Books Brothers Podcast

Garrett leads the discussion of Principle 7: “Create Shared Meaning” and the Afterward from The 7 Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman, PhD.

0:31 - “They Don’t Make ‘Em Like They Used To” - Video Games

Principle 7 Discussion - “Create Shared Meaning”

4:50 - Which Shared Meaning pillar is the most robust in your relationship? Explain why.

11:30 - Which Shared Meaning pillar do you want to develop most, and why?

25:28 - Robb previews our next book: Becoming a King: The Path to Restoring the Heart of a Man by Morgan Snyder

That wraps up Season 8! We’ll take the next month off. When we return, we’ll read Becoming a King: The Path to Restoring the Heart of a Man by Morgan Snyder.

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Stehlin leads the discussion of Principle 6: “Overcome Gridlock”  from The 7 Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman, PhD.

2:12 - “The One Thing” - Robb shares his experience going through some of the book’s activities this month.

4:18 - “They Don’t Make ‘Em Like They Used To” - Common 90s phrases

Principle 6 Discussion - “Overcome Gridlock”

8:10 - What are some dreams or core values that you or your spouse hold that have led to conflict in the past?

25:11 - What are some ways that you’ve sought to overcome some unsolvable problems in the past? What have you found to be successful?

Next week, we’ll discuss Principle 7: “Create Shared Meaning” and the Afterward (pgs. 260-284).

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Until next week, read, reflect, and connect.

Flez leads discussion of chapters 9 and 10, which includes Principle 5: “Solve Your Solvable Problems” from The 7 Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman, PhD.

0:36 - “They Don’t Make ‘Em Like They Used To” - Snacks

Principle 5 Discussion - “Solve Your Solvable Problems”

4:24 - Share an example of when you did not approach a difficult topic with a soft start up. How did that conversation go? What could you have done differently?

9:50 - Think about your last argument. Did either of you throw out a repair attempt? How did you respond to it? What can you do in the future to better seek and receive repair attempts?

17:21 - Who is the “saver” and the “spender” in your relationship? Has that caused arguments?

31:55 - Why do you think people shy away from talking about porn?

Next week, we’ll discuss Principle 6: “Overcome Gridlock” (pgs. 236-259).

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Stehlin leads discussion of chapters 7 and 8, which includes Principle 4: “Let Your Partner Influence You” from The 7 Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman, PhD.

(2:04) - “They Don’t Make ‘Em Like They Used To” - Hairstyles

Principle 4 Discussion - “Let Your Partner Influence You”

(9:15) - What are your thoughts and attitudes towards this chapter regarding “let your partner influence you?

(14:30) - Were there any aspects of this chapter, as men, that you disagreed with?

(24:10) - What are some perpetual problems that you face in your marriage? What are some of the ways you’ve coped with them well or poorly?

Next week, we’ll discuss Principle 5: “Solve Your Solvable Problems” and Chapter 10: “Coping with Typical Solvable Problems” (pgs. 160-235).

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Robb leads discussion of Principle 3: “Turn Toward Each Other Instead of Away” from The 7 Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman, PhD.

(1:55) - “The One Thing”

(2:30) - “They Don’t Make ‘Em Like They Used To” - Best 90s TV Shows

Principle 3 Discussion - “Turn Toward Each Other Instead of Away”

(8:25) - How have you ever caught yourself thinking hatt taking a vacation is the key to improving your marriage, instead of focusing on everyday connections? Why do we tend to glorify vacation instead of the beauty of everyday life?

(18:30) - Guys share recent examples in their relationship where they have not turned toward their partner

(31:07) - How do you see stress-reducing conversations play out today with your spouse? Are there any steps in stress reducing that you consistently succeed or fail at?

Next week, we’ll discuss Principle 4: “Let Your Partner Influence You” and chapter 8: “The Two Kinds of Marital Conflict” (pgs. 115-159).

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Thomas leads discussion of “Principle 2: Nurture Your Fondness and Admiration” from The 7 Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman, PhD.

(0:40) - “They Don’t Make ‘Em Like They Used To” - Cable TV

(6:59) - “The One Thing” - Thomas highlights his one takeaway from Principle 2

Principle 2 Discussion - “Nurture Your Fondness and Admiration”

(10:00) - How do your own habits either help or hurt nurturing fondness and admiration with your partner?

(21:42) - What times make it hard to express fondness and admiration to your partner?

Next week, we’ll discuss Principle 3: “Turn Toward Each Other Instead of Away” (pgs. 87-114).

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Flez leads discussion of “Principle 1: Enhance Your Love Maps” from The 7 Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman, PhD.

(0:31) - “They Don’t Make ‘Em Like They Used To” - Blockbuster

(3:49) - “The One Thing” - Garrett and Brooke discuss their thoughts on last week’s episode as it relates to their marriage

Principle 1 Discussion - “Enhance Your Love Maps”

(9:59) - What is something new that you’ve learned about your partner recently that’s surprised you? How do you make an effort to stay updated on her life?

(18:18) - Have you ever realized that you did not know something important about your partner? How did that impact your relationship?

(28:32) - What keeps you from staying updated on your partner’s world? How do you overcome those challenges?

Next week, we’ll discuss Principle 2: “Nurture Your Fondness and Admiration” (pgs. 67-86).

You can buy the book on Amazon by clicking here.

You can also borrow it at your local library. Don’t have a library card, or unsure where your local library is? Search on Google Maps, or find your local library by clicking here.

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Until next week, read, reflect, and connect.

Welcome to Season 8! Garrett : The 7 Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman, PhD.

(1:06) - “They Don’t Make ‘Em Like They Used To”

(7:00) - “The One Thing” - Stehlin shares why he recommended the book to read for this season

(9:28) - Chapter 1 Discussion: What myth about having a happy marriage did you believe in the most?

(28:39) - Chapter 2 Discussion: How have you seen Positive Sentiment Override (PSO) and/or Negative Sentiment Override (NSO) impact your marriage? If you've experienced NSO, how did you combat it?

(37:29) - Which of the 4 Horsemen do you struggle with the most in your marriage? If willing to share, which stages have you experienced in your own marriage? With both questions, how did you respond in your relationship, and what was the result?

Next week, we’ll discuss Principle 1: “Enhance Your Love Maps” (pgs. 53-66).

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Season 8 begins next week! Garrett and Stehlin preview the Brook Brothers' next book: The 7 Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman, PhD.

Are you married, pursuing marriage, or hope to be married some day? Read, reflect, and connect with the guys as they read "one of the best marriage books." Gottman takes us into his Seattle "Love Lab" where he scientifically researched and analyzed hundreds of couples for what makes love last and marriages prosper. We hope you join alongside us in thejourney to better ourselves and our own marriages!

For episode 1, we’ll discuss the Introduction through the first 3 chapters: “Inside the Seattle Love Lab: The Truth About Happy Marriages,” “What Does Make Marriage Work?”, and “How I Predict Divorce” (pgs. 1-52).

You can buy the book on Amazon by clicking here.

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Stehlin leads our discussion of Part 7 from Endurance: Shackleton’s Incredible Voyage by Alfred Lansing.

- (3:59) What were your overall thoughts on this section and the book as a whole?

- (9:42) Which stage of this survival journey sounds like the hardest part for you?

- (13:57) What are situations in your life where you had to exhibit extreme physical or mental resilience?

- (28:16) What were your thoughts on Shackleton leading the rescue efforts and seeing the rescue of the entire crew all the way through?

That wraps up Season 7! Our next book will be The 7 Principles for Making Marriage Work by John Gottman, Ph.D.

You can buy the book on Amazon by clicking here.

You can also borrow it at your local library. Don’t have a library card, or unsure where your local library is? Search on Google Maps, or find your local library by clicking here.

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We’re taking next week off, so we’ll see you in two weeks! Until then - read, reflect, and connect.