Beyond the Statistics

In this episode of 1 in 3 Dean shares the true story of helping his daughter escape domestic violence during a winter storm. A father’s gut feeling, a knock that wouldn’t stop, and a rescue that changed two lives. Dean walks us through the night he drove to a remote cabin and helped his daughter leave an abusive relationship—and the lessons every parent, partner, and friend should know about supporting someone in danger safely.

We talk about how early charm becomes control, how gaslighting distorts reality, and why leaving takes multiple attempts. Dean explains what helped most: staying calm, refusing to engage the abuser, and meeting disclosure with compassion instead of blame.

In the aftermath came healing from trauma—therapy, medication, rebuilding trust—and an unexpected new purpose. A nurse turned mentor, Dean now helps men who seem successful on the outside but feel stuck inside. Together we explore men’s mental health, defining values, and building a life of meaning.

If you’re seeking insight into domestic violence recovery, family support, or finding purpose after trauma, this episode offers hope and actionable guidance. Subscribe, share, and leave a review to help more people find stories that save lives.

Dean’s Links:

https://www.beyondthestatisticspodcast.com/guests/dean-taylor/

https://deantaylorofficial.com/

https://www.instagram.com/deantaylorofficial/

This podcast is intended for mature audiences. Some listeners may find the content distressing as episodes may include discussions of violence, human trafficking, and other forms of abuse, including emotional, psychological, sexual, financial, and physical. In many cases, names have been changed to protect those involved. Please note that the statements and opinions expressed by guests do not necessarily reflect my own.

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If you are in the United States and need immediate support, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline by calling 800-799-SAFE (7233) or texting START to 88788. If you're outside the United States, crisis resources are available at BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast.com/GetHelp.

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Every story shared helps another survivor know they are not alone.

Music: Tim Crowe

In this episode of 1 in 3, child psychologist Dr. Royster joins Ingrid to unpack how to protect children’s mental health in high-conflict co-parenting and post-separation abuse situations. A calm home, a steady voice, and the right words at the right time can change a child’s life—even when a co-parent thrives on chaos.

Dr. Royster breaks down the three main co-parenting models—collaborative, nesting, and parallel parenting—and explains when each approach fits. If your ex uses control, blame, or litigation as leverage, you’ll learn why parallel parenting may be the safest path and how to apply it without escalating conflict. She also shares practical scripts for debriefing after exchanges, helping parents validate feelings, reduce anxiety, and protect their children from emotional harm.

We get specific about documentation that holds up in court—tracking patterns, transitions, and measurable effects on your child instead of drowning in daily notes. Dr. Royster outlines when to seek trauma-informed therapy—for signs like chronic anxiety, extended sadness, or regression—and how to find a therapist who understands domestic violence dynamics and high-conflict divorce.

When therapy access is blocked, she offers backup options like coaching, group support, and tools for managing tech conflicts, recorded calls, and inconsistent rules between homes. The message is hope and agency: one attuned, consistent parent can be a powerful buffer against instability and manipulation.

If this episode helps, subscribe, rate, and share so more families facing post-separation abuse can find clear, compassionate guidance. Tell us the next question you want a child psychologist to answer on 1 in 3.

Dr. Royster’s Links: 

https://www.beyondthestatisticspodcast.com/guests/dr-karalynn-royster/

https://learnwithlittlehouse.com/

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/kids-first-co-parenting-with-dr-royster/id1828016840

https://www.instagram.com/learnwithlittlehouse/

https://www.youtube.com/@learnwithlittlehouse

https://www.tiktok.com/@learnwithlittlehouse

This podcast is intended for mature audiences. Some listeners may find the content distressing as episodes may include discussions of violence, human trafficking, and other forms of abuse, including emotional, psychological, sexual, financial, and physical. In many cases, names have been changed to protect those involved. Please note that the statements and opinions expressed by guests do not necessarily reflect my own.

Support the show

If you are in the United States and need immediate support, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline by calling 800-799-SAFE (7233) or texting START to 88788. If you're outside the United States, crisis resources are available at BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast.com/GetHelp.

Connect with Beyond the Statistics:

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Every story shared helps another survivor know they are not alone.

Music: Tim Crowe

A woman is “found dead.” The headline ends there, but the story doesn’t—and neither does our responsibility. Ingrid sits with Vanessa and Yaneth to honor Lizzbeth by name, define femicide without euphemism, and follow the thread from a family’s search to a community’s demand for change. What emerges is both deeply personal and relentlessly systemic: a town that looked away, a police response that lagged, and a courtroom outcome negotiated on the killer’s terms.

Vanessa, founder of Vivan Las Autonomas, explains how a small group of young immigrant women stepped into the vacuum—pressuring investigators, guiding a family through pre-trial and trial twists, and partnering with media to cover Lizzbeth as a whole person, not a headline. We talk about why survivors often look “emotional” while abusers appear “credible,” how passive language like “woman found dead” erases intent, and why undercounted data distorts policy. The result is a cycle where agencies tally cases, police move on, and the public accepts femicide as an isolated tragedy rather than a pattern we can interrupt.

We go deeper into plea deals, the narrowness of legal charges, and what “justice” feels like when key harms—tampering with evidence, the presence of a child, the brutality of disposal—don’t show up on the charging sheet. Then we widen the lens to prevention: treating femicide as a public health crisis, funding multilingual rapid response, building cross-agency protocols for missing women, and using art and data together to change hearts, habits, and budgets. Vanessa shares details of an upcoming Connecticut femicide site that memorializes victims, tracks cases, and gives communities leverage with lawmakers.

Lizzbeth was a mother, a sister, and a bright, funny presence who deserved safety—and a system ready to act. If you’re ready to move beyond thoughts and prayers to concrete action, listen, share, and join the work. Subscribe for more stories, leave a review to boost visibility, and tell us: what would real accountability look like where you live?

Links:

https://www.1in3podcast.com/guests/vivan-las-autonomas/

https://linktr.ee/vivanlasautonomasct?utm_source=linktree_profile_share<sid=d9bc4702-b299-4110-b5a0-94a7d3cd92d9

https://www.instagram.com/vivanlasautonomas/

https://www.facebook.com/vivanlasautonomas/

This podcast is intended for mature audiences. Some listeners may find the content distressing as episodes may include discussions of violence, human trafficking, and other forms of abuse, including emotional, psychological, sexual, financial, and physical. In many cases, names have been changed to protect those involved. Please note that the statements and opinions expressed by guests do not necessarily reflect my own.

Support the show

If you are in the United States and need immediate support, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline by calling 800-799-SAFE (7233) or texting START to 88788. If you're outside the United States, crisis resources are available at BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast.com/GetHelp.

Connect with Beyond the Statistics:

🌐 Website: https://www.BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast.com
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📧 Email: [email protected]
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If today’s conversation meant something to you, subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode. And if you’d like to continue the conversation beyond the episode, I’d love to have you join us in the Beyond the Statistics Community.

Every story shared helps another survivor know they are not alone.

Music: Tim Crowe

In this episode of 1 in 3, Devyn joins Ingrid to share her powerful domestic violence survivor story—one that began with a late-night knock, a 911 call, and the moment her stepfather returned and pulled a trigger. The small town that knew Teresa, a beloved nurse with a bright laugh and steady hands, now mourned the loss of someone who made others feel safe at their most vulnerable.

Devyn opens up about how her world changed at 14 and what healing has looked like since: panic, nightmares, self-harm, medication, and the long, imperfect process of trauma recovery through therapy. Together, we unpack how abuse hides behind high-functioning alcoholism, why separation is the most dangerous time, and how grief rewires the senses, turning even morning coffee into a reminder of gunpowder.

But this story is also about action, hope, and resilience. Devyn shares how she turned unimaginable pain into purpose—a decade of community runs funding her local domestic violence shelter, volunteering on intake desks, and speaking publicly so silence no longer shields abusers. She honors her mother’s legacy while navigating motherhood after loss, learning to trust again, and teaching her daughter that real strength welcomes support.

This conversation is both heartbreaking and empowering—a reminder that one voice can change lives. You’ll learn about safety planning, believing survivors, and the signs of domestic violence before they escalate. If you’ve ever wondered how to help, or needed someone to say “don’t give up on yourself,” this episode offers compassion and practical guidance.

If Devyn’s story moves you, subscribe, share, and leave a review to help more families find these survivor-led conversations. Your support helps 1 in 3 reach the people who need hope, healing, and a path forward.

Devyn’s 1in3 profile: https://www.beyondthestatisticspodcast.com/guests/devyn-oneill/

This podcast is intended for mature audiences. Some listeners may find the content distressing as episodes may include discussions of violence, human trafficking, and other forms of abuse, including emotional, psychological, sexual, financial, and physical. In many cases, names have been changed to protect those involved. Please note that the statements and opinions expressed by guests do not necessarily reflect my own.

Support the show

If you are in the United States and need immediate support, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline by calling 800-799-SAFE (7233) or texting START to 88788. If you're outside the United States, crisis resources are available at BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast.com/GetHelp.

Connect with Beyond the Statistics:

🌐 Website: https://www.BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast.com
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📧 Email: [email protected]
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If today’s conversation meant something to you, subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode. And if you’d like to continue the conversation beyond the episode, I’d love to have you join us in the Beyond the Statistics Community.

Every story shared helps another survivor know they are not alone.

Music: Tim Crowe

In this episode of 1 in 3, host Ingrid sits down with Captain Eric Threlkeld—law enforcement leader, former UN police trainer, and domestic violence specialist—to unpack what truly saves lives: better first responses, stronger multidisciplinary teams, and real training on non-fatal strangulation that too often goes unnoticed in the ER and on the street.

The conversation connects hard data with practical tools, showing how domestic violence response intersects with mass-shooting prevention, officer safety, and survivor protection. Eric explains why traditional police academy training falls short for complex DV cases—and how those first few minutes at a scene can determine justice or jeopardy.

We dig into trauma-informed interviewing—letting victims speak freely, recording thoroughly, and revisiting for clarity—and why separating parties, identifying every witness, and routing children to forensic interviews safeguard both truth and trust. Eric outlines the top lethality indicators: prior strangulation, access to firearms, threats of suicide, and substance abuse, referencing proven tools like the Maryland Lethality Assessment Program and Dr. Jacquelyn Campbell’s Danger Assessment.

The discussion also addresses officer-involved domestic violence, exploring how independent investigations, firearm removal, and transparency protect victims and rebuild public confidence.

From the healthcare perspective, Eric issues an urgent call: recognize non-fatal strangulation injuries even when bruises are absent. We break down clinical cues—phrases like “choked,” “arm around my neck,” or “blacked out”—and how shared checklists help ER teams order imaging, document internal trauma, and prevent homicide.

Throughout, Eric underscores how multidisciplinary domestic violence response teams—prosecutors, judges, law enforcement, advocates, probation, and medical professionals—reduce recidivism and prevent cases from falling through the cracks, even when funding is limited.

If you care about safer communities, survivor-centered justice, and improving law enforcement response to domestic violence, this conversation offers concrete steps you can use today. Subscribe to 1 in 3, share with your network, and leave a review to help more professionals and families access these life-saving insights.

Eric’s Links:

https://www.beyondthestatisticspodcast.com/guests/eric-k-threlkeld/ 

https://www.linkedin.com/in/ericthrelkeld/

This podcast is intended for mature audiences. Some listeners may find the content distressing as episodes may include discussions of violence, human trafficking, and other forms of abuse, including emotional, psychological, sexual, financial, and physical. In many cases, names have been changed to protect those involved. Please note that the statements and opinions expressed by guests do not necessarily reflect my own.

Support the show

If you are in the United States and need immediate support, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline by calling 800-799-SAFE (7233) or texting START to 88788. If you're outside the United States, crisis resources are available at BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast.com/GetHelp.

Connect with Beyond the Statistics:

🌐 Website: https://www.BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast.com
💜 Join the Beyond the Statistics Community: https://www.patreon.com/BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast
📧 Email: [email protected]
📱 Follow on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn, TikTok, YouTube, and X: @BeyondStatsPod

If today’s conversation meant something to you, subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode. And if you’d like to continue the conversation beyond the episode, I’d love to have you join us in the Beyond the Statistics Community.

Every story shared helps another survivor know they are not alone.

Music: Tim Crowe

In this episode of 1 in 3, host Ingrid kicks off Domestic Violence Awareness Month (DVAM) with a clear, practical roadmap for how each of us can show up—visibly, safely, and meaningfully. When the calendar flips to October, the air changes: it’s time to bring domestic violence awareness out of the shadows and into our shared care.

We unpack the message behind this year’s theme, “Everyone Knows Someone,” a reminder that abuse is closer than most realize—touching families, workplaces, schools, and faith communities. Then we lean into “With Survivors Always (con sobrevivientes siempre),” a love letter and a call to action asking us to stand with survivors through safety, support, and solidarity.

You’ll hear a short, powerful poem that honors hard choices, small victories, and brave voices, and we trace DVAM’s roots from the 1981 Day of Unity to today’s nationwide movement. Mark your calendar: the National Day of Unity falls on October 6, and Purple Thursday returns on October 16—your chance to wear purple, post a photo, and amplify #DVAM.

You’ll also hear about 1 in 3's  merch, featuring the purple ribbon and the message “you are not alone,” perfect for Purple Thursday and beyond. Whether you’re a survivor, an ally, or a community leader, this episode is your guide to turning domestic violence awareness into daily action and connection.

Subscribe for the full DVAM-aligned lineup, share this episode with someone who might need it, and leave a review to help more people find resources, safety, and support when it matters most.

Merch link:  https://1-in-3-podcast-merch.printify.me/

Sources: 

https://helpendabuseforlife.org/october-is-domestic-violence-awareness-month2015/#:~:text=Picture%20Courtesy%20John%20T.%20Soden.%20Each%20year%2C,work%20to%20end%20violence%20in%20our%20communities.

https://www.dvawareness.org/WithSurvivors

https://givefordv.nnedv.org/info/givefordv-social-media-english

https://allagainstabuse.org/why-purple/

https://www.facebook.com/NNEDV/photos/save-the-date-for-purplethursday-october-16-2025-each-year-on-the-third-thursday/1256319339873945/

This podcast is intended for mature audiences. Some listeners may find the content distressing as episodes may include discussions of violence, human trafficking, and other forms of abuse, including emotional, psychological, sexual, financial, and physical. In many cases, names have been changed to protect those involved. Please note that the statements and opinions expressed by guests do not necessarily reflect my own.

Support the show

If you are in the United States and need immediate support, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline by calling 800-799-SAFE (7233) or texting START to 88788. If you're outside the United States, crisis resources are available at BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast.com/GetHelp.

Connect with Beyond the Statistics:

🌐 Website: https://www.BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast.com
💜 Join the Beyond the Statistics Community: https://www.patreon.com/BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast
📧 Email: [email protected]
📱 Follow on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn, TikTok, YouTube, and X: @BeyondStatsPod

If today’s conversation meant something to you, subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode. And if you’d like to continue the conversation beyond the episode, I’d love to have you join us in the Beyond the Statistics Community.

Every story shared helps another survivor know they are not alone.

Music: Tim Crowe

What does domestic violence really look like behind closed doors? In this raw, unfiltered conversation, host Ingrid sits down with fellow survivor Tiffiny Newton for a candid exploration of abuse dynamics that goes far beyond what most people understand.

Together, they unpack the subtle warning signs that precede full-blown abuse – the love bombing, future faking, and gradual escalation of control that can feel deceptively like love. "It's the green screen of relationships," Tiffiny explains, describing how abusers create an illusion before revealing their true nature. Their discussion reveals how technology has become a powerful tool for abusers, with surveillance cameras, GPS tracking, and digital monitoring creating virtual prisons.

The most chilling revelations come when they discuss how abusers weaponize vulnerabilities. Those personal insecurities and past traumas shared in intimate moments? They become ammunition for devastating psychological attacks later. Both women describe living in constant fight-or-flight mode, where even "good times" become torture because of the anxiety about when the next explosion might occur.

Perhaps most valuable is their practical wisdom about escape. From creating code words with trusted friends to secretly moving belongings to storage units, they offer survival strategies for the most dangerous phase of abuse – when a victim decides to leave. "Focus on what the next 48 hours looks like," Tiffiny advises, breaking down overwhelming fear into manageable steps.

As Domestic Violence Awareness Month approaches, this episode serves as both a wake-up call and a lifeline. Whether you're questioning your own relationship, supporting someone you love, or simply want to understand this pervasive issue better, you'll gain insights that could save lives. Remember Tiffiny's powerful closing message: "You are not ever supposed to be in a position where you feel less than who you really are."

Tiffiny's Links: 

https://www.1in3podcast.com/guests/tiffiny-newton/

https://www.tiffinynewton.com

This podcast is intended for mature audiences. Some listeners may find the content distressing as episodes may include discussions of violence, human trafficking, and other forms of abuse, including emotional, psychological, sexual, financial, and physical. In many cases, names have been changed to protect those involved. Please note that the statements and opinions expressed by guests do not necessarily reflect my own.

Support the show

If you are in the United States and need immediate support, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline by calling 800-799-SAFE (7233) or texting START to 88788. If you're outside the United States, crisis resources are available at BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast.com/GetHelp.

Connect with Beyond the Statistics:

🌐 Website: https://www.BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast.com
💜 Join the Beyond the Statistics Community: https://www.patreon.com/BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast
📧 Email: [email protected]
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If today’s conversation meant something to you, subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode. And if you’d like to continue the conversation beyond the episode, I’d love to have you join us in the Beyond the Statistics Community.

Every story shared helps another survivor know they are not alone.

Music: Tim Crowe

In this episode of 1 in 3, host Ingrid speaks with Tracy DiTomasi, CEO of Callisto and a licensed clinical social worker with over 25 years of experience in gender-based violence. Together, they confront the ways society talks—or avoids talking—about sexual assault. Too often, we use euphemisms, passive language, and subtle victim-blaming that shifts focus away from perpetrators. Tracy refuses to participate in that avoidance.

She breaks down the essential terminology of sexual violence, challenges persistent myths, and explains why sexual assault is about power and control—not sex. Tracy discusses why many survivors freeze during attacks instead of fighting back and why communities struggle to believe that respected individuals can commit sexual violence. Most critically, she reveals how our systems continue to fail survivors by placing the burden of accountability on those who’ve already been harmed.

The conversation’s most groundbreaking segment explores Callisto, a nonprofit technology platform that’s redefining how survivors can seek justice on their own terms. Using end-to-end encryption, Callisto allows users with .edu email addresses to securely record perpetrator information. If another survivor names the same person, a confidential advocate connects them to review next steps and resources—without pressure or exposure.

Whether you’re a survivor seeking resources, a supporter learning how to help, or an advocate for safer communities, this episode offers vital insights into the realities of sexual assault, the failures of traditional systems, and the innovative tools empowering survivors today.

Listen, share, and help amplify this conversation about accountability, consent, and survivor-centered change. Subscribe to 1 in 3 and leave a review to help others find support and solutions that make a difference.

Tracy’s Links:

https://www.1in3podcast.com/guests/tracy-detomasi/

https://www.projectcallisto.org/

https://www.instagram.com/callisto?igsh=MTZudXJ2bHVnNjN2Yg%3D%3D

https://www.linkedin.com/in/tracydetomasi/

This podcast is intended for mature audiences. Some listeners may find the content distressing as episodes may include discussions of violence, human trafficking, and other forms of abuse, including emotional, psychological, sexual, financial, and physical. In many cases, names have been changed to protect those involved. Please note that the statements and opinions expressed by guests do not necessarily reflect my own.

Support the show

If you are in the United States and need immediate support, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline by calling 800-799-SAFE (7233) or texting START to 88788. If you're outside the United States, crisis resources are available at BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast.com/GetHelp.

Connect with Beyond the Statistics:

🌐 Website: https://www.BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast.com
💜 Join the Beyond the Statistics Community: https://www.patreon.com/BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast
📧 Email: [email protected]
📱 Follow on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn, TikTok, YouTube, and X: @BeyondStatsPod

If today’s conversation meant something to you, subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode. And if you’d like to continue the conversation beyond the episode, I’d love to have you join us in the Beyond the Statistics Community.

Every story shared helps another survivor know they are not alone.

Music: Tim Crowe

In this powerful episode of 1 in 3, Linda shares her deeply personal story of trauma, PTSD recovery, and the transformative power of therapy after sexual assault. A casual comment from a professor unexpectedly triggered buried memories decades after her assault—forcing her to confront emotions she’d long mistaken for strength.

Rather than continue suppressing her pain, Linda began a courageous journey through trauma therapy that changed every part of her life. She explains how trauma impacts both the mind and the body, describing memory as “biology plus biography”—a powerful lens that helps listeners understand why traumatic memories fragment and later resurface as PTSD symptoms.

Linda’s description of the persistent “creepy feeling” in her back, which she came to recognize as dread from her assault, offers a visceral illustration of how the body stores trauma even when the mind tries to forget.

The conversation also explores what therapy really looks like, beyond the media portrayals. Linda opens up about her fears of seeking help—the shame, cost, and belief that “being strong” meant handling everything alone. She reveals how the hardest work of therapy ultimately led to the deepest healing: becoming her authentic self, finding love with her soulmate, and maintaining gratitude even after his passing.

For anyone living with trauma, questioning therapy, or supporting a loved one through recovery, Linda’s story is both validating and inspiring. Her message is clear: healing is possible through vulnerability, connection, and courage.

📘 Ready to start your own healing journey? Discover more in Linda’s book, Braving Therapy, and remember—you never have to face trauma alone.

Linda's Links:

https://www.beyondthestatisticspodcast.com/guests/linda-feig-knipe/

https://lfeigknipe.com/

https://a.co/d/hho9KQQ

This podcast is intended for mature audiences. Some listeners may find the content distressing as episodes may include discussions of violence, human trafficking, and other forms of abuse, including emotional, psychological, sexual, financial, and physical. In many cases, names have been changed to protect those involved. Please note that the statements and opinions expressed by guests do not necessarily reflect my own.

Support the show

If you are in the United States and need immediate support, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline by calling 800-799-SAFE (7233) or texting START to 88788. If you're outside the United States, crisis resources are available at BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast.com/GetHelp.

Connect with Beyond the Statistics:

🌐 Website: https://www.BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast.com
💜 Join the Beyond the Statistics Community: https://www.patreon.com/BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast
📧 Email: [email protected]
📱 Follow on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn, TikTok, YouTube, and X: @BeyondStatsPod

If today’s conversation meant something to you, subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode. And if you’d like to continue the conversation beyond the episode, I’d love to have you join us in the Beyond the Statistics Community.

Every story shared helps another survivor know they are not alone.

Music: Tim Crowe

When you finally escape an abusive relationship, there's that moment of relief—then reality hits. How do you heal yourself while also helping your children process their trauma? This question sits at the heart of today's deeply moving conversation with Jacintha, a family counselor, art therapist, and domestic violence survivor who transformed her personal healing journey into a mission to help families worldwide.

Jacintha opens up about the challenging aftermath of separation relationship that coincided with her son starting school during COVID. Her son's emotional outbursts—throwing bins and running away—became the catalyst for her work in emotional regulation. What started as drawing emotion circles with her son evolved into comprehensive approaches to help children express and process complex feelings.

The conversation offers practical wisdom for parents navigating post-abuse life with children. Jacintha emphasizes the importance of authentic emotional expression: "We need to be really honest with our children about how we're feeling." Rather than hiding your tears, acknowledging them teaches children that emotions are natural and acceptable. This transparency creates space for genuine connection during challenging transitions.

We explore the concept of emotional regulation versus dysregulation, with Jacintha explaining that children's tantrums often represent the culmination of many stressors throughout their day. When a child is fully dysregulated, they literally cannot hear your guidance—allowing the emotion to pass completely before attempting discussion proves more effective than immediate intervention.

For parents feeling overwhelmed, Jacintha offers a powerful reminder: "You need to put your face mask on first." Finding activities that bring you joy is essential for rebuilding your sense of self after abuse. Whether through simple rituals like "tea nights" for reading together, five-minute private check-ins with each child, or creating emotional release spaces in your home, the small connections you build will help both you and your children heal.

Ready to transform your family's healing journey? Listen now to discover practical strategies for processing emotions, understanding children's behavior cues, and rebuilding trust and connection after domestic violence.

Jacintha’s Links:

https://www.beyondthestatisticspodcast.com/guests/jacintha-field-1/

https://www.happysoulskids.com/

https://www.instagram.com/jacinthafield

https://www.linkedin.com/in/jacinthafield/

https://www.tiktok.com/jacinthafield

This podcast is intended for mature audiences. Some listeners may find the content distressing as episodes may include discussions of violence, human trafficking, and other forms of abuse, including emotional, psychological, sexual, financial, and physical. In many cases, names have been changed to protect those involved. Please note that the statements and opinions expressed by guests do not necessarily reflect my own.

Support the show

If you are in the United States and need immediate support, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline by calling 800-799-SAFE (7233) or texting START to 88788. If you're outside the United States, crisis resources are available at BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast.com/GetHelp.

Connect with Beyond the Statistics:

🌐 Website: https://www.BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast.com
💜 Join the Beyond the Statistics Community: https://www.patreon.com/BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast
📧 Email: [email protected]
📱 Follow on Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn, TikTok, YouTube, and X: @BeyondStatsPod

If today’s conversation meant something to you, subscribe, leave a review, and share this episode. And if you’d like to continue the conversation beyond the episode, I’d love to have you join us in the Beyond the Statistics Community.

Every story shared helps another survivor know they are not alone.

Music: Tim Crowe