The sentence that broke my heart was "How can ab*se be so gentle?"

As funny as all of this is 2 years later, I really am so proud of myself for leaving and healing bc this whole situation left me feeling like a shell of myself.

If you are experiencing something similar, I know first hand that it can go from "haha silly funny" to "this actually really hurts" SO fast.

It is NOT ok for someone to make you feel less than or insane even if you don't want a committed relationship.

You deserve respect and love that helps you fall in love with yourself even from a simple fling (aka from ANYONE in your life)

But at least we got the best claw clips out of this!! & wherever you are, I'm cheering you on

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who knew my situationship would lead to a literal dissertation on the patriarchy.

but two VERY important things to note for this episode: if you are experiencing a similar situation, please know I understand how hard it is to leave but that it will genuinely never get better.

And two, you are meant for so much more than a life of sitting still and being "protected and provided for".

You absolutely deserve to be cherished, protected, spoiled, the whole 9 yards AND you don't need to do anything to earn that AND you can make something of your life without discrediting your 'worthiness' of being taken care of.

You can be powerful and nurtured.

LOVE U (go break up w your situationship <3)

pt two of spilling the tea on the whole claw clip boy situation.

I keep having to sprint off to class BUT the next part is coming v soon!! guys im so relieved I finally get to talk abt this I need someone to laugh about it with hahah

ive been keeping this to myself for too long and its finally time the girlies know what REALLY happened w claw clip boy. You know it was bad when I kept it a secret from even you guys (also Costco is a cult and I stand by that)

Roadblocks happen FOR you. That feeling of uncertainty is trying to tell you something. It's trying to get you unsettled enough to ask questions and figure out what really is aligned with you. Roadblocks are the sign that you're growing.

I'm at a roadblock right now. It's something I can feel sitting uneasy in my chest. I can sense something shifting and I don't know where in the world it's going, but I know I'm probably supposed to go with it.

Figuring out what you want and how to get there is the question all of us are constantly asking- including me. So come along as I chat out my current mindset and make some cool breakthroughs when it comes to figuring out how to figure out what I want.

Let's dive right in :)

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Your Virgo queen is speaking and she's got a LOT to say

This year has been unreal. I've learned so much, I've discovered so much about myself and I can easily say this has been one of the best years of my life. It's been such a rewarding year of being intentional with my energy and immersing myself in new ideas & concepts. I can't wait to yap it all to you in the next hour and half

So let's get right into it

Today we're diving into my favorite Nervous System Regulation techniques (NSR) to help you get to where you want to go by tapping into the feelings in your body.

When your body is stuck in a fight or flight response, your energy is being directed to solving a 'threat' instead of allowing you to create a life that you want. There's no time for arts and crafts when the troops are at war, so how do we bring these precious resources back home? With nervous system regulation. Sitting with yourself, calming yourself down, feeling what you need to feel, and giving yourself space to correct limiting beliefs & move forward.

My favorite techniques that we go over in the episode:

- Breath work (Box Breathing, Wim Hof)

- EFT Tapping

- Somatic Shaking

- Yoga

- Humming

- Body Awareness Meditation

The resources & books I refer to in the episode are linked below

You Are The Placebo: https://open.spotify.com/show/2TUGkRDokACAv50kGbKAj7?si=41a6004745784bcd

Becoming Supernatural: https://open.spotify.com/show/0S20O9syoHLxJW9ALc8qr3?si=c6433ed1318e4d3f

E Squared: https://www.audible.com/pd/E-Squared-10th-Anniversary-Edition-Audiobook/B0CBQS3LP9

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Where your focus goes, energy flows. Where are you focusing?

Abraham Hicks Episode: https://open.spotify.com/episode/17FgDXqX0zSSv8Ysz6Hl1p?si=GFbFp40YR6-fxMq-j6V6Pw

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I keep talking about my fav books that I'm reading so today I finally compiled a list of all the manifesting books (and a few "self help/mindset recs) that I've read this year

Listen along for summaries of each one but here are the resources I reference:

Your Manifesting Bestie Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/4mNhTcXtIu7bGjoEg7mAon?si=a99e8e01cb32421e

The Power of Your Subconscious Mind by Joseph Murphy: https://open.spotify.com/show/643TMVlKg5TnrCavAIMgAQ?si=52b93c48be1b4cfe

The Law and The Promise by Neville Goddard: https://open.spotify.com/show/3eBUxHahk0WVvHx6XmbwDN?si=4d4f97917d174010

The Power of Awareness by Neville Goddard: https://open.spotify.com/show/07PnaoX9lEAfsk1igTXfhT?si=373d5e58e2d74a1c

You are the Placebo by Dr Joe Dispenza: https://open.spotify.com/show/2TUGkRDokACAv50kGbKAj7?si=2578b3d905e14fbd

Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself by Dr Joe Dispenza: https://open.spotify.com/show/3FKxSaBIIG3QaqlN1pXrbH?si=c014657fb7194c60

Becoming Supernatural: https://open.spotify.com/show/0S20O9syoHLxJW9ALc8qr3?si=0fd81cdff3f34348

Who Moved My Cheese by Spencer Johnson, M.D.: https://open.spotify.com/show/78sm2KSyjsiXsEUe8ns8SA?si=ba4751acd9984f88

Atomic Habits by James Clear: https://open.spotify.com/show/40ygvasZaqVMMBkgYoUy8C?si=8396b719dc004e6f

I also talk a bit at the beginning about the runway show that I got to walk this weekend and how I am confident about my nose after YEARS of hating it.

See you next week to talk more about affirmations!!

The hardest part about "manifesting" is knowing where to start. If you let yourself get caught up in the 'how' you'll never learn to trust yourself. Because this is literally what we were made for as humans.

You can't wake up and NOT manifest- you're doing it 24/7.

That's the catch, there is no start and there is no end. This process is just about learning how to guide your energy in the direction that brings you everything you've ever wanted (aka just being happy) instead of living in the same patterns that have made your life suck