Break the Cycle with DSD

A discussion about the steps Duane when through to go from the anger, bitterness, and despair of a high conflict narcissistic divorce to where he is now.

The hardest part of recovering from a high conflict narcissistic divorce is finding your way through. We start this process looking for answers and thinking something has to change before anything can get better. At the beginning of this journey we think and believe the change has to be accountability, justice, vindication. As we progress through this we realize the change comes from within us. In this episode Duane discusses his journey, struggles, and the dark days before finding his peace, and his way through this experience.

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A viewer shares their story of breaking “no contact” with their ex and how it stalled their healing!

A listener shares their story of breaking 3 months of No Contact to meet up with their ex. They thought they had healed and this would be a good idea but it was definitely not. Immediately after the meeting they felt as though they were back at day one. Duane talks about the dangers of breaking no contact and what it means when you have one of these setbacks. Duane then reads another comment where a person is struggling with the fact the ex has a new “man” and is “living the good life”.

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A listener posts a story about how they are fighting through parental alienation in Kazakhstan

In this episode a listening from Kazakhstan posts their story of parental alienation in Kazakhstan. Duane go through the story and offers thoughts and ideas on how to go forward. The listener is original from Brazil and is also trying to get “approval” to take his daughter to see her grandparents for the first time, but mom is blocking him every step of the way. He is also dealing with the mother convincing the child to “decide” NOT to see dad and refusing to go.

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Learning to trust again after a toxic narcissistic divorce where you feel like you were conned and tricked!

In this episode DSD talks about the struggles of learning to trust yourself again after a high conflict narcissistic relationship. Often times people feel they can no longer trust themselves to see “red flags” with personal, professional, and romantic relationships. Duane deep dives into this issues with reasons why it happened and techniques to help yourself get your life and trust back! We quickly talk about the risks of going back to a toxic ex. Duane comments on how emotional flashbacks and post traumatic stress discord responses can be use as an indicator that more work is required. A listener comments on how frustrating it is when people say, “Give it time, things will get better” without context. We then dive into the question of “who discarded who” and how your intention is really the indicator of what you are doing. A listener then asks the question of if they will EVER get a 2nd date and we talk about the struggles of dating and some of the realities in this day and age. This leads into the story of how Duane and Debby first met!

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Reno Law Review files motion of intent to intervene in the Alex Falconi, Our Nevada Judges, American Civil Liberties Union case for transparency and 1st amendment rights in Family Court

We update the listeners on the news of Reno Law Review filing a motion to intervene in the ACLU and Our Nevada Judges case against the Nevada Court System. Duane discusses how important it is when we are presenting and telling people about our situations. We then discuss the unfortunate news of Spiritual Empowered Coaching being demonetized by YouTube and her plan to address it. DSD asks the listeners if they thought they would lose in court but felt the need to fight anyway. A listener asks Duane his initial reaction to the divorce being over. We then discuss how the Amber Heard vs Jonny Depp case is being blamed on men and how women are targeted. The conversation then goes to how a toxic narcissistic ex will use your history to manipulation and control you. Duane discusses the fact that not all divorces are high conflict toxic messes. He elaborates how in his opinion toxic people are children in adult bodies. We wrap up with a listening thinking about how it was foolish to think things would calm down once the divorce was final.

Reno Law Review - https://thisisreno.com/2022/07/review-journal-asks-to-join-court-access-case/

Our Nevada Judges - https://www.ournevadajudges.com

SEC YouTube Channel - https://www.youtube.com/c/SpirituallyEmpoweredCoaching

Heir of Justice YouTube Channel - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UChjtxyaA9jZ8w0w2UGywoxw

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00:00:00 - Start of Show
03:04 - Reno Law Review file motion of intent to intervene

12:39 - Importance of transparency with Judges

15:16 - How we present is critically important

19:38 - YouTube demonetized SEC

22:11 - Ex accused new supply of abuse in court

26:20 - YouTube reuse and monetization issues

31:35 - Doing everything you can during court

38:53 - Initial reaction to divorce being over?

41:32 - AH v JD trial being blamed on men

45:11 - Why do they use your history to manipulate you?

48:39 - Not all divorces are narcissistic

53:44 - Children in an adult body

56:41 - Foolish thinking once divorce was over things would calm down

58:33 - End of show wrap-up

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Toxic narcissistic people have a unique ability to push your buttons and get you emotionally dysregulated. It is incredibly important to recognize when this is happening and take steps to keep yourself calm.

In this show we discuss how a toxic narcissistic ex is able to target their “button pushes” to trigger raw emotions and emotional dyregulation. Duane discusses the importance of recognizing this and then taking steps to calm yourself down. We then address a concern, example, where the other parent is doing things that we do not agree with. Duane then discusses examples of his own person unhealthy coping mechanisms in the early days of his experience. A listener brings up the topic of which “violations” are important enough to fight. We then talk about the importance of listening to your children and giving them the ability to express their views - with us explaining WHY. DSD talks about the unfairness and frustration of having to pay for things that aren’t even used. This leads into a discussion of finding ways to break free from the recurring anger.

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00:00:00 - Start of Show

00:03:28 - Importance of remaining calm

00:14:00 - Mom can't get kids up on a Saturday morning

00:16:20 - Ex hits reset and tries again in court

00:22:55 - They find your emotional triggers

00:28:53 - Unhealthy coping mechanism

00:33:59 - Picking which violation is worth fighting

00:36:23 - Not having money to buy a house

00:39:38 - Importance of listening to our children

00:41:27 - Paying for childcare you don't use

00:52:43 - Finding ways to break free from the recurring anger

1:00:39 - Not being able to provide for the kids

1:02:26 - End of show wrap-up

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In this show we discuss how a toxic narcissistic ex will use the information they know about you to push your buttons

Duane discusses how a toxic narcissistic ex will use they information they’ve learned about you to target how to push your buttons and get a reaction from you. It is important to understand what they are doing, why they are doing it, and how to effectively respond and react to it. We then take a caller who is struggling with the fact the ex has married his ex-best-friend and exposed their lies of infidelity. A caller shares how he wants to have a relationship with his adult children ages 21 and 23 that he hasn’t seen for 8 years. Finally we have a caller who shares how they (father) have won an enforcement order for their 17 1/2 year old son to come live with them and how the potentially borderline ex has continually demonstrated a “borderline” pattern of behavior.

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00:00 - Start of Show

03:02 - How they push our buttons for reactions and control

09:04 - Caller - Ex is marrying my best friend and who she cheated with

32:34 - Caller - Hasn't see his children for 8 years

48:42 - Caller - Court ordered 17 1/2 son to follow court order and live with dad

56:44 - Take your time before you start dating again

59:00 - End of show wrap-up

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The American Civil Liberties Union of Nevada has join the case with Alex Falconi from Our Nevada Judges to fight a new rule allowing unprecedented control of family court proceedings

Our friend from Our Nevada Judges, Alex Falconi, has been arguing with the Nevada Court System on their efforts to prevent his organization from covering court proceedings. The new rule they implemented would allow the court to deny access to ALL court proceedings without cause. The American Civil Liberties Union have taken the case to fight this unjust ruling. This is an unprecedented move and is a watershed moment where we just might finally get more visibility into the court operations, especially in family court.

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00:00 - Start of Show

02:49 - ACLU supports Our Nevada Judges access to Family Court

23:45 - Finding good attorneys

37:19 - DSD Discord - Facebook Alternative

46:28 - Try to mediate your case and stay away from judges

53:40 - Deciding HOW you are going to parent

59:26 - End of show wrap-up

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