Episode Summary

Think being a people pleaser makes you more likable? Think again. Amber Fuhriman reveals why chameleon behavior kills real connection and tanks trust in business, plus the NLP-backed framework for knowing when flexibility is strength versus when it's abandoning yourself.

Key Topics Covered

• The difference between being a chameleon as a strength versus using it as a coping mechanism to gain approval
• Why pretending to be who others want you to be prevents real connection and trust in business relationships
• How to identify when you're performing with a mask on versus showing up authentically aligned
• The identity audit: getting clear on which labels you've taken on and whether they still serve who you want to be
• How to intentionally tap into different parts of yourself to serve others without abandoning your core identity

Notable Quotes

• "This is the real danger of being who you think other people want you to be: nobody ever gets to really know who you are. And you don't ever feel like anybody knows or loves or appreciates you because frankly, you've never let them get to know you."
• "In a world where people will associate with and do business with people that they know, like, and trust, how do they get to know you? How do they learn to like you, and how do they decide to trust you if they don't know who you are?"
• "I believe that doing it intentionally because we wanna connect with others so that we can serve them is a strength. I believe that doing it because we want to be loved and appreciated and accepted and we are abandoning other parts of ourselves is dangerous."
• "Realistically, we can only start to understand when we're performing, when we have a mask on, when we're out of alignment, if we get really clear about who it is we are and what it is that we want."

Call to Action (CTA)

• Book a free strategy call with Amber: https://calendly.com/amberfuhriman/connection-call?month=2021-05
• Join the Break Your Bullsh*t Box Community: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/185xJ6KALu/
• Check out Amber's Speaker Reel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vPj5OBvjrr0

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Episode Summary

What happens when the title you worked your whole career to earn suddenly disappears? Chris Mitchell went from corporate executive overseeing $24 million and 400 employees to entrepreneur working from home in shorts, and the identity crisis nearly broke him. Amber and Chris dig into the brutal truth about how titles, positions, and achievements become who we are without us realizing it, and what it actually takes to rebuild yourself when they're gone.

Key Topics Covered

• Why losing your corporate title will break you (and how to survive the identity crisis that follows)
• The mental reset pitchers use to handle failure on the mound and how it translates to business
• How to decide what actually matters when everything feels important
• Why participation trophies and refusing to own your failures will wreck your future
• The discipline gap killing entrepreneurs: why working from home means most people fail

Notable Quotes

Amber Fuhriman:

• "We collect these titles, these letters, and then they get stripped or we realize they didn't actually add anything to us."
• "You can want something all day, but if we're not willing to put in the work to get it, then we need to shift our focus to something that we are willing to accomplish."

Chris Mitchell:

• "When I realized we couldn't have our own, my identity really quickly became what kind of a failure am I as a husband? 'cause I can't provide for my wife."
• "Focus on what really matters. If it doesn't really matter, don't worry about it. My first responsibility is to my wife. My second responsibility is to my daughter. Everything else falls behind that."
• "Why do people fail in my industry so often? Because they're able to work when, where, how, and if they want. And the trouble is they don't want."

Call to Action (CTA)

• Book a free strategy call with Amber: https://calendly.com/amberfuhriman/connection-call?month=2021-05
• Join the Break Your Bullsh*t Box Community: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/185xJ6KALu/
• Check out Amber's Speaker Reel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vPj5OBvjrr0

Guest Info

Chris Mitchell is an independent sales broker for solar and former fitness industry executive. After being furloughed from a multi-billion dollar company during the 2020 pandemic, Chris transitioned from managing $24 million budgets and 400 employees to building his own business from home. He became a father at 45 through adoption and now prioritizes family while building a successful solar business. His journey from corporate executive to entrepreneur forced him to completely rebuild his identity from the ground up.

Contact Chris:

• Website: https://go.powur.com/christopher-mitchell-centurion/

• LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/christopher-mitchell-9b84b2a1?

• Email: [email protected]

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Episode Summary

Think hitting six figures will finally make you happy? Amber Fuhriman rips apart the dangerous myth that money, relationships, or weight loss will solve your problems. She shares her own panic attack moment after hitting her big goal and walks you through how to set goals that actually align with what you want, not what you think you're supposed to want.

Key Topics Covered

• Why tying happiness to a specific income goal sets you up for a crash (and what to do instead)
• How to identify the real purpose behind your goals before you waste years chasing the wrong thing
• The misalignment trap: when your seven-figure business goal conflicts with spending time with your family
• Why asking "what's the purpose of wanting this?" is the first step to designing a life you actually want
• How to build a strategic plan for success on your terms, not society's benchmarks

Notable Quotes

• "I had worked so hard under the illusion that hard work would pay off, and hard work only pays off if we know what we're working towards."
• "Money won't make you happy, the relationship won't make you happy. The weight loss won't make you happy. Your job is to sit down and find out what it is that you actually want in your life, and what has prevented you so far from allowing yourself to have it."
• "Everything was supposed to change and nothing did. I had worked so hard under the illusion that hard work would pay off, and hard work only pays off if we know what we're working towards."
• "The amount of work and effort and energy that it takes to create a business of that magnitude may not align with more family time."

CALL TO ACTION

• Book a free strategy call with Amber: https://calendly.com/amberfuhriman/connection-call?month=2021-05
• Join the Break Your Bullsh*t Box Community: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/185xJ6KALu/
• Check out Amber's Speaker Reel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vPj5OBvjrr0

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Episode Summary

Think you're stuck in toxic patterns because you're broken? Amber Fuhriman sits down with mindset coach and author Lorie Wu to dismantle that lie. They dig into the NLP tools, nervous system regulation, and boundary-setting strategies women need to stop over-functioning, start receiving, and finally build the abundance they've been blocking themselves from.

Key Topics Covered

• How unprocessed anger and grief show up as chronic health issues and why your emotions are not optional
• The mind-body-soul connection: why shifting your mindset alone won't break your patterns if your nervous system can't hold what you want
• Why manifestation without inspired action is just expensive daydreaming, and what actually creates results
• How to stop waiting for permission from everyone else and start valuing yourself enough to set real boundaries
• The one question that interrupts self-betrayal: "What would someone who deeply loves themselves do?"

Notable Quotes

Amber Fuhriman:

• "I think our bullshit box is full of these little gremlins that whisper these lies to us throughout our life, and we choose whether or not to listen to them."
• "I want to meet the person who's powerful enough to put something else in your head. You chose to allow it."
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Lori Wu:

• "You're only gonna receive what you believe you're worthy of and deserving of."
• "If your nervous system can't handle and can't stabilize and hold enough money, your body doesn't feel safe and doesn't know how to handle it."

Call to Action (CTA)

• Book a free strategy call with Amber: https://calendly.com/amberfuhriman/connection-call?month=2021-05
• Join the Break Your Bullsh*t Box Community: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/185xJ6KALu/
• Check out Amber's Speaker Reel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vPj5OBvjrr0

Guest Info

Lorie Wu is the CEO of Reset Your Mind 1111, a mindset and holistic health and wellness coaching company, and author of The Emotional Surgeon. She specializes in the trademarked Emotional Surgery Method and Permission Granted Framework, helping women stop over-functioning and under-receiving by dismantling subconscious identities and behavioral patterns.

• Contact: [email protected]

• Search: Reset Your Mind 1111™

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Episode Summary

The identities that got you here won't get you there. Amber Fuhriman breaks down why the parts of yourself that once served you might now be the exact thing holding you back from your goals and walks you through how to identify which identities to grieve and release so you can step into the version of yourself that actually gets results.

Key Topics Covered

• How your identity is made up of far more than your job title or role: it includes every limitation, label, and belief you've accepted about what you can and can't do
• Why growth requires grieving the versions of yourself that got you to where you are now, even when moving forward is positive
• The exact process for identifying which identities served you in the past but are now blocking your next level of success
• How to release outdated identities (like "the protector," "the hard-nosed Type A," or "the people pleaser") that no longer align with your goals
• Why New Year's resolutions fail around the two-month mark when we don't shift our identity to match our goals

Notable Quotes

• "Every identity that we've had in our life served a purpose for us, that it allowed us to make it to where we are now. We also get to acknowledge that those parts of us that want to go to places we've never been...some of the things that we've held onto won't serve us in those situations."
• "The key to growth is really labeling your identities and acknowledging which ones were necessary to get to you, to where you are now, and which ones are necessary to let go of in order to get to where you want to be."
• "Each time we grow, there is a part of us that we're letting go of. Even though that place we're going is positive and better for us, and we are excited to be there, this idea of grieving identities is very, very real."

Call to Action (CTA)

• Book a free strategy call with Amber: https://calendly.com/amberfuhriman/connection-call?month=2021-05
• Join the Break Your Bullsh*t Box Community: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/185xJ6KALu/
• Check out Amber's Speaker Reel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vPj5OBvjrr0

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Episode Summary

Tired of letting ego and perfectionism keep you stuck at the starting line? Amber Fuhriman sits down with massage therapist and former Wall Street VP Jenn Ty to unpack how she ditched the corporate armor, survived cancer, and is now building the holistic wellness center she's dreamed about for 30 years. You'll learn the NLP strategies and courage practices that help ambitious entrepreneurs stop overthinking and start executing.

Key Topics Covered

• How to network authentically without cold DM spam or transactional bullshit
• Why financial literacy is the skill nobody taught you and how Wall Street trains you to manage money
• The ego trap: how masculine armor protects you in corporate spaces but sabotages you in entrepreneurship
• Using NLP tools to recognize and shut down reactive patterns before they derail relationships
• Getting past the starting line: how perfectionism keeps brilliant ideas at 0% and why 5% execution beats perfect planning

Notable Quotes

Jenn Ty:

• "Networking isn't just about collecting business cards. It's actually taking a real interest in the other business owner, the other individuals, just people that you run into every single day, and more importantly, building a relationship."
• "Don't you realize you've already won? And all of a sudden, dead in my tracks, I had to shut off. And he was right that here I was still fighting over a piece of fruit."
• "If you don't do anything it's still zero. But if you do something, you're maybe five or 10% along the way. And even if you drop it at that point in the process, you're still five to 10% along than you were before."
• "I don't even think that we can call it healthcare. It's sick care. If we really cared about health, we'd do things entirely differently."

Amber Fuhriman:

• "When I felt like I was in a place where I had to defend my right to be in a room as a business owner, that attorney Amber would come up because that was my protection mechanism."
• "The willingness to drop what you've referred to as that ego and say, here I am, do your best because whatever you do is not gonna affect me because I'm secure in who I am requires a courage that is probably one of the most frightening things I've ever done in my entire life."
• "I've learned more than anything that if somebody pops into my awareness or something pops into my awareness, it is never an accident."
• "The hardest, longest distance you'll ever face is from the finish line of one moment to the start line of the next."

Call to Action (CTA)

• Book a free strategy call with Amber: https://calendly.com/amberfuhriman/connection-call?month=2021-05
• Join the Break Your Bullsh*t Box Community: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/185xJ6KALu/
• Check out Amber's Speaker Reel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vPj5OBvjrr0

Guest Info

• Jenn Ty is a massage therapist, holistic health practitioner, and founder of Flow Massage Therapy, LLC in Las Vegas. After nearly 30 years on Wall Street, she transitioned into wellness and now specializes in understanding how trauma stores in the body and helping clients achieve physical and emotional alignment. She is building toward her 30-year vision of creating a cohesive wellness center that integrates holistic and Western medicine.

• Website: Flow Massage Info

• Contact: Available via website for free 15-30 minute consultations

• Search: Flow Massage Therapy, LLC

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Episode Summary

Reading 250 books won't change your life if you never change your behavior. Amber Fuhriman calls out the hidden trap of personal development reading and challenges business owners to stop hiding in books and start doing the messy work of real transformation.

Key Topics Covered

• Why reading alone rarely creates transformation and what's missing from your book habit
• The critical gap between consuming information and actually changing your behavior
• How your limiting beliefs act like a smudged camera lens, distorting everything you read
• The difference between talking about books and analyzing the filters you're reading them through
• Why you need coaching, training, or accountability to turn knowledge into real results

Notable Quotes

• "Reading alone rarely creates the transformation that we want. And the reason for it is because we read, and then we don't necessarily sit back and think about what it is that we read or analyze what it is that we read or pay attention to, how what it is that we read applies in our life or doesn't apply in our life."
• "Do you hide in books instead of changing what needs to be affected in your life and business? Do you read something, give all of this credit and awe and praise to the author while still self-deprecating yourself?"
• "If you are going to set a goal to read a certain amount of books this year, please also set a goal to analyze those books and analyze your behavior and choose differently and act differently."

Call to Action (CTA)

• Book a free strategy call with Amber: https://calendly.com/amberfuhriman/connection-call?month=2021-05
• Join the Break Your Bullsh*t Box Community: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/185xJ6KALu/
• Check out Amber's Speaker Reel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vPj5OBvjrr0
• Visit Success Development Solutions: successdevelopmentsolutions.com

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Episode Summary

Discover how vulnerability, human connection, and community service create real transformation. Ben Berard, founder of Volunteers of Vegas, shares his journey from small-town kid to nonprofit leader, revealing how authentic connection and removing barriers to service built a movement of 300+ volunteers in just seven months and how it's going national.

Key Topics Covered

• How to remove barriers to community volunteering and service

• Building authentic human connections behind professional titles

• Overcoming imposter syndrome and trusting your intuition over obvious choices

• The power of small gestures and micro-connections in creating meaningful relationships

• Strategies for rapid nonprofit growth through authentic mission and community support

• Why volunteering is one of the most selfish (and beneficial) things you can do

• Creating environments where people feel safe being their authentic selves

Notable Quotes

"My mom's always said that people want to do good. They just don't always know how. So I thought to myself, you know what? I'm gonna take a risk. I'm gonna see if she's right." - Ben Berard

"My bullshit's having a conversation with your bullshit. Thoughts go through my head. And then you have those bullshit filters, the imposter syndrome of what are they gonna think if I say this? Or what are they gonna think if I don't? And then I say something and then right after I say it, it's the, okay, how is this gonna land?" - Amber Fuhriman

"Volunteering is one of the most selfish things we can do because it releases euphoria, dopamine, serotonin, and it's not altruistic. I get 10 times what I give." - Ben Berard

"Behind all of those titles—there's a human, and if you can connect with that human being, everything else just dissipates and goes away." - Ben Berard

"I've learned that everybody else is taken, and I am so perfectly imperfect. I have so many flaws... but I've learned to embrace myself, and I've learned to show up for myself." - Ben Berard

Call to Action

• Book a free strategy call with Amber: https://calendly.com/amberfuhriman/connection-call?month=2021-05

• Join the Break Your Bullsh*t Box Community: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/185xJ6KALu/

• Check out Amber's Speaker Reel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vPj5OBvjrr0

Guest Info

• Ben Berard - Founder, Volunteers of Vegas

• Director of Membership, Green Valley Rotary Club

• District Public Image Committee Member, Rotary District 5300

• Website: volunteersofvegas.com

• Connect with Volunteers of Vegas to volunteer, request assistance, or explore national expansion opportunities. All social media platforms @volunteersofvegas

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Ready to stop repeating the same patterns and unlock real success? Amber Fuhriman reveals how NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) helps business owners break through limiting beliefs, improve communication, and create intentional results. Learn the science that transformed her from anxious attorney to thriving coach and author.

• How NLP (Neurolinguistic Programming) helps business owners overcome limiting beliefs and self-sabotage
• Understanding the connection between your programming, decisions, and business results
• Practical strategies for identifying hidden behaviors that block your success
• Why every behavior has an intention—and how to use that awareness to change your results
• Real-world examples of using NLP for business growth, mental health, and relationships

• "If you don't feel successful, it's because you're not allowing yourself to."
• "Every single behavior has an intention. So if you don't like the results you're getting, look at the behavior that you're making and ask yourself, what is the purpose of this behavior?"
• "It's not about necessarily becoming somebody new. It's about unbecoming everything that we have chosen to put a mask on for, to fit into a box that somebody else told us we were supposed to fit into."

• Book a free strategy call with Amber: https://calendly.com/amberfuhriman/connection-call?month=2021-05
• Join the Break Your Bullsh*t Box Community: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/185xJ6KALu/
• Check out Amber's Speaker Reel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vPj5OBvjrr0
• Visit Success Development Solutions: successdevelopmentsolutions.com

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Struggling to get results from your business coach? Amber Fuhriman reveals the three critical mistakes people make when hiring a coach that prevent real transformation and how to fix them. Learn how to take ownership of your success, ditch toxic positivity for honest self-assessment, and shift from seeking certainty to building capacity for exponential growth.

• How to take ownership of your transformation instead of outsourcing responsibility to your coach

• Why toxic positivity and performing prevent real results—and the power of radical honesty

• The mindset shift from seeking certainty to expanding your capacity for change

• How to optimally use a coach as a partner in your success, not someone to fix you

• Action steps for breaking through limiting beliefs and getting uncomfortable for growth

• "I don't believe any person is broken and needs to be put back together by another person."

• "You alone own the credit for that transformation. You did it with the support of the coach."

• "The honest answer is sometimes we just don't fucking feel good... We have to be honest about where we're starting."

• "Don't give up your peace, because chaos is comfortable."

• "You will not get the results you want in your life, your business, your relationships, your health... by staying comfortable."

• Book a free strategy call with Amber: https://calendly.com/amberfuhriman/connection-call?month=2021-05

• Join the Break Your Bullsh*t Box Community: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/185xJ6KALu/

• Check out Amber's Speaker Reel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vPj5OBvjrr0

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