Bloom Your Mind

Ever notice how much easier it is to point at a person and say, “YOU are the problem”? Yeah, me too. But here’s the truth: people aren’t the problem—problems are the problem. And when we stop confusing the two, everything gets lighter, easier, and way more solvable.

In this episode of the Bloom Your Mind Podcast, we’re going one layer deeper into conflict resolution and flipping the script: instead of making the person the issue, we learn how to sit shoulder-to-shoulder and face the actual issue together.

We’ll cover:

• Why this shift matters for your relationships, your problem-solving chops, and your ability to bring ideas to life.
• Why it’s a huge waste of time and energy to follow our brains down the rabbit hole of making others the problem and make ourselves the problem
• Betty Pries’ five roots of conflict (resources, history, structures, values, and communication) and how they show up in everyday life.
• Four laughably real examples of moving from “You’re the worst” to “Hey, looks like we have a trash monster problem.”
• A step-by-step exercise to help you spot where you’re making someone the problem, reframe it, and approach them in a way that makes collaboration actually possible.

Spoiler: once you stop turning people into villains and start tackling the real problem, you’ll save yourself a ton of drama, resentment, and late-night imaginary arguments in the shower. You’ll also have WAY more time to focus on making your ideas real. 

✨ Your homework: Identify one spot in your life where you’ve been making a person the problem. Reframe it into a problem problem instead, then try out the “same side of the table” approach. Bonus points if you use humor to call out the real monster.

✨ Share this episode with someone you love who might be making you the problem 😉

Mentioned on this episode: 

• Listen to last week’s episode on resolving conflict if you missed it (it sets the stage for today).

How to connect with Marie:

• On the Web | The Local Bloom
• Instagram: @the.bloom.coach
• All Things Marie on LinkTree

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We'll take all these ideas and apply them to our lives. Follow me on Instagram at @the.bloom.coach to learn more and snag a spot in my group coaching program!

We are all changing. Sometimes we’re doing it on purpose- setting goals that require us to think and feel and act differently, goals that require us to evolve and grow. Sometimes we’re changing in reaction to the world and the people around us. The one thing we know for sure is that change is constant… and sometimes really hard. With change often comes conflict; with ourselves and with others. Since change is guaranteed, and conflict will come with it; why not get really good at navigating our way through it? When we do, conflict becomes incredibly valuable. When we learn that we are not the hero, the good gal, the one in the right, or the virtuous one, we open a whole new capacity for calm, leadership, and love. When we realize many things are true at once, we open up rich, connecting, flourishing relationships and a world where all our ideas can become real.  

That’s what today’s episode is all about. 

Over the past two years I have been approached to be a conflict resolution mediator for couples, families, friends, entrepreneurs, executive teams and CEOs- each  one leading to referrals for more. It’s led me to deep dive into research, and tool finding. Today I’ll share my  favorite tools to help you step out of conflict and into flourishing. 

What you’ll learn in this podcast: 

• Tools to resolve internal conflict
• Tools to navigate and resolve external conflict 
• How different ways of change create conflict and why it can be valuable
• How to make the problem the problem, instead of making the person the problem
• The five things that all conflicts are ACTUALLY about, instead of being about the person
• A three part process to preparing for conflict resolution
• A five part framework for approaching someone in your life to resolve a conflict
• Five other quick tips to adopt a mindset that will lead to connection and resolution

Referenced in this podcast:

• The space between us by Betty Pries
• Becky Kennedy
• Carmen Landsdowne
• Brene Brown 
• BYM Podcast Episodes: 
  • Listening is sexy 
  • Listen to this 
  • Feelings are a superpower 
  • When It’s happening for you 
  • The Practice 
  • The tool that changed everything 
  • Thought trades 

How to connect with Marie:

• On the Web | The Local Bloom
• Instagram: @the.bloom.coach
• All Things Marie on LinkTree

JOIN THE BLOOM ROOM!
We'll take all these ideas and apply them to our lives. Follow me on Instagram at @the.bloom.coach to learn more and snag a spot in my group coaching program!

With a cup of melted ice cream in my hand, I waited for a group of kids to explore a book store, staring in the window at the best sellers. That was the day I found an author whose prose gave me a week of  both mind-swooning entertainment and a jolting moment of reflection. 

She wrote about giving our time and energy to things that fill us with passion and motivation. That fill our minds the moment we open our eyes in the morning, and fill our souls with purpose and life. Everything I’ve created in the last five years of thought leadership is about this idea. I’ve created podcasts and books, programs and coaching groups to helping people find where and how their passion can take form. We all want to find it. 

So why do we so often find ourselves pulled off track by the passion and motivation of others? If you’ve ever found yourself working too hard at a job or in a volunteer position, giving too much to the family or relationships that you serve, this episode is for you. 

Things you’ll learn in this episode: 

• The one most common thing that makes people spin their wheels instead of getting into action
• The difference between working toward your passion, and giving time and energy too someone else’s passion
• Why it feels so good to support people when their idea is inspired and their vision is full of intent and energy
• How to intentionally choose to support someone else’s idea, and find your own vision inside of it
• How to know when the time you’ve spent working toward someone else’s idea has come to a close
• Why the world needs feminine ideas and feminine leadership more than ever before
• Two questions to ask yourself to help uncover the whispers of your own ideas, and how to know when you’re giving too much time and energy too something outside of yourself

Mentioned in this podcast:

• Taylor Jenkins Reid: Daisy Jones and the Six
• Taylor Jenkins Reid: The Seven Husbands of Evelyn Hugo

How to connect with Marie:

• On the Web | The Local Bloom
• Instagram: @the.bloom.coach
• All Things Marie on LinkTree

JOIN THE BLOOM ROOM!
We'll take all these ideas and apply them to our lives. Follow me on Instagram at @the.bloom.coach to learn more and snag a spot in my group coaching program!

Have you ever outgrown a version of yourself— and gotten stuck in that awkward liminal space between one identity and another? 

In this episode of the Bloom Your Mind Podcast, I’m taking you on a wild ride that starts with a free-range hermit crab named Hermie (yes, really) and ends with a three step reflection to help you identify where you are in your identity shift. We’ll explore what it feels like to be in the awkward, raw, beautiful space between who you were and who you’re becoming—and how to navigate it with more self-compassion and clarity.

What you’ll learn in this episode: 

• How we’re always making ideas real, but articulating them puts us in the driver’s seat of how we’re growing 
• How self concept is the container for our current ways of thinking, feeling, acting and being
• The three awkward (and magical) stages of leveling up your self concept
• How a 90’s housepet trend can give us answers from the natural world
• Why the strategies that got you here won’t get you there
• How to work with old versions of yourself instead of pushing them away
• A guided reflection to help you identify your next self concept leap

Whether you're launching a business, changing relationship dynamics, healing old patterns, or just leveling up, this episode normalizes the discomfort of growth—and will help you move forward as the change maker that you are. 

Resources and episodes mentioned:

• The Land Inside
• Brain Buckets 
• Look How Far You’ve Come

How to connect with Marie:

• On the Web | The Local Bloom
• Instagram: @the.bloom.coach
• All Things Marie on LinkTree

JOIN THE BLOOM ROOM!
We'll take all these ideas and apply them to our lives. Follow me on Instagram at @the.bloom.coach to learn more and snag a spot in my group coaching program!

It’s not the big leaps that get you there—it’s the tiny, consistent steps that make your vision real. In this episode, Marie shares how the most successful creators, entrepreneurs, and change-makers all play the game of inches. Hear stories from the creation of the Bloom Room, from a client starting their first brick and mortar business, and from the world of parenting that show just how the game of inches is so much more effective than the goal of taking big leaps. You'll learn why steady progress beats big bursts, how small problems scale if left unsolved, and how every challenge you face is preparing you for the next level.

Tune in to hear:

• Why consistency trumps intensity (with real stories from Marie + Bloom Room participants)
• How setbacks reveal where your support systems need strengthening
  What small problems you should solve now before they grow with your success
• 3 reflection questions to help you lean into your next inch of growth

If you’ve been waiting for the perfect moment or a clear runway—this is your reminder that inches are where the magic happens.

How to connect with Marie:

• On the Web | The Local Bloom
• Instagram: @the.bloom.coach
• All Things Marie on LinkTree

JOIN THE BLOOM ROOM!
We'll take all these ideas and apply them to our lives. Follow me on Instagram at @the.bloom.coach to learn more and snag a spot in my group coaching program!

This episode is the joyful, slightly reckless little sister to episode 72, “The Freedom of a Hard No.” Because once we get clear on what doesn’t serve us…we open up all kinds of space in our brain, our schedule, and our sense of safety for possibilities and new ideas that can expand our life. 

This past month I had a series of invitations from folks I didn’t know that well to visit them in different states. Before I knew it, those invitations had strung themselves together into a necklace of adventure— it was the possibility of a two-week road trip in an electric car, zigzagging across state lines by myself with two kids, to visit people I barely knew, and sleep in houses I’d never seen.

I didn’t ignore the red flags—like range anxiety for an EV car with kids in the backseat, driving through states without many chargers and through wide open national park spaces that require all day trip. I also didn’t discount my concerns about taking my kids to stay environments I didn’t know with people I’d met once, or maybe even never met.

I didn’t ignore those things, but I got curious about them. What followed was one of the most magical, spontaneous, soul-sparking journeys I’ve had yet. 

That trip was only possible because I said yes.
 Yes to a possibility.
 Yes to the discomfort of not having control.
 Yes to new people, new rhythms, and new roads.

What happens to our brains, bodies and our lives when we say yes to new ideas? That’s what we’ll find out today. 

What you’ll learn in this episode: 

• The difference between a gut no, and a reactive no 
• How research and data gathering can turn a no into a hell yes 
• How every great idea starts with doubt 
• How saying yes to things that stretch our comfort zone supports overall well being 
• How saying yes to new things impacts hormones, nervous system and brain function 
• How saying yes to things we initially resist builds our resilience and self-trust
• When saying yes is out of the question 
• A simple practice to increase the yes in your life 

Mentioned in this episode: 

• The Freedom of a Hard No

How to connect with Marie:

• On the Web | The Local Bloom
• Instagram: @the.bloom.coach
• All Things Marie on LinkTree

JOIN THE BLOOM ROOM!
We'll take all these ideas and apply them to our lives. Follow me on Instagram at @the.bloom.coach to learn more and snag a spot in my group coaching program!

I was with a group of friends, when one of them approached me and said “Your daughter just said something that blew my mind. She said that you told her that when she has a crush on someone, it’s just for her.” 

“Yes,” I said, “I sure did tell her that- don’t you agree?”

“Well I’ve never thought of it like this. She said that you told her that she can just have the feeling of a crush on someone, and she doesn’t have to tell the person, because it’s actually none of their business! And that when she felt the feeling of a crush on someone she doesn’t ever have to tell them or anyone else, she doesn’t ever have to act on it in any way, and it doesn't mean anything about her or the other person except that some part of her really likes some part of them…so there’s never a problem with having a crush, it’s always a positive thing!”  

“You told her that her crush on them is not FOR them. It’s for HER.” 

She looked at me with wide eyes, and the other adults standing around us started saying how much they loved this idea. 

“And”, she said, “I just thought about how much I wish someone had explained it to me like that when I was younger, and how different my experience of my own life would have been back then if I thought my crushes were for me. And how that would be true of other things too. That if I knew they were happening for me, it would all be different.” 

And the adults standing around us all nodded in agreement, and shared their own stories. 

Our crushes are not the only thing happening for us. Every single other feeling we have about someone else is really and truly just for us too. And each thing that happens in our life is only for us, when we see it that way. 

In today’s episode you’re learn: 

• One way to speed the process of accepting life’s challenges and seeing the end value in them right away 
• A single sentence to help ground you in the perspective that all your feelings are truly just for you, and to help you let go of holding others accountable for them
• Why unconditional love is always available and better for our health on multiple levels 
• The single thing that’s necessary in order to turn negative feelings around and convert them to love 
• A tool that can be used for two separate uses, that helps every time

Mentioned on this episode: 

• The practice 
• Boundaries baby 
• Ram Das 

How to connect with Marie:

• On the Web | The Local Bloom
• Instagram: @the.bloom.coach
• All Things Marie on LinkTree

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We'll take all these ideas and apply them to our lives. Follow me on Instagram at @the.bloom.coach to learn more and snag a spot in my group coaching program!

After six months of an injury that was dramatically lowering the quality of my life, I gave up on doctors as the solution to my problem, and took matters into my own hands. 

I started on a deep dive of research and exploration into blood sugar and inflammation, energy levels and functional movement. I read books, did interviews, and took courses with experts. I wore continuous glucose monitors and started tracking my sleep cycles. 

The things that I learned from this deep dive into my body has changed my life. My pain has reduced by 90%, my inflammation is gone, mobility is up, and my energy feels stable and vibrant all day long. The Blood Sugar Magic episode is the second in a two part series sharing the best of what I’ve learned with you. 

What you’ll learn in this episode: 

• How hydration after waking supports the body 
• Three things to include in every meal 
• Why meal spacing supports health 
• How the order that we eat impacts glucose levels 
• Three ways to lower inflammation 
• The supplements that make the biggest difference 
• How functional movement and blood sugar management can change your life 
• The ten+ habit changes that have made the biggest difference for myself and my family 

Mentioned in this episode: 

• Brooke Castillo 
• Sarah Wragge 
• Alkalize- morning supplement (with 10% off) 
• Restore- evening supplement (with 10% off) (I love these products so much they gave me a discount code to share with you- if you order them just use MARIE10 when you check out.) 

How to connect with Marie:

• On the Web | The Local Bloom
• Instagram: @the.bloom.coach
• All Things Marie on LinkTree

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We'll take all these ideas and apply them to our lives. Follow me on Instagram at @the.bloom.coach to learn more and snag a spot in my group coaching program!

Ashley is the creator of Kinnect Fitness-a movement method that blends science, soul, and somatic wisdom. With 15+ years of experience in fitness, she offers alignment-based classes designed to support longevity, healing, and deep connection. Her Kinnect program brings together strength, cardio, mobility, and mindfulness to help you live more fully in just 4 days a week. EveryBODY is welcome. Get more info at www.KinnectWithUs.com

In today’s episode, we dive into how she’s helped Marie and her husband recover from injury, eliminate pain, and transform their bodies in an amazing way that people are asking about! 

In today’s episode you’ll learn: 

• How recovering from injury was the path to Ashley and I being in the best shape of our lives 
• How longevity research is surprising and how it can help direct our habits 
• Why when you stop trying so hard to look physically fit and focus on feeling better, doors start to open 
• How mental, physical and spiritual health can all be one practice 
• The workout routine that changed Marie’s life, and why she’s recommending it to everyone 

How to connect with Marie:

• On the Web | The Local Bloom
• Instagram: @the.bloom.coach
• All Things Marie on LinkTree

JOIN THE BLOOM ROOM!
We'll take all these ideas and apply them to our lives. Follow me on Instagram at @the.bloom.coach to learn more and snag a spot in my group coaching program!

Last week’s episode lifted the curtain on the five things that get in the way of people turning their ideas into real things. The top two reasons are hard core idea killers! We have a ready made solution for idea killer number one, and that solution is the Bloom Room. The idea killer is that people don’t have an accountability system to help them achieve their dream. Your success rate goes to 65% if you have an accountability partner, and that rate goes up to 95% if you meet with that accountability partner or group once a week and check in. Enter the Bloom Room! Just by joining and checking in once a week on your goal, you’ll be 95% more likely to make it real. 

But what about idea killer number two? The culprit is that we keep our ideas vague and undefined instead of making them trackable things that have to pass the rubric of our passion, our authentic desires and our values. They have to be ideas articulated as goals that we celebrate, calendar, and measure as we go. In today’s episode we’ll break down a new take on an old way of thinking about goals. 

In today’s episode you’ll learn: 

• How to articulate your idea as a goal, break it into milestones and track it across a data proven period of time to increase your success. 
• How to make the specifics of your goal sexy, and how to use visualization to get your brain working towards it in your sleep. 
• How to make measurable standards so that you can manifest your idea, celebrating every success instead of comparing yourself to what you haven’t done yet. 
• How to take the right aim to make something achievable by ensuring it’s in line with your values and what YOU want, and that it’s within your span of control. 
• How to keep it real as we choose goals that are relevant to our most authentic selves, our true desires, and that reflect the reasons most important to us. 
• How to use time whispering to make it fun, easy and to stay in the flow, instead of getting “bound up” by time. 

Mentioned in today’s episode: 

• Be a Time Whisperer 
• Idea Killers

How to connect with Marie:

• On the Web | The Local Bloom
• Instagram: @the.bloom.coach
• All Things Marie on LinkTree

JOIN THE BLOOM ROOM!
We'll take all these ideas and apply them to our lives. Follow me on Instagram at @the.bloom.coach to learn more and snag a spot in my group coaching program!