resilience.

Whether you’re a survivor exploring trauma therapy, someone curious about EMDR, or a listener searching for a grounded next step in healing, this episode offers a clear, compassionate, and practical guide.

If this episode helped you, follow the show, share it with a friend, and leave a quick review so others can find it.

Laurel’s Links: 

https://www.beyondthestatisticspodcast.com/guests/laurel-roberts-meese/

https://www.laureltherapy.net/

https://www.instagram.com/laureltherapycollective/

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCzmtQve6GOsJt2z9XZ02nZA

This podcast is intended for mature audiences. Some listeners may find the content distressing as episodes may include discussions of violence, human trafficking, and other forms of abuse, including emotional, psychological, sexual, financial, and physical. In many cases, names have been changed to protect those involved. Please note that the statements and opinions expressed by guests do not necessarily reflect my own.

Support the show

If you are in the United States and need immediate support, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline by calling 800-799-SAFE (7233) or texting START to 88788. If you're outside the United States, crisis resources are available at BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast.com/GetHelp.

Connect with Beyond the Statistics:

🌐 Website: https://www.BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast.com
💜 Join the Beyond the Statistics Community: https://www.patreon.com/BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast
📧 Email: [email protected]
📱 Follow on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn, TikTok, YouTube, and X: @BeyondStatsPod

If today’s conversation meant something to you, subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode. And if you’d like to continue the conversation beyond the episode, I’d love to have you join us in the Beyond the Statistics Community.

Every story shared helps another survivor know they are not alone.

Music: Tim Crowe

What if reporting sexual violence, domestic abuse, harassment, or discrimination felt safe, clear, confidential, and survivor-centered?

In this episode of 1 in 3, Ingrid sits down with Mary Lobson, founder of REES (Respect, Educate, Empower Survivors), to explore how trauma-informed technology is reshaping reporting systems across college campuses, sports organizations, live music events, workplaces, and community spaces.

Mary shares her journey from frontline domestic violence advocacy to building a privacy-first, trauma-informed reporting platform trusted across North America. We break down what survivor-centered design really means in practice, including:

✅ Encrypted records even the platform can’t access
✅ Plain-language safety and data practices
✅ Ability to document once and decide later how or when to share
✅ Anonymous reporting with secure two-way communication
✅ Repeat perpetrator identification to help prevent continued harm
✅ Tools that reduce the trauma of retelling while identifying trends, red flags, and campus red-zone risk periods

Mary explains how REES empowers survivors without pressure, protects privacy and due process, and gives institutions clear, actionable insights to stop abuse, prevent retaliation, and build safer culture.

We also explore real-world implementations — from festivals replacing “info@” inboxes, to national sports programs addressing bullying and harassment, to tech companies building safety into workplace culture by design.

If you’re a survivor, advocate, administrator, HR leader, Title IX coordinator, campus safety professional, or anyone committed to ending interpersonal violence, this episode offers:

✨ Trauma-informed reporting strategies
✨ Actionable prevention models
✨ Survivor-support language and best practices
✨ Technology frameworks that protect safety, consent, and agency

If this conversation resonates, please subscribe, share, and leave a review — your support helps more people discover tools to build safer communities where we live, learn, work, and play.

Mary's Links: 

https://www.reescommunity.com/

This podcast is intended for mature audiences. Some listeners may find the content distressing as episodes may include discussions of violence, human trafficking, and other forms of abuse, including emotional, psychological, sexual, financial, and physical. In many cases, names have been changed to protect those involved. Please note that the statements and opinions expressed by guests do not necessarily reflect my own.

Support the show

If you are in the United States and need immediate support, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline by calling 800-799-SAFE (7233) or texting START to 88788. If you're outside the United States, crisis resources are available at BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast.com/GetHelp.

Connect with Beyond the Statistics:

🌐 Website: https://www.BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast.com
💜 Join the Beyond the Statistics Community: https://www.patreon.com/BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast
📧 Email: [email protected]
📱 Follow on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn, TikTok, YouTube, and X: @BeyondStatsPod

If today’s conversation meant something to you, subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode. And if you’d like to continue the conversation beyond the episode, I’d love to have you join us in the Beyond the Statistics Community.

Every story shared helps another survivor know they are not alone.

Music: Tim Crowe

Some stories don’t just deserve to be heard—they demand change. In this powerful episode of 1 in 3 Podcast, Morgan Scafe joins host Ingrid Dutton to share her harrowing story of child sexual abuse that began at age eight and continued until fifteen. She reveals how a courtroom turned her truth into a test—forcing her to relive trauma while sitting just feet from her abuser.

Together, we examine how statutes of limitations erased most of her abuse from trial and why Morgan wrote Carpenter Road: The Inadmissible Years—a prequel that exposes the grooming process and violent control tactics that adults and schools overlooked. This conversation dives deep into generational trauma, alcohol misuse, and the many missed red flags—plummeting grades, chronic absences, unexplained bruises, and emotional outbursts—that should have triggered mandated reporting.

Morgan offers a firsthand look at what trauma-informed justice should be: options for remote testimony, jury education on memory and stress, and legal teams trained to avoid re-victimization. The throughline is clear—prevention. Teaching “good touch, bad touch” isn’t enough. Children need age-appropriate education on grooming, including how abusers use gifts, secrets, isolation, and trust to gain control.

We also explore practical steps for parents, teachers, and communities to recognize early warning signs and make intervention the norm—not the exception. Morgan’s story is both a warning and a guidepost for how we can do better.

This episode closes with a message every survivor needs to hear: shame must change sides. Healing is possible. Therapy helps. And your voice isn’t just valid—it’s vital.

💜 If this conversation moved you:
 Subscribe to 1 in 3 Podcast, share it with someone who cares about child safety and abuse prevention, and leave a thoughtful review to help others find it. Your support amplifies survivor voices and fuels change toward trauma-informed justice.

Morgan’s Links:

https://www.1in3podcast.com/guests/morgan-scafe-1/

https://morganscafe.net/

https://www.facebook.com/carpenterroadscafe

https://www.amazon.com/CARPENTER-ROAD-SENTENCED-MORGAN-SCAFE/dp/B0BW2LXP2N/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0

This podcast is intended for mature audiences. Some listeners may find the content distressing as episodes may include discussions of violence, human trafficking, and other forms of abuse, including emotional, psychological, sexual, financial, and physical. In many cases, names have been changed to protect those involved. Please note that the statements and opinions expressed by guests do not necessarily reflect my own.

Support the show

If you are in the United States and need immediate support, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline by calling 800-799-SAFE (7233) or texting START to 88788. If you're outside the United States, crisis resources are available at BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast.com/GetHelp.

Connect with Beyond the Statistics:

🌐 Website: https://www.BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast.com
💜 Join the Beyond the Statistics Community: https://www.patreon.com/BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast
📧 Email: [email protected]
📱 Follow on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn, TikTok, YouTube, and X: @BeyondStatsPod

If today’s conversation meant something to you, subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode. And if you’d like to continue the conversation beyond the episode, I’d love to have you join us in the Beyond the Statistics Community.

Every story shared helps another survivor know they are not alone.

Music: Tim Crowe