This was a rough show, the callers at the end has some bad and good news. The show starts with a comment from yesterday asking does the ex remarry to “hurt us”. Duane then discusses how we can get stuck ruminating the about the ex. Then we discuss ways to work around the ex when they are holding/hiding information. A caller shares how they have gotten their life back, became a nurse and overcome narcissistic abuse and the suicide of their child. Finally we have a caller who is struggling with the guilt of feeling happy when they can’t see their child. Button line this shows goes over how through all this hardship and adversity we can recover our lives and still find joy and purpose.

In today’s show Duane starts by talking about personal accountability and focusing on your own path. Too often people start to focus on the “problems” of others instead of doing the work on themselves. He then discusses a comment where a listener is concerned if it is okay to ignore a the person they broke up with. We then have a caller who is celebrating 27 days free from the narcissist and is in their own place. Duane then discusses the phases of divorce and how learning can be VERY helpful in minimizing mistakes. A listener is having an issue dealing with emotional triggers in the early days of divorce. We have a return caller feeling down from the constant stress and pressure. Duane addresses a listener comment who is VERY angry about child support and how the funds are not used on the kids. The show takes a caller who has been gaslit by their ex and provoked to act which could be used against them. Finally Duane discusses how narcissistic people push boundaries and how we have to gauge their actions against their words.

Feeling lost and confused is extremely common when recovering from narcissistic abuse. It is incredibly difficult to fine people who understand. This show starts when a discussion of feeling lost. We then have a caller who runs the site Pissed Off Parents and talks about how important it is to get educated on the process to help protect yourself. The next topic is why filing first is an advantage and Duane deep dives into the realities of this scenario and what it really means. We then have a caller who was a victim of the “silver bullet” and how it has altered their life. Duane then talks about “raising your vibration” and how he struggles with that concept but how he’s changed to bring better people into his life. The show wraps up with a discussion on when the feeling of fear ends when you’re waiting for the next “shoe” to drop.

It is normal to feel numb and broken after prolonged narcissistic abuse by an ex and the family court system. This is the starting point of day’s show. Duane discusses a comment where a listener feels like they have been going to therapy forever. Another questions “what is normal” anyway? We then going through the stress and anxiety of seeking help and confronting our own demons. A call asked do assigned therapists or GALS help or do they get it wrong. Another caller asked what does the narcissist want and why do they make simple mistakes that undermine their own case. A listener shares in the comments their recent victor with visitation enforcement. Finally we end with the age old question, “Am I the narcissist?”

We start the week talking about how playing the narcissist’s game is a losing battle. You will end up beating your head against the wall trying to get a better outcome and how it holds you back. Duane briefly talks about how Caleb Leverett is doing after his cryptic video posted over the weekend. Move on to discussing how to develop and implement new routines. Speaking of moving on, we look at the difficult of being able to “move on”. Duane discusses a bit of his experience with fighting back over medical billing and collection issues. We briefly discuss MGTOW and how that is a slippery slope. We finish up with a caller wanting to know when does this all stop!

We finish the third week of the new show! The discussion was how life gets better after going through this. It can seem impossible to believe that you can have a life after this but you can and it can be better than you ever imagined. We have a return caller who shares their court victory and celebrates their success. Then a viewer has a question on how their ex can start the divorce but won’t leave him alone. Duane talks about how these experiences provide you an opportunity to reflect on your life and grow from the experiences. A caller is struggling with catastrophic thinking and questioning their own decisions. Finally Duane summarizes the show and reminds everyone that your perspective changes after going through these experiences - which is a good thing!

The show starts with discussing what happened with my relationships with Eric Carroll and Dad Talk Today. Then we move into burn out and what has happened with me and how I’ve dealt with it. We then have a caller who is getting ready for court and how the ex keeps beating them down and changing moving the finish line. We then have another caller who is struggling with social distancing visits and having to be around their toxic, and very triggering ex. Broach the topic of unmeetable conditions and how they uses those to control the narrative. Finally we talk about decide how sometimes fighting back and cause more problems then it solves.

We start the show discussing a proven approach to deal with alienated children. A comment was asked how to undo the damage with adult children and a minor child. Then we have a caller who was provoked by the ex and blew up in front of the children at their house. This leads to a discussion of how narcissistic people follow the same playbook and patterns of behavior. We then delve into the inner child wounds that often leads to accepting narcissistic/toxic relationships. A view shares how difficult it is when a toxic parent actively works to destroy what was a loving relationship with a child. We finish with a caller who found the channel and was able to help lead her brother to victory dealing with a toxic ex in the very difficult Canadian family court system

In this show we discuss some examples of how a narcissistic ex won’t leave you alone. How they will come back and try to re-insert themselves back into your mind. This start will a comment about how after four years an engaged ex shows up at the workplace to give back papers and photos. Next we have a caller who’s uninvolved ex decides to use the court system to try and pushing the mother of their child. There is a discussion about how much pain is involved in recovery and how hard it is to fight the funk of depression. We end the show with a walk down memory lane where Duane talks about how he met Debby.

Validation is a critical aspect of healing from narcissistic abuse and toxic relationships. It’s difficult to find people to understand and for us to find our own understanding. In this episode we discuss validation, karma, warning the new “supply”, or asking the old about their experience. The show rounds out with a discussion on forgiveness and how to regain our lives after this toxic experiences. Finally we talk about my own person “warning signs” that I experienced early in the relationship.