Duane is joined today with Kris Godinez to talk about the effects of estranged parents.

In today’s show Duane takes two callers one who is struggling dealing with the “nice” from their ex after his victory in court and then a caller who is court ordered to do co-parenting counseling and needs a strategy going forward.

Talking finances and how to surviving the family court machine by focusing on the long game and making better decisions by re-baselining your life

On today’s Labor Day show we start out with a call struggling with their ex ignoring and rejecting their child. Duane then rants about why these people just can’t even pretend to actually love their children. A listener then asks how Duane was able to prevent his ex from leaving the state with the kids. This rolls into a discussion on how family court is slow. Duane reminds everyone about the Thursday collaboration with Kris Godinez and another mystery guest that he is working on bringing on the show. We then have a question about will a custody evaluation recognize personality disorders. A listener asks Duane what hobbies he used to maintain his sanity through the dark parts of the divorce. Finally we have a return caller who is struggling with the stress and having difficulties finding support.

Today’s Friday show starts with tips to bond with your children when you have limited to no funds. The key is giving them your time and attention and it can be a critical step in defending against parental alienation. Duane talks about one technique where he would spend 15 minutes dedicated to whatever the child wanted to do. He then goes on to describe the “creative day” they would do all together. We then discuss the troubles of comparing yourself to what your ex is doing. A listener asks for recommends on books that helped Duane. Although the answers are simple it is not common sense for everyone. DSD then takes a caller who discusses his process for picking his battles and why he isn’t going to fight the latest court ruling. Duane then discusses how our stories are so similar and being able to guess someone’s experience. Finally we wrap up the show with a caller who talks about how “Absolute Thinking” is working for him!

On today’s episode Duane starts off talking about the concept of “Disneyland Dad” and how no matter what you do a toxic ex is going to shame and ridicule everything you go. We then dive into the issue of how to deal with teachers when you have a toxic ex. Duane then discusses how important it is to “learn” the rules of the family court game. He then talks about being able to see the end of this in 3 years. A viewer then is struggling with comparing their situation to their ex who has family and support while they have nothing. We finish the show talking about how you get to start your life basically over and pick a new direction and path!

Duane starts today’s show talking about how a narcissistic parent can put on a show and have people think they are a great and attentive parent. We then tackle a question for a listener who is struggling with trust issues. Duane then takes a question of do the children ultimately realize something is wrong with the other parent. We then talk about how a narcissist will try to destroy you and you have to work against their efforts. A listener then comments about how a narcissist can not love even their child unconditionally. Duane then takes a caller from the United Kingdom asking if society is become more narcissistic. Finally we have a caller who discusses their false allegation of child abuse and how child protective services and law enforcement is starting to see through the lies.

In today’s show Duane tackles the topic of family court issues. The show starts with a viewer asking what to expect in family court. Duane then shares a viewers story of perseverance and ultimate success through the system. He then discusses how a narcissistic toxic ex will try to bankrupt you financially and emotionally to get what they ant. We then have a return caller talking about their experience through the family court. We then have a caller who discusses the tactics they used to get more time with their child. Duane ends with a caller who is questioning if they should go back to court or not.

Narcissists are experts at creating and exploiting double binds. In today’s episode we start by talking about a viewer who is worried their spouse has compromised their phone, computer, and emails. Duane then mentions a schedule collaboration with Kris Godinez on her channel. A listener shares that their ex broke into their emails and downloaded steps 1 and 2 from their Alcoholic Anonymous notes sent to their sponsor. We then discuss what to say to your children about what is going on. Duane then takes a caller from Ireland who although never married has kids with his ex and is struggling with custody issues. Duane then discusses the double binds and how it is tough to decide the best of the worst case solutions/decisions. We finish up with a return caller talking about how a toxic narcissistic ex will make you pay emotionally no matter what happens - even if you win in court.

In this show Duane is joined by Kris Godinez from We Need to Talk with Kris Godinez show. Kris is a licensed professional counselor in Arizona and has a thriving practice there. Duane and Kris talk about the importance of therapy and some of the key things to look for when interviewing a therapist. They dive into the importance of rapport and the markings of a good trauma therapist. Kris then discusses how there are narcissists in the profession and how important it is to trust your gut. They then talk about how in the education system they tend to no teach about personality disorders. Kris then talks bout the “process” and how the client has to take responsibility for their progress and setting clear goals. Duane and Kris then talk about the original wound and how it is the key to recovery. This leads into a discussion about how fear stops people from growing. They wrap up with the importance of “doing the work” and how a therapist is never going to work more than the client, basically the client sets the pace.