Perfectionism Rewired

Can’t Stop Ruminating? Here's Why


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"Part of the reason I stay super busy is bc if I stop to rest l'll ruminate. And if I ruminate, I start spiraling. And if I spiraling I'm like a nosediving plane" Sound familiar? Discover the ANSWER to WHY you get stuck in your most annoying perfectionist tendencies, like ruminating, catastrophizing, overthinking every small mistake etc. 

Plus the 6 reasons your perfectionist brain holds on to outdated habits,  how chronic stress impacts your brain’s ability to change, the role of back and white thinking in reinforcing unhelpful neural pathways, why past experiences trick your brain into seeing danger everywhere and how to stop your worries from becoming self-fulfilling prophecies. 

On paper, you’ve got it together— isn’t it time you felt like it? Whether it's becoming much more DECISIVE in everything you do, stop playing out worst case scenarios in your head or JOYFULLY PRESENT AMBITIOUS again, Perfectionism Optimized, private 1-1 coaching gives you the life-long skills to *finally feel* as amazing on the inside as your life looks on the outside. Get your stress-free start today at https://courtneylovegavin.com/rewire

 TIMESTAMPS:

00:00–How to finally take charge of ruminating
02:16–Missed the last episode? Here’s a quick recap
04:06–What happens when your brain gets it wrong
06:09–Why perfectionist brains resists learning from mistakes
07:40–6 sneaky reasons your brain ignores new info
08:23–How chronic stress keeps your brain stuck
10:20–Why your brain clings to old patterns
11:42–The hidden reason you avoid discomfort
12:51–When your brain blows things out of proportion
13:49–How black-and-white thinking is like wearing blinders
15:19–Why past experiences warp your reactions
19:34–How to update your brain so you can get unstuck
21:09–One small shift to start seeing change today The first step in rewiring

 Resources Mentioned In Episode 250:
  • Take your first step in rewiring Perfect Start Introductory Session
  • Magic Skill for Control of Emotions [Neuroscience Series #1] Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 248
  • How Perfectionist Brain *Actually* Works [Neuroscience Series #2] Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 249
  • When Taking A Few Deep Breaths Isn't Enough Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 192
  • Will Save Your Sanity(might change your life) Perfectionism Rewired Ep. 193

 Citations/Sources:
  1. Bar, M. (2009). The proactive brain: memory for predictions. Philosophical Transactions of the Royal Society B Biological Sciences364(1521), 1235–1243. https://doi.org/10.1098/rstb.2008.0310
  2. Barrett, L. F., & Simmons, W. K. (2015). Interoceptive predictions in the brain. Nature Reviews Neuroscience16(7), 419–429. https://doi.org/10.1038/nrn3950
  3. Braem, S., Coenen, E., Klaas Bombeke, Bochove, van, & Wim Notebaert. (2015). Open your eyes for prediction errors. Cognitive Affective & Behavioral Neuroscience15(2), 374–380. https://doi.org/10.3758/s13415-014-0333-4
  4. Clark, A. (2013). Whatever next? Predictive brains, situated agents, and the future of cognitive science. Behavioral and Brain Sciences36(3), 181–204. https://doi.org/10.1017/s0140525x12000477
  5. Handley, A. K., Egan, S. J., Kane, R. T., & Rees, C. S. (2014). The relationships between perfectionism, pathological worry and generalised anxiety disorder. BMC Psychiatry14(1). https://doi.org/10.1186/1471-244x-14-98
  6. Kummer, K., Mattes, A. & Stahl, J. Do perfectionists show negative, repetitive thoughts facing uncertain situations?. Curr Psychol (2023). https://doi.org/10.1007/s12144-023-04409-3
  7. Lital Yosopov, Saklofske, D. H., Smith, M. M., Flett, G. L., & Hewitt, P. L. (2024). Failure Sensitivity in Perfectionism and Procrastination: Fear of Failure and Overgeneralization of Failure as Mediators of Traits and Cognitions. Journal of Psychoeducational Assessment42(6), 705–724. https://doi.org/10.1177/07342829241249784
  8. Mattes, A., Mück, M., & Stahl, J. (2022). Perfectionism-related variations in error processing in a task with increased response selection complexity. Personality Neuroscience5. https://doi.org/10.1017/pen.2022.3
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  10. Meyer, A., & Wissemann, K. (2020). Controlling parenting and perfectionism is associated with an increased error-related negativity (ERN) in young adults. *Social Cognitive and Affective Neuroscience*, *15*(1), 87–95. https://doi.org/10.1093/scan/nsaa018
  11. ‌Roy, M., Shohamy, D., Daw, N., Jepma, M., Wimmer, G. E., & Wager, T. D. (2014). Representation of aversive prediction errors in the human periaqueductal gray. *Nature Neuroscience*, *17*(11), 1607–1612. https://doi.org/10.1038/nn.3832

Perfectionism Rewired is committed to truth and accuracy through a perfectionist affirming lens, offering cutting-edge research on perfectionism, interoception + neuroscience, for the practical perfectionist who wants to enjoy the life they've worked so hard to create.

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