BS with Bethany Simko

Roadblocks happen FOR you. That feeling of uncertainty is trying to tell you something. It's trying to get you unsettled enough to ask questions and figure out what really is aligned with you. Roadblocks are the sign that you're growing.

I'm at a roadblock right now. It's something I can feel sitting uneasy in my chest. I can sense something shifting and I don't know where in the world it's going, but I know I'm probably supposed to go with it.

Figuring out what you want and how to get there is the question all of us are constantly asking- including me. So come along as I chat out my current mindset and make some cool breakthroughs when it comes to figuring out how to figure out what I want.

Let's dive right in :)

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Your Virgo queen is speaking and she's got a LOT to say

This year has been unreal. I've learned so much, I've discovered so much about myself and I can easily say this has been one of the best years of my life. It's been such a rewarding year of being intentional with my energy and immersing myself in new ideas & concepts. I can't wait to yap it all to you in the next hour and half

So let's get right into it

Today we're diving into my favorite Nervous System Regulation techniques (NSR) to help you get to where you want to go by tapping into the feelings in your body.

When your body is stuck in a fight or flight response, your energy is being directed to solving a 'threat' instead of allowing you to create a life that you want. There's no time for arts and crafts when the troops are at war, so how do we bring these precious resources back home? With nervous system regulation. Sitting with yourself, calming yourself down, feeling what you need to feel, and giving yourself space to correct limiting beliefs & move forward.

My favorite techniques that we go over in the episode:

- Breath work (Box Breathing, Wim Hof)

- EFT Tapping

- Somatic Shaking

- Yoga

- Humming

- Body Awareness Meditation

The resources & books I refer to in the episode are linked below

You Are The Placebo: https://open.spotify.com/show/2TUGkRDokACAv50kGbKAj7?si=41a6004745784bcd

Becoming Supernatural: https://open.spotify.com/show/0S20O9syoHLxJW9ALc8qr3?si=c6433ed1318e4d3f

E Squared: https://www.audible.com/pd/E-Squared-10th-Anniversary-Edition-Audiobook/B0CBQS3LP9

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Where your focus goes, energy flows. Where are you focusing?

Abraham Hicks Episode: https://open.spotify.com/episode/17FgDXqX0zSSv8Ysz6Hl1p?si=GFbFp40YR6-fxMq-j6V6Pw

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I keep talking about my fav books that I'm reading so today I finally compiled a list of all the manifesting books (and a few "self help/mindset recs) that I've read this year

Listen along for summaries of each one but here are the resources I reference:

Your Manifesting Bestie Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/4mNhTcXtIu7bGjoEg7mAon?si=a99e8e01cb32421e

The Power of Your Subconscious Mind by Joseph Murphy: https://open.spotify.com/show/643TMVlKg5TnrCavAIMgAQ?si=52b93c48be1b4cfe

The Law and The Promise by Neville Goddard: https://open.spotify.com/show/3eBUxHahk0WVvHx6XmbwDN?si=4d4f97917d174010

The Power of Awareness by Neville Goddard: https://open.spotify.com/show/07PnaoX9lEAfsk1igTXfhT?si=373d5e58e2d74a1c

You are the Placebo by Dr Joe Dispenza: https://open.spotify.com/show/2TUGkRDokACAv50kGbKAj7?si=2578b3d905e14fbd

Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself by Dr Joe Dispenza: https://open.spotify.com/show/3FKxSaBIIG3QaqlN1pXrbH?si=c014657fb7194c60

Becoming Supernatural: https://open.spotify.com/show/0S20O9syoHLxJW9ALc8qr3?si=0fd81cdff3f34348

Who Moved My Cheese by Spencer Johnson, M.D.: https://open.spotify.com/show/78sm2KSyjsiXsEUe8ns8SA?si=ba4751acd9984f88

Atomic Habits by James Clear: https://open.spotify.com/show/40ygvasZaqVMMBkgYoUy8C?si=8396b719dc004e6f

I also talk a bit at the beginning about the runway show that I got to walk this weekend and how I am confident about my nose after YEARS of hating it.

See you next week to talk more about affirmations!!

The hardest part about "manifesting" is knowing where to start. If you let yourself get caught up in the 'how' you'll never learn to trust yourself. Because this is literally what we were made for as humans.

You can't wake up and NOT manifest- you're doing it 24/7.

That's the catch, there is no start and there is no end. This process is just about learning how to guide your energy in the direction that brings you everything you've ever wanted (aka just being happy) instead of living in the same patterns that have made your life suck

This has been a highly requested episode and I'm excited to dive into the phases of your menstrual cycle and the things I've been learning about it.

You guys KNOW how rough my "3rd week" (or luteal phase) has been. I literally talk about it on here all the time, and this week I realized that my luteal phase hasn't been nearly as bad as usual.

Understanding where I am in my cycle & the how the phases differ has been an actual life saver. "Ohhh so I'm not insane, I'm just in my luteal." Gotchaaa

Lately I've been changing a lot of things about my lifestyle & mindset. I really want to do more episodes about what exactly those changes have been and the results I've seen. But in this episode, I share quite a few new techniques and insights I've been learning when it comes to respecting & listening to your body - especially NSR techniques (nervous system regulation) to get your body out of fight or flight so it can actually HEAL.

We also chat about some of my favorite books and resources I've been finding. I'll link those below!

Manifesting Bestie Podcast Mentioned: https://open.spotify.com/show/4mNhTcXtIu7bGjoEg7mAon?si=b94ec34483b942ff

Books Mentioned (I listened for free on Spotify):

You Are The Placebo: https://open.spotify.com/show/2TUGkRDokACAv50kGbKAj7?si=7654ce4c14694897

The Power of Your Subconscious Mind: https://open.spotify.com/show/1oZm2N8ki8Bou3JmgHuqQo?si=61a59e17617c4176

The Law and The Promise: https://open.spotify.com/show/3eBUxHahk0WVvHx6XmbwDN?si=77cd0f51ca844a44

The Power of Awareness: https://open.spotify.com/show/07PnaoX9lEAfsk1igTXfhT?si=7b3b9ab4e0b249de

SO excited for you guys to dive into this one!! I ended up getting a little off topic (when do I not?) but literally in the best way. Love youuu

Happy 1 Year of BS with Bethany Simko!

It used to piss me off when people would say "It gets better". But looking at the life I have now, I can only agree. And it doesn't just get better, it gets phenomenal.

This time of the year is full of big anniversaries for me. When I was 17, I was having an extremely hard time with my mental health, to the point that 4 years ago, I attempted to leave this here earth.

Here I am now at 21, living in Hawaii as a fitness instructor with the opportunity to lay in the sunshine and impact the lives around me. During my workout meetup in Ohio, I had the distinct feeling that I know what I'm here. Hearing the stories from each and every girl there and hearing the way my life has touched theirs, I felt a wave of gratitude and a sense of purpose. It makes sense why I had to learn the lessons I learned.

Can you imagine I didn't get to experience all of this? I'm taking this life as the second chance I know it is and asking for everything and more. Because this is my fairytale and it's yours too.

If you are struggling, I encourage you to reach out to someone around you, or contact the suicide hotline 988 for immediate help. It won't feel like this forever, and your soul belongs on this earth. I love you <3

When it comes to all things luxury and taste, Newman Parker is your go to. But his road hasn't always been paved with premium leather.

On today's episode, Newman walks us through his journey through content- starting as a kid with a beauty influencer fixation and a YouTube channel, to now working with world class luxury brands and living in his dream apartment.

The way that Newman is so willing to throw himself into any situation and give it his all is nothing short of inspiring. Nothing will stop his persistence. He detailed how faced with bullying, failed channels, and financial struggle, he always did it for the mf plot and for his younger self with a dream. He knew he had something greater waiting for him (byeee HEB).

Newman is the definition of trusting the mf universe and BSing it until something clicks. I hope y'all are just as inspired as I am after listening to him because I'm ready to go out and quit a job just for the hell of it rn

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February 4th marks 4 years since I was SA'd and that sentence still feels wild to write. I feel so far removed from the person that I was, and yet that scared little girl is inside me every day.

Everyone can see a big event like that. It's a big, traumatic, physically obvious moment. There were detectives, and hospitals, and social workers, and it's an event you can put a name to. But, what you can't explain, are all the little moments in between. The lead up, the after math, and things completely unrelated. Those are what are heavy on my heart coming up to this anniversary.

The way I was speaking to myself for years left deep pathways in my mind and led me to believe that no matter how hard I tried or what I did, I would never be good. It led me to try to find a place that I could just be good or be enough. 

And it landed me in a dangerous position where I was hurt, and it seemed like it came out of nowhere. But, for me it was just another drop in the bucket because I had already felt inherently damaged for ages.

And that's a heartbreaking way to feel about yourself.

So I had to realize how much more pressure I've been putting on myself by the way I speak in my own mind. I was going through so much and my mind was tearing me down for even struggling. Backwards right? But, I think we all do that to ourselves.

This anniversary is about learning to be the one to sit with myself in every little moment and say "I am so sorry sorry I spoke to you like that. I am so sorry you had to go through everything you did"

I'm learning to be good enough for myself. I'm learning to speak to myself like someone I love. I'm learning how to be my own safe place.