Step into Rob Kubasko’s office and you’ll find a reliquary of light and story: Iron Man’s helmet, a model of the USS Enterprise, a Phantom of the Opera music box. To the untrained eye, it’s a collection of toys. To Rob, it’s a theory about how humans work: that play isn’t the opposite of seriousness, it’s the method for reaching it.

This week, Rob opens up about the moments that shaped that worldview—growing up with humor as both a defense and a bridge, standing at the wake of a childhood bully and discovering that even pain can carry the seeds of connection, and navigating a career that carried him from the early days of digital design into the heart of national politics. What emerges is a picture of someone who has spent his life asking: how do we connect? What do we build together? And how do we keep joy alive, even in dark seasons?

Rob talks candidly about the seductions and disillusionments of political life, about what it means to contribute to community now, and about the legacy he hopes to leave in the simple mantra he first taught his daughter on the walk to kindergarten. Turns out, that’s the same inscription he imagines on his headstone, a legacy not of permanence but of presence—an invitation to live joyfully, curiously, and in service to others.