Completion of the "Amends Matrix" and what it means to have accountability within the brotherhood.

Having to say your sorry is a process of leaning into the offended's story, their thoughts and feelings. What makes them hurt over your thoughts, behaviors and actions. Take the time to know yourself and feel the pain of making an amends using the 7 Steps of the Amends Matrix (Jason Martinkus).

Step 8 speaks into making an amend, using the "Amends Matrix" is a thorough apology.

Some of our hardest moments are when we reach the" bottom of the pit," this is exactly what Bill Wilson cried out, "if there is a God let him show himself, I am ready to do anything, anything." Wilson is the founder of AA.

History of your emotions.

Learn what its like to recognize shame and turn it around before it consumes you and robs you of a precious moment to repair.

Knowing the effects of shame on the brain and body

Where is God in my pain?

The induced trauma and impact on the mind and body from sexual integrity issues can have a devastating impact on your spouse's physical body, it can affect both her relationship to her body how she sees herself and takes care of her body. It can cause new medical concerns and it can also alter her personality and who she is.

Don't take for advantage that your partner "will get over this." In due time she figures out how to move forward, but the impact on her sexuality, physically, emotionally and spiritually linger, way more than she would like.

Destabilization is a state of decreased optimism in maintaining status quo for what is familiar and constant. It undermines ones ability to trust their own judgement.