In session two of Nora’s confidence coaching session series, she gets help with fear of looking bad when trying new things.

Mentioned in this episode:

• Homework: Move pennies between pockets to count unhelpful thoughts
• The idea of “Do It Scared” (not waiting to be totally ready before taking action)
• Landmark Forum
• Homework: Avoiding Pink Elephants (think of a better thought to replace an unhelpful thought pattern, as just trying to avoid thoughts tends to reinforce them
• Homework: Note down your strengths and accomplishments
• Makeup by Nora Lu

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Bold Adulting season 3 episodes were recorded over a year ago. To hear updates or to learn what podcast guests have been up to since then, reach out using the contact information if provided. 

Host: Masha Metamorph

Sound Editor: Bart Cameron and Masha Metamorph

In session one of Nora’s confidence coaching session series, she gets help with fixating on body image and focusing on learning instead of perfectionism. 

Stay tuned for parts 2 and 3!

See Nora’s Instagram: Makeup by Nora Lu

Mentioned in this episode:

• Food Psych Podcast - about intuitive eating and Health At Every Size
• Tip: destroy or throw out scale 
• Homework: Every day, note 1-3 thing you are grateful for yourself
• • Tip: Don’t just focus on aesthetics; think about everything your body is doing for you!
• Orthorexia: fixation with “healthy” eating 
• • Note: “healthy” is in quotation marks both because orthorexia shows how this focus can actually be unhealthy AND because the typical distinction between “healthy food” and “unhealthy food” is not evidence-based (see Food Psych episodes 168 and 183). 
• Homework: Track unhelpful (e.g. self-critical) thoughts by moving pennies from one pocket to another or by using a tally 
• Homework: To cultivate your growth mindset, make 2 lists: 
• • List #1: Subjects or skills that you’ve learned 
  • List #2: Subjects or skills that you want to learn
  • Then circle one or two items from list #2 and figure out how you can start learning.   
• Homework: Reach out to people in careers you’re interested in to request to job shadow them or an informational interview 
• • Download the free 7 Step Guide For Confidently Reaching Out to Anyone
  • Note: Informational interviews can be more helpful and less time intensive for everyone involved. 
  • Job shadowing isn’t always possible (e.g. for safety or security reasons) and for many jobs would involve sitting and watching someone work at a computer all day. It may still be useful if a) the person explains what they are doing well and b) to understand the structure of how they work. If working at a computer all day sounds terrible to you, it’ll be more clear to you by watching this work than by hearing a summary of the work.     
  • Confidence Cat Zine: coloring worksheets for confidence, problem-solving, and career decision-making 
  • Calendly or other scheduling tools to make setting up meetings easy on everyone 
• Tip: Instead of referring to your questions as “stupid questions,” try “basic question.” After all, not knowing something that you have little or no experience with is not a reflection of poor intelligence! And asking questions to fill in your knowledge gaps is a very smart move.

In case you or someone you know needs it, here is some possibly helpful information: 

• Eating Disorder Hotline Listings
• International Eating Disorder resources 
• Body Dysmorphic Disorder
• Body Liberation

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All coaching sessions and interviews are included by permission and with the level of privacy requested by each guest. 

Bold Adulting season 3 episodes were recorded over a year ago. To hear updates or to learn what podcast guests have been up to since then, reach out using the contact information if provided. 

Host: Masha Metamorph

Sound Editor: Bart Cameron and Masha Metamorph

In this confidence coaching session, Lucy gets help 1) navigating awkward conversational moments and 2) identifying goals and taking action. Please forgive us for some background noise. :)

Remember:  "Trying is cool" - Lucy

Mentioned in this episode:

• Greater Good Storytelling: coaching and workshops by storytelling consultant Nathan Young
• Tip by Lucy: Imagine you’re a cricket watching a reel of your past moments, to reflect on what went well and what you can do differently next time
• • Note: Be careful not to over-ruminate. Part of the reason Lucy finds this helpful is because it helps her not overly fixate on awkward moments.  
• Homework: Practice mindfulness, letting your thoughts swim or float away 
• Homework: Nervous about how you’re coming across to friends or coworkers? Ask for feedback
• • Tip: To prevent the “it was good but…” format of feedback, ask for one thing you’re doing well and one way you could do better 
• BetterLateThanNever.email - a website to normalize the common experience of being behind on responding to emails & other messages.
• • Note: This website is in a drafty draft mode. If you have ideas about how to make this website useful for getting back in touch after a while of not responding, please let me know at [email protected] 
• Totally Laime podcast
• Seinfeld productivity method
• • Note: Although this “don’t break the chain” system of getting things done every day is attributed to Jerry Seinfeld, the origin has been disputed
• Homework: 100 Rejection Letters Challenge
• • Tiffany Han
  • Jia Jiang’s Rejection Therapy including Dare Me app
  • Kim Liao’s Why You Should Aim for 100 Rejections a Year
  • I heard about this challenge from Elizabeth Gilbert’s Magic Lessons podcast which is a MUST-LISTEN for any creative person who needs a confidence boost
• Rejection Game but please anyone who tries this, please be ethical and aware of power dynamics. Examples: 
• • Don’t ask out someone who you supervise. 
  • Don’t hassle customer service employees with uncomfortable tasks they may feel obligated to do for tips. 
  • Don’t ask women or people of color in professions dominated by white males to take on a disproportionate amount of tasks that don’t advance their profession.
  • Keeping all that in mind, go out and face your fears!

• Bullet Journal to organize goal progress in a way that best matches your preferences and needs
  • You can do it really simply but if you want some more fun, try this and this.

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Discuss this episode or learn about hiring Masha for workshop (about making progress on goals that matter to you using antiperfectionism and authenticity) at BoldAdulting.com!

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All coaching sessions and interviews are included by permission and with the level of privacy requested by each guest. 

Bold Adulting season 3 episodes were recorded over a year ago. To hear updates or to learn what podcast guests have been up to since then, reach out using the contact information if provided. 

Host: Masha Metamorph

Sound Editor: Masha Metamorph & Bart Cameron

Business Coach Geraldine Carter shares how she helps women entrepreneurs find their confidence while growing their businesses, how she navigates career transitions when the path ahead is uncertain, and how she notices norms without conforming to all of them. 

Mentioned on the episode:

• She Thinks Big (formerly Focused Business Coaching), including Geraldine’s podcast and Facebook
• Climate Ride
• Free - 7 Step Guide For Confidently Reaching Out to Anyone
• Biz Chix podcast
• One Bad Mother podcast
• Why complimenting weight loss is a bad idea

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Discuss this episode or learn about hiring Masha for workshop (about making progress on goals that matter to you using antiperfectionism and authenticity) at BoldAdulting.com!

Follow BoldAdulting on Twitter or Instagram.

Email: [email protected]

Masha’s personal social media: Twitter & Instagram

All coaching sessions and interviews are included by permission and with the level of privacy requested by each guest. 

Bold Adulting season 3 episodes were recorded over a year ago. To hear updates or to learn what podcast guests have been up to since then, reach out using the contact information if provided. 

Host: Masha Metamorph

Sound Editor: Masha Metamorph & Bart Cameron

In part 2 of a two-part interview, Podcaster and writer Jordan Morris shares his experience with self-soothing when unemployed, how self-esteem affects his social anxiety, why it can be hard to feel ok about downtime in a culture that expects constant productivity, and why sharing a creative project can be more daunting than creating it. 

Jordan’s Twitter

Jordan’s website

Part 1: Previous episode of Bold Adulting with Jordan, about confidence and adulting moments in his sci-fi podcast Bubble

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Discuss this episode or learn about hiring Masha for workshop (about making progress on goals that matter to you using antiperfectionism and authenticity) at BoldAdulting.com!

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All coaching sessions and interviews are included by permission and with the level of privacy requested by each guest. 

Bold Adulting season 3 episodes were recorded over a year ago. To hear updates or to learn what podcast guests have been up to since then, reach out using the contact information if provided. 

Host: Masha Metamorph

Sound Editor: Bart Cameron

The Bold Adulting podcast is coming soon! 

We’ve been away focusing on a bunch of things, including creating resources to help YOU with your confidence, authenticity, and confidence. 

The next Bold Adulting podcast season fill feature 8 confidence coaching sessions, 5 interviews, and the audio from a Success in Grad School & Beyond workshop. 

Reach out to Masha: [email protected]

If you like the show, please leave a 5-star review in the iTunes store/Podcast app, even if that’s not how you listen to the show. :)

Mentioned in this episode:

• Bold Adulting seasons 1 and 2
• Lift Live business conference by Mirasee
• • Thanks to Gena Ferrabee and Dori Zabari for super helpful coaching & strategy sessions! 
• Confidence Cat Zine: coloring worksheets for confidence, problem-solving, and career decision-making
• Free resources including 7 Step Guide For Confidently Reaching Out to Anyone
• Interviews to come:
• • Podcaster and Writer Jordan Morris
  • Business Coach Geraldine Carter
  • Transformational Life Coach Shannon Parsons 
  • Voice Actor & Coach Tawny Platis
  • Office of Postdoctoral Affairs Director Angela Fowler
• Confidence coaching topics to come include:
• • Dealing with awkward moments
  • Achieving goals
  • Body confidence
  • Letting go of perfectionism
  • Finding the confidence and organization to make big projects (with a social mission!)
  • Anticipating judgment on first dates
  • Entrepreneurial jitters
  • Feedback in science careers (applicable to everyone)
  • Job interviews
  • Social anxiety
• Listener shoutouts:
• • Katharina
  • Laura

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Discuss this episode or learn about hiring Masha for workshop (about making progress on goals that matter to you using antiperfectionism and authenticity) at BoldAdulting.com!

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Email: [email protected]

Masha’s personal social media: Twitter & Instagram

All coaching sessions and interviews are included by permission and with the level of privacy requested by each guest. 

Bold Adulting season 3 episodes were recorded over a year ago. To hear updates or to learn what podcast guests have been up to since then, reach out using the contact information if provided. 

In this bonus episode between seasons 2 and 3 of the BoldAdulting podcast, writer & podcaster Jordan Morris discusses with Masha how the characters on his sci-fi comedy Bubble articulate their needs and boundaries, navigate choosing between privacy and authenticity, try things that may not work out, and deal with difficult feedback. Also hear Jordan share about his confidence in sharing creative projects.

This is part 1 of a 2-part episode with Jordan Morris. Hear part 2 when BoldAdulting season 3 is back! Season 3 will include on-air confidence coaching calls. Interested in confidence-coaching?

Listen to Bubble, Jordan’s sci-fi audio comedy.

Connect to Jordan on Twitter.

Share your thoughts with fellow Quirks!

1) How do you communicate your needs and boundaries? 2) Share a creative project you’ve made (or are making) and tell us what it has been like to share it!

Download a free guide to confidently reach out to anyone! Follow BoldAdulting on Twitter. Email: [email protected]

In the last episode of season 2, Mental Health Podcaster Andrew of Andrew in the Gap Years shares his big dream goal of training all undergrads in active listening, how he prepares for social settings to prevent a vicious cycle of social anxiety, how as a child he learned to fear making mistakes, and his secret for actually having fun at job interviews.

Email Andrew: [email protected]

Find Andrew in the Gap Years and connect to him on Twitter.

Mental health or business podcasts recommended by Andrew and/or Masha: Biz Chix, Shrink Wrap Radio, Social Work Podcast, Counselling Tutor, Psych Central Show, Therapists Uncensored, We All Wear It Differently, Mental Illness Happy Hour, The Hilarious World of Depression

Discuss this episode with fellow Quirks!

1. How does social anxiety feel for you and how do you deal with it? 2. Tell us about a time you made a mistake and how it affected your life or career.

March 6th was Masha’s birthday. Enjoy the show and want to give her a great gift? Please leave a 5-star review on iTunes even if that’s not how you listen to the show! J Thanks! Follow BoldAdulting on Twitter. Email: [email protected]

In part 2, Graduate Career Counselor Giulia Hoffmann shares about her experience questioning gendered messages about confidence, choosing which battles to fight, her reasons for wanting to earn her PhD since she was 6 years old, and how she felt when she finally earned that PhD.

Listen to part 1.

Find Giulia on LinkedIn

Email Giulia: [email protected]

Discuss this episode with fellow Quirks! Follow BoldAdulting on Twitter. Email: [email protected]

In part 1, Graduate Career Counselor Giulia Hoffmann opens up about feeling like the only grad student who wasn’t trying to become a professor, the changes she made to her job applications to finally find a great job, and a trick for using procrastination to find your dream job. 

Find Giulia on LinkedIn

Email Giulia: [email protected]

Discuss this episode with fellow Quirks! Follow BoldAdulting on Twitter. Email: [email protected]