Resources for this Episode

Episode 169. Real Insight and Advice for Remarried Parents AND Their Concerned Adult Children

Episode 147. Do sensitive conversations end up creating conflict in your relationship

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Stepfamily expert Ron Deal says, "Never mind that your children are adults, this is a hard transition for them because it comes at a great cost".

In this episode, we'll uncover the challenging family issues that often come up when a parent with adult children chooses to remarry or become romantically involved.  

We'll explore these sensitive issues from two unique perspectives.  The perspective of the parent who is struggling to understand why their adult child is reacting emotionally to their decision to remarry…

…AND…

…from the perspective of the adult child who could be experiencing painful emotions as they struggle to accept their parent's remarriage.

This episode is an opportunity for parent and adult child to help ease tensions, preserve your relationship, and take a step forward as a family.

You'll Discover:

• Valuable insight and understanding around the perspective of everyone in your family
• Practical tips for communicating,  maintaining connection, and moving beyond the tension

Resources from this Episode:

• Episode 168. Actionable Steps For Helping Kids Navigate Through Difficult Emotions and Problem Solve
• Episode 72.  The Best Way to Create Healthy, Bonded Relationships 
• Episode 140. Blending with Adult Children - One Couple's Story of Heartache and Triumph
• Episode 118. Meaningful Insight & Practical Strategies to Help Your Blended Family Navigate Holiday Challenges
• Book by Lauren Reitsema:  In Their Shoes - Helping Parents better understand and connect with children of divorce

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We've heard it said that behavior is the visible expression of invisible issues — it's the warning light on the dashboard. 

Often, it's the warning light of our child's misbehavior that catches our attention, but what are the invisible issues going on under the surface?

Usually, it's difficult emotions. 

When kids experience something troubling, negative emotions will naturally arise and often they aren't even aware of what's going on inside.  Because kids lack emotional maturity, they tend to misbehave simply because they haven't yet learned how to manage the difficult emotions they're experiencing.

That means your kids and step-kids need your help!

If the kids living in your home tend to emotionally express themselves by getting angry, disrespectful, anxious, acting out, or withdrawing from the family (just to name a few), this episode is for you.

Learning to become 'Emotion Coaching Parents' has been a game changer for us and it's one of the best things we've done to equip our kids for adulthood.  Discover the difference you can make in your kids' lives by following along this week with our 4 part mini-series on raising an emotionally intelligent child.   

Resources from this Episode:

• Episode 132. How does loss and grief impact blended family integration?
• Episode 71. How to Help Kids Cope with Painful Holiday Disappointment
• Episode 28. What if what you think is defiance is actually something else? (Counter will)
• Episode 74. How to develop appropriate and effective consequences that empower responsibility
• Parenting Style Quiz (from John Gottman)
• Book by John Gottman:  Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child 
• Emotions Chart  (for young kids)
• Feel Wheel (for young kids)
• Feel Wheel Sticker (for teens/adults)

Ready for some extra support?

We're here to help.  Schedule your free coaching call here:   https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesession

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We've heard it said that behavior is the visible expression of invisible issues — it's the warning light on the dashboard. 

Often, it's the warning light of our child's misbehavior that catches our attention, but what are the invisible issues going on under the surface?

Usually, it's difficult emotions. 

When kids experience something troubling, negative emotions will naturally arise and often they aren't even aware of what's going on inside.  Because kids lack emotional maturity, they tend to misbehave simply because they haven't yet learned how to manage the difficult emotions they're experiencing.

That means your kids and step-kids need your help!

If the kids living in your home tend to emotionally express themselves by getting angry, disrespectful, anxious, acting out, or withdrawing from the family (just to name a few), this episode is for you.

Learning to become 'Emotion Coaching Parents' has been a game changer for us and it's one of the best things we've done to equip our kids for adulthood.  Discover the difference you can make in your kids' lives by following along this week with our 4 part mini-series on raising an emotionally intelligent child.   

Resources from this Episode:

• Episode 132. How does loss and grief impact blended family integration?
• Episode 71. How to Help Kids Cope with Painful Holiday Disappointment
• Episode 28. What if what you think is defiance is actually something else? (Counter will)
• Episode 74. How to develop appropriate and effective consequences that empower responsibility
• Parenting Style Quiz (from John Gottman)
• Book by John Gottman:  Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child 
• Emotions Chart  (for young kids)
• Feel Wheel (for young kids)
• Feel Wheel Sticker (for teens/adults)

Ready for some extra support?

We're here to help.  Schedule your free coaching call here:   https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesession

We've heard it said that behavior is the visible expression of invisible issues — it's the warning light on the dashboard. 

Often, it's the warning light of our child's misbehavior that catches our attention, but what are the invisible issues going on under the surface?

Usually, it's difficult emotions. 

When kids experience something troubling, negative emotions will naturally arise and often they aren't even aware of what's going on inside.  Because kids lack emotional maturity, they tend to misbehave simply because they haven't yet learned how to manage the difficult emotions they're experiencing.

That means your kids and step-kids need your help!

If the kids living in your home tend to emotionally express themselves by getting angry, disrespectful, anxious, acting out, or withdrawing from the family (just to name a few), this episode is for you.

Learning to become 'Emotion Coaching Parents' has been a game changer for us and it's one of the best things we've done to equip our kids for adulthood.  Discover the difference you can make in your kids' lives by following along this week with our 4 part mini-series on raising an emotionally intelligent child.   

Resources from this Episode:

• Episode 132. How does loss and grief impact blended family integration?
• Episode 71. How to Help Kids Cope with Painful Holiday Disappointment
• Episode 28. What if what you think is defiance is actually something else? (Counter will)
• Episode 74. How to develop appropriate and effective consequences that empower responsibility
• Parenting Style Quiz (from John Gottman)
• Book by John Gottman:  Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child 
• Emotions Chart  (for young kids)
• Feel Wheel (for young kids)
• Feel Wheel Sticker (for teens/adults)

Ready for some extra support?

We're here to help.  Schedule your free coaching call here:   https://calendly.com/mikeandkimcoaching/freesession

We've heard it said that behavior is the visible expression of invisible issues — it's the warning light on the dashboard. 

Often, it's the warning light of our child's misbehavior that catches our attention, but what are the invisible issues going on under the surface?

Usually, it's difficult emotions. 

When kids experience something troubling, negative emotions will naturally arise and often they aren't even aware of what's going on inside.  Because kids lack emotional maturity, they tend to misbehave simply because they haven't yet learned how to manage the difficult emotions they're experiencing.

That means your kids and step-kids need your help!

If the kids living in your home tend to emotionally express themselves by getting angry, disrespectful, anxious, acting out, or withdrawing from the family (just to name a few), this episode is for you.

Learning to become 'Emotion Coaching Parents' has been a game changer for us and it's one of the best things we've done to equip our kids for adulthood.  Discover the difference you can make in your kids' lives by following along this week with our 4 part mini-series on raising an emotionally intelligent child. 
  

Resources from this Episode:

• Episode 132. How does loss and grief impact blended family integration?
• Episode 71. How to Help Kids Cope with Painful Holiday Disappointment
• Episode 28. What if what you think is defiance is actually something else? (Counter will)
• Episode 74. How to develop appropriate and effective consequences that empower responsibility
• Parenting Style Quiz (from John Gottman)
• Book by John Gottman:  Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child 
• Emotions Chart  (for young kids)
• Feel Wheel (for young kids)
• Feel Wheel Sticker (for teens & adults)

Ready for some extra support?

We're here to help.  Schedule your free coaching call here:  https://calendl

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Resources

Episode 59 & 60. Why are you stuck in a parent-child allegiance?
Episode 139. The Most Common Challenging Pain Point Every Blended Couple Experiences
Episode 98. Is fear of being vulnerable keeping you from loving your spouse wholeheartedly?
Episode 99. 3 Tips to Help You Move Beyond Painful Guild and Regret
Episode 4. Can you overcome your parenting style differences?
Episode 167. 3 Achievable Strategies to Make Your Marriage the Foundation of Your Blended Family

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Many of us tend to believe we need to quickly establish our couple relationship as the foundation of our home, right?

And yes, that's the goal…

…eventually.

In a blended family, it's unrealistic to expect this to happen right away.  And if you've been trying to "force it", you've probably run into all kinds of challenges.

Successfully blending a family requires a well-thought-out strategy because the structure is simply different than a first family.

This can be confusing and frustrating for blended couples who are ready to merge their family and make their relationship the foundation of their home.

Why?

Because it's just NOT as simple or easy as we think it should be. 

Often, our expectations and experiences seem to be at odds.  Particularly when it comes to making decisions and prioritize our time, energy and resources.  

And, of course, our kids and step-kids have their own expectations as well. 

In this episode, we'll share 3 achievable strategies to appropriately prioritize your marriage to establish it as the foundation of your home.

Understanding and managing these delicate dynamics is one of the most important aspects of blending.  Doing this well can make or break the future of your relationship — and your family!  

You'll Discover:

• 3 specific strategies to focus on as you establish your marriage as the foundation of your home
• How blended family structure is different than a first family — and why it's important to understand these unique dynamics
• How to meet everyone's needs without feeling overwhelmed or stuck

Resources from this Episode:

• Episode 139.  The Most Common, Challenging Pain Point Every Blended Couple Experiences (Trapped Teammate / Stranded Stranger dynamic)
• Episode 49.  Should You Highest Priority be Your Marriage…Or Your Kids?
• Episode 72.  The Best Way to Create Healthy, Bonded Relationships
• Episode 130.  How to Build Trust that Nurtures Bonds with Your Kids & Step-Kids 
• Episode 40.  Uncover the Unspoken Feelings of Kids in Blended Families
• Episode 132.  How Does Loss and Grief Impact Blended Family Integration?
• Episode 37.  Why do Kids Struggle to Accept their Stepparent?
• Episode 46.  How to Focus When Your Step-Kids are Ruining Your Marriage
• Episode 35.  Are You Controlling Conflict or is it Controlling You?
• Episode 63.  5 Strategies to Help You Get United - Even When You Disagree

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