Beyond Vanilla

🔞 Adults only | Open-minded conversations about swinging, relationships and the lifestyle.

40 episodes in and we're FINALLY popping our guest cherry! 🍒🔥

For the very first time on Beyond Vanilla, we're welcoming guests onto the podcast — and we're doing it in style!

Amy and Emily are taking you behind the scenes at PDI Lifestyle Club in Birmingham, where we're joined by club owners Glen & Suzanna for a proper no-holds-barred chat about life in the swinging world.

We're getting all the juicy details, including:

Why Susanna and Glenn decided to open their own lifestyle club

What makes PDI different from other clubs

How they vet potential members and keep their community safe

Their single-guy policy and what you need to know

How long they've been in the lifestyle themselves

The exciting events they've got coming up

And plenty more!

Whether you're completely new to the lifestyle, curious about visiting your first club, or already a seasoned swinger, this episode gives you a fascinating insight into what really goes on behind the doors of a lifestyle club.

And if you've been following our socials this week, you'll have seen us taking you on a little tour of PDI. Now it's time to meet the people behind it!

Real conversations. Real experiences. No gatekeeping.

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18+ LISTENERS ONLY

Beyond Vanilla is an adults-only podcast discussing relationships, sex, ethical non-monogamy and the swinging lifestyle.

So… you’re curious about the lifestyle. Now what?

Amy C and Emily Spice go right back to the beginning and talk about what actually happens when you decide you might want to explore the swinging lifestyle.

From having those first conversations with your partner and navigating all the emotions that can come with them, to choosing apps, setting boundaries and figuring out what you’re actually comfortable with — we’re sharing what we’ve learned from our own experiences, including some of the communication mishaps we made along the way.

We also tackle single guys in the lifestyle.

From our perspective as women in couples, what makes a single guy stand out for the right reasons? How should you approach couples? What behaviours immediately put people off? And why respecting both partners, their relationship and their boundaries matters.

We discuss apps and profiles, first conversations, jealousy and unexpected emotions, communication, boundaries, respecting a “no”, mistakes beginners commonly make, and why you absolutely do not need to rush into anything.

Because getting started in the lifestyle isn't really about learning a secret set of swinging rules.

It's about learning how to communicate, knowing your own boundaries, respecting other people's — and finding a way of exploring what works for you.

18 plus only.

Beyond Vanilla is an adults-only podcast discussing relationships, ethical non-monogamy, sexual health, lifestyle experiences and the realities of navigating non-traditional relationships. This episode contains mature discussions and is intended for listeners aged 18 and over.

Wife snatching?! What actually counts as acceptable behaviour in the lifestyle?

This week on Beyond Vanilla, we're answering another listener question and diving into the often-unspoken rules of lifestyle etiquette...

How should you actually message people in the lifestyle? What is appropriate to say, and what definitely isn't? How do you approach couples without making assumptions? And what should you do when someone makes it clear that they're not interested?

We also get into group experiences and orgy etiquette, including respecting personal space, understanding boundaries, communicating clearly and remembering that consent applies at every stage of an interaction.

Amy and Emily share some of their own experiences, including stories about messages they've received, situations where people have ignored or pushed past their boundaries, and the lessons they've learned along the way.

This is a really honest conversation about something that doesn't always get talked about enough: being a decent human being in the lifestyle.

Whether you're completely new to non-monogamy or you've been navigating the lifestyle for years, there's something here for everyone.

Listen, learn, laugh with us, and maybe rethink that message before you hit send.

18+ LISTENERS ONLY

Beyond Vanilla is an adults-only podcast discussing relationships, ethical non-monogamy, sexual health and other mature topics. This episode contains frank discussions about adult experiences and is intended for listeners aged 18 and over.

You meet someone in the lifestyle. You have a great time. You stay in touch afterwards, talk about meeting again... and then suddenly, nothing.

Have you been ghosted? Should they have told you they weren't interested? And what actually is the etiquette after you've played with someone?

This week, we're answering a listener's question about feeling snubbed by a previous play partner who appeared keen to meet again, but the promised second meet never materialised.

Amy and Emily discuss the sometimes awkward world of after-play etiquette, communication and expectations. Does sharing an experience with someone mean you owe each other anything afterwards? Is it kinder to simply say you're no longer interested? And how do you deal with feeling rejected when they're still very much active in the lifestyle — just apparently not with you?

We also talk about not taking every rejection personally, why a great experience doesn't necessarily mean there'll be another one, and how clearer communication could save everyone a lot of unnecessary overthinking.

Plus, we answer another listener question about choosing lifestyle clubs and what we'd recommend looking for when deciding where to go.

Another honest, judgement-free conversation about the bits of the lifestyle nobody gives you a handbook for.

18+ Listener Advisory: Beyond Vanilla is intended for adults aged 18 and over and contains frank discussions about sex, sexual health, relationships and ethical non-monogamy. Listener discretion is advised.

A listener sent us a question: “How common is it for someone to ejaculate in their play partners mouth in the lifestyle — and is that considered okay?”

It opened up a much bigger conversation.

Because when it comes to swinging, there isn’t a universal rulebook for what is or isn’t okay. What one person enjoys may be completely off-limits for someone else.

In Episode 36, we talk about consent, communication and why assumptions have no place in the lifestyle.

We discuss the importance of talking about boundaries before you play, checking in with new partners, and understanding that consent to one sexual activity doesn’t automatically mean consent to another.

We also explore etiquette when playing with other people, how couples can communicate their individual boundaries, and why being comfortable saying “yes”, “no” or “not for me” is such an important part of creating safer, more enjoyable experiences.

Ultimately, the answer to “Is this okay in the lifestyle?” is often very simple:

Have you talked about it?

Have they consented to it?

And is everyone involved genuinely comfortable with it?

Another honest, judgement-free conversation from Beyond Vanilla about the questions people want answered but don't always feel comfortable asking.

🔞 18+ Content Warning

Beyond Vanilla is an adults-only podcast.

Consent isn't a one-time conversation—it's the foundation of the lifestyle.

In this episode, we're diving into one of the most important topics in ethical non-monogamy: consent. We discuss why consent is an ongoing conversation, not just something that's agreed once and forgotten.

We also explore how sensationalist media coverage of swinging and the non-monogamous community can create fear, spread misinformation, and reinforce harmful stereotypes.

From clickbait headlines to the recent stories dominating the news, we unpack the difference between what really happens in the lifestyle and the way it's often portrayed.

We also share our own experiences of being judged and treated differently in vanilla settings simply because we're swingers, and why stigma still exists despite the lifestyle being built on communication, honesty and consent.

Whether you're curious about the lifestyle, already part of it, or simply interested in the conversations around relationships, this episode is all about separating fact from fiction.

In this episode we discuss:
Why consent is an ongoing process
Clickbait, sensationalism and media myths
Our personal experiences of stigma and judgement
Why communication is the real foundation of the lifestyle
As always, we're here to educate, share our experiences, and have real unfiltered conversations.

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🔞 Explicit Content Warning: This episode contains adult themes, sexual health discussions, and unfiltered language. Listener discretion advised.

This week on Beyond Vanilla, it's just Amy and Emily, and absolutely nothing is off limits.

We're diving deep into all things vaginas, intimate health, confidence, and the realities of navigating life in the lifestyle as women.

Let's be honest — there are some conversations that women are often told to keep quiet about. Well... not this week.

In this episode, we're talking about:

💗 BV, thrush, and common intimate health issues
💗 How we keep things fresh when our vaginas are hosting more guests than average
💗 Appearance, smell, taste, and body confidence
💗 The myths, insecurities, and pressures women face
💗 Practical tips for maintaining intimate health in the lifestyle
💗 Our experiences with orgasms, squirting, toy play, and sexual exploration
💗 Why there should be absolutely no shame around talking about any of it

As always, we're bringing our usual honesty, humour, oversharing, and real-life experiences to the table. No awkwardness, no judgement, and definitely no sugarcoating.

Whether you're brand new to the lifestyle or have been around for years, this episode is all about normalising the conversations women are often too embarrassed to have.

Because every vagina is different, every body is different, and there is far less to worry about than most of us have been led to believe.

So grab a drink, get comfortable, and join us for one of our most open, honest, and educational chats yet.

No gatekeeping. No bullshit. Just real talk. 💋

Explicit Content Warning: This episode contains adult themes, lifestyle discussion, and unfiltered language. Listener discretion advised.

This week on Beyond Vanilla, it’s Amy, Ben, and Emily catching up on all of our latest lifestyle adventures.

We’re chatting about recent club nights, birthday celebrations, the dreaded swingers flu, and the growing DTF community we’ve created over on Telegram. We also get into rodeo-themed events, the chaos, the laughs, and everything else that’s been keeping us busy lately.

As always, this isn’t a polished highlight reel. It’s just three friends sharing the reality of life in and around the lifestyle—the funny moments, the ridiculous moments, and everything in between.

Expect plenty of laughter, a fair bit of swearing, complete honesty, and the usual Beyond Vanilla tangents that somehow take us miles away from where we started.

So grab a drink, get comfortable, and join us for another catch-up episode packed with stories, opinions, and absolutely no sugarcoating, no gatekeeping, and no bullshit.

Enjoy! 

🔞 Explicit Content Warning: This episode contains adult themes, lifestyle discussion, and unfiltered language. Listener discretion advised.

This week on Beyond Vanilla, we’re bringing you a very special Bliss Cruise episode with Emily and Darren taking us onboard one of the most talked-about swinger’s cruises out there.

And trust us… this is one you’ll definitely want to watch over on YouTube too, because there are LOTS of visuals in this episode — including:
🏡 Tours of the Airbnb
🚢 Tours around the Bliss cruise itself
✨ Theme nights, outfits, and the overall vibe onboard
👀 Behind-the-scenes moments and what really goes on at a swinger’s cruise

We’re diving deep into what the experience is actually like — from the excitement of boarding to the chaos, connections, parties, and the very real aftermath of cruise life.

You’ll be right there in the action with Emily and Darren as they take you back to their cabin, share their honest thoughts, and give you a genuine insight into what a lifestyle cruise is really all about.

As always, we’re keeping it real — no sugarcoating, no gatekeeping, no bullshit. Just the funny, messy, exciting reality of the lifestyle, exactly as it happened.

So if you’ve ever wondered whether a Bliss Cruise is worth it… this episode is for you. 💋

🔞 Explicit Content Warning: This episode contains adult themes, lifestyle discussion, and unfiltered language. Listener discretion advised.

This week on Beyond Vanilla, we’re asking a question that a lot of people are thinking… but not many are saying out loud:

Has the lifestyle lost its spark?

With the rise of social media, content creation, and the lifestyle becoming more visible than ever, things are changing — but is that a good thing… or are we losing something along the way?

In this episode, we’re talking about:
📱 The influence of social media on the swinging lifestyle
👀 Has it become too mainstream?
✨ The positives — more openness, more acceptance, more community
⚠️ The downsides — comparison, performance, and unrealistic expectations
💭 Whether the “spark” has really gone… or just evolved

We’re also sharing why we believe it’s so important to be honest about all sides of the lifestyle — not just the highlights, but the difficult moments too.

As always, we’re keeping it real — no sugarcoating, no gatekeeping, no bullshit.

And we really want to hear from you on this one…

Do you think the lifestyle has changed for the better — or lost some of its magic?