Beyond the Statistics

"You just cannot comprehend that." These words from Angie Smith barely scratch the surface of the unfathomable tragedy that befell her family during COVID lockdown in 2021. What begins as the story of an "average mom and nan" quickly unfolds into one of the most devastating accounts of domestic violence in recent UK history.

When Angie's daughter Terri ended a 14-year relationship just before national lockdown, she turned to online dating for connection. The man she met, initially charming but quickly controlling, moved into her home with alarming speed. Isolated by COVID restrictions, Terri's contact with her mother dwindled as red flags multiplied. Angie recalls the moment that sent chills down her spine – her daughter's new boyfriend wrapping Terri in his dressing gown, tying the belt around her, and declaring "she's not coming out with you, she's staying with me."

In September 2021, Angie learned through social media about police activity on her daughter's street. What followed was every parent's worst nightmare – the discovery that her daughter, two grandchildren, and their friend had been brutally murdered. The killer's calculated actions afterward – staying in the home overnight, watching TV among the bodies, even calling a taxi to sell her grandson's Xbox for drug money – reveal a level of depravity that defies comprehension.

Angie recounts the painful aftermath: identifying unrecognizable bodies, learning her daughter was pregnant, enduring court proceedings where the killer attempted to evade responsibility, and ultimately witnessing him receive four life sentences. "He's got the life sentence, but so have we," Angie observes, noting how the trauma continues years later as new headlines about the perpetrator's prison violence emerge.

This powerful testimony serves as both a memorial to Terri, John, Lacey, and their friend, and a crucial warning about recognizing early signs of controlling behavior. Listen to part one of this two-part conversation to understand the devastating reality of domestic violence, then join us next week to hear how Angie transformed her grief into activism that have already saved other families from similar tragedy.

View Angie's 1in3 profile here: https://www.beyondthestatisticspodcast.com/guests/angela-smith/

This podcast is intended for mature audiences. Some listeners may find the content distressing as episodes may include discussions of violence, human trafficking, and other forms of abuse, including emotional, psychological, sexual, financial, and physical. In many cases, names have been changed to protect those involved. Please note that the statements and opinions expressed by guests do not necessarily reflect my own.

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If you are in the United States and need immediate support, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline by calling 800-799-SAFE (7233) or texting START to 88788. If you're outside the United States, crisis resources are available at BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast.com/GetHelp.

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Every story shared helps another survivor know they are not alone.

Music: Tim Crowe

What happens when the person you believe is your soulmate becomes your abuser? James Barr—MTV anchor, radio personality, podcast host, and LGBTQ rights ambassador—discovered this devastating reality firsthand, and now he's breaking his silence.

Despite his public persona as a fearless voice who has never been one to keep quiet, James fell victim to a relationship that started with love bombing and quickly escalated to physical violence. His partner would hit him over losing games like Uno, using classic manipulation tactics: "I'm just joking," "You're overreacting," "Don't be so sensitive." The situation grew increasingly dangerous, with his abuser putting hands around his throat and pushing him near staircases.

What makes James's story particularly powerful is his courage to confront not only the physical abuse but the internal battle many survivors face—especially within the LGBTQ+ community. He wrestled with thoughts like "Maybe I'm not man enough" or "Maybe I should have fought back," demonstrating how abuse can erode self-worth regardless of one's public status or background. His turning point came unexpectedly during a Botox appointment when a provider recognized the signs of abuse and shared her own escape story, becoming the catalyst that helped James leave his abuser.

Now, James uses his platform to shine a light on domestic violence through his show "Sorry, I Hurt Your Son (said my ex to my mum)." He thoughtfully explains his choice to use comedy.

Listen to this deeply moving episode and discover how sharing stories of survival can help others recognize abusive situations and find the courage to leave. Whether you're a survivor or someone who wants to understand the complex dynamics of abuse, this conversation offers valuable insights into the reality that domestic violence can impact absolutely anyone.

Sources:

https://www.jamesbarrcomedy.com/sorryihurtyourson

https://celebmix.com/celeb-mix-cares-james-barr/

https://www.the-independent.com/life-style/gay-man-domestic-abuse-violence-lgbt-b2610980.html

https://www.attitude.co.uk/culture/james-barr-love-isnt-love-if-it-hurts-470326/

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zG8-nPOKRRA

This podcast is intended for mature audiences. Some listeners may find the content distressing as episodes may include discussions of violence, human trafficking, and other forms of abuse, including emotional, psychological, sexual, financial, and physical. In many cases, names have been changed to protect those involved. Please note that the statements and opinions expressed by guests do not necessarily reflect my own.

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If you are in the United States and need immediate support, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline by calling 800-799-SAFE (7233) or texting START to 88788. If you're outside the United States, crisis resources are available at BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast.com/GetHelp.

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Every story shared helps another survivor know they are not alone.

Music: Tim Crowe

Happy Pride Month, Warriors. This episode takes you on a powerful journey through LGBTQ+ history in America while exploring a critical issue often overlooked amid the celebrations: the alarmingly high rates of domestic violence affecting queer communities.

From New York's 1966 laws prohibiting alcohol service to gay patrons to the watershed moment of the Stonewall uprising, I trace how systemic discrimination created environments where LGBTQ+ individuals were criminalized simply for existing. Understanding this history provides crucial context for grasping why domestic violence poses unique challenges for queer survivors today. When society has already taught you that you're unwelcome, where do you turn when the person who promised to love you becomes your greatest threat?

The statistics are sobering: 61.1% of bisexual women and 43.8% of lesbian women experience intimate partner violence—significantly higher than rates among heterosexual women. Yet fewer than 5% of LGBTQ+ survivors seek protective orders. Why? Because they face distinctive barriers: threats of being outed, histories of trauma from discrimination, and systems that often fail to understand or accommodate their needs. For many, seeking help means risking further harm, creating a dangerous silence we must collectively break.

This Pride Month, I'm dedicating this podcast to amplifying LGBTQ+ survivors' voices. If you have a story to share—publicly or anonymously—please reach out at [email protected]. Your experiences matter, and together, we can create spaces where healing is possible for everyone, regardless of who they love or how they identify. 

Sources:

https://www.pbs.org/wgbh/americanexperience/features/stonewall-milestones-american-gay-rights-movement/

https://www.history.com/articles/pride-month

https://www.loc.gov/item/today-in-history/june-28/

https://www.history.com/articles/the-stonewall-riots

This podcast is intended for mature audiences. Some listeners may find the content distressing as episodes may include discussions of violence, human trafficking, and other forms of abuse, including emotional, psychological, sexual, financial, and physical. In many cases, names have been changed to protect those involved. Please note that the statements and opinions expressed by guests do not necessarily reflect my own.

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If you are in the United States and need immediate support, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline by calling 800-799-SAFE (7233) or texting START to 88788. If you're outside the United States, crisis resources are available at BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast.com/GetHelp.

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Music: Tim Crowe

The summer months bring more than just sunshine and vacations—they create a perfect storm for domestic violence. Did you know abuse incidents spike by 12% during summer? This jarring statistic reveals how stretched family time, rising temperatures, and increased substance use create dangerous environments for vulnerable individuals.

Warriors, I'm sharing crucial safety strategies for every situation. For those experiencing abuse, having a prepared escape plan can be lifesaving—from packed emergency bags to established code words with trusted contacts. I explain how routine activities like grocery shopping or doctor appointments can become strategic opportunities for temporary relief or permanent escape. Parents, your vigilance matters more than ever during these months. I offer specific guidance on protecting children in volatile homes and keeping teens safe from dating violence during party-filled summer breaks.

Recognizing the signs of abuse can be challenging. I outline key indicators for concerned bystanders, from suspicious clothing choices during hot weather to subtle personality changes that signal distress. The support you offer—consistent, patient, and non-judgmental—creates a crucial lifeline for someone trapped in the cycle of violence. Remember that victims are operating in survival mode; your understanding approach might be their only source of clarity.

Whether you're experiencing abuse, concerned about a loved one, or simply want to stay informed, resources are available. The National Domestic Violence Hotline (1-800-799-7233) provides 24/7 support. Remember, no matter the circumstances or excuses, abuse is never acceptable. 

Sources:

https://www.cawc.org/news/why-domestic-violence-increases-during-the-holiday-season/

https://www.bridgesdvc.org/is-there-an-increase-in-domestic-violence-incidents-during-summer/

https://womenagainstcrime.com/domestic-violence-and-the-holidays-what-you-should-know/

https://www.thehotline.org/resources/safety-planning-for-the-holiday

https://www.thehotline.org/resources/safety-planning-with-children/

Support the show

If you are in the United States and need immediate support, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline by calling 800-799-SAFE (7233) or texting START to 88788. If you're outside the United States, crisis resources are available at BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast.com/GetHelp.

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Music: Tim Crowe

The murder of seven-month-old Aaden Moreno stands as a haunting example of what happens when our protective systems fail those they're designed to protect. Just days after a Connecticut judge denied a restraining order that would have protected the infant and his young mother, 21-year-old Tony Moreno took baby Aaden to the Arrigoni Bridge and threw him 90 feet into the waters below.

We walk through the devastating timeline of events that led to this tragedy. Nineteen-year-old Adrianne Oyola had documented a pattern of escalating abuse from her ex-boyfriend - verbal attacks, physical intimidation, controlling behavior, and most disturbingly, explicit threats that he could "make them both disappear." Despite these red flags, the judge dismissed the extension of the restraining order, characterizing their troubled relationship as mutual immaturity rather than recognizing the dangerous power dynamics at play.

Years later, Adrianne continues fighting for accountability, pursuing legal action against the Department of Children and Families for their absence at the crucial restraining order hearing and their failure to conduct safety assessments after custody was granted. Her struggle reminds us that justice isn't just about punishment after tragedy strikes—it's about creating systems that recognize danger before it's too late. 

Sources:

https://www.washingtonpost.com/context/hearing-transcript-in-the-adrianne-oyola-case/6f18fc5d-7a4e-4be2-9e7d-f87098c3d062/

https://www.cga.ct.gov/2021/juddata/tmy/2021HJ-00233-R000326-Moreno,%20Aaden-TMY.PDF

https://www.seattletimes.com/nation-world/mom-testifies-at-trial-of-man-accused-of-killing-infant/

https://www.washingtonpost.com/context/affidavit-filed-by-adrianne-oyola/35e47462-b83f-4127-b2a3-a5d7390751d3/

https://www.wkrn.com/news/father-sends-chilling-texts-before-7-month-old-son-thrown-from-bridge/amp/

https://www.courant.com/2016/07/06/mother-of-child-thrown-from-bridge-wants-to-sue-dcf/

https://www.ctpost.com/news/article/ct-dcf-lawsuit-arrigoni-bridge-middletown-20268463.php

https://www.reuters.com/article/world/us/father-gets-70-years-for-throwing-baby-into-connecticut-river-idUSKBN18S3VL/

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If you are in the United States and need immediate support, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline by calling 800-799-SAFE (7233) or texting START to 88788. If you're outside the United States, crisis resources are available at BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast.com/GetHelp.

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Music: Tim Crowe

Trusting a victim's instincts could be the difference between life and death. Dorothy Giunta-Cotter knew her husband was dangerous. She told authorities he repeatedly threatened to kill her if she ever left him. She did everything right - fled with her child, sought help from a crisis center, filed a restraining order, and reported violations. Yet despite all these precautions, Dorothy's worst fears came true when her estranged husband William fatally shot her in her Massachusetts home in 2002, with their young daughter hiding under the bed as tragedy unfolded.

Dorothy's heartbreaking story reveals a critical gap in our response to domestic violence cases. While individual agencies each performed their designated roles, the lack of true collaboration between domestic violence organizations, law enforcement, and the judicial system created fatal vulnerabilities. A judge's decision to release William on just $500 bail, without fully understanding the severity of his threats, set in motion the tragic events that followed just five days later.

From this devastating loss emerged meaningful change. Kelly Dunne of the Jeanne Geiger Crisis Center partnered with domestic violence expert Jacqueline Campbell to develop a coordinated community response that's saving lives today. The Greater Newburyport High Risk Response Team established in 2005 brings together advocates, hospital liaisons, and police departments to assess risk factors using Campbell's Danger Assessment tool. This episode breaks down this vital 20-question assessment that helps identify potentially lethal situations before tragedy strikes.

Whether you're personally facing abuse, supporting someone who is, or simply want to understand the real-world challenges in protecting domestic violence victims, this episode provides crucial insights into recognizing danger signs and navigating safety systems. Remember that regardless of any assessment score, your instincts matter most. If you feel unsafe or threatened, reach out immediately to trusted resources like your local domestic violence shelter, the National Coalition Against Domestic Violence, or the National Domestic Violence Hotline.

Sources:

https://www.newyorker.com/magazine/2013/07/22/a-raised-hand

https://feminist.org/news/911-tape-reveals-final-moments-of-domestic-violence-victims-life/

https://www.bostonmagazine.com/news/2013/07/16/how-massachusetts-is-trying-to-prevent-domestic-homicides/

https://www.postandcourier.com/app/till-death/assets/d4-pdf.pdf

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC7878014/

https://isp.idaho.gov/wp-content/uploads/Forensics/SANE/Screenings/Danger-Assessment-Scoring.pdf

This podcast is intended for mature audiences. Some listeners may find the content distressing as episodes may include discussions of violence, human trafficking, and other forms of abuse, including emotional, psychological, sexual, financial, and physical. In many cases, names have been changed to protect those involved. Please note that the statements and opinions expressed by guests do not necessarily reflect my own.

Support the show

If you are in the United States and need immediate support, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline by calling 800-799-SAFE (7233) or texting START to 88788. If you're outside the United States, crisis resources are available at BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast.com/GetHelp.

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Every story shared helps another survivor know they are not alone.

Music: Tim Crowe

Dana's transformation from abuse survivor to community leader shows how trauma can become purpose when channeled into helping others. After enduring 17 years of family court battles and multiple forms of abuse, Dana founded the Survivor Center to create the support system she wished she'd had during her darkest moments.

The Survivor Center began with online support groups connecting women across the country facing similar struggles with domestic violence. What started as informal conversations evolved into a structured "survivor support bootcamp" addressing every aspect of healing - from identifying different forms of abuse to processing childhood trauma through powerful exercises like writing letters to your younger self.

Dana's approach combines emotional healing with practical support. Beyond the therapeutic elements of the program, she provides court accompaniment, teaching survivors how to navigate the complex and often biased family court system. Drawing from her extensive personal experience, she offers crucial guidance on everything from how to present yourself effectively in court to avoiding retraumatization when facing an abuser in legal settings.

The work extends to prevention through youth mentoring, prison ministry for incarcerated women, and Dana's book "Savage Angel," which provides spiritual guidance while supporting the nonprofit's mission. Throughout all these initiatives runs a thread of profound empathy and lived experience - Dana knows exactly what survivors need because she's walked the same path.

What's most striking about Dana's work is how she transforms even the most painful experiences into tools for helping others. Her message resonates with unwavering hope: "If I made it through, you can too." For those trapped in cycles of abuse, these words and the support system behind them may be the lifeline they desperately need.

To connect with the Survivor Center, visit survivorcenter.org, call 386-450-1966, or email [email protected]. All proceeds from Dana's book "Savage Angel" directly support the organization's vital work.

Dana's 1in3 bio: https://www.beyondthestatisticspodcast.com/guests/dana-hanuszczak/

This podcast is intended for mature audiences. Some listeners may find the content distressing as episodes may include discussions of violence, human trafficking, and other forms of abuse, including emotional, psychological, sexual, financial, and physical. In many cases, names have been changed to protect those involved. Please note that the statements and opinions expressed by guests do not necessarily reflect my own.

Support the show

If you are in the United States and need immediate support, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline by calling 800-799-SAFE (7233) or texting START to 88788. If you're outside the United States, crisis resources are available at BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast.com/GetHelp.

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Every story shared helps another survivor know they are not alone.

Music: Tim Crowe

The journey from victim to advocate is rarely straightforward, but Dana's story reveals the remarkable resilience of the human spirit against unimaginable odds. As a child in the Bronx, Dana navigated parental addiction, homelessness from age nine, and cultural displacement as the only Caucasian person in her neighborhood. Rather than succumbing to these challenges, she found solace in education and the kindness of neighbors who welcomed her into their homes.

Dana's candid account pulls no punches as she shares her experiences with trafficking at seventeen, surviving multiple violent relationships, and the gut-wrenching ordeal of fighting for her children. Perhaps most revealing is her seventeen-year battle through family courts across three states—a journey that transformed her pain into expertise. "Courts don't appreciate it," she explains about domestic violence claims, dispelling the myth that mothers always receive custody. Her hard-won insights into emotional regulation during court proceedings and strategic self-representation offer invaluable wisdom for listeners facing similar battles.

What sets Dana's testimony apart is her evolution from survival to purpose. After winning her final custody case, she channeled her experiences into "Savage Angel," a book helping women navigate family court trauma. When moving to Florida revealed a community plagued by domestic violence, addiction, and mental health crises with minimal resources, Dana founded The Survivor Center. Her approach—built on lived experience rather than theory—reframes trauma not as a life sentence but as a temporary chapter. "I want to be the poster child for what life looks like after abuse," she shares, offering hope to those who wonder if recovery is possible. Though her faith provided her personal pathway to healing, Dana serves everyone without judgment, recognizing that freedom from "captivity"—whether addiction, mental illness, or destructive relationships—begins with being truly seen and supported by someone who has walked the same path. This first episode in a two-part series lays the groundwork for understanding how one woman's darkest moments became the foundation for helping countless others find their way to light.

Link to Dana's 1 in 3 profile: https://www.beyondthestatisticspodcast.com/guests/dana-hanuszczak/

This podcast is intended for mature audiences. Some listeners may find the content distressing as episodes may include discussions of violence, human trafficking, and other forms of abuse, including emotional, psychological, sexual, financial, and physical. In many cases, names have been changed to protect those involved. Please note that the statements and opinions expressed by guests do not necessarily reflect my own.

Support the show

If you are in the United States and need immediate support, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline by calling 800-799-SAFE (7233) or texting START to 88788. If you're outside the United States, crisis resources are available at BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast.com/GetHelp.

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Every story shared helps another survivor know they are not alone.

Music: Tim Crowe

George's story begins with a childhood shaped by three different abusive men. From physical beatings by his foster father for minor childish behaviors to learning at age nine that the man he'd called "dad" wasn't his biological father, his early years were marked by confusion and pain.

When his stepfather entered the picture, the abuse escalated. One particularly cruel moment led to George's decision to bury his emotions completely—a survival mechanism that would last nearly four decades.

What makes George's testimony so remarkable is what happened after he finally shared his story publicly. After 40 years of emotional numbness—so complete he couldn't cry even when his beloved grandfather passed away—his feelings began to resurface.  "I don't remember these feelings," he explains, describing the strange experience of navigating emotions that feel brand new at age 54.

George's journey reminds us that healing doesn't follow a timeline. Sometimes our greatest breakthroughs come decades after trauma, when we find the courage to break our silence. His story offers hope that no matter how long we've carried our burdens, it's never too late to begin the work of reclaiming our full emotional lives.

This podcast is intended for mature audiences. Some listeners may find the content distressing as episodes may include discussions of violence, human trafficking, and other forms of abuse, including emotional, psychological, sexual, financial, and physical. In many cases, names have been changed to protect those involved. Please note that the statements and opinions expressed by guests do not necessarily reflect my own.

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If you are in the United States and need immediate support, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline by calling 800-799-SAFE (7233) or texting START to 88788. If you're outside the United States, crisis resources are available at BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast.com/GetHelp.

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Music: Tim Crowe

Money and fame shouldn't protect abusers, but they often do. This latest episode delves deep into one of Hollywood's most notorious domestic violence cases – the disturbing relationship between Mel Gibson and Oksana Grigorieva.

The relationship began like a Hollywood romance in 2009, quickly resulting in the birth of their daughter. But by January 2010, Gibson allegedly punched Oksana while she held their infant, breaking her teeth. What followed was extraordinary – recorded phone calls captured Gibson's terrifying threats. Despite pleading no contest to domestic violence, facing minimal consequences, and surrendering his firearms under the Lautenberg Amendment, Gibson recently had his gun rights restored by Attorney General Pam Bondi.

This isn't just about one celebrity – it reveals how power and influence can override the systems designed to protect survivors.

Sources:

https://people.com/crime/mel-gibson-not-obligated-to-pay-ex-oksana-grigorieva-settlement-balance/

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oxh3iQF0ZpI

https://www.today.com/video/mel-gibson-audio-recordings-awful-moment-in-time-44510787755

https://www.cnn.com/2010/SHOWBIZ/celebrity.news.gossip/07/09/mel.gibson.rant/index.html

https://radaronline.com/exclusives/2010/07/exclusive-new-audio-mel-gibson-admits-hitting-oksana-threatens-kill-her-listen-it/

https://radaronline.com/videos/exclusive-audio-tape-could-destroy-mel-no-one-will-believe-you-he-says-after-she/

https://people.com/celebrity/inside-mel-gibson-and-oksana-grigorievas-turbulent-romance/

https://www.atf.gov/rules-and-regulations/laws-alcohol-tobacco-firearms-and-explosives/gun-control-act

https://www.usmarshals.gov/resources/forms/lautenberg-amendment

https://www.nbcnews.com/politics/justice-department/doj-official-says-was-fired-opposing-restoration-mel-gibsons-gun-right-rcna195287

https://people.com/mel-gibson-gun-rights-restored-attorney-general-11709158

This podcast is intended for mature audiences. Some listeners may find the content distressing as episodes may include discussions of violence, human trafficking, and other forms of abuse, including emotional, psychological, sexual, financial, and physical. In many cases, names have been changed to protect those involved. Please note that the statements and opinions expressed by guests do not necessarily reflect my own.

Support the show

If you are in the United States and need immediate support, contact the National Domestic Violence Hotline by calling 800-799-SAFE (7233) or texting START to 88788. If you're outside the United States, crisis resources are available at BeyondTheStatisticsPodcast.com/GetHelp.

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Every story shared helps another survivor know they are not alone.

Music: Tim Crowe