Capture Your Confidence

In the final episode of the series dedicated to the way we sabotage ourselves, we are talking about how to navigate the saboteurs. The series is designed to share more on something that we all struggle with, right, that inner judge inside of us that sabotages our progress.

We discuss why your saboteur's matter, questions you can ask yourself when you notice your saboteurs are at play, strategies to help you recognize the judge and the other saboteurs, and lastly, we'll talk about strategies to help you move beyond them to make decisions from a kinder place.

 

In this episode, we cover:

• Your saboteurs are here to make you safe [1:24]
• Questions to ask yourself about the saboteurs [3:23]
• Recognizing the red flags about saboteurs [5:48]
• Pay attention to the way that you feel in your body when you start to have some of these thoughts [8:28]
• Remind yourself that this isn't who you are and practice the confidence self-talk [10:55]

Saboteur Quiz: https://www.positiveintelligence.com/assessments/ 

Confidence Formula Series:

Positive Self-Talk: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-confidence-formula-positive-self-talk/id1562072269?i=1000517730623 

Action: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-confidence-formula-action/id1562072269?i=1000518648919 

Repetition: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-confidence-formula-repetition/id1562072269?i=1000519842299 

Connect with Whitney & Stephanie:

Stephanie IG: @stephanie_hanna_ 

The Other 85: https://theother85.net/ 

Whitney IG: @whitneyabraham 

Whitney Website: https://www.whitneyabraham.com/ 

In part 4 of this 5 episode series dedicated to the way we sabotage ourselves, we are talking about the 9 different types of external saboteurs. The series is designed to share more on something that we all struggle with, right, that inner judge inside of us that sabotages our progress.   We discuss the final three saboteurs that go hand in hand: the restless, the stickler, and the controller. We walk you through each and every one of these saboteurs and how they impact you. This episode helps to give you a lens with which to understand how your inner critic is communicating to you and how it is holding you back from moving forward in your life.    In this episode, we cover:

• The Restless Saboteur- you’re always looking for something to do, or to solve a problem  [1:12]
• The pros and cons of being a restless saboteur [3:48]
• The stickler - you’re always focusing on making things perfect before moving on [5:39]
• the pros and cons of being a restless saboteur [7:56]
• The controller- it’s your way or the highway [8:54]
• The pros and cons of being a controlling saboteur [10:41]

Saboteur Quiz: https://www.positiveintelligence.com/assessments/ 

Connect with Whitney & Stephanie:

Stephanie IG: @stephanie_hanna_ 

The Other 85: https://theother85.net/ 

Whitney IG: @whitneyabraham 

Whitney Website: https://www.whitneyabraham.com/ 

In part 3 of this 5 episode series dedicated to the way we sabotage ourselves, we are talking about different types of external saboteurs. The series is designed to share more on something that we all struggle with, right, that inner judge inside of us that sabotages our progress.   We discuss the three saboteurs that go hand in hand: the victim, the pleaser and the avoider. We walk you through each and every one of these saboteurs and how they impact you. This episode helps to give you a lens with which to understand how your inner critic is communicating to you and how potentially you're holding yourself back.   In this episode, we cover:

• The victim - a default negative mind frame that can be damaging  [2:05]
• The people-pleaser - you’re always putting the needs of others before yourself [5:23]
• The avoider- you procrastinate like it’s your job and it's hard to focus [11:27]
• Inner versus outer saboteurs [15:46]

Saboteur Quiz: https://www.positiveintelligence.com/assessments/ 

Connect with Whitney & Stephanie:

Stephanie IG: @stephanie_hanna_ 

The Other 85: https://theother85.net/ 

Whitney IG: @whitneyabraham 

Whitney Website: https://www.whitneyabraham.com/ 

In part 2 of this 5 episode series dedicated to the way we sabotage ourselves, we are talking about different types of saboteurs. The series is designed to share more on something that we all struggle with, right, that inner judge inside of us that sabotages our progress.   We discuss the three saboteurs that go hand in hand: the hyper achiever, the hyper-vigilant and the hyper-rational. We walk you through each and every one of these saboteurs and how they impact you.    In this episode, we cover:

• The hyper achiever - you’re always striving to be great [4:22]
• Feedback and the hyper achiever mindset [7:11]
• The hyper-vigilant - you’re always alert [10:48]
• Feedback and time management as a hyper-vigilant mindset [13:28]
• The hyper-rational - you’re learning everything to feel safe [15:42]
• Feedback and preparedness as a hyper-rational mindset [17:46]

Saboteur Quiz: https://www.positiveintelligence.com/assessments/   

Connect with Whitney & Stephanie:

Stephanie IG: @stephanie_hanna_ 

The Other 85: https://theother85.net/ 

Whitney IG: @whitneyabraham 

Whitney Website: https://www.whitneyabraham.com/ 

In this episode you’ll hear:

• A part of the secret sauce to building confidence is doing things over and over so they turn into habits and the way your mind automatically functions. 
• The trick to repetition in order to accelerate your results so that you start to feel more confident, faster and build momentum. 
• How repetition helps whatever you want to become so habitualized that it becomes part of your everyday routine, like getting dressed and brushing your teeth. 
• Why the formula is so critical to success and building up confidence, learning to trust yourself, and show up every day. 

Connect with Whitney & Stephanie:

Stephanie IG: @stephanie_hanna_ 

The Other 85: https://theother85.net/ 

Whitney IG: @whitneyabraham 

Whitney Website: https://www.whitneyabraham.com/ 

In this episode, you’ll hear:

• Why action is necessary to increase your confidence and how confidence doesn’t always knowing how to do the skill
• The importance of regularly putting yourself in situations that challenge you and help your confidence muscle grow
• The impact of breaking large, overwhelming tasks down into pieces so you can have small wins along the way
• How planning can help you to execute and take action because you’ve mapped out all the steps 

Connect with Whitney & Stephanie:

Stephanie IG: @stephanie_hanna_ 

The Other 85: https://theother85.net/ 

Whitney IG: @whitneyabraham 

Whitney Website: https://www.whitneyabraham.com/ 

In this episode you’ll hear:

• How subliminal repetition and practice in the area of positive self-talk is one of the most beneficial tools we have at our disposal (1:54)
• Proactive strategies for positive self-talk and the importance of consistently practicing them (4:55)
• The impact normalizing positive affirmations has on your brain to reduce fear and make what you want seem more attainable (8:43)
• Why it’s important to not immediately respond to triggering situations and a simple formula to help you handle them (12:11)
• The role self-awareness plays in creating more confidence by having insight into why your responses and how you can do things differently in the future to get a better result (14:16)

Connect with Whitney & Stephanie:

Stephanie IG: @stephanie_hanna_ 

The Other 85: https://theother85.net/ 

Whitney IG: @whitneyabraham 

Whitney Website: https://www.whitneyabraham.com/ 

In this episode, Stephanie and Whitney break down the science behind fear. Stephanie shares a story that scientifically proves your energy around fear bounces off of you and other people pick it up, and it impacts their own energy and psyche. You'll hear how to change the narrative inside your head when preparing to do something perceived as scary, and the secret sauce to building confidence over time.

Connect with Whitney & Stephanie:

Stephanie IG: @stephanie_hanna_ 

The Other 85: https://theother85.net/ 

Whitney IG: @whitneyabraham 

Whitney Website: https://www.whitneyabraham.com/ 

Over the next few weeks we are taking a look back at the top five episodes of 2021. We're going to start with number five which is "It's Time to Reclaim Your Confidence". This episode really lays the framework for the podcast where we share a little bit about our own confidence journeys and our desire to empower as many women as we can to truly capture their confidence. 

In this episode, Stephanie and Whitney dive into the vision for the podcast: to empower women who desire to step into their value and aren’t not afraid to go after the life they want. They discuss how when you're in a new environment and industry where others look confident it can make you feel inferior until you learn how to flex your own competence muscle. Whitney shares how as she navigated her entrepreneurial journey a consistent thread showed up with her clients ability to achieve success, a lack of confidence in themselves. Stephanie tells of a time in her life where she wished she had done more confidence work because it would have served her well.

Connect with Whitney & Stephanie:

Stephanie IG: @stephanie_hanna_ 

The Other 85: https://theother85.net/ 

Whitney IG: @whitneyabraham 

Whitney Website: https://www.whitneyabraham.com/ 

We're kicking off a 4 episode series dedicated to the way we sabotage ourselves, and really try to understand what these trigger points are and how we can work around them. At the end of the day, we are humans, and while we can’t control everything, we can take steps to engineer our successes and feel more confident in our own lives.    Stephanie and Whitney discuss the steps you can take to mitigate self sabotaging behaviors. They outline ways you can identify your own saboteurs and share a quiz you can take to find out how to identify self sabotaging behaviors. In this episode, we cover saboteur #1: the “Judge '' - that inner critic that thinks it’s pushing you to do better when in reality it’s only making you miserable.    In this episode, we cover:

• The first step to mitigating self sabotaging behaviors is to identify what those behaviors are through positive intelligence [1:33]
• Self criticism and judgement doesn’t make you a better person [3:10]
• The most pervasive Judge is conditional judgment [4:40]
• The role of the Judge is to ensure your emotional safety [6:27]

Saboteur Quiz: https://www.positiveintelligence.com/assessments/ 

Connect with Whitney & Stephanie:

Stephanie IG: @stephanie_hanna_ 

The Other 85: https://theother85.net/ 

Whitney IG: @whitneyabraham 

Whitney Website: https://www.whitneyabraham.com/