Break Your Bullsh*t Box

Episode Summary

The words you tell yourself every morning are quietly running your results. Amber Fuhriman breaks down how your internal language shapes the way you show up, why common phrases like "work in progress" might be deflating you, and the specific language shifts business owners need to stop shrinking and start showing up as the leader they actually are.

Key Topics Covered

• How shifting from "I have to" to "I get to" changes your energy and results in business and life
• Why your brain builds internal pictures from the words you use and how those pictures drive your behavior
• The hidden danger of calling yourself a "work in progress" and how it keeps you playing small
• How minimizing your inner voice as "little me" strips your confidence before you even walk into the room
• Why you must define what your own words mean to you instead of assuming everyone shares your definition

Notable Quotes

• "Nothing about that bitch is little. She is strong, and she is powerful, and she is empowered, and she is motivating and inspiring and has the ability to empower and inspire and influence others. She's not little."
• "No, it's the way you've chosen to allow yourself to be. The beginning of getting different results, the beginning of changing the results in your life and business, is changing the way that you talk to yourself because the words that you say matter."
• "The worst thing that's been done to an understanding of human behavior is a dictionary because it assumes that people define words the same way."

Call to Action

• Book a free strategy call with Amber: https://calendly.com/amberfuhriman/connection-call?month=2021-05
• Join the Break Your Bullsh*t Box Community: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/185xJ6KALu/
• Check out Amber's Speaker Reel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vPj5OBvjrr0

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Episode Summary

Tired of buying course after course and seeing zero change? Amber Fuhriman breaks down why self-led programs fail when your internal programming stays the same and shows you exactly how to evaluate coaching formats so your next investment actually produces results. You will walk away knowing the difference between self-led courses, hybrid trainings, and live coaching, plus the hard truth about why the problem was never the course. It was you.

Key Topics Covered

• Why buying course after course without results is a programming problem, not a course problem, and how to identify the internal beliefs sabotaging your follow-through
• How to honestly assess whether a self-led course will work for you or just become another purchase you never open
• The critical differences between self-led courses, online hybrid programs with live Q&A, and in-person coaching, and how to choose the right format for your discipline level
• Why external sales scripts and communication tips will never increase your business success without first addressing your internal resistance, beliefs, and energetic patterns
• Why spending more on coaching that challenges you in real time can cost less than repeatedly buying cheaper courses you never act on

Notable Quotes

• "The difference in the ones that were really valuable to me and the ones that I didn't even open wasn't the course. It was me."
• "I am here to beg you to stop looking for the solution that is going to change your behavior without your involvement, 'cause it's not possible."
• "You cannot increase business success talking about external skills alone. There has to be a conversation about behavior, your behavior, your programming, and how to shift that."
• "Cost is only an issue in the absence of value."
• "Nothing changes if nothing changes. And if you want a different rest of this year and next year than you've had already, it starts with a conversation."

Call to Action

• Book a free strategy call with Amber: https://calendly.com/amberfuhriman/connection-call?month=2021-05
• Join the Break Your Bullsh*t Box Community: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/185xJ6KALu/
• Check out Amber's Speaker Reel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vPj5OBvjrr0

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Episode Summary

Stop treating an empty calendar like a vacation day. Amber Fuhriman breaks down why business owners lose momentum the moment their schedule clears, how to shift from a reactive employee mindset to intentional self-management, and the exact weekly planning framework that turns open days into revenue-generating action.

Key Topics Covered

• How to use the first thought that pops into your head on an empty calendar day as a diagnostic tool for your relationship with success
• Why transitioning from a deadline-driven schedule to a self-driven business is the make-or-break moment for new entrepreneurs
• The "big rocks" weekly planning framework: how to map out networking, personal development, sales goals, and admin work before the week starts
• Why constantly putting out fires in your business makes you the arsonist, not the firefighter, and how to stop chasing your own tail
• The truth about time management: why you cannot manage time and what you should be managing instead

Notable Quotes

• "That voice is the difference between making money in your business and trying to figure out why you're constantly scrambling for the next little bit of success."
• "The reality is when you're constantly putting out fires, you're not the firefighter, you're the arsonist."
• "Success doesn't happen by accident. It is an intentional choice that is made every single minute, every single day, every single week, every single month, and every single year."
• "Stop trying to manage time and start learning how to manage you."

Call to Action

• Book a free strategy call with Amber: https://calendly.com/amberfuhriman/connection-call?month=2021-05
• Join the Break Your Bullsh*t Box Community: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/185xJ6KALu/
• Check out Amber's Speaker Reel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vPj5OBvjrr0

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Episode Summary

Ready to stop letting your corporate past define your future? Amber Fuhriman sits down with New York Life advisor Ashli Palmer to unpack 20 years of Walmart leadership experience, the hard truth about management versus real leadership, and the self-doubt gremlins that follow high performers into entrepreneurship. You will walk away with practical strategies for building community in any business environment, overcoming the fear of picking up the phone, and embracing the messy parts of being human while growing your business.

Key Topics Covered

• How emotional intelligence transforms your ability to lead people who don't think you belong in a leadership role
• Why building genuine community beats chasing numbers and metrics in any business environment
• The critical difference between managing people and leading people, and how to know which one you are actually doing
• How to stop assuming people don't want to work with you so you can start making the calls that grow your business
• Why being "too much" is not a you problem, and how finding the right people changes everything

Notable Quotes

Amber Fuhriman:

• "People don't leave bad jobs, they leave bad managers."
• "If you're all put together and everything's perfect, something's wrong with you. Humans are messy. We're supposed to be."

Ashli Palmer:

• "When you stop worrying about the numbers and what goals you're supposed to hit and you start worrying about your people, your people will drive the experience."
• "I need to stop making that decision for other people. If you don't want to talk to me, you won't answer."

Call to Action

• Book a free strategy call with Amber: https://calendly.com/amberfuhriman/connection-call?month=2021-05
• Join the Break Your Bullsh*t Box Community: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/185xJ6KALu/
• Check out Amber's Speaker Reel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vPj5OBvjrr0

Guest Info

Ashli Palmer is a financial advisor at New York Life and spent 20 years in corporate America with Walmart, rising from overnight stocker to HR and compliance leadership roles across nine states. She specializes in helping people who think they cannot afford financial advice find judgment-free guidance, and she is known for being the farthest thing from a stuffy financial advisor. Connect with Ashli on LinkedIn, where her phone number and email are listed.

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Episode Summary

Tired of buying planners you never use and wondering why you're still not where you want to be? Amber Fuhriman breaks down the real reason smart, capable business owners resist goal setting, how the "bullshit gremlin" voice in your head is sabotaging your progress, and why refusing to set goals is keeping you stuck in a cycle of spinning your wheels.

Key Topics Covered

• How to identify the specific "bullshit gremlin" voice that sabotages your goal setting before you even start
• Why not setting goals leaves your unconscious mind without direction and keeps you spinning your wheels in your business
• How the resistance you feel toward goal setting shows up in every other area of your life, from health to money to planning
• The road trip analogy that proves you need a destination before you can choose the right path to get there
• A five-month challenge to set one goal, pay attention to the resistance that pops up, and use it to uncover the behavioral patterns holding you back

Notable Quotes

• "You're not where you want to be yet because you don't know where you want to be because you did not set goals."
• "If you resist the unknown in one area of your life, you will resist it in every area of your life."
• "That voice, the one that we've been pushing aside, the one that we haven't been listening to, is the one that has the answers that you're looking for."

Call to Action

• Book a free strategy call with Amber: https://calendly.com/amberfuhriman/connection-call?month=2021-05
• Join the Break Your Bullsh*t Box Community: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/185xJ6KALu/
• Check out Amber's Speaker Reel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vPj5OBvjrr0

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Episode Summary

Ready to stop being the person who says "I'm not the type of person who can..."? Amber Fuhriman breaks down how the identity you built for yourself is quietly running your business results, why your bullshit excuses feel real but aren't, and the framework for pushing past every identity boundary standing between you and what you actually want.

Key Topics Covered

• How to recognize when a belief you treat as a fact is actually a choice you made, and how to choose something different
• Why every business milestone you've ever hit required breaking an identity you previously held as truth
• The danger of staying stuck in either pure personal development or pure business metrics without ever connecting the two
• How your brain is wired for safety, not success, and what that costs you in sales, leadership, and growth
• The step-by-step identity-breaking process Amber used to go from "I'm not an athlete" to a 24-hour endurance race, and how it maps directly to building a business

Notable Quotes

• "Your life, business, relationships, and overall success start to shift the moment that you acknowledge that even though they feel real, they're not."
• "The excuses that you use to define your reality are not real. And let's assume for just a minute that they might be real. What would your life look like and feel like if you assumed they weren't?"
• "If we are to create something we've never had, we have to be willing to be someone we've never been."

Call to Action

• Book a free strategy call with Amber: https://calendly.com/amberfuhriman/connection-call?month=2021-05
• Join the Break Your Bullsh*t Box Community: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/185xJ6KALu/
• Check out Amber's Speaker Reel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vPj5OBvjrr0

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Episode Summary

Tired of being busy but not making progress? Amber Fuhriman breaks down what intentionality actually means, why you're lying to yourself about how busy you really are, and the time-auditing framework every entrepreneur needs to stop spending hours on things that don't move the needle.

Key Topics Covered

• How to use a time-tracking audit to uncover where your hours are actually going (and why you'll want to text Amber "F you" after doing it)
• The difference between spent time and invested time, and how to compound your hours instead of burning through them
• Why being intentional with your choices doesn't mean being rigid, and how to balance planning with flexibility to catch unexpected opportunities
• How to define what success looks like for every meeting, networking event, and activity on your calendar before you show up
• Where manifestation meets action, and why thinking positive thoughts without a plan will never build the business you say you want

Notable Quotes

• "The person that we lie to the most is ourselves, about our capabilities, about how busy we are, about what we've accomplished in the day."
• "We cannot just manifest success into our life without action. But we can't work success into our life without planning, and that is where intentionality and flexibility meet."
• "Anybody who says they love personal development isn't doing it right. Because it's not the book and the happy feel-good movie and the songs that make us feel great inside. It is the real, honest conversations that we have with ourselves about where we are supporting our goals and where we're letting ourselves down."

Call to Action

• Book a free strategy call with Amber: https://calendly.com/amberfuhriman/connection-call?month=2021-05
• Join the Break Your Bullsh*t Box Community: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/185xJ6KALu/
• Check out Amber's Speaker Reel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vPj5OBvjrr0

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Episode Summary

Still chasing a version of success you committed to years ago? Amber Fuhriman breaks down why your definition of success needs to evolve as you do, how childhood programming secretly runs your decisions, and the mindset shift required to stop building someone else's puzzle and start living on your own terms.

Key Topics Covered

• How the jigsaw puzzle theory explains why success feels impossible to define (and why the picture keeps changing as you grow)
• Why asking "What do you want to be when you grow up?" programmed you to think success has only one answer (and how to break that pattern)
• How to give yourself permission to let go of goals and identities that no longer fit the person you are becoming
• Why success coaching matters more than business coaching when your career wins but your life feels empty
• How your upbringing, religion, and society shaped your definition of success (and how to take responsibility for reprogramming it)

NOTABLE QUOTES

• "Success is easy. We just make it hard. We make it hard by trying to complicate what it means. We make it hard by letting other people's judgments into what we think we should create. We make it hard by refusing to acknowledge what it is that we actually want."
• "What good is it to be good and successful in business if you feel like you suck in life? What good is it to create massive financial success if you're never there for your family?"
• "You're not responsible for your upbringing. You're not responsible for how you were programmed. At some point in time, though, you are responsible for shifting that programming in a way that supports the life that you say you want to have."
• "Stop being so committed to the vision that you thought you wanted so that you don't have the flexibility to create what you were actually meant to have."

CALL TO ACTION

• Book a free strategy call with Amber: https://calendly.com/amberfuhriman/connection-call?month=2021-05
• Join the Break Your Bullsh*t Box Community: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/185xJ6KALu/
• Check out Amber's Speaker Reel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vPj5OBvjrr0

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Episode Summary

Still saying yes when every instinct is screaming no? Amber Fuhriman gets real about the hidden price of people-pleasing, scarcity-driven decisions and shows you how to get clear on what you actually want so you can start saying yes to the right things and stop burning out on the wrong ones.

Key Topics Covered

• The real cost of saying yes out of desperation, including lost time, energy, sleepless nights, and resentment toward clients you never should have taken on
• How scarcity mindset and FOMO push you into bad business decisions and what to do instead
• Why resentment toward difficult clients is actually about the yes you said, not them
• The "hell yes or hell no" framework for evaluating opportunities before you commit
• What opens up in your business and your life when you get crystal clear on who you want to serve and what you want to build

Notable Quotes

• "That FOMO is real. The scarcity mindset that comes along with that of I need to say yes to this because what if something better doesn't come along, that will burn you every single time."
• "When you say yes to something, you say no to an infinite amount of other things. You just don't know what they are. They haven't presented themselves to you yet." (quoting Rory Vaden, TED Talk: Procrastinate On Purpose)
• "If it's not a hell yes, it should be a hell no."
• "How is that the client's fault that you said yes? It's not, but we make it about them. We get frustrated with them because it's a lot easier to be frustrated with them than it is to be frustrated with ourselves."

Call to Action

• Book a free strategy call with Amber: https://calendly.com/amberfuhriman/connection-call?month=2021-05
• Join the Break Your Bullsh*t Box Community: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/185xJ6KALu/
• Check out Amber's Speaker Reel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vPj5OBvjrr0

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Episode Summary

Stuck thinking you have a sales problem when you actually have a lead problem? Amber Fuhriman breaks down the critical difference between the two and shows business owners exactly how to diagnose what's really stalling their revenue before they waste time and money fixing the wrong thing.

Key Topics Covered

• How to tell the difference between a lead problem and a sales problem in your business
• Why an empty calendar means you can't sell, no matter how good your pitch is
• How to spot a volume problem disguised as a "friendship" instead of a sales conversation
• Where to look in your networking and follow-up process to find where leads are falling through the cracks
• Why throwing money at marketing or sales won't fix the wrong problem

Notable Quotes

• "You're trying to solve a problem that doesn't actually exist yet because you can't sell to an empty room."
• "It's not that your sales process doesn't work. It's that you don't have enough people to talk to because you have a lead problem."

Call to Action

• Book a free strategy call with Amber: https://calendly.com/amberfuhriman/connection-call?month=2021-05
• Join the Break Your Bullsh*t Box Community: https://www.facebook.com/share/g/185xJ6KALu/
• Check out Amber's Speaker Reel: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vPj5OBvjrr0

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