🔞 Explicit Content Warning: This episode contains adult themes, body image discussions, and unfiltered lifestyle chat. Listener discretion advised.

In today’s episode, we’re getting very real about body confidence and insecurities in the lifestyle — from both the male and female perspective.

We’re talking about the things people worry about but rarely say out loud:
Performance anxiety & erections
Penis size worries
Mum-tums, surgery scars & post-baby bodies
Feeling “not enough” in play spaces

Nothing is off the table. Because the truth is — every single one of us has felt insecure at some point.

The boys are also spilling the tea on things that have actually affected them (yes, they’re really going there). Because most men don’t talk about this stuff… but they should.

In this episode we cover:
How to build confidence in your own skin
What to do when insecurity hits mid-situation
How to support your partner through body wobbles
Why nobody is as confident as they look

This one is for everyone in the lifestyle — whether you’re new, seasoned, or silently struggling with comparison and self-doubt.

No gatekeeping. No pretending. Just honest conversations that remind you: you are not alone.

Episode 25 — We’re Back, Bitches! (2026 Catch-Up)

Explicit Content Warning: Adult themes, lifestyle chat & unfiltered language. Listener discretion advised.

We’re back, bitches — did you miss us? 😘

Our first episode of 2026 is a proper catch-up, recorded the morning after our second Anti-Social Behaviour meet-up (yes… we’re hanging)

In this episode we’re chatting about:

🔥 What really went down at the Anti-Social Behaviour events

🎢 Our Butlin’s trip

❤️ An honest update on Amy & Ben’s progress after their wobble

🎄 Christmas chaos, life updates, and everything we’ve been up to

💬 And just generally having a good old natter like we never left

No agenda. Just us, catching up, oversharing (as always), and easing ourselves back into 2026 with our usual no sugarcoating, no gatekeeping, no bullshit energy.

If you’re new — welcome.

If you’re a regular — thanks for sticking with us.

Either way… we’re so glad to be back. 💋

🔞 Explicit Content Warning: This episode includes adult themes, lifestyle chat & unfiltered language. Listener discretion advised.

Merry Christmas you filthy animals! 🎄
This week we’re bringing you a festive special — recorded on location because apparently we like to challenge ourselves (and your eardrums). So if the audio is slightly chaotic, just pretend it’s snow, crystals, or sleigh bells. You know us — ever the professionals. 😉

In this episode, we’re diving into:

✨ Christmas & New Year events happening in the lifestyle
🎉 Our plans for the holiday season
🎄 Hilarious stories from festive meets gone by
💋 Celebrating our first play anniversary
🔥 The first ever Anti-Social DTF event happening the very night of recording
📜 Our “Fuck It List” for 2026 — what we want to try, explore, experience & maybe survive

It’s cozy, cheeky, slightly chaotic and full of festive filth — just the way we like it.
Grab a mulled wine, get comfy, and celebrate with us as we wrap up an incredible year with all of YOU. ❤️

Thank you for listening, supporting, laughing, learning and wobbling with us.
We love you and we’ll see you in 2026. 🎙️💋

🔞 Content Warning: This episode contains explicit discussion of adult themes, ENM, and the swinging lifestyle. Listener discretion is advised. 🔞

This week on Beyond Vanilla, Amy is catching up with Emily and Darren fresh off their Bliss Cruise adventure — and yes, they’ve brought home all the gossip… and a touch of the infamous swinger flu.

Expect uncensored stories, naughty tea, and zero gatekeeping as they spill exactly what really goes down on a debaucherous swinger’s cruise and their wild night at a Florida swinger resort. If you’ve ever wondered what these trips are actually like behind the glossy TikToks and filtered posts… buckle up.

We recorded this one remotely thanks to the germs they smuggled back from sea 👀 so please excuse a couple of small tech issues — but trust us, the stories more than make up for it.

Get comfy, grab a drink, and come sail into the chaos with us.

🔞 Explicit Content Warning: This episode contains open and honest discussions about ethical non-monogamy, solo play, emotional vulnerability, and relationship dynamics. Listener discretion advised.

This week it’s just Amy & Ben — and we’re keeping it extremely real.

We’re diving deep into what happens after solo play in an open relationship… when the emotions hit, the insecurities creep in, and your attachment style decides to make a surprise appearance.

Amy opens up about discovering her anxious attachment style and how it’s changed the way she understands her reactions, communication, and confidence in the lifestyle.

We’re breaking down:
How solo play can trigger unexpected feelings
How to communicate through the wobble without blame
How to recognise when it’s your attachment style talking — not your partner

And why it’s totally normal to have these feelings, even in a healthy, open relationship

No sugarcoating. No gatekeeping. Just the honest, messy, real side of ethical non-monogamy.

Because you can be secure and still have wobbles. You’re human.

🎙️ Content Warning: Adult themes, explicit language, and way too much laughter. 18+ only.

This week on Beyond Vanilla, Amy and Emily are joined by the one and only Doug the Pug in place of the boys!

We’re talking about breaking the ice in the lifestyle — creative, funny, and sometimes spicy ways to meet new couples that go beyond the usual bar or restaurant setup. Because let’s be real… not everyone’s a social butterfly or a drinker, and sometimes even us anti-social swingers need a few tricks up our sleeve.

From our own hilarious experiences to fresh ideas for first meets, we’re sharing real stories, real talk, and a few chaotic tangents (obviously).

Oh — and because it wouldn’t be us without a detour — we’re touching on BDSM in the lifestyle.

It’s raw, honest, unfiltered, and full of laughs — just how we like it.

🎧 Tune in to Episode 21 of Beyond Vanilla — where honesty meets hilarity in the world of ethical non-monogamy.

🔞 Explicit Content Warning: This episode contains adult themes related to the ENM and swinging lifestyle. Listener discretion is advised!

This time on Beyond Vanilla, Amy and Emily are diving into one of the trickiest parts of the lifestyle — rejection.
How do you handle being rejected? And how do you reject someone kindly without feeling like an absolute villain?

As Amy always says, “There’s a mop for every bucket — sometimes your mop just doesn’t fit in their bucket, and that’s okay!” 💦

We’re sharing our top tips and tricks for navigating rejection like pros — from setting boundaries and keeping confidence intact to remembering that it’s never personal.
We’re also chatting about neurospicy swingers, the real reasons rejection stings so much, and of course, sharing our usual chaos and funny stories along the way.

Unfiltered. Unapologetic. Absolutely no gatekeeping.
If you’ve ever felt that little sting of “not chosen,” this one’s for you.

🔞 Explicit Content Warning: This episode contains adult themes related to the swinging and ENM lifestyle.

🔞 Explicit Content – 18+ only 🔞

Amy & Emily are back on the sofa for Episode 19 of the Beyond Vanilla Podcast, and this week we’re tackling some of the biggest myths and misconceptions about the swinging lifestyle.

We’re breaking down what people think the lifestyle is versus what it’s actually like — from jealousy and relationships, to dogging myths, to whether friendships really exist in the ENM and swinger community.

We share our own personal experiences — the good, the bad, and the messy — and talk about how jealousy shows up (and why it doesn’t mean you’re a “bad swinger”), plus the realities of ethical non-monogamy, open relationships, and swinging.

As always, it’s raw, unfiltered, and unapologetically honest!

⚠️ Explicit Content | 18+ Only
This episode contains frank, unfiltered conversations about swinging, sex, and everything in between. If you’re under 18, this one’s not for you.

Episode 19 of the Beyond Vanilla Podcast with Amy, Emily , Benjamin & the one and only Doug the Pug.

This week we’re diving into YOUR questions straight from Instagram — and nothing is off-limits. From intimate hygiene to pegging, our dream club theme nights, going viral on TikTok, playroom etiquette, and even our thoughts on Bonnie Blue we are giving you our opinions in our usual unfiltered way!

As always, expect plenty of laughs, swearing, oversharing, and zero sugarcoating. No gatekeeping here — just the real talk about the lifestyle you won’t hear anywhere else.

🔞 Explicit Content – 18+ Only
This episode of Beyond the Vanilla is not for the faint-hearted. Secrets, Penthouse, orgies, fisting (yep, we said it) — nothing’s off limits in this episode. Amy, Emily & Ben are on the sofa with all the unfiltered stories, savage opinions, and unapologetic laughs you can only get from us. 🔞

Amy and Emily are back — and this time, they’ve dragged Ben onto the sofa with them (because let’s be honest, you all love when the boys get involved).

We’re spilling everything: Emily and Darren’s trip to Secrets, Amy and Ben’s Birmingham adventure including Amy's first time fisting a man! As you know by now she has no filter so be prepared to hear all about that in graphic detail.

Amy & Ben are spilling the tea about their bank holiday blowout at Penthouse. Expect chat about group play etiquette, what really goes down at an orgy, and some seriously unfiltered laughs along the way.

But it’s not all naughty stories — we’re also diving into the bigger stuff: disability and accessibility in the lifestyle, one-penis policies (and what we really think of them), and how relationship dynamics constantly shift.

As always, it’s unapologetic, uncensored, and most definitely unfiltered.