Capture Your Confidence

• Whitney and Stephanie talk about failure and how it can be one of the best things that could ever happen to you. (0:48)
• Stephanie shares her experience with failure after graduating law school and why rejection isn’t a personal attack, and how micro failures might be upsetting but they are a fact of life (2:12)
• What is the definition of failure and why should we normalize or neutralize the term? (4:40)
• It’s time to talk about failure publicly rather than demonize it. Mistakes should not impact your confidence, they help you learn and grow your competence (6:04)
• Why mistakes are the hidden gifts to confidence! You need mistakes to grow and stop focusing on developing conditional confidence (7:39)

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• Whitney and Stephanie dive straight in and discuss how to deal with criticism and negative feedback. Lesson #1, feedback is always a gift. You’re in control of what you do with it (1:02)
• Myth #1, does feedback and negative always have to have a negative connotation? One way to address feedback is to view it like a performance review and a way to grow (4:35)
• Tip #1, find a way to separate you from the process/feedback so it doesn’t feel like a personal attack. Most people aren’t trained how to give good feedback! (6:34)
• Tip #2, instead of responding immediately to feedback, take a step back and take a deep breath. Don’t step in, interrupt or get defensive (9:01)
• Tip #3, body language is everything! Focus on relaxing your face and eyes and holding yourself in an open position (10:35)
• Whitney and Stephanie share a helpful formula for the best method to deliver feedback (11:32)
• Tip #4, be mindful! Don’t allow the feedback or insecurity to spiral after the fact (13:53)

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• Whitney and Stephanie tackle the assumption that confidence is a negative thing, why it’s a form of conditioning, and how people often find themselves in a cycle of feeling bad about being confident. (1:18)
• When people envision confidence it encompasses a spectrum where on one side people see confidence, in the middle they see cockiness and at the end they see narcissism. But is this spectrum true? (3:07)
• Myth #1, confidence is cockiness. This is absolutely false, yet there is a lot of misuse and misinformation about the idea of cockiness and narcissism (4:51)
• Myth #2, being confident can turn you into a narcissist. Can you be too confident? (7:48)

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• Whitney and Stephanie finish up their series on debunking confidence myths - today they explain why knowledge isn’t necessarily the key to confidence (0:55)
• Myth #1: I need to know everything before I do anything is an excuse to keep us safe (2:11)
• Strategize by only learning what you need to take you to the next step, don’t learn the whole process (3:33)
• Dunning Kruger effect - the science behind what happens when we increase our exposure to knowledge and how that impacts our confidence and competence (4:43)
• Success is more closely related to confidence than it is to being good at what you do. Whitney shares an anecdote about her mom that best illustrates why being confident matters (7:27)

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• Whitney and Stephanie debunk some of the biggest myths about insecurities, how they show up in our lives, and who they show up for (0:47)
•  Why is it dangerous to assume others don’t have insecurities (1:52)
• Myth #1 - Confident people don't have insecurities (2:31)
• Myth #2 - Confident people are confident all  the time (2:57)
• Myth #3 - Confident people have no fear (4:55)
• There will be setbacks in life no matter how confident we are. When that happens, how can we handle those setbacks and not let it impact our confidence? (5:53)
• Sometimes confidence isn’t preparing you to show up for something, is actually preparing  you for defeat (7:46)

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• Whitney and Stephanie debunk some of the biggest confidence myths  (0:50)
• Are people simply born confident? (0:59)
• Confidence is a trait and muscle that can be developed (2:11)
• Whether you are introverted or extroverted does not make you more or less confidence (3:41)
• Is confidence a destination? (5:40)

Connect with Whitney & Stephanie:

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• Whitney and Stephanie talk about ways you can create confidence in others (0:47)
• The gift of being able to impact someone else in a positive way (2:24)
• How being a giver gets you ahead in life (4:07)
• A practical tip on how to relationship build (6:58)

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• Whitney and Stephanie talk about incorporating small flexes to build competence and trust (0:50)
• The importance of ownership and radical accountability (2:16)
• The commitment of pursuit: don’t quit because you don’t see the outcome you want (3:05)
• Your dreams and goals will evolve and that is okay (5:43)
• The power of promises and personal integrity (7:41)
• What are small flexes and how do they build massive trust? (11:30)
• Why you need to cut off negative self-talk (14:34)
• What is engineering accountability and how does it help build confidence? (17:33)
• Trust in yourself is the most valuable way to build confidence (19:05)

Connect with Whitney & Stephanie:

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Whitney Website: https://www.whitneyabraham.com/ 

• Whitney and Stephanie talk about time blocking and making good use of your time (02:50)
• Stephanie explains what time means to her and how time blocking is transforming your to-do list into specific spots into your calendar (3:07) 
• Whitney views time as a precious asset and how she uses it to frame her day (3:20)
• What is time auditing and how can it help structure your day? (5:50)
• How eliminating decisions through time blocking systems is a more effective use of your day (7:45)
• What’s the onboarding process of time blocking and how do you make it work? (10:56)
• All time has value, don’t try and perfect it by overachieving (14:11)

Connect with Whitney & Stephanie:

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Whitney Website: https://www.whitneyabraham.com/ 

• Some examples of the pitfalls to confidence mother's face  (2:07)
• Is it more difficult to be confident as a mother in today’s day and age? (6:13)
• Children are individuals who have their own feelings and needs (9:53)
• One way to increase your confidence as a parent is to reframe what your role is (12:19)
• It might be tempting to take shortcuts as a parent, but it prevents our children from building their own confidence  (15:06)
• How do society’s expectations play into women’s confidence (16:52)
• Surround yourself with people in your life who won’t shame or judge you (22:01)

Connect with Whitney & Stephanie:

Stephanie IG: @stephanie_hanna_ 

The Other 85: https://theother85.net/ 

Whitney IG: @whitneyabraham 

Whitney Website: https://www.whitneyabraham.com/