BS with Bethany Simko

I can't believe it's been one year of living on the island!!

I'm so grateful for my life here and I can't wait to see what comes nextAlso we gotta talk about the Emotional Guidance System (aka the internal GPS)

Listen I know I say that "this is the most impactful lesson I've learned" like every episode, but I mean it this time.

Learning how to listen to your emotional guidance system is SUCH a beautiful thing bc it is directly teaching you what thoughts are bringing your desires to you.

Once you learn to pay attention to it, adjusting your thoughts and beliefs becomes so easy and it releases the shame of "having bad thoughts" because anything that makes you feel bad, is just your higher self saying "no girl, that's not the direction you need to go. If you keep thinking that, it's going to bring you the opposite of what you've told me you want" and when you think a thought that feels good it's your higher self saying "exactly, keep thinking like that and everything you've told me you want will come to fruition"

It can be a bit confusing at first, so below are some more resources to learn abt this concept!

Your Manifesting Bestie Podcast Episode: https://open.spotify.com/episode/5TD34OMH7zi6DQtgOKmJkN?si=fe33db8cb8ce4b23Money and the Law of Attraction (free on Spotify): https://open.spotify.com/show/2jczokizbxNg7l26DIgl1X?si=d1b4a7a733db47ef

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Everywhere you look right now, people are telling you how bad things are going to get, or you are witness to the hatred spewed across social media, the news, and in person. I've heard the message a million times that you should not be friends with someone who voted differently than you and to that I say, don't fall for it.

Do not fall for the hatred, the chaos, the frenzy, the division.

United we stand and divided we mf fall so do not let this divide us.

Today's episode is a message of hope, clarity, and responsibility. We are not victims, we are victors and there has never been a better time to practice that than now.

Stay kind. Stay clear headed. Don't wait for outside circumstances to make you happy because they never will.

Staying kind to myself and realizing I am lovable anyways might just be the hardest and best lesson I’ll ever learn in this life (I sure seem to be learning it over and over again) 

I’ve struggled with depression for as long as I can remember & I keep telling myself that “I’m gonna fix this. It’s gonna go away, if I can just figure out what I’m doing wrong”.

And this year has truly been the happiest year of my life. I’ve relentlessly given myself love, space to heal, I’ve been obsessed with reading books about the power of my mind and how to take radical responsibility for my life & how to be the victor not the victim in my mind. 

Now, I get to level up and see if I can remain kind and give myself grace even when things don’t go according to plan.

My cycle is back which means my luteal phase is back which is 2 weeks in the month of experiencing PMDD.

So essentially I just get a wrecking ball of hormones and feel like my life is spiraling for 2 cutie little weeks.

This week, it’s hit me pretty damn hard. Truthfully, I  forgot what depression feels like & how heavy it really is. 

In this episode we chat about the emotional scale, how to feel even a tiny bit better when you’re at your lowest point, the importance of giving yourself credit for doing your best, and how worthy we are just by existing. 

I already need to make an update video bc I have decided to go on anti-depressants to get ahead of this & that’s a very vulnerable and scary episode to make so I’ll check in with yall when I can!!

Love you & im proud of us for being the victors in our life even when it’s hard 

If you're struggling, help is available- the suicide hotline number is 988- don't be afraid to use it.

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The sentence that broke my heart was "How can ab*se be so gentle?"

As funny as all of this is 2 years later, I really am so proud of myself for leaving and healing bc this whole situation left me feeling like a shell of myself.

If you are experiencing something similar, I know first hand that it can go from "haha silly funny" to "this actually really hurts" SO fast.

It is NOT ok for someone to make you feel less than or insane even if you don't want a committed relationship.

You deserve respect and love that helps you fall in love with yourself even from a simple fling (aka from ANYONE in your life)

But at least we got the best claw clips out of this!! & wherever you are, I'm cheering you on

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who knew my situationship would lead to a literal dissertation on the patriarchy.

but two VERY important things to note for this episode: if you are experiencing a similar situation, please know I understand how hard it is to leave but that it will genuinely never get better.

And two, you are meant for so much more than a life of sitting still and being "protected and provided for".

You absolutely deserve to be cherished, protected, spoiled, the whole 9 yards AND you don't need to do anything to earn that AND you can make something of your life without discrediting your 'worthiness' of being taken care of.

You can be powerful and nurtured.

LOVE U (go break up w your situationship <3)

pt two of spilling the tea on the whole claw clip boy situation.

I keep having to sprint off to class BUT the next part is coming v soon!! guys im so relieved I finally get to talk abt this I need someone to laugh about it with hahah

ive been keeping this to myself for too long and its finally time the girlies know what REALLY happened w claw clip boy. You know it was bad when I kept it a secret from even you guys (also Costco is a cult and I stand by that)

Roadblocks happen FOR you. That feeling of uncertainty is trying to tell you something. It's trying to get you unsettled enough to ask questions and figure out what really is aligned with you. Roadblocks are the sign that you're growing.

I'm at a roadblock right now. It's something I can feel sitting uneasy in my chest. I can sense something shifting and I don't know where in the world it's going, but I know I'm probably supposed to go with it.

Figuring out what you want and how to get there is the question all of us are constantly asking- including me. So come along as I chat out my current mindset and make some cool breakthroughs when it comes to figuring out how to figure out what I want.

Let's dive right in :)

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Your Virgo queen is speaking and she's got a LOT to say

This year has been unreal. I've learned so much, I've discovered so much about myself and I can easily say this has been one of the best years of my life. It's been such a rewarding year of being intentional with my energy and immersing myself in new ideas & concepts. I can't wait to yap it all to you in the next hour and half

So let's get right into it

Today we're diving into my favorite Nervous System Regulation techniques (NSR) to help you get to where you want to go by tapping into the feelings in your body.

When your body is stuck in a fight or flight response, your energy is being directed to solving a 'threat' instead of allowing you to create a life that you want. There's no time for arts and crafts when the troops are at war, so how do we bring these precious resources back home? With nervous system regulation. Sitting with yourself, calming yourself down, feeling what you need to feel, and giving yourself space to correct limiting beliefs & move forward.

My favorite techniques that we go over in the episode:

- Breath work (Box Breathing, Wim Hof)

- EFT Tapping

- Somatic Shaking

- Yoga

- Humming

- Body Awareness Meditation

The resources & books I refer to in the episode are linked below

You Are The Placebo: https://open.spotify.com/show/2TUGkRDokACAv50kGbKAj7?si=41a6004745784bcd

Becoming Supernatural: https://open.spotify.com/show/0S20O9syoHLxJW9ALc8qr3?si=c6433ed1318e4d3f

E Squared: https://www.audible.com/pd/E-Squared-10th-Anniversary-Edition-Audiobook/B0CBQS3LP9

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