Beyond Vanilla

🎙️ Content Warning: Adult themes, explicit language, and way too much laughter. 18+ only.

This week on Beyond Vanilla, Amy and Emily are joined by the one and only Doug the Pug in place of the boys!

We’re talking about breaking the ice in the lifestyle — creative, funny, and sometimes spicy ways to meet new couples that go beyond the usual bar or restaurant setup. Because let’s be real… not everyone’s a social butterfly or a drinker, and sometimes even us anti-social swingers need a few tricks up our sleeve.

From our own hilarious experiences to fresh ideas for first meets, we’re sharing real stories, real talk, and a few chaotic tangents (obviously).

Oh — and because it wouldn’t be us without a detour — we’re touching on BDSM in the lifestyle.

It’s raw, honest, unfiltered, and full of laughs — just how we like it.

🎧 Tune in to Episode 21 of Beyond Vanilla — where honesty meets hilarity in the world of ethical non-monogamy.

🔞 Explicit Content Warning: This episode contains adult themes related to the ENM and swinging lifestyle. Listener discretion is advised!

This time on Beyond Vanilla, Amy and Emily are diving into one of the trickiest parts of the lifestyle — rejection.
How do you handle being rejected? And how do you reject someone kindly without feeling like an absolute villain?

As Amy always says, “There’s a mop for every bucket — sometimes your mop just doesn’t fit in their bucket, and that’s okay!” 💦

We’re sharing our top tips and tricks for navigating rejection like pros — from setting boundaries and keeping confidence intact to remembering that it’s never personal.
We’re also chatting about neurospicy swingers, the real reasons rejection stings so much, and of course, sharing our usual chaos and funny stories along the way.

Unfiltered. Unapologetic. Absolutely no gatekeeping.
If you’ve ever felt that little sting of “not chosen,” this one’s for you.

🔞 Explicit Content Warning: This episode contains adult themes related to the swinging and ENM lifestyle.

🔞 Explicit Content – 18+ only 🔞

Amy & Emily are back on the sofa for Episode 19 of the Beyond Vanilla Podcast, and this week we’re tackling some of the biggest myths and misconceptions about the swinging lifestyle.

We’re breaking down what people think the lifestyle is versus what it’s actually like — from jealousy and relationships, to dogging myths, to whether friendships really exist in the ENM and swinger community.

We share our own personal experiences — the good, the bad, and the messy — and talk about how jealousy shows up (and why it doesn’t mean you’re a “bad swinger”), plus the realities of ethical non-monogamy, open relationships, and swinging.

As always, it’s raw, unfiltered, and unapologetically honest!

⚠️ Explicit Content | 18+ Only
This episode contains frank, unfiltered conversations about swinging, sex, and everything in between. If you’re under 18, this one’s not for you.

Episode 19 of the Beyond Vanilla Podcast with Amy, Emily , Benjamin & the one and only Doug the Pug.

This week we’re diving into YOUR questions straight from Instagram — and nothing is off-limits. From intimate hygiene to pegging, our dream club theme nights, going viral on TikTok, playroom etiquette, and even our thoughts on Bonnie Blue we are giving you our opinions in our usual unfiltered way!

As always, expect plenty of laughs, swearing, oversharing, and zero sugarcoating. No gatekeeping here — just the real talk about the lifestyle you won’t hear anywhere else.

🔞 Explicit Content – 18+ Only
This episode of Beyond the Vanilla is not for the faint-hearted. Secrets, Penthouse, orgies, fisting (yep, we said it) — nothing’s off limits in this episode. Amy, Emily & Ben are on the sofa with all the unfiltered stories, savage opinions, and unapologetic laughs you can only get from us. 🔞

Amy and Emily are back — and this time, they’ve dragged Ben onto the sofa with them (because let’s be honest, you all love when the boys get involved).

We’re spilling everything: Emily and Darren’s trip to Secrets, Amy and Ben’s Birmingham adventure including Amy's first time fisting a man! As you know by now she has no filter so be prepared to hear all about that in graphic detail.

Amy & Ben are spilling the tea about their bank holiday blowout at Penthouse. Expect chat about group play etiquette, what really goes down at an orgy, and some seriously unfiltered laughs along the way.

But it’s not all naughty stories — we’re also diving into the bigger stuff: disability and accessibility in the lifestyle, one-penis policies (and what we really think of them), and how relationship dynamics constantly shift.

As always, it’s unapologetic, uncensored, and most definitely unfiltered.

⚠️ Explicit Content Warning
This podcast is strictly 18+. We’re unfiltered, uncensored, and diving into conversations you’d usually only have behind closed doors with your partner… if you were a swinger. Expect blunt talk, adult themes, and zero sugarcoating.

This weeks episode is all about Amy’s life-changing ladies-only party, Ben’s big blessing for her first solo meet with a single guy, Emily’s upcoming trip to Secrets… plus a cheeky backdoor tip from Emily you’ll only hear on this podcast.

Honest, unfiltered, and the kind of things you’d only say if you were a swinger.

We’re back with a brand-new episode and diving straight into all the things you only talk about if you’re in the lifestyle.

Amy shares her trip to the ladies-only Tequila Rose party — and why it was a total game-changer. Ben and Amy open up about a recent meet that sparked the topic of social monogamy: what does it mean, and are you socially monogamous & why? Plus, we’re talking about bi men in the lifestyle, Emily’s upcoming trip to Secrets, and Ben giving Amy the ultimate blessing — her first solo meet with a single guy!

And of course, it wouldn’t be Beyond Vanilla without a little cheeky chat about the backdoor, with Emily sharing a surprising top tip she picked up from a bi guy.

Unfiltered, honest, and straight from the heart — we’re talking about the things most people never would, but swingers say out loud.

👉 Follow us on Instagram & TikTok, grab our free PDF, and join the conversation. Our DMs are always open we love to here from you.

⚠️ This podcast contains adult themes, explicit language, and frank discussions about sex and non-monogamy. 18+ only. Listener discretion is advised.

Episode 15: Swingers, Sun Headlines & the Rise of the Anti-Social

We’re back, baby — and we’ve got a lot to say. After a short break (and a cheeky little feature in The Sun),

Amy & Emily are catching you up on everything we’ve been up to — and clapping back at the so-called “experts” who say you can’t be non-monogamous and a good parent. Spoiler: we disagree, and so do many of you. 👏

In this episode, we’re diving deep into:
💥 BTS of our day shooting for The Sun newspaper
🍼 Non-monogamy + parenting — why can't you do both?
📉 How the lifestyle has changed & we don't like it!
🥂 From wild playrooms to staged socials — where did the fun go?
🔥 Why swinging is about casual sex (not clout)
🚫 Introducing The Anti-Social — for when you’re actually DTF 😏

We’re bringing it all: unfiltered thoughts, extremely honest opinions, and a touch of nostalgia for when the lifestyle was wild, sexy, and not so curated.

🎧 Tune in, join the chat, and don’t forget to grab our free boundaries & rules PDF https://linktr.ee/beyondvanilla

Follow us on Insta & TikTok for more cheeky content.

🔞 18+ Listener Warning: This episode contains open discussions about sexual assault, misconduct, and boundary violations in the lifestyle. Please listen with care, and skip this one if it may be triggering for you.

Episode 14: When Boundaries Are Crossed – Talking About Assault & Misconduct in the Lifestyle

Today’s episode is a more serious one, but one we feel is so important.

We’re talking openly about sexual assault, misconduct, and inappropriate behaviour within the swinging lifestyle,

This includes stories from all four of us, including the boys, because we believe it’s time we stop ignoring how these issues affect everyone, not just women.

You’ll hear:
⚠️ Our personal stories and experiences
⚠️ A powerful story from our friend Bella, shared with her permission
⚠️ Why misconduct toward men is often overlooked
⚠️ The cultural differences in etiquette between countries
⚠️ Why boundaries and consent must always come first — no matter where you are

We know the lifestyle can be one of the most supportive, loving, empowering communities — but that doesn’t mean it’s perfect. And when things do go wrong, it’s crucial that we talk about it.

If anything in this episode resonates with you, know that you're not alone, and it wasn’t your fault. Our DMs and inbox are always open if you need to talk.

💌 Download our FREE Rules & Boundaries quiz: https://tr.ee/beyondvanilla

Lots of love

Amy, Emily, Ben & Darren x

Episode 13: Open House – Great Sex Experiment or Lifestyle Letdown?

🔞 This podcast is for adults only. We chat openly about sex, non-monogamy, and all things spicy — so if you're under 18 or not into frank conversations, this one's not for you.

We’ve made it to the end of Open House: The Great Sex Experiment Season 3 — and you know we’ve got thoughts.

In this episode, we’re breaking down the final two episodes and giving our full, unfiltered opinion on the series as a whole. Was it a bold step forward for non-monogamy on mainstream TV… or just another reality show chasing drama over authenticity?

💬 We’re chatting:
— What worked (and what seriously didn’t)
— How the lifestyle was portrayed overall
— The moments that made us cringe, and the ones that hit home
— Whether we’d recommend it to the curious or keep it in the “maybe not” pile

As always, we’re bringing honesty, humour, and a whole lot of spicy insight from the perspective of two happily married besties living the lifestyle for real.

💌 Don’t forget to grab our FREE Lifestyle Rules & Boundaries Quiz to help guide your own journey:
https://tr.ee/beyondvanilla

🎙️ Episode 10: Red Flags, Unhinged DMs & Getting Real About STIs

🔞 This podcast is for adults only. We chat openly about sex, non-monogamy, and all things spicy — so if you're under 18 or not into frank conversations, this one's not for you.

This one’s raw, real, and straight from the heart.

In this episode, we’re unpacking:
🚩 Red flags you’ve sent us from your own experiences in the lifestyle
📩 Some of the wildest, weirdest, and downright unhinged single guy messages. This is a lesson in how NOT to message!
🧪 And — in our most honest moment yet — we’re sharing our personal experience of testing positive for an STI

Yep, we’re outing ourselves — not for sympathy, but because we believe this is the conversation that needs to be had. Most people wouldn’t admit it… but we are. Because sexual health is a part of the lifestyle. Testing, talking, and taking responsibility — it’s all part of being in this community, and we’re done with the stigma & shame.

We’re laying it all bare in our usual frank, funny, and unfiltered way. If you’ve ever wondered just how honest we’ll get — this is the one that proves it.

💌 Don’t forget to grab our FREE Lifestyle Rules & Boundaries Quiz:
https://tr.ee/beyondvanilla

💋 Honest. Vulnerable. Zero shame. And always Beyond Vanilla.