Broke, Fat & Tired

Alison and Teresa interview Matthew Hoffman, and they ask: Matthew - how do we turn our husbands into kick ass husbands?! 

Matthew Hoffman is an entrepreneur, husband, and dad. He is the founder of Kickass Couples Nation as well as co-founder of kickass couples Podcast and will be releasing his first book Kickass Husband in November. He and his wife Kim have been married for 26 years and want to teach people the secrets to having more fulfilling relationships.

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https://matthewphoffman.com/meet-matthew/

Bonus Content:

Become a Unicorn!

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Teresa talks about her wholesome bedtime routine and how she models gratefulness in her family.  Alison’s son falls asleep to sitcoms.  And we talk vacation - specifically the sheer amount of planning that goes into planning a family vacation and how it takes the joy from the trip.

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Fraiser: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Frasier

You need a system sister

Holiday from holiday episode link

Memorable Quote: 

“I am a GREAT mom” - Alison

“This is not going to be the magical commercial” - Teresa

“The planning that goes into a vacation that is always on my mental load” - Alison

“You need ALL of the things to go with you” - Teresa

“Systems, routines, and lists!” - Teresa

“Somewhere on the side of I-70, there is a pile of shit that belongs to my household” - Alison

“Little kids aren’t flexible.  If they are tired, thirsty, hungry or uncomfortable it’s game over” -Alison

“Something is going to go wrong. Just let it roll off” - Teresa

“We are going to lose a child in the themepark.  That’s 100% going to happen” -Alison

“Everyone else just gets to show up and have a good time - that’s what I want.” - Alison

Bonus Content:

Become a Unicorn!

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Alison reminisces on Oregon Trail and Teresa is overwhelmed by a side gig.  Today, we talk about those days where there are SO many things to do and overcome, and they are ALL important.  How do we get things done?  How do we keep from feeling overwhelm and panic?

We’re really talking about dealing with the Broke, Fat, and Tired trifecta, and these issues tend to pile up in a matter of a few days or even hours.  

We take a look at what our reactions and instincts are that don’t serve us well.  Because if we can create awareness at the moment can help prevent bad behaviors that don’t serve us well.

Then we define our “why’s and goals” and match up what problems push up against those and help clarify what to spend our time on.

Then we handle the issues that impact other things as we can, one at a time.

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Memorable Quote: 

“Your shit is on fire, my shit is smoking”

“It’s an avalanche of shit and we have a snow shovel.”

Become a Unicorn!

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Teresa is outed as a Harry Potter fan and Alison had a DAY and realizes that she is NOT special.  We also discuss being shamed for things we like, and things that identify women as being “basic”. 

What’s wrong with enjoying the things that are specifically marketed to us?  Why are women not allowed to enjoy things that bring us a little bit of joy?  We give insight into the ridiculous things that we are not supposed to like that are WILDLY popular.  

We say, hand me some avocado toast and pour me a PSL - we’re ready to rage against the mundane machine.

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Resources:

Potterless: Harry Potter podcast: https://www.potterlesspodcast.com/

Memorable Quote: 

“I’ve always been the ‘look at me, look at what I can do’ person.”

“Here’s the unicorn magic-dust fairy moment: I am alive today.”

“Before the school meeting - I maaay have done some shots.”

Become a Unicorn!

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Teresa deals with a difficult client, Alison , and we discuss having extra revenue streams.  Between the hosts, we own 5 different businesses and have been working on making some extra money for YEARS.  But, not all side hustles are equal.  

Can you make extra money? Yep.  Can you do it easily?  Yep.  Likely, you can do it with things you are already doing. 

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Memorable Quote: 

“It’s going to take you at LEAST a year to figure out your shit.”

“Just because it takes time doesn’t mean it’s not worth it.”

“What you do is not who you are.  As a business owner, it tends to become part of your DNA”

Bonus Content:

Become a Unicorn!

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Addressing Our Fat Bits

 Alison talks about her biggest pet peeve.  Teresa shares her interesting food choices. And we discuss in depth the realities of living in “fat” bodies.  Unlike other things people struggle with, our bodies are always visible - and thus there is no hiding from our size and people’s opinions on them.

So what’s it like to be fat?  We deep into it and what we are painfully aware of every day.  Because even though we have large bodies, we’re allowed to take up space.

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Resources:

Obesity Alliance Coalition: https://www.obesityaction.org/

Memorable Quote: 

“I am allowed to take up space.”

“Everyone struggles with something.  The unique thing is, with your weight, your struggle is visible”

Bonus Content:

Become a Unicorn!

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Episode Title: I Threw Money at My Fat...Yay!

Main Points: Teresa discusses how she binges on things that are good for her, even though it’s still not necessarily healthy behavior and her recent obsession is over webcomics.  Alison is excited by body positivity campaigns in retail and being treated like a human being while shopping.

Today we talk about why we want to lose weight and why it’s so easy to put money and effort into the mix to try to move the needle when it comes to doing something next to impossible.  Teresa is talking about her long term plan to take on a BIG goal of losing 100lbs in 18 months.

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Resources:

Outlander TV show: https://www.netflix.com/title/70285581

Old Navy Body Equality campaign: https://www.gapinc.com/en-us/articles/2021/08/old-navy-democratizes-the-shopping-experience-for-

HealthyWage: https://www.healthywage.com/

Memorable Quote: 

“I can’t wear a button-up shirt.  Don’t even try to put a blouse on me”

“If I’m plus size and I want to show my body?  That’s MY choice!”

“I’m not just some sort of blob on the planet.  I’m still a person.”

Bonus Content:

Become a Unicorn!

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Alison wasn’t in charge for once, Teresa plans a last-minute trip, and we dig into all of the side businesses and adventures we’ve done in the past to earn some extra income.  Turns out, you can make money doing just about anything.

We give some examples of what we’ve done in the past and the rules we’ve learned to create money without sacrificing our time, creativity, etc.

Teresa’s guilty conscience goes out of control, Alison misses going to movie theaters, and we talk about friendships.

We all know that making friends as an adult is hard.  But it’s also hard to keep and nurture relationships when we have so many things going on.  Is having three friends a good number?  Or is it an indication of how isolated we really are?

We debate about how we can find friends, ways not to do it, and some of the damage that past “friendships” has caused.

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Memorable Quote: 

“But we’re not here to talk about THAT”

“I have the unicorn experience: I have a family friend group”

“Making friends as adults is hard”

“I feel socially broke.  It’s so hard to make time to maintain relationships”

Bonus Content:

Become a Unicorn!

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It’s Teresa’s birthday!  We talk about all things birthdays, and frankly why as a grown person, your birthday sort of sucks.  Even if you’re not BIG on birthdays, you are worth celebrating.  However, when you are the person responsible for planning EVERYTHING, the LAST thing you want to do is plan your own party.

So what do we do?  We talk through ways to communicate expectations without being extra, how to do nice things for yourself without feeling guilt, and ways you can pay it forward to others to make their special days a big deal without taking on too much.