If you’ve recently found yourself forgetting appointments, waking up drenched in sweat at 2 a.m., struggling to concentrate, or feeling completely overwhelmed by things you used to manage without a problem, it may not be a character flaw. It could be perimenopause.

In this episode of The Stepmom Side Podcast, Alicia sits down with Jennifer Gularson, PA-C, IFMCP, to unpack what really happens to women’s bodies and brains during perimenopause and menopause.

Jennifer explains why perimenopause symptoms can begin while a woman is still having regular periods—and why those symptoms may disappear for months before returning with a vengeance. They discuss estrogen fluctuations, brain fog, forgetfulness, hot flashes, night sweats, changing periods, anxiety, sleep disruption, fatigue, and the sudden feeling that your usual ability to handle life has packed a bag and left without notice.

They also have an honest conversation about libido, painful sex, vaginal dryness, emotional safety, mental load, and why “just try to get in the mood” is deeply unhelpful advice.

In this episode, they discuss:

• What perimenopause is and how early symptoms can begin
• Why symptoms can fluctuate from one cycle or month to the next
• How estrogen and progesterone changes affect memory, mood, sleep, and stress tolerance
• Lesser-known perimenopause symptoms women may not recognize
• Why women may wake up hot, sweaty, or wide awake at 2 or 3 a.m.
• How hormonal changes can make an already-full mental load feel unmanageable
• The difference between birth control and menopausal hormone therapy

This conversation offers women language for what they may be experiencing, options to discuss with a qualified provider, and an important reminder: struggling with energy, memory, sleep, mood, or stress during perimenopause does not mean they are failing.

Learn more about Jennifer and her services at Your Best Life with Jennifer.

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Explore coaching with Alicia for personalized support with boundaries, relationships, resentment, and finding relief at home.

This episode is for educational purposes and is not a substitute for individualized medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment.

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Back-to-school stress can expose an unequal division of labor in a blended family—especially when the stepmom is managing school supplies, schedules, transportation, meals, forms, and everyone’s emotions while her partner waits to be told what to do.

In this episode of The Stepmom Side Podcast, Alicia explains why resentment is rarely about one forgotten form or shopping trip. It often develops because the stepmom is carrying the invisible mental load: noticing what needs to happen, planning it, assigning tasks, answering questions, following up, and preventing anything from falling apart.

Alicia explores the difference between completing a task and taking complete ownership of it, why “Just tell me what you need” still leaves one person managing the household, and how overfunctioning can unintentionally teach a partner to underfunction.

In this episode, Alicia discusses:

• Why invisible labor increases during the school year
• How back-to-school responsibilities become a source of relationship resentment
• Why completing a task is different from owning it
• Why asking a stepmom to delegate still leaves her carrying the mental load
• How overfunctioning creates an unhealthy family pattern
• Why stepmoms often stay silent until they explode...and more!

Resentment does not always mean a stepmom is ungrateful or controlling. It may be a sign that she has been carrying more responsibility than she can sustainably manage—and that the couple needs clearer roles, stronger follow-through, and a more honest division of labor.

Explore couples coaching with Alicia for support with blended-family roles, resentment, communication, parenting stress, and partnership here.

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What should a stepmom do when her stepchild refuses to complete homework—or when she cares more about missing assignments than her partner does?

Homework battles in blended families are rarely only about schoolwork. Different expectations between homes, unclear stepparent roles, limited authority, and a lack of partner support can leave the stepmom managing assignments, checking the school portal, enforcing consequences, and becoming resentful.

In this episode of The Stepmom Side Podcast, Alicia shares her experience with unfinished homework, different academic expectations between households, and monitoring schoolwork more closely than her partner.

Alicia explains why a stepmom’s homework role should depend on her relationship with the child, how involved she is in the child’s daily life, and whether her partner provides real support and authority.

In this episode, Alicia discusses:

• Why homework becomes emotionally loaded in blended families
• The difference between helping with homework and owning the process
• What to do when a stepmom cares more about schoolwork than the parent
• Managing different homework rules between two households
• Giving children age-appropriate responsibility for schoolwork...and more!

A stepmom can care about her stepchild’s education without becoming solely responsible for it. The healthiest role is one that is clearly discussed, supported by her partner, and appropriate for her relationship with the child.

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What should a stepmom do when the rules are completely different at each house?

Different bedtimes, screen limits, homework expectations, chores, and consequences can make school routines especially difficult in blended families. Children may resist the rules, struggle on transition days, or repeatedly remind the stepmom that things are different at their mom’s house.

In this episode of The Stepmom Side Podcast, Alicia explains how blended families can create consistent school routines within their own homes—even when consistency between homes is impossible.

Drawing from her experience with different expectations around devices, sleep, homework, chores, and discipline, Alicia discusses how she became the strict one, overfunctioned, experienced conflict with her partner, and began feeling resentful.

In this episode, Alicia covers:

• Why different household rules do not automatically mean one home is wrong
• How to determine whether a difference is harmful or simply frustrating
• Why children compare rules between households
• Responding when a stepchild says, “But Mom lets me”
• Using “At our house…” without criticizing the other home
• Preventing the stepmom from becoming the strict one...and more!

The two homes do not need identical rules. What matters is creating clear expectations in your own household and ensuring the stepmom is not left to enforce everything alone.

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School events can trigger outsider syndrome for stepmoms. Especially when their partner’s ex and extended family will be there. Where should everyone sit? Should divorced parents and stepparents attend events together? What happens when a partner acts differently around their ex? And does a stepmom need to attend parent-teacher conferences to prove she cares?

In this episode of The Stepmom Side Podcast, Alicia shares her experience of feeling ignored, displaced, and unsure where she belonged during school events. She also explains why she sometimes chose not to attend parent-teacher conferences when her role felt unclear.

Alicia helps stepmoms prepare for school concerts, sporting events, open houses, conferences, and other activities without forcing an uncomfortable version of “happy co-parenting.”

In this episode, Alicia discusses:

• Why school events can intensify outsider syndrome for stepmoms
• Deciding whether divorced parents and stepparents should sit together
• Why separate seating may sometimes be the healthiest option
• Planning for each school event individually
• What to do when a partner’s ex ignores or excludes the stepmom
• How to respond when a partner acts differently around their ex...and more.

There is no universal rule that says every blended family must sit together or attend every event as one group. The healthiest arrangement is the one that reduces tension, supports the child, and allows each adult to behave respectfully.

If school events leave you feeling like an outsider, you do not have to work through those feelings alone.

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Back-to-school planning can get complicated quickly in a blended family. Who buys the school supplies and clothes? Who completes registration forms, manages transportation, receives school updates, and pays for extracurricular activities? And how involved should a stepmom be when she is affected by these decisions but may not have decision-making authority?

In this episode, Alicia shares how back-to-school responsibilities changed when her stepson moved into her home full time—and why responsibility, access, and authority need to be discussed individually. She explains how stepmoms and their partners can divide the workload, prepare for different routines between homes, and prevent one person from silently becoming responsible for everything.

Alicia discusses:

• Deciding who purchases school supplies, clothes, shoes, and equipment
• Reviewing the parenting agreement before requesting reimbursement
• Dividing registration, forms, transportation, and school communication
• Choosing whether a stepmom wants to be an emergency contact or approved for pickup....and more!

There is no universal formula for dividing back-to-school responsibilities in a blended family. Some stepmoms want to be highly involved, while others prefer school logistics to remain primarily with the parents. What matters is that the arrangement is discussed, agreed upon, and supported.

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What if you don’t like your stepkids? It’s the question that stepmoms whisper to themselves and rarely admit out loud. In this episode, Alicia unpacks why these feelings show up, why they don’t make you a “bad stepmom,” and how to move through them without shame.

You’ll learn:

• Why it’s normal to not always like your stepkids
• How societal expectations set stepmoms up for guilt
• Simple shifts to ease the tension when relationships feel strained
• How to release the pressure to force a bond

This is your permission slip: you don’t have to like your stepkids 24/7 to be a good stepmom.

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In this episode of The Stepmom Side Podcast, Alicia Krasko sits down with certified stepfamily coach Darlene Sparks for an honest conversation about the realities of stepmom life—because “just love them like your own” is not exactly a complete instruction manual.

Darlene shares her experience navigating identity loss, rejection, complicated family relationships, and feeling like an outsider in her own home. Together, Alicia and Darlene discuss how stepmoms can protect their peace without disconnecting from their stepchildren.

In this episode:

• Why many stepmoms feel unprepared for blended family life
• Stepmom guilt, stereotypes, and unrealistic expectations
• How self-protection can unintentionally create more distance
• Setting boundaries in high-conflict situations
• Responding instead of reacting during family conflict
• Letting go of what a stepmom cannot control
• Supporting stepchildren while protecting emotional well-being

This conversation reminds stepmoms that they can remain loving and involved without sacrificing themselves to keep everyone else comfortable.

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• Instagram
• TikTok
• Facebook

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• Join The Stepmom Side Community
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Blended families don't become connected overnight—and honestly, nobody hands you a roadmap.

In this episode of The Stepmom Side Podcast, Alicia sits down with Ashley from The Blended Bond to talk about what actually helps blended families feel more connected. From awkward first family meetings and navigating transitions to chore systems, parenting teenagers, and learning to stop taking everything personally, this conversation is filled with practical strategies and reassuring reminders for stepmoms.

Ashley shares how intentional family conversations transformed their blended family dynamic, why asking kids what they need can change everything, and how creating routines and structure helps everyone feel more secure. They also discuss the emotional shift from part-time parenting to full-time parenting, the pressure stepmoms often place on themselves to "get it right," and why your stepchildren's moods and reactions are not always a reflection of you.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• Why family meetings can improve communication and trust in blended families
• How to help stepchildren feel more comfortable and at home
• The importance of asking kids what they need during family transitions
• How routines and structure create stability for children in two homes
• Why teenagers' attitudes aren't always personal
• How to stop seeking validation from your stepchildren
• Why perfection isn't required to be a good stepmom
• The surprising ways small moments and traditions build connection over time

Whether you're newly blending, parenting teenagers, or simply trying to feel more confident in your role, this episode will remind you that blended families don't need perfection—they need intentional connection, communication, and grace.

Connect with Ashley:
Website: blendedbond.com
Instagram: @blendedbond
TikTok: @playblendedbond

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Are you constantly wondering why your blended family doesn't feel like the happy, picture-perfect family you imagined?

You're not doing anything wrong.

In this episode of The Stepmom Side Podcast, Alicia shares why so many stepmoms struggle because they're chasing unrealistic expectations about what blended family life should look like.

From instant love and immediate connection to perfectly blended relationships, many of us were sold a version of stepfamily life that simply doesn't exist.

In this episode, you'll learn:

✔️ Why blended families often feel harder than expected
✔️ The unrealistic expectations many stepmoms carry into stepfamily life
✔️ How perfectionism creates disappointment and frustration
✔️ Why awkwardness, grief, and loyalty conflicts are normal in blended families
✔️ What healthy blended family relationships actually look like
✔️ How to stop comparing your family to everyone else's
✔️ Why peace comes from accepting reality instead of fighting it

If you've ever asked:

"When will we finally feel like a family?"
"Why isn't this easier?"
"Are we doing something wrong?"

This episode is for you.

Because success in a blended family isn't about everyone instantly loving each other or acting like they've been family forever. Real success is built through respect, safety, trust, communication, and thousands of small moments that create connection over time.

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