112: Kristal DeSantis is a Texas Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, a Clinically Certified Trauma Professional, Certified Sex Therapy Informed Professional, EMDR trained clinician, and a State of Texas approved Premarital Education Provider. She is the creator of The STRONG model of Relational Therapy and corresponding book, S.T.R.O.N.G.: A Relationship Field Guide for the Modern Man 

Please note some of the audio for this episode was not saved properly; the episode starts mid-conversation.

Timestamps:

2:00 - Defining trauma; EMDR therapy

11:00 - Ignoring emotions is illogical

17:00 - Belief vs trust

22:00 - why are most divorces in the U.S.'s initiated by the woman in the relationship?

27:00 - Alexithymia - "phenomenon characterized by significant challenges in recognizing, expressing, sourcing, and describing one's emotions"

28:00 - Kristal's definition of a good man: "a man with integrity, self-awareness, and strength of character."

Kristal's Book

Kristal's Website

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111 - John Lawyer is an American combat veteran and co-founder of Kishar, a non-profit online spiritual community.

1:00 - Introduction, what is Kishar?

4:30 - Defining spirituality and the message John spreads via the Kishar community

16:00 - Acknowledging judgement in ourselves

24:00 - how much is too much rumination vs plowing through bad times

35:00 - dealing with shame & regret; letting go

40:00 - addiction; John's 12 years in combat zones

53:00 - how did John use spirituality to heal?

Kishar Website

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110 - Michael Anderson is an author and political commentator who has written five books on the genetic nature of political beliefs, tribalism, and potential solutions.

Timestamps:

2:00 - finding a creative outlet in writing, interest in political differences

8:00 - historical/evolutionary origin of left-right divide

16:00 - neoliberalism's impact on the middle class

23:00 - solutions; campaign finance reform,

33:00 - socialism

42:00 - challenges of a rapidly changing society

53:00 - judiciary

Items Referenced:

The Righteous Mind by Jonathan Haidt

Michael's website

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Episode 109 - Born in Mumbai, Dr. Ravi R. Iyer is the founding physician and president of the Iyer Clinic-LMG in Fairfax and Loudoun County, Virginia. His 40 years of experience span science, medicine, biochemistry, molecular biology, and pharmaceuticals. Thomas and Dr. Iyer discuss consciousness, narratives and reality, dealing with apathy, taking risks, and what it means to be a good man.

Timestamps:

1:30 - True excellence is not concerned with the opinion of others

8:00 - Reality; truth vs narratives in our mind; consciousness & maintaining separation from representations of reality

19:00 - Dealing with Persecution and threat as a young person

24:00 - Living a life of honor; working as a physician in the community

32:00 - "mental health" vs "emotional health"

40:00 - how to contextualize exercise in your life

43:00 - apathy; supporting apathetic patients

47:00 - polymath mentality; risk aversion

55:00 - being a good man

Dr. Iyer's Website

Topics Referenced:

Archimedes

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108 - John Pierce is a public sector servant and consultant, having worked for the cities of Philadelphia, Alexandria and San Francisco, as well as consulting for national governments.

Timestamps: 

3:00 - Media Literacy; choosing information sources. Vaccine hesitancy, Jared Kushner, Russia & Ukraine, Israel & Palestine 

13:00 - Pernicious Ideologies & How to Engage with them. Examples: American Civil War

22:00 - Conspiratorial thinking is selfish 

28:00 - Are the conventional understandings of liberalism and conservatism accurate? 2-Party realignment in the 1960s, welfare state, 

40:00 - Civil Rights post 2020; improving outcomes for the poor and people of color. Potential solutions; funding education, entrepreneurship 

54:00 - How impactful is the money going to Ukraine on the US Budget? 

56:00 - Morality ; being a good man 

Items Referenced:

AllSides.com

Anti-Intellectualism in American Life

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107 - James Marshall is a retired professional rugby player from New Zealand and the host of the What a Lad Podcast. James amassed nearly 200 professional rugby appearances, including more than 50 caps for the Hurricanes in the top flight of professional rugby in New Zealand, and was part of the Super Rugby winning side in 2016. James is now a coach at the mighty Crusaders of Canterbury, the most successful club rugby team in the world, where he helped bring him a sixth consecutive Super Rugby title. 

What a Lad is an interview show that hands the mic to many all time greats of New Zealand rugby union and league, as well as other sports stars from around the world. James has put out more than 200 episodes of What a Lad, where he gives these athletes a platform to express themselves and be authentic.

Timestamps:

6:00 - building trust with guests; mental health in professional rugby

10:00 - Getting a job as a podcast host

14:00- Developing listening skills

20:00 - Journey to full professionalism

32:00- Concussions in rugby

41:00 - Success in long-term relationship

45:00 - Rugby World Cup 2023

What a Lad Podcast: https://whatalad.podbean.com/

Bro Nouveau Podcast on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@bronouveau

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Michael “Tate” Barkley is an attorney and author of the upcoming memoir, “Sunday Dinners, Moonshine and Men”. 

Timestamps: 

2:00 - What was the impetus to write a book, and why a memoir? 

8:00 - What were the factors in your childhood that left you susceptible to addiction? ; Do you miss drinking? 

19:00 - How boys are taught to communicate and disrespect boundaries 

29:00 - Life is easier when you are honest 

35:00 - Rock bottom; moving home, suicidal ideation and finding rehab 

41:00 - Angels; people giving a lifeline 

Tate’s website: https://tatebarkley.com/

Bro Nouveau on YouTube

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105 - Pete Taylor is a British entrepreneur with a background in design and architecture. In 2022 he walked away from a successful business and co-founded the Awakened Man Project.

Timestamps: 

1:00 - “menswork” concept - how much is too much?

5:00 - Pete’s backstory - growing up with a growth condition 

10:00 - Moving beyond self-improvement exclusively in fitness; the importance of having a close group of guy friends 

19:00 - Identifying & Defining an “elevated” man 

22:00 - Resisting Pornography 

41:00 - What is the Awakened Man 

Item's Referenced

Stutz

The Awakened Man Project

Pete Taylor on LinkedIn

Bro Nouveau on YouTube

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075 - Bobby Andaya is an American-Filipino entrepreneur. He is the head coach and owner of Hieroglyph Fitness on the Island of Palawan in the Philippines.

Prior to establishing CrossFit Hieroglyph in 2016, he served 7 years as a U.S. Federal Law Enforcement Officer, and 6 years in the U.S. Military.

Thomas and Bobby discuss why he exited a lucrative career in the federal government, living in a developing country, returning home to the Philippines, preventing burnout, and how Bobby defines his values as a husband and father.

Timestamps:

1:00 - Intro - Bobby’s Career in the Military and Federal Law Enforcement 

5:00 - Life in the Philippines and on Palawan 

9:00 - Living in a developing country & the beauty in the struggle 

15:00 - The fable of the segali and the ant 

18:30 - developing introspection 

34:00 - Integrity & staying faithful 

39:00 - The Bay Area 

49:99 - What does it mean to be a good man? 

Hieroglyph Fitness

Hieroglyph Fitness on Instagram

Bobby's Vacation Rental in El Nido

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Dr. Shauna Springer – known as “Doc Springer” in the veteran community, is one of the nation's leading experts on PTSD and transitional trauma. In addition to speaking and writing engagements, Dr. Springer is Chief Psychologist at Stella, a health care organization on the cutting edge of biological interventions and psychedelic therapy for treatment of severe trauma exposure. Dr. Springer holds a PhD in Counseling Psychology.

Timestamps:

1:30 - Podcasting 

5:00 - Bids for Attention in relationship and day-to-day interactions; “phubbing” 

10:00 - Profile of someone who experienced childhood trauma; creating a protector image 

16:00 - universal impact of trauma; all walks of life 

19:00 - Extroversion vs Introversion: introverts are not unfriendly 

34:00 - Trauma as a biological injury; ketamine therapy Stellacenter.com

40:00 - Psychedelic Medicine vs mindfulness

47:00 - Therapeutic Modalities 

Items Referenced:

Doc Springer's Website: https://www.docshaunaspringer.com/

Stella: https://stellacenter.com/

Free Range Psychology (Psychology Today): https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/free-range-psychology

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