In this episode, I discuss thinking for yourself over people-pleasing, embracing self-interest, and avoiding the victim role. Stories talk about learning to set boundaries, say no, and choose your own path -- even when it’s hard.

it's possible to be thoughtful while valuing yourself.saying no doesn't make you selfish. believing you owe others your time/energy/happiness keeps you trapped in resentment. speaking up for yourself fosters freedom and growth.

roles of "team player" bring regret, not reward. personal purpose motivates, not duty. It's about you -- choose wisely!

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in this episode i talk about confidence, where a lack of confidence stems from and how to gain confidence. stories of doubting abilities, struggling with imposter syndrome and persistent fears of failure, embarrassment or not meeting unrealistic expectations. the belief that confidence is an innate trait some possess and others forever lack. the truth is confidence cultivation is a skill developed through accepting life's imperfections, learning from mistakes and practicing self-compassion.

insecurities are learned, not inherent. they come from past hurts, comparing oneself to an unrealistic standard or messages implying flaws/shortcomings could be overcome by sheer willpower - if only confidence was built. doubt is a protectiveness of ego, not an unchangeable personal truth. facing its underlying roots through journaling, therapy or supportive conversations helps discover confidence foundations already present.

tools for gaining confidence include reframing mistakes as learning; evaluating ideas of perfection and fixed traits; challenging anxious thoughts; embracing vulnerability as courage source, not weakness; acting 'as if' self-assurance was natural state; praising growth over end goals; finding purpose through quiet passion pursuits. constant reassurance seeking maintains insecurity cycle.

cultivation begins by accepting 'good enough' and speaking kindly of yourself as you would trusted friend.

growth in confidence allows giving/receiving praise with gratitude rather than excuses. asking questions and taking risks to expand horizons in low-pressure ways. making progress over achieving ultimate aim. every small step builds upon itself until 'fake it til you make it' becomes truth. More about the willow project https://www.google.com/url?sa=t&rct=j&q=&esrc=s&source=web&cd=&ved=2ahUKEwjTi7LHzd_9AhXsJkQIHfelD90QFnoECBwQAQ&url=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.cnn.com%2F2023%2F03%2F14%2Fpolitics%2Fwillow-project-oil-alaska-explained-climate%2Findex.html&usg=AOvVaw0JElBtFzuJ82CeRz0cIFkw The Ted talked that was mentioned https://youtu.be/b5ZESpOAolU

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embarrassment is learned, not innate. awkward moments breed discomfort only because of stories told -- not truths. the anxiety ruminating after each blush-worthy event stems from judgment of how ‘i should have behaved’ versus life as messy, unpredictable human experiencing. embarrassment is a social construct.

fears of not appearing ‘cool enough’, talking too loud or wearing the ‘wrong’ clothes have no basis in actual human limitation or flaw. they come from worrying about living up to unrealistic attitudes of peer approval and status seeking. discomfort is felt mainly due to beliefs of how ‘grown up’, ‘perfect’ or ‘cool’ one 'should' seem based on age -- not natural tendency towards embarrassment. it is conditioned, not instinctual.

why embrace vulnerability to embrace life fully when every eyebrow raised or whispered laugh could be interpreted as indictment of character? when every slip up becomes awful reminder of not meeting standards of false hierarchical 'cool'. the answer: because authentic living -- not fabricated personas -- nourishes the soul. weirdness, awkwardness and foolish mistakes included. they make beauty.

tools for reevaluating each blush-worthy moment: will this matter in a year? what insecurities fuel this discomfort rather than any truth? who benefits from my embarrassment and why do their judgments seem so significant? choosing to laugh at life’s absurdity versus blush at my un-coolness transforms the experience entirely. embracing embarrassment as natural part of being human -- not flaw to hide or excuse -- leads to living free. all socials —> https://linktr.ee/callmecrazypod

this episode features an honest and insightful discussion on jealousy, motivation, alienation and personal growth from difficulties faced. using life experiences as examples, i explore the lessons learned and strategies for overcoming negative patterns of thought or behavior.

stories of comparing oneself to others, desiring what isn't yours versus cultivating gratitude for blessings bestowed. the allure of seeking validation through material things or romantic relationships rather than developing a secure sense of self. practical tips for reframing adversity as an opportunity rather than punishment.

challenges of nurturing motivation from within rather than external influences. how to foster intrinsic drive by identifying core values and passions versus fleeting excitements. tools for navigating fear of not being "enough" and finding purpose even in perceived lack or loneliness. i debate the differences between fueling jealousy or choosing courage.

ICYMI: loving yourself unconditionally is a journey, not a destination. there are no "perfect" lives or relationships - only growth. Joy is found within, not by accumulating more or becoming someone else. happiness starts from the inside and radiates out

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this episode discusses jealousy, motivation, alienation and personal growth through a lens of trial-and-error, hard lessons learned and determination to support others evolving in truth rather than platitudes. The revised description aims to provide more depth on the themes featured while still conveying an open, honest and helpful tone. Additional context and advice give listeners a stronger sense of the perspectives and guidance shared.

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this bonus episode dives into relationships, love and partnership from personal experience. discussing what i will and won't compromise on for another, no matter the emotional investment. hard-won lessons of identifying partners who cultivate my talents versus try to change my flaws.

advice for voicing needs clearly while respecting boundaries. the struggle of devotion and co-dependence, loyalty and toxicity. strategies for trust through empathy, not accusation. fostering deep bonds through understanding, not obligation.

tools for navigating life's challenges with a solid support system. real love evolves rather than staying stagnant. i aim for relationships empowering rather than enabling unhealthy habits or one-upping.

reframing anxiety, self-love and substance over surface. new episodes weekly on [platforms]. raw, honest and hope-filled conversations. rate, review and join in - promote growth, mutual support and joy. imperfect yet authentic, this podcast champions your journey.

this bonus episode focuses on relationships, connections and love from personal experience, hard lessons and fostering empowering bonds. all socials —> https://linktr.ee/callmecrazypod

this episode delves into the complex dynamics of friendships, co-dependence and personal growth. i discuss the tendency to modify our behaviors, beliefs and values to please others at the cost of our true selves. the differences between loyal allies who accept us as we are versus those who demand constant change.

stories of learning hard lessons the difficult way through codependent relationships built on caretaking instead of trust. how to identify partners in crime who cultivate our talents rather than try to fix perceived flaws. advice for communicating needs clearly while respecting appropriate boundaries.

miscommunication and misunderstandings, rather than malicious intent, often lie at the root of relational strife. i debate strategies for voicing vulnerabilities without resentment. How to foster intimacy through empathy rather than competition. Practical tips for building friendships of substance rather than surface-level small talk.

challenges of navigating life's ups and downs, hardships included, with a strong support system. though friendship isn't a "Hallmark" card, it's a bond like no other when grounded in truth. I aim to inspire building relationships that empower rather than one-up or tear down through constant comparison.

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this podcast is all about me, life lessons learned, and the imperfect journey of self-discovery. im here to share stories from the trenches of life’s hardest hits and highest highs. lessons transformed into laughs. through candid conversations, this show explores setting boundaries, cultivating confidence from within, and learning to love yourself - flaws and all. as someone still navigating anxiety, heartbreak, and constant self doubt, i discuss what’s helped me develop a healthier and happier relationship with myself so far. each episode delivers a dose of honesty, humor and hope from the perspective of someone flawed yet passionate about personal growth. new episodes released weekly on all streaming platforms. all socials —> https://linktr.ee/callmecrazypod