Permission with Jamie Scrimgeour

This week, I'm chatting with wardrobe stylist Chellie Carlson, and we get into a lot more than what jeans to buy. We talk about the psychology behind getting dressed, the piece of self-care so many women are missing, and the connection Chellie makes between your wardrobe, your confidence, and your earning potential. Because whether we like it or not, how we represent ourselves to the world affects how we're treated. In this episode, we talk about:

• How what you put on in the morning can affect how you feel, how you show up, and what you're willing to put yourself out there for.
• Why Chellie thinks most women need to buy bigger jeans.
• What needs to go from your closet before you buy anything else.
• Her thoughts on skinny jeans coming back
• What a boy said to me on the basketball court in grade seven that has haunted me ever since.
• Whether I really need to get out of my Lululemons when I'm working from home, and how to feel put together while still being comfortable.

There's practical style advice in here, but also a lot that might make you think differently about getting dressed tomorrow morning.

https://www.chelliecarlson.com/

Permission on Substack: www.jamiescrimgeour.com/substack

SPONSORS:

OSEA www.oseamalibu.com use code PERMISSION for 10% off

Cozy Earth www.cozyearth.com use code COZYJAMIE for 20% off

LMNT www.drinklmnt.com/permission

Bethany Webster is back on the podcast, and if you've been around for a while, you know how much her work has impacted me personally.

Bethany is the author of Discovering the Inner Mother and is known for her work around the Mother Wound and the complicated dynamics between mothers and daughters.

Her work has been transformational for me in dealing with my own relationship with my mother, and there's something about the way Bethany talks about this stuff that I always find so healing.

In this episode, we talk about:

• The Mother Wound and complicated dynamics between mothers and daughters
• Where some of these dynamics come from
• Jealousy between mothers and daughters
• The Shame women can feel when they don't have a positive relationship with their mom
• How unmet needs from childhood can show up in adult relationships
• Why so many women feel like they need to do everything for everyone else
• Our worry about saying no or not meeting everyone's needs
• Burnout, boundaries and asking for help
• Letting go of pressure
• What happens when your definition of success changes

This is such an honest conversation about our relationships with our mothers, the ways those relationships can continue to affect us as adults, and what it looks like to start doing things differently.

Connect with Bethany at https://www.bethanywebster.com/

Subscribe to the Permission Newsletter www.jamiescrimgeour.com/substack

Sponsors:

Cozy Earth www.cozyearth.com use code COZYJAMIE for 20% off

LMNT www.drinklmnt.com/kickassstepmom

Boncharge www.boncharge.com use code SCRIM for 15% off

Tonic Site Shop www.tonicsiteshop.com use code JAMIE15 for 15% off

Kelly Hubbell, founder of Sage Haus, is on the show today to talk about something so many women are feeling: the mental load of keeping a household running.

And before you think, a house manager sounds bougie and completely unattainable... don't judge this episode before you hear it.

We talk about:

• What a house manager actually does
• The invisible labour women carry at home
• The guilt and judgment that can come with outsourcing
• How to figure out what you actually need help with
• What a house manager costs and ways to make it more affordable
• The things I personally outsource that women have judged me for
• Why getting support at home can impact your business, relationships and life

Even if you never hire a house manager, this episode will make you think differently about what you're carrying and what you could stop doing yourself.

Connect with Kelly at www.sagehaus.com

Sponsors: Subscribe to the Permission Newsletter www.jamiescrimgeour.com/substack

The ChatGPT Setup Every Woman Needs www.jamiescrimgeour.com/chatsetup

OSEA www.oseamalibu.com use code PERMISSION for 10% off

Cozy Earth www.cozyearth.com use code COZYJAMIE for 20% off

Colleen Freeland, founder of Emotional Sobriety Coaching, is on the show today. Colleen helps high-achieving women change their relationship with alcohol without shame, surrender or the idea that the only option is to never drink again.

In this episode, we talk about:

• Mommy wine culture back in the covid days
• Using alcohol as a way to cope
• Why cutting back isn't just about willpower
• Mindful and responsible drinking
• Emotional regulation and paying attention to what you actually need
• Colleen's strategies for hangovers
• The pressure women are under
• What Colleen learned from AA and why she began questioning the disease model of alcoholism
• What changing your relationship with alcohol can look like without necessarily cutting it out completely

This was such an honest, eye-opening conversation, and I think a lot of women will see themselves in parts of it.

Connect with Colleen at www.emotionalsobrietycoaching.com

Subscribe to the Permission Newsletter www.jamiescrimgeour.com/substack LMNT www.drinklmnt.com/kickassstepmom

What if nothing is actually wrong with your life… but you still know you want something different? In the first episode of Permission, I'm talking about reinvention, starting over at 40, and what it really looks like to walk away from a successful business and identity you've outgrown. I'm sharing why I left the stepmom niche after almost a decade, the financial and ego hit that came with changing direction, and what this season is teaching me about money, work, getting older and figuring out what comes next. Because you don't need to hate your life to want to change it. And you don't need to have the entire next chapter figured out to start.

Welcome to Permission. I'm so glad you're here.

Subscribe to the Permission Newsletter www.jamiescrimgeour.com/substack

Cozy Earth www.cozyearth.com code COZYJAMIE for 20% off

The ChatGPT Setup Every Woman Needs www.jamiescrimgeour.com/chatsetup

The Stepmom Summit www.thestepmomsummit.com

Human Design is an incredible tool for finding alignment in yourself, your relationships, and your stepfamily life, but it can feel overwhelming to get started. That's where Erin Claire Jones comes in. Her unique approach makes understanding human design feel easy.

In this episode of The KICK-ASS Stepmom Podcast Jamie and Erin discuss Erin's new book How Do You Choose: A Human Design Guide to What's Best For You At Work, In Love, and In Life, and Erin will walk you through the human design basics you need to know to get started.

In this episode:

• The five types in human design and how to find yours

• Implementing your unique human design to create more alignment in your life

• How human design can help you as a stepmom entering a new family system

• Navigating relationship and family conflicts through the lens of human design

• A sneak peek into Jamie and Darren's human design

Get your human design chart and learn more about Erin's work:

https://humandesignblueprint.com/lookup

Get the full free guide 12 Things Stepmom Coaches Won't Tell You:

www.jamiescrimgeour.com/freebie

Subscribe to Jamie's Substack: https://jamiescrimgeour.substack.com/

Check Out The Stepmom Rebrand: www.stepmomrebrand.com

Work With Jamie: www.jamiescrimgeour.com/coaching

Episode Sponsors:

Cozy Earth Use code COZYJAMIE for 20% off your order at www.cozyearth.com

LMNT Get a free sample pack with any purchase at www.drinklmnt.com/kickassstepmom

You don't need more basic stepmom advice. You need to understand why things in your stepfamily life aren't changing.

In this episode, Jamie will take you beyond run of the mill advice as she walks you through her guide: 12 Things Stepmom Coaches Don't Have the Guts to Tell You,

Plus, Jamie will give you a peek behind the scenes into the clapback she received online about the title of her guide, and why she stands by it, even despite the backlash.

In this Episode:

• Re-examining your boundaries and need for control

• How to disengage without disconnecting

• Why your past is affecting your stepfamily experience

• The myth that you have to love your stepkids like your own

• Accepting the things your husband will never understand about your stepmom experience

• How constant venting can keep you stuck

Get the full free guide 12 Things Stepmom Coaches Won't Tell You:

www.jamiescrimgeour.com/freebie

Subscribe to Jamie's Substack: https://jamiescrimgeour.substack.com/

Check Out The Stepmom Rebrand: www.stepmomrebrand.com

Work With Jamie: www.jamiescrimgeour.com/coaching

Episode Sponsors:

Cozy Earth Use code COZYJAMIE for 20% off your order at www.cozyearth.com

LMNT Get a free sample pack with any purchase at www.drinklmnt.com/kickassstepmom

Metabolic Reset Program

Get $350 off with the code JAMIE350 at https://www.jentherhn.com

What if the thing helping you feel less stressed, less overwhelmed, and more organized wasn't another self help book, coach, or productivity hack?

In this episode, Jamie shares how she's using ChatGPT in her everyday life and why it's quickly become one of the most useful tools she has.

From navigating stepfamily challenges and difficult conversations to organizing her business, planning trips, brainstorming content, making decisions, and simplifying everyday tasks, Jamie walks through the practical ways AI is helping her save time and mental energy.

Whether you're curious about ChatGPT, already using it, or wondering if it's worth the hype, this episode will give you real examples of how AI can support your life both inside and outside of stepmotherhood.

In This Episode:

• How Jamie uses ChatGPT to navigate stepfamily challenges • Ways AI can reduce decision fatigue and mental load • Using ChatGPT for parenting, marriage, travel, and organization • How AI is supporting business growth and content creation • Practical prompts you can start using today

Looking for ChatGPT prompts that can support your stepfamily life?

Subscribe to Jamie's Substack: https://jamiescrimgeour.substack.com/

Check Out The Stepmom Rebrand: www.stepmomrebrand.com

Work With Jamie: www.jamiescrimgeour.com/coaching

Episode Sponsors:

Cozy Earth Use code COZYJAMIE for 20% off your order at www.cozyearth.com

LMNT Get a free sample pack with any purchase at www.drinklmnt.com/kickassstepmom

Dr. Todd Jensen, the founder of THRIFT (Thriving Through Family Transitions Research Lab), joins Jamie on The KICK-ASS Stepmom Podcast to share his research on stepfamily dynamics from the perspective of stepchildren. Jamie and Todd dive deep into loyalty binds, the responsibility parents should feel to supporting and nurturing the stepfamily dynamic, 'ambiguous gain' in step families, why authenticity is so important when building a relationship with your stepkid, and creating a sense of safety in your home.

Learn more about Todd's research:

https://toddmjensen.com/

Subscribe to Jamie's Substack: https://jamiescrimgeour.substack.com/

Get The Stepmom Rebrand: www.stepmomrebrand.com

Work With Jamie www.jamiescrimgeour.com/coaching

Episode Sponsors:

Cozy Earth | Go to www.cozyearth.com and use the code COZYJAMIE for 20% off your order.

Metabolic Reset Program | Get $350 off with the code JAMIE350 at https://www.jentherhn.com

LMNT | My Go To Electrolyte Drink. Head to www.drinklmnt.com/kickassstepmom to get a free sample pack with any drink mix purchase.

On this episode of The KICK-ASS Stepmom Podcast, Jamie will give you strategies you can begin implementing right now to improve your stepfamily life in 30 days.

She'll cover the importance of being authentically yourself with your stepkids; what you gain when you shift your perspective and stop looking for problems; setting intentions for your time, whether you're alone, with your partner, or with your stepkids; how to ask for support from your partner; protecting the vibe of your home, and so much more.

Go deeper on how to improve your stepfamily life on Jamie's Substack. Subscribe here:

https://jamiescrimgeour.substack.com/

Check out The Stepmom Rebrand:

www.stepmomrebrand.com

Private Stepmom Coaching

www.jamiescrimgeour.com/coaching

Episode Sponsors:

Cozy Earth | Go to www.cozyearth.com and use the code COZYJAMIE for 20% off your order.

Metabolic Reset Program | Get $350 off with the code JAMIE350 at https://www.jentherhn.com

LMNT | My Go To Electrolyte Drink. Head to www.drinklmnt.com/kickassstepmom to get a free sample pack with any drink mix purchase.