Capture Your Confidence

Procrastination - it’s a scary word, mostly because we’ve all succumbed to it at one point or another. In general, procrastination is a bit of an emotional rollercoaster that brings up feelings of dread, guilt, and maybe even shame, but why do we feel that way?    In this episode, Stephanie and Whitney discuss procrastination and where we find it shows up in our lives the most.  When we lean into procrastination, we are opening the for that fear and anxiety to creep in. While that might seem scary, we want to help you understand how to stay in alignment with your integrity and not get overwhelmed with procrastination!    In this episode, we cover:

• How does procrastination show up for us? [1:14]
• We discuss where procrastination comes from and what role mood plays in it [4:01]
• Instead of avoiding that feeling of procrastination, lean into it and explore why you’re feeling the way you’re feeling in this moment [7:19]
• Practical ways you can solve procrastination, including a new way to organize your to-do list [11:15]
  
  

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Whitney Website: https://www.whitneyabraham.com/ 

It might be tempting to stick your head in the sand at this very moment when the going gets tough, but in reality, running away from your problems and fear are only going to breed more problems and more fear!    In this episode, Stephanie and Whitney dig a little deeper and explore what ignorance is and how it is a breeding ground for fear. Ignorance is not a fixed place and it can easily be changed. You have more control over what you learn and what knowledge you gain than you can imagine. They explain what you need to do to get back on track and navigate that place of avoidance so that it no longer controls you.   In this episode, we cover:

• What is ignorance? [0:59]
• The most common things we avoid and fear: hard conversations, asking for help, talking about yourself, taking charge of your health and finance [3:46]
• How to spot the red flags of avoidance [6:19]
• Why do you find yourself avoiding things, and what can you do to offset that default pattern of behavior? [8:26]

Connect with Whitney & Stephanie:

Stephanie IG: @stephanie_hanna_ 

The Other 85: https://theother85.net/ 

Whitney IG: @whitneyabraham 

Whitney Website: https://www.whitneyabraham.com/ 

In this episode, you'll hear:

• Stephanie and Whitney live coach each other through questions they are both commonly asked to demonstrate we all face similar issues (0:45)
• The ultimate goal Stephanie & Whitney have in their coaching (1:30)
• Getting past the fear of showing up on video and caring what others think (2:42)
• What to do if you tend to have perfectionistic tendencies when it comes to video (8:14)
• Mindset shifts to make when collaborating with peers in the same industry (9:39)
• The importance of doing and creating versus watching and consuming (15:19)
• Getting out of the pattern of feeling like you need more knowledge and validation outside of you (17:59)
• Why you don’t need a massive market or audience in order to be successful in your business (22:44)
• Embracing the times strategies or approaches “don’t work” as a part of the process to success (25:36)

Connect with Whitney & Stephanie:

Stephanie IG: @stephanie_hanna_ 

The Other 85: https://theother85.net/ 

Whitney IG: @whitneyabraham 

Whitney Website: https://www.whitneyabraham.com/ 

In this episode you’ll hear:

• Whitney and Stephanie talk about the idea of confidence having a board of directors and who the core “members” should be. In this week’s final episode in the series, they talk about bravery, the wild card girlfriend who just pushes you off the bridge but in reality is just the one who encourages you to take baby risks and then go from there (0:52)
• What is the risk in showing up? Stephanie and Whitney discuss how risks need to be manageable, why it’s okay to make mistakes, and what bravery actually means to them (2:48)
• Bravery can help you recognize that not everybody is nearly as fixated on you as you may believe them. News flash! Nobody cares! And that’s a good thing (4:24)
• Along with a decrease in fear, bravery gives you a healthy dose of humble pie (6:09)

Connect with Whitney & Stephanie:

Stephanie IG: @stephanie_hanna_ 

The Other 85: https://theother85.net/ 

Whitney IG: @whitneyabraham 

Whitney Website: https://www.whitneyabraham.com/ 

In this episode you’ll hear:

• Whitney and Stephanie talk about the idea of confidence having a board of directors and who the core “members” should be. In this week’s episode, they talk about self-awareness, and why although we don’t want her to come to the table, she is super important (0:54)
• Stephanie answers what she’s great at and what she is terrible at, and why answering this question is a reflection of self-awareness. If you’re struggling to answer this question yourself, Stephanie suggests reaching out to people you trust to help you provide that feedback (2:22)
• Whitney and Stephanie discuss what they have learned about themselves over time through the lens of self-awareness, including how people change, how pivoting is necessary, and feeling overwhelmed (4:10)
• Tools and resources you can implement in your life to step up your self-awareness game and leverage it for success and confidence (5:36)
• There's no such thing as knowing too much about yourself (8:44)

Connect with Whitney & Stephanie:

Stephanie IG: @stephanie_hanna_ 

The Other 85: https://theother85.net/ 

Whitney IG: @whitneyabraham 

Whitney Website: https://www.whitneyabraham.com/ 

In this episode you’ll hear:

• Whitney and Stephanie talk about the idea of confidence having a board of directors and who the core “members” should be. In this week’s episode, they talk about community, who she is, and what she does on the board of directors. We all need community to make us feel like we are not alone, and help us tackle challenges together (0:42)
• The benefit of community is that you have a safe place to brainstorm and get help with refining your vision, answering questions, and receiving feedback on all the things that make up your business. Whitney and Stephanie talk about how isolation can make your fears and anxiety grow, but community helps combat that (2:20)
• Whitney and Stephanie discuss the ways they use community to help grow their confidence, including leveraging community to take the pressure off your own shoulders, developing your self-awareness, and idea generation (3:39)
• Why community is so important and how it can benefit you? Remember it is important to have the right people in your community!  (6:34)
• How to identify what value you can bring to your community? Whitney shares why she loves sharing connections and bringing people of value together in her community (7:26)

  Join the Capture Your Confidence: Get Out of Your Own Way 3-Part Virtual Workshop: https://www.whitneyabraham.com/captureyourconfidence
 

Connect with Whitney & Stephanie:

Stephanie IG: @stephanie_hanna_ 

The Other 85: https://theother85.net/ 

Whitney IG: @whitneyabraham 

Whitney Website: https://www.whitneyabraham.com/ 

In this episode you’ll hear:

• Whitney and Stephanie talk about the idea of confidence having a board of directors and who the core “members” should be. In this week’s episode, they talk about vision, the friend who helps you keep your eye on the prize and see the bigger picture. When do we really need to call on vision when it comes to seeing the growth of ourselves and our business? (1:04)
• Why it’s good to have a balance between long range and short term vision. Having an overall vision for your life is directly tied to your core values and what is critically important to you  (3:25)
• Whitney and Stephanie discuss when they’ve been stuck in the wrong type of vision and what they did to overcome that. (4:47)
• If you’re struggling with vision, get support from your network to help you hone in on which area of vision you need to develop the most (7:29)

Join the Capture Your Confidence: Get Out of Your Own Way 3-Part Virtual Workshop: https://www.whitneyabraham.com/captureyourconfidence
 

Connect with Whitney & Stephanie:

Stephanie IG: @stephanie_hanna_ 

The Other 85: https://theother85.net/ 

Whitney IG: @whitneyabraham 

Whitney Website: https://www.whitneyabraham.com/ 

In this episode you’ll hear:

• Whitney and Stephanie talk about the idea of confidence having a board of directors and who the core “members” should be. In this week’s episode, they talk about discipline, the friend who keeps you accountable and reminds you of your personal integrity (0:50)
• Why do we feel like discipline is the “critical” friend? What happens when you have discipline and you show up day in day out for something until one day you realize that your priorities change? (2:14)
• The two subcategories within the discipline - patience, and persistence help see your confidence grow. You have to be in there for the long haul to see your goals follow through which is where discipline kicks in (5:05)
• How motivation can destroy your discipline. Whitney and Stephanie share why motivation isn’t as important as it’s chalked up to be (6:37)
• Stephanie and Whitney share how discipline shows up in their day to day life (8:28)
  
  

Join the Capture Your Confidence: Get Out of Your Own Way 3-Part Virtual Workshop: https://www.whitneyabraham.com/captureyourconfidence
 

Connect with Whitney & Stephanie:

Stephanie IG: @stephanie_hanna_ 

The Other 85: https://theother85.net/ 

Whitney IG: @whitneyabraham 

Whitney Website: https://www.whitneyabraham.com/ 

In this episode you’ll hear:

• A deeper dive into the first core member of confidence's Board of Directors- the friend who keeps you humble (0:55)
• Three’s a crowd - taking feedback seriously when you hear the same message three times. Take that feedback and incorporate it into your business to make the next right moves (3:47)
• Not all feedback is valuable. Be careful of who you solicit feedback from. If it’s someone’s goal to be negative about you, then their feedback doesn’t have your best intentions at heart (5:30)
• Once you begin to assess and fully understand your core values, it becomes easier to make judgments about feedback and determine when you want to act on it, table it for later or dismiss it entirely (6:42)
• How you can solicit feedback from your community (8:37)

Connect with Whitney & Stephanie:

Stephanie IG: @stephanie_hanna_ 

The Other 85: https://theother85.net/ 

Whitney IG: @whitneyabraham 

Whitney Website: https://www.whitneyabraham.com/ 

In this episode you’ll hear:

• Whitney and Stephanie talk about the idea of confidence having a board of directors and who the core “members” should be and the important role they play in confidence (0:45)
• Member #1 -  feedback. Feedback keeps you humble and helps bring self-awareness and recognize what we can't see inside (1:38)
• Member #2 - discipline kicks in to give you  that notion of persistence and patience (3:18)
• Member #3 - vision, helps you pay attention and kick into overdrive when you feel stuck (3:54)
• Member #4 - community, a necessary cultivator of confidence (4:43)
• Member #5 - self-awareness, allows you to keep an open mind so you don’t self-sabotage (5:03)
• Member #6 - bravery, allows you to jump off the bridge and take that risk (6:07)

Connect with Whitney & Stephanie:

Stephanie IG: @stephanie_hanna_ 

The Other 85: https://theother85.net/ 

Whitney IG: @whitneyabraham 

Whitney Website: https://www.whitneyabraham.com/