To wrap up Canned Fruit's momentous first season, your favorite trio celebrate their growth and how exploring meaningful connections in the show has impacted how they approach communication every day. They noted how the energy they put into having productive conversations is worth it in the end because it helps mitigate the negative outcomes and miscommunication that could happen.

One of the goals of this show is to get more people to OPEN UP! We want more people to become more comfortable with connecting and sharing authentically with each other. Your hosts have been vulnerable with each other and the audience throughout the season, highlighting their shortcomings when it comes to conversation and making examples of themselves. This episode is no different. Join them as they apply lessons from this season to one of Kia’s real-life difficult conversations.

Thank you for opening up this season. The Canned Fruit Podcast looks forward to exploring more with you in the next one!

Topics Covered:

[00:22] Reflecting on the Journey: Celebrating Growth Through Active Listening and Introspection

[03:43] Conversation on Emotional Intelligence Growth and Recognizing Emotions Setting Boundaries and Finding Freedom

[05:19] Talk on Empathy and Difficult Conversations

[18:23] Talk on Believing in Noble Intent and Doing the Best with the Tools We Have

[18:54] Talk on Acquiring New Tools for Professional Development

[19:54] Discussion on Doing the Best with the Tools We Have

[24:28] Discussion on Introspection and Self-Fulfilling Prophecies

[27:04] Involving Parents in Education and Cultural Differences

[34:08] Exploring Diversity of Thought and Calmer Approaches to Communication

[37:20] Parent-Teacher Conference: Allotted Time and Perception of Aggression

[42:56] Conversation Summary: Working Together for the Best Interest of a Child

[46:17] Setting Expectations and Overcommunicating for Positive Outcomes

[49:38] Conversation Summary: Reflections and Celebrations on Season One

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Welcome back to another exciting episode of the Canned Fruit podcast, a safe and brave space to have meaningful conversations with compassion and respect. Join your favorite trio, Danielle, Jessica, and Kia, as we conduct the first Canned Fruit ‘workshop.’ In this episode we reflect on the challenges inherent in initiating the difficult conversations we’ve talked so much about and strategies to make it easier. The barriers to initiating these types of conversations can be different for all of us, it could be a pit you feel in your stomach leaving you with dread or anxiety caused by a heaviness that stays with you. 

Many of us find comfort and relief in the resolution that comes after the conversation is had. Keep that in mind when you're feeling the urge to procrastinate a conversation that needs to happen. Let's lean into the strength and courage needed to have these conversations and find the solace of resolution.

During this episode, you will learn about the following:

[00:05] Topic of the Day: Initiating Difficult Conversations

[03:06] Conversation Regarding Professional Mistakes and Need for Additional Colleague

[05:22] Initiating a Difficult Conversation for Outreach Support

[06:45] Conversation on Work Engagement and Power Dynamics

[14:00] Discussion of Exclusion in Professional Environment

[16:32] Conversation on Exclusion and Self-Reflection

[18:43] Conversation on Finding a Sense of Belonging in the Workplace

[22:10] Asking for What We Want Without Fear of Judgment

[24:05] Validation and Clarity in Professional Roles

[25:54] Overcoming Fear of Initiating Conversation

[31:15] Conversation on Professional and Personal Relationships

[33:21] Exploring the Impact of Professional and Personal Experiences on Communication

[40:21] The Benefits of Introspection and Empathy

[42:10] Reflection on the Impact of Historical Components on Communication

[44:20] Exploring the Benefits of Open and Honest Conversation

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Are you really bad at apologizing? Why is it hard to recognize your mistake, take ownership & correct it? Instead of letting a difficult situation define you, take this chance to show your strength, courage, and capacity for growth.

Welcome back to the Canned Fruit podcast with your hosts, Kia, Jessica, & Danielle!

In this incredible episode, we delve into why most people have a bit of a challenge with apologies, three barriers to apologies & how we identify with the different barriers. Moreover, we discuss the six components of a good apology, self-referencing versus external referencing apologies as well as recognizing your mistakes independent of how anyone else thinks.

Ultimately, we recognize the power of vulnerability, accepting that you need to apologize & to not expect anything in return. Let's embrace the opportunity to build stronger relationships through making amends!

During this episode, you will learn about:

[00:49] Introducing today's topic

[03:07] Three barriers to apologies

[04:47] How we identify with different apology barriers

[12:43] The hardest apologies & why it’s hard to admit that you made a mistake

[20:34] The connection between emotional intelligence & apologies

[22:15] Self-referencing apologies versus external referencing apologies

[24:24] Components of a good apology

[26:23] An in-depth look at a self-referencing apology with Kia

[36:29] Being on the receiving end of apologies

[41:38] Perceptions of weakness & the power of vulnerability in apologizing

[46:22] Our final thoughts

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Episode References & Resources

• Barriers to Apologizing and How to Overcome Them (Psychology Today)
• 7 Steps to a Genuine Apology
• The art of a heartfelt apology (Harvard Health Blog)

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How do you find a balance between knowing who you are, what you stand for, communicating where you stand, and listening to the other person?

Welcome to another incredible episode of the Canned Fruit podcast with your hosts Jessica, Kia & Danielle. 

In this episode, we discuss standing in your truth without being swayed by what someone else says, taking Nos, tips for anyone struggling with expressing their opinion, and delve deeper into the subject of boundaries, especially as it relates to conversation. Moreover, we talk about the concept of resolution and the possible awkwardness that comes with the resolution, more so with colleagues or in the workplace.

Discover the power of standing in your truth and living authentically, avoiding or ignoring your truth (and the truth of others) can create and breed resentment. Ultimately, understanding who you are and standing confidently in your beliefs is a powerful way to connect with yourself and others. When we communicate our convictions -- our truth -- honestly and with kindness, living authentically with our hearts and minds open, we create space to listen and learn from each other.

[01:07] Introducing today's topic

[01:18] Defining the concept of “standing in your truth.”

[07:30] The difference between standing your truth and setting limits 

[10:12] Allowing people to have contrary thoughts to yours and remaining firm in your truth 

[15:55] Standing with what you think is right rather than adopting someone else’s truth 

[16:37] Can you have a fruitful and candid conversation without knowing your truth? 

[22:00] Finding a balance between being truthful, not being an expert, and shaming others 

[27:20] Taking the Nos and how to address them 

[29:05] Advice to anyone struggling to say their opinion 

[34:32] What does resolution look like in conversation? 

[40:00] The awkwardness that comes with standing in your truth 

[42:14] What's more important between the environment and your truth 

[46:00] Embracing kindness & honesty while standing in your truth 

[47:42] The benefits of standing in your truth 

[50:00] Resentment as a by-product and a silent relationship killer of not standing in your truth

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Mentioned Books

• The Person You Mean to Be: How Good People Fight Bias by Dolly Chugh
• How to Read a Book: The Classic Guide to Intelligent Reading by Mortimer Adler & Charles Van Doren

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Wondering how to keep your conversations on track? Expectation management and the courage to set limits and boundaries is essential for navigating challenging conversations. In this episode, we consider two boundary-setting processes: proactive and reactive. Either method can foster a candid and fruitful conversation. With the proactive approach, you consider boundaries before the conversation starts. It is about creating a safe environment for ourselves and set intentions with our partner(s) before we enter into any conversation with them. In the reactive approach, you’re changing the atmosphere and setting boundaries after the conversation has started or as it is ongoing. 

Join the conversation with your hosts, Kia, Jess, and Danielle, as we discuss the proactive vs. reactive ways of setting boundaries, compartmentalization, the distinction between limits and boundaries, and the power of saying “No.” We also talk about the importance of understanding why you are setting boundaries because even though boundaries are personal, they also impact our relationships.

We share tips for creating healthy conversation boundaries and responding to reactive boundaries in conversations. Plus, learn the easiest way of setting expectations in a difficult conversation and the techniques for navigating a challenging conversation.

Tune in and open up with us for more insights!

Timestamps for the key points discussed in the episode:

[01:20] Today’s focus; Setting boundaries and expectations in conversations 

[01:51] Proactive vs. reactive ways of setting boundaries

[08:20] Compartmentalization in boundaries

[12:57] The power of saying “No”

[17:10] The importance of understanding why you are setting boundaries 

[19:18] Tips for creating healthy conversation boundaries 

[19:37] #1 Consider the needs, expectations, and boundaries of your conversation partner

[23:19] #2 Understand that saying “No,” is the demise of your relationship 

[23:41] #3 Clearly communicate to your conversation partner that the boundaries are for you and not because of them or the relationship you have with them

[28:37] #4 Understand that saying “No” to others is saying “Yes” to yourself 

[30:13] #5 Appreciate that other people’s boundaries are not about you  

[33:52] How to respond to reactive boundaries in conversations 

[44:52] The easiest way of setting expectations in a difficult conversation

[51:06] Techniques for navigating a challenging conversation

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References

In this episode, Jessica mentions a “Nightingale hospital.” For our unfamiliar listeners, this type of temporary medical facility is set up in the United Kingdom.

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The most important aspects of a conversation are the emotions and feelings communicated. In order for a conversation to be effective, the participants need to have an understanding of their emotions and feelings. Moreover, understanding how we “feel” about our feelings also plays a significant role in shaping our thoughts & behavior and helps us connect better with others.

In this episode, we discuss how to manage meta-emotions in a conversation, emotional manipulation in conversations, how to control your emotions during a difficult conversation, and explore the idea of consuming other people’s emotions. Further, we address the differences between feelings and behaviors, and understanding the differences between feelings and behaviors helps us manage our emotional well-being more effectively.

Open up and tune in to join our candid and fruitful conversation!

In this episode, you will learn the following:

[01:55] Today’s theme; Feelings (Empathy) & Emotions 

[02:45] The definition of emotional intelligence

[05:03] Meta-emotions: The way we “feel” about feelings 

[10:31] How to deal with emotions and meta-emotions in a conversation

[11:43] Being perceived as manipulative when we express our feelings

[20:32] What less emotive people feel when they are in conversations 

[24:33] Controlling your emotions during a difficult conversation

[28:28] Why people feel the need to create protective walls to shield their emotions 

[35:30] Consuming other people’s emotions

[37:03] Difference between feelings and behaviors 

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Resources

• Article: Meta-Emotion: How You Feel About Feelings

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Welcome to another fantastic episode of The Canned Fruit Podcast with your hosts, Kia, Jess, and Danielle. In this episode, we discuss our four universal truths, the philosophies and actions necessary for you to have a candid and fruitful conversation. Our “Truths with a Capital T” are: (1) Honesty & Authenticity, (2) Active Listening, (3) Introspection, and (4) Validation or Empathy. 

Moreover, we discuss the difference between authenticity & honesty in conversations, the four steps to active listening, knowing YOUR why, and the difference between empathy and sympathy. 

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During this episode, you will learn the following:

[00:02] Introduction to the show

[01:13] What’s in for you in today’s episode; 4 Truths with a T

[03:00] #1 Honesty and authenticity

[04:52] What it means to be authentic 

[09:24] The difference between authenticity & honesty in conversations 

[15:22] People’s perception of honesty and authenticity

[20:44] #2 Active listening 

[21:01] The four steps to active listening 

[31:10] #3 Introspection  

[33:27] Why introspection is essential before engaging in conversations

[35:27] Introspection in terms of knowing your why

[39:49] #4 Validation or Empathy

[41:10] The difference between empathy and sympathy 

[45:53] How to practice empathy 

[55:52] A recap of the episode and final words

[56:51] How to connect with us 

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Resources Mentioned

• Book: The Gifts of Imperfection by Brené Brown 
• Song & Lyrics: Alright by Kendrick Lamar (Spotify)
• Article: Are You an Active Listener? These 4 Steps Will Prove It

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Difficult conversations are never easy to have, whether with a colleague, employer, friend, or family member. What makes them challenging changes as we encounter each situation? We might need to talk about a sensitive topic with someone we care about, or we might need to confront someone doing something wrong. Often, difficult conversations make us feel uncomfortable and nervous. 

So what makes a suitable environment for a difficult conversation? And how can we prepare ourselves to enter into one? Join the conversation with your hosts, Kia, Jess, and Danielle, as we share our tips for creating a fruitful environment for a difficult conversation. Additionally, we share advice and things to consider when you are not in control of the environment or can't have the environment you desire or need.

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During this episode, you will learn about:

[00:05] Introduction to the episode

[00:59] Today’s theme; What makes a good environment for a difficult conversation?

[03:26] #1 An environment that fosters privacy

[07:57] #2 Meeting in a neutral space

[14:20] #3 Having self-awareness

[17:52] #4 Considering the other person’s perspective

[18:46] #5 Allotting an appropriate amount of time for the conversation 

[28:11] #6 A positive body language

[30:06] #7 Assessing the relationship 

[33:27] #8 Paying attention

[37:18] What you should do when you are not in control of the environment  

[44:43] What should you do when you can’t have the environment you need?

[53:47] How to connect with us 

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Welcome to another amazing episode of The Canned Fruit Podcast with your hosts, Kia, Jess, and Danielle. In today’s episode, we discuss the highs and lows of conversations. We talk about the types of conversations and how the pandemic has affected conversations. Moreover, we share our experiences with professional conversations and look into what makes a conversation difficult.

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During this episode, you will learn about:

[00:05] Episode introduction

[00:59] Today’s focus; The highs and lows of conversations

[02:22] How the COVID-19 pandemic has affected conversations

[07:26] Types of conversations 

[08:00] Kia’s experience with professional conversations 

[12:16] Danielle’s experience with professional conversations 

[15:05] How does Jessica perceive professional conversations? 

[21:03] “Difficult conversations are almost never about getting the facts right. They are about conflicting perceptions, interpretations, and values.” - by Douglas Stone

[28:28] What makes a conversation difficult?

[28:46] #1 The relationship with the person in the conversation 

[30:30] #2 Our values 

[33:38] #3 Place of conversation; Public or Private

[37:43] #4 Personal insecurities 

[41:02] How to connect with us

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Social media has been a part of our lives for a long time. It is now integral to how we communicate with each other and the world. However, as we use social media more and more, it has become less about having conversations with people and more about broadcasting our thoughts. This has led to dehumanization in social media conversations because people focus less on having civil discussions and more on just trying to get their point across. 

Welcome to the first episode of the Canned Fruit Podcast with your hosts; Kia, Jessica, and Danielle. This episode discusses difficult conversations, the dehumanization of social media conversations, and the difference between communication and broadcasting. Moreover, we talk about barriers to respectful & effective communication and how emotions affect communication.

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During this episode, you will learn about:

[00:05] Introduction to the show

[00:47] Know your hosts; Jessica, Danielle, and Kia 

[04:52] The definition of a difficult conversation

[08:21] What does it take for a person to be open and vulnerable in a conversation?

[10:08] The dehumanization in social media conversations

[12:49] Communication vs. broadcasting on social media

[18:10] How to deal with negative or inappropriate comments on social media

[21:24] Barriers to respectful and effective communication

[25:55] How emotions affect communication

[32:42] How to connect with us

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Resources Mentioned

• Article: Dehumanizing Always Starts With Language by Brené Brown
• Book: Less Than Human by David Livingstone Smith

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